Yes I am the 40 year old virgin (+5) about to take my first punt

[Fush]

Ok so I thought that I would introduce myself here...hello 

So as the title suggests I am actually a 45 year old virgin. What makes it worse is that I'm also a kissless virgin as well - and no I'm not a troll!

I thought by now I would have lost my viriginity, but it hasn't happened. Mind you there has been a quite a few opportunities, but I've just been too shy to pursue them, or I didn't fancy them.

Now in my line of work this is actually quite odd since you need to be confident. I can talk to women, (although can struggle if they are hot), but never have been able to move forward with showing my interest. If they were interested they probably think I'm not and just want to be friends, or perhaps gay.

Up until about 10-15 years ago I was very shy. Joining a local club and travel helped reduce this and gain my confidence, although I feel there is this whole part of me that has been missing which I know nothing about. Perhaps I'm a little autistic or something who knows, but I've always been 'slow' in the sense that I'm always doing things later in life than what 'society' says I should have been doing something.

Anyway.....I'm not getting any younger, and I was starting to think about the embarrassment of being with a civvie for the first time and her basically taking the piss out of me for not knowing what to at 45. Any woman I'm sure would expect a certain level (or a lot) of experience for a man of my age, which I don't obviously have. I could 'wait and see and let it happen naturally', but hey if its not happened yet, I don't see anything changing!

Like any gossip around the office watercooler, if it was found out that I was a 45 year old virgin, well this would be top gossip for days, maybe weeks! Especially if I lost it to a civvie there. You could say just get a one night stand and get it over with, but this isn't something I looking for.

So this lead me to looking to 'lose it' to an escort. However its more than that. I don't just want to lose it, but see it more like a learning experience, the lady being a mentor of sorts and while there is a lot of experience to catch up, its a start. She can laugh and tell her mates about it afterward, I don't care, but she won't know anyone I know, so I feel its a safe, non-judgemental environment where I can learn and get a little experience, from someone experienced.

To that end, I've booked my first punt  I'm not going to say who it is with, but she is independent, offers good GFE (apparently), is on AW and is highly recommended here based on the reviews for this service. I've gone for a 2hour session as I don't want it to be rushed and want to use the time to learn the basics and try multiple rounds. I don't want to link to her, as I think she uses this site and don't want her to read this beforehand, although I'm sure she would realise it was her by putting 2+2 together 

I've spent quite a bit of time looking at this site and reading lots of threads, advice and reviews, so thought I'd better be a member and give back to say thanks. Without this here I probably would have not gone into this at all, or gone in to it knowing much less and possibly (or likely) chosen a fake profile, Romanian or whatever!

So there we go...feel free to laugh if you want 

[Fush]

I should have also said I'm going with the not wanking for 4 days before approach and hoping for a 2 (or maybe 3 although never tried that) pop strategy. That being said, I might pop after just a few minutes from an OWO, (and so ready for the rest) but this might not be the best strategy?

I'm thinking I could wank the night before, but then I might have nothing to offer the next day (although I don't think that would a problem). I won't know until I find myself there so not sure what to do.

Edit: Ok I saw a few other posts that mentioned for hour long bookings, they asked her to wank them off at the start. They mentioned they probably would only last a few minutes (which is what I would do), but they would be ready to go again in 15 minutes and would definitely last the rest of the booking then. So might take this approach as I mentioned intially as while we definately wouldn't be going at it for the whole two hours, there is plenty of time for another one or two (hopefully).

Yes I am overthinking this! 

[WAY-WARD]

I hope you've picked a good SP, someone who can take the lead. And if I was you I'd tell her everything you've told us....
2 hours is too long....better a 1 hour booking and then return within a couple of days if you enjoy it

[ulstersubbie]

Your first review should be interesting I'm sure.

[luv2kiss54]

Good luck to you mate hope it goes well. Let us know how you get on.

I too was a late starter but have made up for it since. Better late than never !

Sounds like you have been quite careful about the Escort you've selected which is vital. If i were you i would explain to her your situation at the start so she can guide you and ensure you get want you need out of the experience. You will be very nervous but take your time. I suspect you will come very quickly the first time but you will have time for a 2nd more fulfilling climax. I wouldnt bother with a wank before personally.

Be careful though once you get a taster for this you will be hooked like the rest of us !

[Momodan38]

Hmm, as way-ward stated, I really do hope you’ve picked the right SP.

Anyway, you’ve referenced “learning” a few times. I would suggest instead to just relax and enjoy the experience, my god you’ve waited long enough for this moment, you deserve to have a good time and not worry about anything else.

All the best.

[jamiekinkxxx]

Hmm, as way-ward stated, I really do hope you’ve picked the right SP.

Anyway, you’ve referenced “learning” a few times. I would suggest instead to just relax and enjoy the experience, my god you’ve waited long enough for this moment, you deserve to have a good time and not worry about anything else.

All the best.

+1

[Stevelondon]

I should have also said I'm going with the not wanking for 4 days before approach and hoping for a 2 (or maybe 3 although never tried that) pop strategy.

What the hell you on about.

You’re a virgin. Of course you’ve never tried that. 🤷🏼

[Massagetugga]

I also wonder if two hours is maybe too long. It’ll be fine if you get on really comfortably with her so as you can chat and relax. She’ll hopefully make that the case and lead the way. IMO being fairly relaxed (if possible) is really about the most important thing.

It might not have been a bad idea to have recently done some massages and happy endings maybe with some body to body massage just as a warm up/taster.

You’d probably be quite well off (with this SP) to have a relaxed as possible hand job to start off and then do sex in one or two positions.

My advice is not to go into it thinking you’ll be working your way up to a great finish within the long-ish booking. Too much pressure. Staying cool and hopefully being quite relaxed would be the best thing to focus on.  This (as folk above are indicating) being quite dependant on your chosen SP. But it sounds like you’ve made a considered choice so hope it goes well. If it ends up a bit awkward and not quite as you’d hoped don’t sweat it. This is very often how it goes for everyone’s first few times.

[JontyR]

I am not a big gambler, but I always take the philosophy that when you hand over your money - youve lost it. If you get anything back then its a bonus.

I'd probably look to take the same attitude to this punt. If you cum quick so what. If you decide you dont want to do any more, then don't. If you want to leave early, then feel free to do so. If you become concerned about getting value for money you probably won't concentrate on the good stuff.

So anyway, here's some pointers.

1. She won't give a monkey's stuff about your previous. She will have slept with more able lovers than you, and considerably less able, she's not going to blink about your abilities.
2. If you feel like you want to splodge your blob at any point, don't think you have to hold back. If you don't think you are ever going to cum, then feel free to stop and come back to it in a while.
3. Don't alter your wanking regimen too much in the run up to the punt. Maybe refrain the morning of the meet. Maybe let it slide the day before.
4. Get your shit together. Work out where you are going to store your cash. Work out where you are going, how you are getting there and what you are taking.
5. You will be nervous. But honestly mate, its possibly the best part, the knock, the click of heels on the floor and the opening of the door....to no-one at all. lolz.
6. Make sure you are clean before you go. Every orifice should be smell free, possibly minty. But be careful on  what is minty.
7. Trust your instincts. Let your own nature come out. Be respectful, but feel free to indulge yourself a little.
No one will know what you are up to. You have nothing to hide when you are naked in the room. Don't be afraid to ask for something you might like.
8. If you are enjoying something, go with it, there will be plenty of other time, plenty of other women to explore with. Don't feel pressured to move onto other activities just for the sake of it. You don't have to make up for 30 odd years in two hours.
8. Allow yourself adequate time. Not before the punt, but also after. You have a lot to reflect on afterwards. Whatever you feel is perfectly natural. Every punter, every serial shagger of civvies has had the whole gamut of emotions - elation, joy, shame, regret, its all legitimate - its all temporary too.
9. Dont worry about leaving a review or any repercussions. If its positive she'll be happy. If its negative you won't be going back anyway.

Good luck. In some ways I'm a little jealous.

[RandomGuy99]

Seeing SPs isn't about giving them pleasure. It's about them giving you pleasure. Most SPs really don't want to cum and they don't like the pressure of an SS trying to make them cum.

My advice is try to relax and just enjoy it. Don't go in with a target of cumming a certain number of times or making the SP cum. Those all put pressure on you and the SP. 

[topdown88]

JontyR has given some absolute nuggets of gold there. I'd echo a lot of what he said.

I started this 'hobby' last year having never had sex with anyone I wasn't in a long term relationship with. My first meet was riddled with nerves and took some bollocks to make contact in the first place.

As easy as it is to say, try your best to not put any pressure on yourself, enjoy it as much as you can and be open, ask questions, try and learn as you said.

I hope it goes well and gives you a new sense of confidence!

[shed]

What the hell you on about.

You’re a virgin. Of course you’ve never tried that. 🤷🏼

That if he is a virgin following that slip up 

[Stevelondon]

That if he is a virgin following that slip up 

Maybe you and I are just sceptical 

[The Invisible Man]

Hi mate. I hope it might help you to know that there's someone else on here who was once in exactly the same boat as you... that's me. I was a 45 year old virgin. Never kissed a girl, held hands, been on a date... nothing. Then one day the realisation hit that if I didn't want to die without ever having sex I was going to have to book an escort. So I did. Now, some years later, I've been with lots of lovely ladies and never looked back. Fortunately I made a good choice with my first one and went on to see her nearly thirty times before she disappeared, so I hope you do too. I still can't even talk to a woman in real life, but when I'm in the room with a nice lady I become a different, confident person, they usually seem to like me, and I have a wealth of lovely memories. I hope it all goes well for you.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

And umm .. try not to fall in love with her EAS is a very real thing!.

Other than that, enjoy:).


E.scort A.ttachment S.yndrome...

[Markc]

Hi mate, loads of good advice on her already. I would say like many have said 2 hours for a first booking is too long.
Start with an hour and if you like her you can always book again.

Where about’s are you and maybe someone on here can recommend a lady for you?
Also what type woman do you want to see? Age, height, build, hair type, services offered?

Pick a woman who has been working a while and has positive reviews. Also tell them it’s your first time and a
good provider should look after you well.

Don’t build too much up in your mind and enjoy the experience. I remember my first time which was with a female friend
and was pumping so hard and getting excited she stopped me and told me do you realise that you have cum.

[stampjones]

What the hell you on about.

You’re a virgin. Of course you’ve never tried that. 🤷🏼

I guess he’s talking about wanking, no?
This place can be so cynical sometimes 😂

[NotATrumpFan]

But be careful on what is minty.

Its a womans perspective, but same hilarious outcome: External Link/Members Only

[NotATrumpFan]

Just to respond to the original post: I have seen this question come up in a few other punting / sw forums and the answer is always the same. For your first time just relax. Take your time. Dont set a "goal" because you will be too in your own head about it and probably wont get there, just have fun.

As others have said, try and find a woman who has some experience, and maybe one that caters to first timers (there are plenty out there that specifically list it on their profile). 

I don't agree that 2hrs for a first punt is too long. I made my first punt 2hrs and it took the pressure off and made it more fun. Just don't expect to keep pumping for the whole time, and don't go in trying to calculate if you got VFM. Just enjoy it. Don't focus on the details. If you feel you're happy after your first or second pop, and want to leave, then do.  You don't HAVE to use all the time if you don't want to. 

[mr.bluesky]

If it's the first time then don't over think things. Just go with the flow. You don't mention if you have any " getting it up " issues so just to make sure I'd be thinking about taking " a bluey" ( viagra or equivalent ) an hour or so before hand just to be sure 
Good luck ,ps If I were you I'd tell the lady you are seeing your situation,  she will take it as a compliment you chose her and will make more of an effort. ( and report back with a review so we all know how it went ) 

[Jujy78]

How do you know what civvy is?

[Massagetugga]

I don't agree that 2hrs for a first punt is too long

I think that’s hard to predict. It’s so dependent on clicking with a bit of rapport.
I know I go into most punts with my usual open frame of mind hence things usually go fine.

But sometimes for whatever reason people don’t click and a bit awkwardness can ensue. No one’s actual faul. Can just happen. In civvie situations it’s the same. Looks of a woman can draw you in to chat but sometimes immediately interaction/chemistry (whatever you want to call it) obviously isn’t there.

[RandomGuy99]

My suggestion is choose a well known well reviewed and experienced MILF and enjoy.

[Fush]

Thanks everyone for the advice and support, much appreciated! 

I hope you've picked a good SP, someone who can take the lead. And if I was you I'd tell her everything you've told us....
2 hours is too long....better a 1 hour booking and then return within a couple of days if you enjoy it

I'm 90% confident that I have chosen correctly (based on the many reviews of the person here), but you never know!

2hrs could be too much, but I would rather have too much time than not enough if that makes sense. It also allows time to relax, a bit of chat some GFE stuff etc. I know some don't agree with this and think this is wasted time, but I think its important for me for this time.

Your first review should be interesting I'm sure.

Will be sure to leave one!

Good luck to you mate hope it goes well. Let us know how you get on.

I too was a late starter but have made up for it since. Better late than never !

Sounds like you have been quite careful about the Escort you've selected which is vital. If i were you i would explain to her your situation at the start so she can guide you and ensure you get want you need out of the experience. You will be very nervous but take your time. I suspect you will come very quickly the first time but you will have time for a 2nd more fulfilling climax. I wouldnt bother with a wank before personally.

Be careful though once you get a taster for this you will be hooked like the rest of us !

Thanks! Yeah not sure what got me thinking about doing this actually, but you hear about people having a heart attack, hit by a bus (ok maybe not but you get the idea) all the time. I'd hate to think that was me and I didn't get to experience being with a woman at least once.

Hmm, as way-ward stated, I really do hope you’ve picked the right SP.

Anyway, you’ve referenced “learning” a few times. I would suggest instead to just relax and enjoy the experience, my god you’ve waited long enough for this moment, you deserve to have a good time and not worry about anything else.

All the best.

Thanks!

It might not have been a bad idea to have recently done some massages and happy endings maybe with some body to body massage just as a warm up/taster.....

Maybe, but thought you know what lets just go for the whole works - feel the fear and do it anyway!

So anyway, here's some pointers.....

Thanks JontyR - some real gems there.  I take my hat off to you

Thanks RandomGuy and top down, will bear all this mind.

That if he is a virgin following that slip up 

I meant wanking as stampjones mentioned, I'm not trying to decieve 

Hi mate. I hope it might help you to know that there's someone else on here who was once in exactly the same boat as you... that's me. I was a 45 year old virgin. Never kissed a girl, held hands, been on a date... nothing. Then one day the realisation hit that if I didn't want to die without ever having sex I was going to have to book an escort. So I did. Now, some years later, I've been with lots of lovely ladies and never looked back. Fortunately I made a good choice with my first one and went on to see her nearly thirty times before she disappeared, so I hope you do too. I still can't even talk to a woman in real life, but when I'm in the room with a nice lady I become a different, confident person, they usually seem to like me, and I have a wealth of lovely memories. I hope it all goes well for you.

Thanks InvisibleMan, it's good to know there have been others in a similar situation. When you read the stats about the age at which men lose their virginity its depressing. I'm sure I read somewhere that after age 40 it was something like less than 1% or something like that. Hopefully yours, mine (and anyone elses) posts will help others who come along in the future to guide them to make their own decisions.

Pleased to hear that you really progressed and hope you get to women IRL too.

And umm .. try not to fall in love with her EAS is a very real thing!.

Other than that, enjoy:).

E.scort A.ttachment S.yndrome...

I've read about that - reading some other stories its definately something to look out for. I'll try my best!

...Take your time. Dont set a "goal" because you will be too in your own head about it and probably wont get there, just have fun.....

I don't agree that 2hrs for a first punt is too long. I made my first punt 2hrs and it took the pressure off and made it more fun. Just don't expect to keep pumping for the whole time, and don't go in trying to calculate if you got VFM. Just enjoy it. Don't focus on the details. If you feel you're happy after your first or second pop, and want to leave, then do.  You don't HAVE to use all the time if you don't want to.

Appreciate your comments NotATrumpFan and Mr.bluesky as well.

How do you know what civvy is?

I've read the forums 

[ForkEscort]

6. Make sure you are clean before you go. Every orifice should be smell free, possibly minty. But be careful on  what is minty.

these surely are the words of someone who has given themselves a "personal" trim and then used original source mint and teatree shower gel?  that is a zesty feeling for sure!

[kayak]

My advice is, if you cum quickly, don't react impulsively and decide to finish the session and leave. You might well feel this way, just wanting to go and be alone. Make up your mind before that you WON'T do this, so even if you do cum sooner than you wanted to, prepare for this, maybe even discuss it with the lady, so that you can relax and recover and have a second round. I suspec that because of your virginity, you will cum soon, but the lady will be experienced and help you recover and the second time will be better and enjoyable.

Good luck mate.

[Massagetugga]

Dunno how to pick out quotes but when you say above go for it sorta all or nothing and “feel the fear” (in relation to my suggestion of warming up a bit with likes of a massage punt) I’d say in reply you want to be going in with as little as possible fear or pressure. Unless you are to pop a blue pill you don’t want performance anxiety causing problems. Can’t speak for everyone but it is weird how sometimes the willy doesn’t want to play ball. Being relaxed is probably the single best way to avoid that. I laugh it off if it happens but it’s often a puzzle. Again, anything like this going wrong, don’t sweat it.

[tightfoot69]

If money is not a major problem then I think two hours is fine in your situation.

I wouldn’t stress too much about it. She has probably seen guys who stink so as long as you have good hygiene she will not care about much else.

[stewpid]

Good on you OP for taking control of this situation. 

I have been there myself and also had to resign to the fact that it was not going to happen naturally for me and I needed to get some paid sex to help with my sexual confidence. In many ways it was the best decision as over time I've gone from being really sexually inexperienced to being much more confident, I've made WGs genuinely cum, done things with girls that put the stuff I was enjoying on Pornhub to shame and even had a WG ask me out.

However, I will advise that you should always remember this is just paid sex entertainment, it is not the start of or replacement for a relationship. Additionally I did think that I would just use WGs to get confident then re-enter the dating game and that just didn't happen as, for me, pussy is just a lot easier to get this way. Be aware of exactly what you want to get out of punting and don't fool yourself into thinking otherwise.

Wishing you an amazing experience! 

[JontyR]

One other thought OP,

have you ever put on a condom? I'm sure the lady will do it for you, but it may be worth familiarising yourself with the sounds, smells and sensations associated with this before you go.

[Munter84]

Some fantastic advice above.

I also entered the world of punting, not exactly as a virgin, but definitely with the goal of receiving a long overdue sexual education, and after several years and some ups and downs I can say it's certainly been that.

I encourage OP to absolutely treat the first punt as a learning experience, and more than that, a rough and dirty reconnoitre. Keep expectations low. A first attempt at anything is usually amateurish, clumsy and often a bit crap, and sex is no exception. Having had so many years to hear how wonderful sex is, can lead to massively over inflated expectations. Great sex is out there, persevere and you'll hopefully get to have your share of it, but it's unlikely to be achieved on the first punt. There's a real risk of coming away from losing your virginity with a feeling of "is that it?" or, worse, "I'm not cut out for this". If the first time isn't as electric and life-changing as you had hoped, don't lose heart. Have a beer, have a moan to a close friend (or failing that, us reprobates), and in due course get back in the saddle. Almost any skill can be improved with intentional practice.

Good luck, and enjoy the adventure.

[simon07]

Good luck. I think one hour is better. The escort choice is critical. Check her reviews. Sadly some might just want your money and rush you out. Maybe 2 pops in an hour. Check UKP reviews and avoid poor quality Romanians or Brazilian. An older escort may be more reliable understanding.

I found my second punt more satisfying as I picked up experience. So don’t allow the first punt to be a
 Marker. Anyway good luck and no drinks or wanking for 2 days before the event.

[NotATrumpFan]

2hrs could be too much, but I would rather have too much time than not enough if that makes sense. It also allows time to relax, a bit of chat some GFE stuff etc. I know some don't agree with this and think this is wasted time, but I think its important for me for this time.

This was exactly my thoughts, and it worked out exactly as I had hoped.  That said my "first time" with a SW was a good 20+ years after losing my virginity so I wasn't dealing with that at the same time, just the nerves of a new experience.  Your mileage may vary, but IMHO I would say giving your self time to be relaxed and take it at your own pace rather than trying scramble to fit it into an hour (or even 30 mins) makes so much more sense for a first time.  Assuming you can afford it.

I'm 90% confident that I have chosen correctly

Can I ask if you would be willing to let us know who you ended up selecting?  We might be able to offer suggestions of similar ladies you may not have considered.

[maybe]

Plenty of good advice. I remember on my first punt i had wild ideas about how great it would be and how many times I was gonna pop and in reality, it was nothing like that (Bad choice for first punt on my side) and i barely managed to squeeze out one.

This is much harder than it sounds, but you have to relax, avoid meds, avoid alcohol and keep yourself hydrated. Be clean, you can smell nice but don't spray anything down stairs as it will taste horrible. Taking a 4 day popping break before going in .... smart move!

Good luck!

[Chazz]

Some fantastic advice above.

I also entered the world of punting, not exactly as a virgin, but definitely with the goal of receiving a long overdue sexual education, and after several years and some ups and downs I can say it's certainly been that.

I encourage OP to absolutely treat the first punt as a learning experience, and more than that, a rough and dirty reconnoitre. Keep expectations low. A first attempt at anything is usually amateurish, clumsy and often a bit crap, and sex is no exception. Having had so many years to hear how wonderful sex is, can lead to massively over inflated expectations. Great sex is out there, persevere and you'll hopefully get to have your share of it, but it's unlikely to be achieved on the first punt. There's a real risk of coming away from losing your virginity with a feeling of "is that it?" or, worse, "I'm not cut out for this". If the first time isn't as electric and life-changing as you had hoped, don't lose heart. Have a beer, have a moan to a close friend (or failing that, us reprobates), and in due course get back in the saddle. Almost any skill can be improved with intentional practice.

Good luck, and enjoy the adventure.

Very much this!

I remember feeling very underwhelmed when I popped my cherry, and it took several goes after that until sex became competent and enjoyable. (The first time you ride a bike you fall off and graze your knees!) I very much enjoyed my first punt though, although to start with I was very nervous. Have a great time, and don't forget to let us know how you get on. 

[Fush]

Thanks everyone for their advice and support, it's much appreciated. I know I mentioned this before, but I found other posts on this forum useful when I had first had this idea. So hopefully this will be another post for future guests and members to get advice before going into their first punt, being a virgin or not, and at any age.

One other thought OP,

have you ever put on a condom? I'm sure the lady will do it for you, but it may be worth familiarising yourself with the sounds, smells and sensations associated with this before you go.

I have yes and tried a few different brands and sizes. I like the ones by Skyn best.

...Can I ask if you would be willing to let us know who you ended up selecting?  We might be able to offer suggestions of similar ladies you may not have considered.

Sure, no problem and thanks. I'll do a review anyway.

[ceridan99]

What the hell you on about.

You’re a virgin. Of course you’ve never tried that. 🤷🏼

I'm assuming he's referencing general recovery time for wanking sessions in the past.

[Stevelondon]

One other thought OP,

have you ever put on a condom? I'm sure the lady will do it for you, but it may be worth familiarising yourself with the sounds, smells and sensations associated with this before you go.

WTF 

[Fush]

So my first experience and first punt is now done. I'm no longer a virgin  . I'll leave the details about the actual punt and experience to the review I'd do soon, but just thought I would update here with some thoughts (its quite long).

TL;DR - It went great and I got what I wanted. Review to follow. Thinking about booking just one more lady for more experience and variety (External Link/Members Only).

So how do I feel? I see what people mean now, nothing fundamental has really changed about me, I am still the same person. It's not like I have actually 'lost' anything, more gained something. I see now that actually sex isn't a big deal that I was making it out to be. It's something to enjoy yes, but it's not the answer to your prayers, not the be-all-and-end-all etc.

Reading some notes I made, I have written that I don't think I could get addicted to the lifestyle of punting as I do like intimacy, the connection and I can see that having a partner would be nice. I'm not sure if I would want my only interaction with women to be with escorts. Particularly if it was like a lot of people I've read about who sex is just very transactional. You go in, you have sex and you come out. That wouldn't appeal to me. I should note that I didn't have that experience at all, as it was very nice.

In terms of the experience, it was exactly what I was looking for. It was nice, friendly, welcoming and the lady/SP/WG (I prefer lady as it sounds nicer but maybe I'm soft ) was very accommodating. Yes, I wasn't perfect in a number of ways, but then I wouldn't expect to be. I could certainly use some more practice as I realise like someone else said you can't get 25-30 years experience in two hours. However saying that she did complement me (I think in a genuine way) in one or two areas so that's nice. She mentioned that I got to more things in the time that some married men never have done (blowjob for example).

It was mentioned here that some thought 2 hours would have been to long. However I found it perfect, and used all the time! 1 hour would have been much more rushed and I wouldn't have eased into it as much as I did. I certainly wouldn't have been as relaxed in 1 hour and would have felt more transactional, which I didn't want.

Details are in the review to come, but I remember when she put the condom on and was getting ready for cowgirl, thinking to myself "ok this is it...no turning back now". And then I was in. I have to say I did a little dance to myself in my head 

I definately got more into it as I went along. I was nervous, but not as nervous as I was expecting. We did cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy and mish. Cowgirl and doggy were definately favourites, I found that mish much more complicated than expected to poistion myself right and get a good flow. It was also more phyiscal than I was expecting, sounds stupid but I don't know what I was expecting.

I got to experience a lot, but in hindsight there were a few things I would have liked to do, or do more of certain things. I guess though you can't do everything at once and its good to have some things to look forward for a next time. I can't remember everything about the time as sometimes I still don't believe it was actually me who went through with this () but I was very pleased with my 'performance', (again more details in the review).

So yes, room for improvement definately. I have to remember that this was my first time, and I'm sure that others first times were not as good as my experience. Ok so it was very, very, very late to do this yes, but hopefully there will be many more experiences to come. I'm happy though - I've come away a little taller and a little more confident which was the whole purpose. I now know what to expect and how things work, it's just getting better at it now.

I guess my biggest regret would be that I didn't do this a long time ago. I don't know what I was waiting for. There were opportunties, maybe I thought the women weren't attractive enough, or I wanted to wait for the 'one'. Perhaps I was afraid that I would be judged, I don't know.

In conversation with the lady, she mentioned she doesn't see people younger than a certain age. This is because they are still young and have time to gain experience in the 'normal' way. If they come to her at their age they might get a false sense of what it's all about and only pursue similar options which she thought would be sad. I think I agree.

So in conclusion then, if anyone has read this far, anyone who is in my position, or hopefully younger, get that experience. Either through the 'normal' way or with good escorts. Don't wait until you get to my age!

As little twist, I thought that would be it now. However another conversation somewhere on here got me thinking and there would be a few things I would like to do more. As much as I liked the first lady, I would like to get some variety, before heading out 'into the real world' - although I can see this could easily become addictive, something I mentioned at the start I wouldn't feel! However I do think it would be beneficial and provides more experience.

So I'm thinking Poppy might be solid shout - External Link/Members Only.

If I do book, I would go 2 hours again. While I would probably be still really nervous, as she looks hot and is way out of my league, but it does mean I get as much experience as possible again in a non-rushed way.

Some of you much more experienced guys might be rolling your eyes at some of this, but we can't as lucky as you! I hope that it may or may not be useful for anyone else who was like me and gives them hope, inspiration or whatever to help them move forward 

I'm reluctant to share who I actually went with as if she reads this I would be embarassed  , however you will know who it was when I do the review 

[akauya]

So my first experience and first punt is now done. I'm no longer a virgin  .

Reading some notes I made, I have written that I don't think I could get addicted to the lifestyle of punting as I do like intimacy, the connection and I can see that having a partner would be nice. I'm not sure if I would want my only interaction with women to be with escorts. Particularly if it was like a lot of people I've read about who sex is just very transactional. You go in, you have sex and you come out. That wouldn't appeal to me.

Congratulations to you. With regards to the bit I highlighted above; that's a wise approach. Do try to have normal/ordinary relationship with women. Now that the "pressure" of losing your virginity is no longer there and found that it's not a "big deal," it's important that you experience the other side of sex, the one that comes with emotional intimacy - then you will know it's even better. Seeing escorts is great, it scratches an itch but it does not replace sex as part of a loving relationship. Anyway, don't rush, take it easy,  keep learning the ropes as it were, until you find that special woman in your life. It will come, no rush.

 

Some of you much more experienced guys might be rolling your eyes at some of this, but we can't as lucky as you! I hope that it may or may not be useful for anyone else who was like me and gives them hope, inspiration or whatever to help them move forward 

I don't think many of us will be rolling our eyes; it's life. Losing one's virginity doesn't have to happen at a specific age. As long as you're old enough to give consent, it doesn't matter how early or late it happens.

[Massagetugga]

That’s good it went well. My only concern over the two hours was “clicking” ok with the SP, and her being kind, helpful and understanding. Sounds like she was. Excellent.

I can’t look into this “poppy” because I can’t see her AW number but be wary her vibes might be totally different and therefore the whole thing could feel disastrous compared to your obviously good first choice. Not fancy going back to her for seconds? I’d be tempted if it went really well.

As much as finding love and the intimacy that should go along with it might be fantastic, it often isn’t quite the reality. My advice would be try to have a bit of fun first.

Edit: I see Poppy’s AW number was there. Doh! The first review I read saying she comes across as detached during bookings is the sort of thing I feared. Particularly noticing she was EE. Just bear in mind it could be VERY different to the good fortune you describe

[RandomGuy99]

Poppy is gorgeous and provides a good service External Link/Members Only

[signy]

Pleased for you Fush.

Now that you have had your first punt, it is up to you whether you continue, without forever wondering. Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best.

[Fush]

Thanks everyone for your comments and support, much appreciated

One thing I have noticed, and surprised me, is that I feel more hornier than before. Maybe I didn't know what I was missing out on, but now I've been there I want more!

[Massagetugga]

Thanks everyone for your comments and support, much appreciated

One thing I have noticed, and surprised me, is that I feel more hornier than before. Maybe I didn't know what I was missing out on, but now I've been there I want more!

It’s often the case after any shagging or punt you’ll instantly feel like more. I find myself quite often a third into a punt wordering if I could slip in going straight to another! Luckily for my punting funds the thoughts
usually disappear once you’ve shot your load 

[RandomGuy99]

It’s often the case after any shagging or punt you’ll instantly feel like more. I find myself quite often a third into a punt wordering if I could slip in going straight to another! Luckily for my punting funds the thoughts
usually disappear once you’ve shot your load 

I've sometimes had a booking and not cum and decided I am not making myself cum, so I have another booking a bit later just to cum.

[kayak]

Another thought for the OP - go for a punt in the morning for the following reasons:

Male libido is supposed to be higher in the morning, so you'll have more energy and be more horny than later;
The earlier you visit the lady, the more likely you might be her first of the day, and you run less risk of a jobsworthy performance, either because she might be tired or annoyed by other punters or timewasters or both, so try to see her when she's fresh. If you can give her an orgasm she'll likely be very happy with you. Give it a try with 69 or face sitting.

[Chazz]

Fush, I'm so pleased that everything went so well. You've made my week with such an uplifting story. It's weird isn't it - as soon as you pop your cherry you realise that sex is just sex (but great fun at the same time). All the best, and good luck with your future endeavours. 

[Chazz]

I just thought - now that you're a man of the world, you understand what all the fush is about.

(Don’t worry, I already have me coat).