Looking for a Halfway House between Cuddle Therapy and and Escort

[anonguy]

Hello

I am an occasional customer for adultwork escorts however I have a number of frustrations and wondering if anyone here can comment or point me in the right direction.

I am not sexually confident and perhaps unusually, I do not wish to have full sex with an escort...I do not know what half of all the abbreviations mean!

I am an aspergers guy, and despite all my efforts, cannot find a normal girlfriend, but what I really want from an escort is some gentle, sensual, bodily contact and touch, long hugs etc. I'm based in Worthing and almost all of the escorts available are foreign and in my experience cannot speak much English, so its very hard to explain what you want, or have a chance to chat with them to check out the vibe, ask for specific details first, before hiring them. I'm not turned on by the typical sexualised vibe they might greet you with. I want a girl who will wear something more casual, and be like girlfriend.

So really what I want is a halfway house between cuddle therapy and an escort. Undressing each other, long hugs etc, which COULD lead to going the full way, but there's no expectation either way. Plus I would like a bit more transparency, a quick chat on the phone beforehand, explaining our expectations first etc.

Can anyone recommend any British escorts regularly based in Brighton/Worthing or nearby areas who could offer this type of service and transparency?

Thank you

[daviemac]

Have you searched on AW? there's 79 profiles listed in the Brighton area as British. 

Most escorts would be more than happy to accommodate your request, it's an easy booking for them.

[anonguy]

Have you searched on AW? there's 79 profiles listed in the Brighton area as British. 

Most escorts would be more than happy to accommodate your request, it's an easy booking for them.

Is there a way to filter by Nationality? And do they normally reply if you email to make general enquiries as opposed to booking them on the day?

[finn5555]

Is there a way to filter by Nationality? And do they normally reply if you email to make general enquiries as opposed to booking them on the day?

There are filters by nationality etc on AW

[RandomGuy99]

Is there a way to filter by Nationality? And do they normally reply if you email to make general enquiries as opposed to booking them on the day?

There sure is, see screenshot below.

You could try looking for SPs who have "Disabled Clients" in their Likes as they may be more receptive and understanding to your request

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[daviemac]

Is there a way to filter by Nationality? And do they normally reply if you email to make general enquiries as opposed to booking them on the day?

On the search page.

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I should add that if you 'exclude' any nationality it also excludes the ones who don't state what nationality they are.

[anonguy]

Thanks for your help, I've only used the quick search in the past. I'll see who I fancy and make some general enquiries in advance, hopefully they will reply to their emails!

[RandomGuy99]

External Link/Members Only looks good. She has "Disabled Clients" listed and is in her 40s, so experienced.

[RandomGuy99]

or External Link/Members Only

[Count Backwards]

I have a similar issue to the OP. I find that escorts aren't really all that good at the cuddly side. Some actively resist that kind of intimacy and some just seem confused by it.

I do visit a cuddle therapist from time to time. Strictly clothes on and nothing sexy, but very close and intimate. I also visit escorts.

For me, keeping the two seperate had worked well, but I'd love to combine them.

[RandomGuy99]

I have a similar issue to the OP. I find that escorts aren't really all that good at the cuddly side. Some actively resist that kind of intimacy and some just seem confused by it.

I do visit a cuddle therapist from time to time. Strictly clothes on and nothing sexy, but very close and intimate. I also visit escorts.

For me, keeping the two seperate had worked well, but I'd love to combine them.

Cuddling is probably more on intimate service which some SPs may be uncomfortable with. In the past I did contemplate booking a particular escort just for snogging, boob play and fingering as she was good at it.

[anonguy]

I have a similar issue to the OP. I find that escorts aren't really all that good at the cuddly side. Some actively resist that kind of intimacy and some just seem confused by it.

I do visit a cuddle therapist from time to time. Strictly clothes on and nothing sexy, but very close and intimate. I also visit escorts.

For me, keeping the two separate had worked well, but I'd love to combine them.

I find that most are OK with it, although I never know what they are thinking. However I had a bit of a weird experience last weekend, with a girl who seemed very set on her own agenda, and I could only communicate my speaking quietly into her phone voice translator! I'm contemplating doing a negative review but I worry she might see it...

Anyway looking on her AW profile she said talked about sharing interesting conversation and warm cuddles, I told her in my text that this is what I wanted and she said OK, but immediately when I got into her room it was as if she hadn't even read my text messages! I had to tell her to slow down a bit! Hence talking about a lack of transparency, I'd say false advertising in this case!

I would find it very strange that an escort who is willing to go the full way sexually would be resistant to a hug, because I thought cuddling up was natural part of sex?

[daviemac]

I find that most are OK with it, although I never know what they are thinking. However I had a bit of a weird experience last weekend, with a girl who seemed very set on her own agenda, and I could only communicate my speaking quietly into her phone voice translator! I'm contemplating doing a negative review but I worry she might see it...

That shouldn't stop you from posting a review, especially a negative one, you aren't going to be booking again are you and the whole idea of the site is to share information.

With good communications being the key when booking this type of service perhaps her not being fluent in English led to your poor booking.

[RandomGuy99]

I find that most are OK with it, although I never know what they are thinking. However I had a bit of a weird experience last weekend, with a girl who seemed very set on her own agenda, and I could only communicate my speaking quietly into her phone voice translator! I'm contemplating doing a negative review but I worry she might see it...

Anyway looking on her AW profile she said talked about sharing interesting conversation and warm cuddles, I told her in my text that this is what I wanted and she said OK, but immediately when I got into her room it was as if she hadn't even read my text messages! I had to tell her to slow down a bit! Hence talking about a lack of transparency, I'd say false advertising in this case!

I would find it very strange that an escort who is willing to go the full way sexually would be resistant to a hug, because I thought cuddling up was natural part of sex?

Hugging isn't a big part of standard bookings with SPs. It's the odd quick hug before the action.  Hugging for a long time isn't standard.

[scutty brown]

"a Halfway House between Cuddle Therapy and and Escort "

Isn't that why a lot of people get dogs? Something fluffy and warm to cuddle?

[finn5555]

"a Halfway House between Cuddle Therapy and and Escort "

Isn't that why a lot of people get dogs? Something fluffy and warm to cuddle?

You suggesting bestiality 

[scutty brown]

You suggesting bestiality 

No not at all.
Just getting a big fluffy dog that can be cuddled and stroked
Dogs can be more understanding than people

[anonguy]

That shouldn't stop you from posting a review, especially a negative one, you aren't going to be booking again are you and the whole idea of the site is to share information.

With good communications being the key when booking this type of service perhaps her not being fluent in English led to your poor booking.

Review done

[anonguy]

"a Halfway House between Cuddle Therapy and and Escort "

Isn't that why a lot of people get dogs? Something fluffy and warm to cuddle?

No, I'm looking for sensual experience, feeling a woman's bare skin, enjoying a tingling sensation of a soft hand on the body. A dog won't satisfy!

[fatboy]

In my experience it is quite unusual for most SP's to provide what the OP wants.
Unless really lucky i think you need to build trust in each other so both feel comfortable for cuddles etc.
Some SPs would see that as very intimate.
Cheers, FB.

[RandomGuy99]

No, I'm looking for sensual experience, feeling a woman's bare skin, enjoying a tingling sensation of a soft hand on the body. A dog won't satisfy!

Try a British MILF as they can be good for some banter and a cubble. I once had one get me to use her bum cheeks to warm up my cold hands in winter and like I said look for "Disabled Clients" on their likes list as they are more likely to take their time and take time to understand what you need and what they need to do and how.  I'm not saying being Aspie makes you disabled. I'm just saying that type of SP would probably be better for you.

[Herts_Outcaller]

Try using Adultwork's "Reverse Booking" feature, which costs a pound. You can detail exactly what you want and allow women to bid on it.

[JontyR]

Try using Adultwork's "Reverse Booking" feature, which costs a pound. You can detail exactly what you want and allow women to bid on it.

It's a good plan, but OP don't automatically assume they have thoroughly read what you've written. You still have to do your due diligence.

Also a shoutout to RandomGuy99, good work fella.

[Mkhelen]

Try TLC Trust Website

It's for customers who are disabled trying to access kind caring and compassionate SW

External Link/Members Only

[TomD1343]

Have you thought about using Seeking? There are lots of girls on there offering companionship / chat / dates rather than full sex and you can be quite upfront and direct about what you're looking for.

[RandomGuy99]

Have you thought about using Seeking? There are lots of girls on there offering companionship / chat / dates rather than full sex and you can be quite upfront and direct about what you're looking for.

I think they'd rip him off though.

[TomD1343]

I think they'd rip him off though.

I guess there's an element of risk with most things, I'd like to think not though I've had some good, genuine experiences on SA.

It might be worth a look OP as there are women on there who will offer platonic, girlfriend type arrangements, one off or longer term.

Other end of the country for me but I see there's a thread https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=277868.1100 maybe the chaps on there could advise before signing up.

Hope you find what you're looking for buddy.

[Clarence Boddicker]

"a Halfway House between Cuddle Therapy and and Escort "

Isn't that why a lot of people get dogs? Something fluffy and warm to cuddle?

Funnily enough, I cutdown my punting a bit once I got my dog, but strange thing is after that any outcall girls all loved my dog and would get excited about seeing him again, if I re-booked them.

[alabama1]

Funnily enough, I cutdown my punting a bit once I got my dog, but strange thing is after that any outcall girls all loved my dog and would get excited about seeing him again, if I re-booked them.

Sadly, that's what they wanted you to think. In reality , they were/are just after your return custom/£££

[alabama1]

Funnily enough, I cutdown my punting a bit once I got my dog, but strange thing is after that any outcall girls all loved my dog and would get excited about seeing him again, if I re-booked them.

I could get excited about seeing your dog for £200 per hour 

[stonebow1]

In my experience it is quite unusual for most SP's to provide what the OP wants.
Unless really lucky i think you need to build trust in each other so both feel comfortable for cuddles etc.
Some SPs would see that as very intimate.
Cheers, FB.

Is it? It basically sounds like a GFE to me but without the focus on the sex.

As a poster pointed out above, most escorts would be happy to offer it as long as you can clearly convey what you want.

[Ivor Hunch]

would strongly recommend speaking to the SP in telcon or videocon before the meet-  you will get a good idea if they will provide the sort of service you are looking for

[webpunter]

"a Halfway House between Cuddle Therapy and and Escort "

Isn't that why a lot of people get dogs? Something fluffy and warm to cuddle?

The OP opens up on aspergers
Not easy to do
& is reaching out on here
with UKPers duly responding positively
Apart from you 
How you connect the OPs post & dogs i have no idea, freudian slip ?
Are you getting a bit frustrated with virtually 100% compliance on subject lines, nothing to edit eh ? Oh dear
Your understanding of the thread is below zero, quelle surprise

[webpunter]

It's a good plan, but OP don't automatically assume they have thoroughly read what you've written. You still have to do your due diligence.

Also a shoutout to RandomGuy99, good work fella.

+1
Best for OP to re-iterate the basics of what he's looking for if things progress to text comms
The SP will likely be getting lots of messages skim reading busy the usual
@RG99, thats one way to warm your hands !

[anonguy]

Sorry I dont understand the abbreviations. OP and SP please?

[MissWolf]

Sorry I dont understand the abbreviations. OP and SP please?

OP means Original poster or Original post

SP means Service provider another name for Escort

 

[gguk]

Hello

I am an occasional customer for adultwork escorts however I have a number of frustrations and wondering if anyone here can comment or point me in the right direction.

I am not sexually confident and perhaps unusually, I do not wish to have full sex with an escort...I do not know what half of all the abbreviations mean!

I am an aspergers guy, and despite all my efforts, cannot find a normal girlfriend, but what I really want from an escort is some gentle, sensual, bodily contact and touch, long hugs etc. I'm based in Worthing and almost all of the escorts available are foreign and in my experience cannot speak much English, so its very hard to explain what you want, or have a chance to chat with them to check out the vibe, ask for specific details first, before hiring them. I'm not turned on by the typical sexualised vibe they might greet you with. I want a girl who will wear something more casual, and be like girlfriend.

So really what I want is a halfway house between cuddle therapy and an escort. Undressing each other, long hugs etc, which COULD lead to going the full way, but there's no expectation either way. Plus I would like a bit more transparency, a quick chat on the phone beforehand, explaining our expectations first etc.

Can anyone recommend any British escorts regularly based in Brighton/Worthing or nearby areas who could offer this type of service and transparency?

Thank you

Chinese massage girls generally like it, or at least pretend to. But if you take that route treat it as a date, dress and smell nice with some good aftershave. Also pay for a 60 to 90 minute massage not shorter

[RandomGuy99]

Sorry I dont understand the abbreviations. OP and SP please?

External Link/Members Only

[Cheltclient]

Sorry I dont understand the abbreviations. OP and SP please?

Good luck in finding what you are looking for. I think key here is being honest about what you are looking for - as you have here - and hopefully you’ll find an accommodating and understanding escort. Personally, I would recommend you try someone English - only as for some foreign escorts you can hit a language barrier or if a maid is answering the texts, they may agree to something they do not pass into the go girls.

As others have said, some escorts may find this a bit too intimate, which sounds a little counter intuitive seeing as it’s less sexual on the face of it. But I would do some research on here, try and find someone who is well reviewed as friendly and provides a top notch girlfriend experience. And you may have to have a couple of bookings with someone to build up a rapport. Maybe half a half hour with oral only (or hand relief if that’s less daunting).

Really hope you can find someone to provide what you are looking for pal