New to Punting - Recently Divorced

[Sda88888]

Punting is something I've wanted to do for a few years but didn't want to cheat on my wife. Now that's not a problem.

I do have some questions at the end but wanted to give my punting journey till now. I have lurked these forums but never signed up until after my 2nd punt. I have dealt with other risky stuff in past so am pretty street wise. I've read the punting guide linked on here but it's a lot to take in.

1st Punt was awesome, I was mega nervous and shakey, and I paid a bit more than the average I saw on AW. I wanted to start slow so I specifcally found a girl that did OWO/edging/CIM. She was really nice, put me at ease, had a little chat and had that feeling of "why didn't i do this years ago".

2nd Punt wanted to up it a notch. I wanted to progress to full sex. Now it's been over 2 years since I've had sex. I was nervous. I didn't realise how bad having sex with a condom is. The girl was really nice, kissing as soon as I walked in, I asked if she had any rules, no rules, just don't hurt her. Got undressed, started kissing, gave me a OWO for a bit. About 10 mins in she asked if I'd like to see her face or ass. Face please...

We switched position and she started complaining about her bed. It was a S**T bed! Told me to keep noise down. I wasn't even going that hard. Probably a 5/10 if that. She complained twice about the bed and I just went soft... Luckily I just asked for her to finish me off and I got hard again and did. We had a quick cuddle, more kissing and little chat. Had a shower and left.

But I left feeling very awkward. I felt bad about the bed and understood why. But it was a major turn off for me. I'm on the heavier side but I work out at the gym and 6ft.  I wanted to make a comment about getting a better bed but thought I'd leave it.

I can't finish unless I'm really giving it. I'm into grabbing hair and shoulders etc... And a light bit of spanking. Are most escorts against this? Or are there some out there that are into that too?

After the experience it's made me thinking I don't really like sex. I much preferred the 1st punt.

Any personal advice for a newbie?

I have a visit planned for tomorrow with a 1hr tie and tease with edging. I'm a bit worred about being tied, reviews look good but should I be wary?

[daviemac]

I'm not sure what you are asking mate, you say you've had a couple of punts and read some of the guide to punting, why not read all of that it's got all the information you need?

[Sda88888]

I couldn’t find the answers to my questions on there… they are quite specific.

1) should I be worried about being tied during a punt
2) is it common for punts to not enjoy slightly rough sex

[Bunbury]

Is it half term already?

[RandomGuy99]

I couldn’t find the answers to my questions on there… they are quite specific.

1) should I be worried about being tied during a punt
2) is it common for punts to not enjoy slightly rough sex

We're all different, so your preferences are entirely your own.

[Colston36]

If as you say you "don't really like sex" wtf are you on here for? Try bowls.

[stampjones]

If as you say you "don't really like sex" wtf are you on here for? Try bowls.

Taking a section of text out of context to slag someone off and try and make yourself look like one of the cool kids is a dick move - lots of people punt and dont have sex

[Julius1966]

I'm not sure what you are asking mate, you say you've had a couple of punts and read some of the guide to punting, why not read all of that it's got all the information you need?

You've just got to experiment a bit and find out what you like and find the right sps that work for you. Everyone has a bad punt every now and then. It's inevitable. Just got to move one when it happens. Best not to over think it.

[Doc Holliday]

I couldn’t find the answers to my questions on there… they are quite specific.

1) should I be worried about being tied during a punt
2) is it common for punts to not enjoy slightly rough sex

Assuming it is an experienced and well reviewed SP you do not really need to be concerned about being tied.

Regarding SP's and their tolerance of rough sex this is very variable, as is what they would evaluate as being 'slight'. Reviews may give you some indication, but the description you give in your OP suggests a little more than slight if she was concerned about the noise and the structure of the bed ... especially if you are a large build?

If you feel you can only orgasm in penetrative sex by going hard at it (and a condom will exacerbate this) then (a) you may limit your choices of SP and (b) need to investigate adapting your sexual technique/preferences to avoid this scenario.

It is common for many punters to struggle to orgasm with penetrative sex (or lose their erection) with condom use and banging away faster and harder is not the best solution.

You also mention hair pulling and this is also very dependent on an individual SP and you will need to ask this on an individual basis. Many will not allow at all and others not beyond it just light pulling. Others will tolerate it.

The world is your oyster in terms of sexual services but you may need to be prepared to adapt to fully take advantage.

Members will also expect you to review and by doing so you may avoid some of the less welcoming posts on this thread 

EDIT I suspect you will enjoy your edging session tomorrow

[Strawberry]

I couldn’t find the answers to my questions on there… they are quite specific.

1) should I be worried about being tied during a punt
2) is it common for punts to not enjoy slightly rough sex

SPs are individuals with different likes, dislikes, as well as consent. Different punters have different perceptions of light, heavy, passionate, rough. Also I think porn can influence this. I advertise GFE but I do have encounters with punters who have read my website, we've set up the booking absolutely fine, but on arrival it becomes clear they want to enact the porn they have been viewing. As a woman in a room with a stranger it can be scary to be suddenly grabbed by the hair, shoulders, fingers shoved in mouth. There may be clues in her profile but I would advise checking, sure if someone does this some SPs may carry on as best they can, but inside they are on full alert - meaning you may not get the best from them and if you push further may snap.

My recommendation is read profile, look for clues, ask her in a non-pressuring, non-expectant way preferably not by ping pong text.

[Stevelondon]

Who are you seeing for this tie and tease. ?
If I know her I might be able to offer some help etc.

[DastardlyDick]

I couldn’t find the answers to my questions on there… they are quite specific.

1) should I be worried about being tied during a punt
2) is it common for punts to not enjoy slightly rough sex

1) There is a type of restraint that is designed to break easily - I don't how you'd know the difference though.
2) Everyone has a different idea of "rough" - I can only suggest telling the SP what you'd like to do and asking if she's OK with that

[signy]

1) There is a type of restraint that is designed to break easily - I don't how you'd know the difference though.

If you are using ropes, then what you are after is being tied using a Lark's Foot knot. You can pull and struggle as much as you like in play and you will never get out; relax and gentley move your hand and wrist about and it will slowly loosen. It has lots of other names, many of which are American External Link/Members Only.



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[Doc Holliday]

Nothing further again from OP?

[Colston36]

Taking a section of text out of context to slag someone off and try and make yourself look like one of the cool kids is a dick move - lots of people punt and dont have sex

At 88 it's a bit late for me to be a cool kid, ducky,

[myothernameis]

Nothing further again from OP?

Wonder if we will get any reviews of meets 

[Iloveoral]

Wonder if we will get any reviews of meets 

Funny you should say that 
Your a bit behind matey

[myothernameis]

Funny you should say that 
Your a bit behind matey

Last 2 years, have had problems with my heart, and heart would go into tachycardia rhythms, and recently diagnosed with long covid, with lung inflammation.  So punting and even normal things like exercising weren't possible, but I'm slowly getting back to normal, but the lung inflammation causes me small problems like getting out of breath

[Colston36]

Taking a section of text out of context to slag someone off and try and make yourself look like one of the cool kids is a dick move - lots of people punt and dont have sex

We had a previous exchange about this, and on reflection I think you are absolutely right; mine was a cheap shot.

[scouting]

We had a previous exchange about this, and on reflection I think you are absolutely right; mine was a cheap shot.

Chapeau Colston    Not many on here come back with an apologetic tone. Mind you I also liked your earlier riposte 

[Iloveoral]

Last 2 years, have had problems with my heart, and heart would go into tachycardia rhythms, and recently diagnosed with long covid, with lung inflammation.  So punting and even normal things like exercising weren't possible, but I'm slowly getting back to normal, but the lung inflammation causes me small problems like getting out of breath

Sorry to hear matey, reply appreciated, thank you 
Had to ask, it’s my job, apologies

[stampjones]

We had a previous exchange about this, and on reflection I think you are absolutely right; mine was a cheap shot.

Fair play - Im sure most of us have said things we shouldnt have and its not like I’m squeaky clean. I must have just been in a bad mood that day, sorry 

[Stevelondon]

Far too many folk saying sorry and giving each other virtual hugs on here.

It’s not right I tell you.

But in the same vein.  I just wanted to let you all know how much I love you. Everybody round to mine fur a BBQ this weekend 😘

[stampjones]

Far too many folk saying sorry and giving each other virtual hugs on here.

It’s not right I tell you.

But in the same vein.  I just wanted to let you all know how much I love you. Everybody round to mine fur a BBQ this weekend 😘

Haha you’re right, I take it all back - you’re a cunt!
Nah fuck it I cant help it, I love you man

[Fuzzyduck]

Far too many folk saying sorry and giving each other virtual hugs on here.

It’s not right I tell you.

But in the same vein.  I just wanted to let you all know how much I love you. Everybody round to mine fur a BBQ this weekend

Excellent. Do we need to bring our own hookers?
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[Thephoenix]

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[mr.bluesky]

Far too many folk saying sorry and giving each other virtual hugs on here.

It’s not right I tell you.

But in the same vein.  I just wanted to let you all know how much I love you. Everybody round to mine fur a BBQ this weekend 😘

A couple of questions though


Do you have sausages on sticks and do we bring our own beer 
If the weather is cack do we re locate to your local

If I have a skin full can I crash on your sofa .

[MissWolf]

Far too many folk saying sorry and giving each other virtual hugs on here.

It’s not right I tell you.

But in the same vein.  I just wanted to let you all know how much I love you. Everybody round to mine fur a BBQ this weekend 😘

Will there be a spit roast.......asking fir a friend