How do you stop nerves when seeing a new wg

[Punterperson1971]

Like the title says how do you slow down the sensation of cumming to soon,so I have some regulars who I see regularly and they aren’t a problem I can last a lot longer with them from oral or RO,but when I see a new lady the nerves get to me and I can’t seem to control myself and end up cumming early(happened recently).
With ones I’ve seen loads of times I can have oral and sex then cim or cum on tits but a new lady I have to try to calm myself down.
Any tips to help me out please would be appreciated TIA

[RandomGuy99]

Have a wank before the booking then you won't be able to cum.

[Charliehutton]

The first thing that springs to mind is to remember that this isn't real life; this is the fantasy world of punting, where it isn't her pleasure and satisfaction that matters, it's yours, so there's really no need for any kind of performance anxiety.

[scutty brown]

Propranolol would probably work though I don't give much for your chances of getting a prescription off your GP

[Punterperson1971]

Have a wank before the booking then you won't be able to cum.

Don’t want to do that to be honest

[RandomGuy99]

Don’t want to do that to be honest

Learn to relax, just enjoy it and pace yourself.

[Punterperson1971]

Learn to relax, just enjoy it and pace yourself.

I try but sometimes excitement gets the better of me

[lewisjones23]

Like the title says how do you slow down the sensation of cumming to soon,so I have some regulars who I see regularly and they aren’t a problem I can last a lot longer with them from oral or RO,but when I see a new lady the nerves get to me and I can’t seem to control myself and end up cumming early(happened recently).
With ones I’ve seen loads of times I can have oral and sex then cim or cum on tits but a new lady I have to try to calm myself down.
Any tips to help me out please would be appreciated TIA

I'd say it comes with experience but you're at least 128 punts deep so if you're not over your nerves by now,  I doubt you ever will be

[Punterperson1971]

I'd say it comes with experience but you're at least 128 punts deep so if you're not over your nerves by now,  I doubt you ever will be

It’s only when I go to see a new one,never really suffered before unless Its because im getting older

[Watts.E.Dunn]

It’s only when I go to see a new one,never really suffered before unless Its because im getting older

How do you work that out then getting older?, it don't happen to me these older days!...

[Punterperson1971]

How do you work that out then getting older?, it don't happen to me these older days!...

For me it’s more likely nerves or the excitement leading up to the booking and I get over excited,and I meant it never really happened before as far as I remember.

[southcoastpunter]

its quite easy - make a new one become a "regular" - by your own comment, problem solved !!

I'd say it comes with experience but you're at least 128 punts deep so if you're not over your nerves by now,  I doubt you ever will be

- i think the OP just likes starting new threads.

[Punterperson1971]

its quite easy - make a new one become a "regular" - by your own comment, problem solved !!
 - i think the OP just likes starting new threads.

Not really was just asking a general question that’s all,it happens when I see a new lady but not with any I see regular,could it be that I’m used to seeing them more than obviously a new one.

Also most of the new ones are tourers so if I did that and saw one more on a regular basis it would depend on how often she’s back to Walsall or if at all

[scutty brown]

It’s only when I go to see a new one,never really suffered before unless Its because im getting older

You're only as old as the woman you grope feel

[Punterperson1971]

You're only as old as the woman you grope feel

[alabama1]

I don't think nerves is the problem OP, as you are a very seasoned punter, it's more excitement i think, of being with someone new.

[Punterperson1971]

I don't think nerves is the problem OP, as you are a very seasoned punter, it's more excitement i think, of being with someone new.

I think you maybe right there

[WelshClipper]

In my view, you never lose the nerves of a new SP. The thrill and nerves is part of what makes it so much fun.

I like the idea of a regular but when I have seen an SP for a second time, I enjoy the sense of good service and familiar relaxed territory.

BUT I sorely miss the thrill of the chase even if this is presaged by ten minutes on a McDonald’s toilet. 

[pbrown355]

I slow the whole thing down and make sure the sex doesn't happen too early in the punt. I then find that the initial urge settles a bit and can last better. This doesn't work as well when it's a crap punt, two minutes of OW and she jumps on in CG.
Once the initial urge and the performance anxiety have settled it's all easier (for me anyway)

[pythondan]

Short answer - if I am getting too excited I close my eyes and think of John Prescott. Done it since I started punting and it never fails to reduce my excitement.

Sometimes though if I am with a girl I really fancy for the first time and she is delivering a really good service I cum before I planned. That has only happened maybe four times over my punting career and on two occasions the girls in question went on to become long standing regulars. Thinking about it every time was when the initial sex was in cowgirl and I could see the girl riding me - sensory overload!

I don't have any issues with most girls when I see them for the first time. In fact I probably suffer more from not being able to cum in a 30 minute booking if the girl is not really my type or is obviously distant.

TL:DR avoid cowgirl as a first position and have someone who turns you off completely cued up in your memory to summon if needed.

[dobob]

Some suggestions. (1) Talk about it -tell the lady that you want to take it easy so that you don't come too soon. You could even mention it when you make the initial contact and that might lead to some useful insight into her attitudes - if she says "tough luck pal", then you'll know to look elsewhere. (3) Take a bottle of wine along and share a drink with her first as an ice-breaker prior to the action. (3) Erectile dysfunction meds like viagra or cialis will desensitize you and may help you just to press on for a second pop if you do come too soon.

Cheers!

[Hornydevil666]

Im the opposite tbh, anyone new i struggle to cum as im more nervous but with someone ive been with a few time i can relax more and "get there" quicker.

[Punterperson1971]

Some suggestions. (1) Talk about it -tell the lady that you want to take it easy so that you don't come too soon. You could even mention it when you make the initial contact and that might lead to some useful insight into her attitudes - if she says "tough luck pal", then you'll know to look elsewhere. (3) Take a bottle of wine along and share a drink with her first as an ice-breaker prior to the action. (3) Erectile dysfunction meds like viagra or cialis will desensitize you and may help you just to press on for a second pop if you do come too soon.

Cheers!

Good ideas there
One of the regular ladies I see I have a 30 minute oral session with her I mean that’s absolute torture (in the nicest way)but I can hold on for 20-30 minutes depending if it’s sex or cim,if it’s cim then it’s around 25 minutes mark and then a massage,but with a new lady I struggle to stop myself from cumming to soon

[Colston36]

Just tell her to relax and calm down -it'll all be over soon.

[Punterperson1971]

Just tell her to relax and calm down -it'll all be over soon.

 

[midspunter]

I've been nervous all ways up with new women (can't come/too soon) and nowadays I just tell them when I arrive that it takes me a while to get used to someone for the first time and that generally changes the tone of the meeting for the better. Very few escorts are looking for punters to be sexual athletes (and after all, this is what they do professionally - they'll have seen loads of blokes better at it than me or you) and just want a relaxed hour where you go away happy. Talking about what you'd like from them is the way forward.

[MissWolf]

I've been nervous all ways up with new women (can't come/too soon) and nowadays I just tell them when I arrive that it takes me a while to get used to someone for the first time and that generally changes the tone of the meeting for the better. Very few escorts are looking for punters to be sexual athletes (and after all, this is what they do professionally - they'll have seen loads of blokes better at it than me or you) and just want a relaxed hour where you go away happy. Talking about what you'd like from them is the way forward.

This ^

How long do you normally book for?  If you are a single shot guy then shorter bookings to begin with a new sp will work as you can gauge if you want to see her again and the quick fire issue is less of an issue

However if you can go twice then I would suggest booking longer say an hour or 90 mins minimum and get a quick one in early, then there is time to relax, have a chat, a massage, a cuddle, some mutual fondling etc and build up to a longer round 2.

I'd avoid alcohol and if you arrived to a booking with me I wouldn't join you in a drink as I don't ever drink alcohol with Clients, that's just me though so others may differ.

Excitement and anticipation is good though its what this is about

[Momodan38]

If it’s a case of over excitement and not nerves then don’t worry about it. Don’t fight it and just enjoy the moment. When it happens to me, I simply don’t care. I’ve had instances where one hour bookings come to a halt at the 15 mins mark. I don’t look back and think about how I didn’t get my moneys worth or why I didn’t wank the night before. Even when I know it’s coming I simply let my mood dictate my choices. Why would I go out of my way to inhibit an experience I’m really enjoying?

Anyway, that’s my 2 pence. It may not work for you, but I do believe once you stop caring things will simply fall into place.

[MissWolf]

If it’s a case of over excitement and not nerves then don’t worry about it. Don’t fight it and just enjoy the moment. When it happens to me, I simply don’t care. I’ve had instances where one hour bookings come to a halt at the 15 mins mark. I don’t look back and think about how I didn’t get my moneys worth or why I didn’t wank the night before. Even when I know it’s coming I simply let my mood dictate my choices. Why would I go out of my way to inhibit an experience I’m really enjoying?

Anyway, that’s my 2 pence. It may not work for you, but I do believe once you stop caring things will simply fall into place.

Brilliant advice 👏

[Maak]

I take a shot of whiskey to calm my nerves & get me in the mood.

[Malvolio]

Like the title says how do you slow down the sensation of cumming to soon,so I have some regulars who I see regularly and they aren’t a problem I can last a lot longer with them from oral or RO,but when I see a new lady the nerves get to me and I can’t seem to control myself and end up cumming early(happened recently).
With ones I’ve seen loads of times I can have oral and sex then cim or cum on tits but a new lady I have to try to calm myself down.
Any tips to help me out please would be appreciated TIA

I get this too when punting someone new - doesn't bother me as I always book an hour so I can come more than once.

On thinking about it, it's the instinct of shagging someone you've only just met - I suspect plenty of men are wired this way.

[signy]

I get this too when punting someone new - doesn't bother me as I always book an hour so I can come more than once.

At my age, I only come once in a one hour booking (or even longer). To the point, I think it is important to have an idea what you want to do if you come early. I am usually happy with the meet, unless deliberately rushed, and will chat and cuddle for a while. Other options could include a massage or more sexual activites that don't require an erection such as kissing, oral on her and general fondling or shower and leave. If you know what you will do in advance, then you are more likely to continue to have a good time and stop worrying about coming early.

[Punterperson1971]

I saw neve last week and I had a cum twice offer so after cumming in her mouth and swallowing it we chatted and then she tried and got me hard and I fucked her with her legs over my shoulders on edge of bed ,really going for it and pulled out and condom off and wanking really hard and still didn’t cum in her mouth,crazy how our bodies work really

[Colston36]

I don't think nerves is the problem OP, as you are a very seasoned punter, it's more excitement i think, of being with someone new.

This is governed by your temperament, which you cannot change. At 88 I am pretty much as nervous now as I was at 18.

[Mackan1]

I do like the nerves/the feeling u get when u going to meet a new woman. Kinda like an opening a present. U never know what u are going to get. Could it be a bait and switch is the girl in the price is it is girl must a much ruffer ver of the profile.

With cumming a bit fast ask how many pops u can get. But if in a short meeting and they say only one pop. Just ask them to slow down and take a little bit of control if want it to last longer.
Things you can do.  Ask if u can go down on her, ask to change possession. As he to go slow,  u can also l slip ur wee guy out of her “by accident” to give u little guy that 10 sec rest.

U may be in to edging where u like to get to the point to cum then relax then do it again and again till ur wee guy can’t hold back.

[Pillowtalk]

The first thing that springs to mind is to remember that this isn't real life; this is the fantasy world of punting, where it isn't her pleasure and satisfaction that matters, it's yours, so there's really no need for any kind of performance anxiety.

Absolutely.

[Alastor22]

As someone who finds incredibly difficult to cum, I envy you!!! I wish I could come in 5 seconds.

[Stevelondon]

As someone who finds incredibly difficult to cum, I envy you!!! I wish I could come in 5 seconds.

Off topic I know. But you saying that just reminded me.
As young lads we would go out of an evening and one of the boys could get pissed on a pint and a half of Fed Special or Exhibition. While it took the rest of us a tad longer.
We used to take the piss out of him. But I still recall thinking back when I was in my thirties. How good it would be (and a fuckin loss less expensive) if I could have been like that. 

[Punterperson1971]

Well tonight I saw Suzy thin lady for a 30 minute meet,she’s based  in Walsall,seen her quite a few times now and I held on for around 20mins of constant owo (it was a cim finish no sex)and even she did say how I held on for so long,she was relentless in sucking and running her tongue all over my balls and shaft and swallowing my cock then bobbing up and down,but had this had have been a new wg I saw I doubt I would have lasted that long anyway,this is what I’m saying I think once I see someone often then my nerves have disappeared and I can last a lot longer and be more relaxed

[shagmore]

I don't find it nerves, more the excitement of what you see when they open the door. Its the buzz, more the chase than the catch if you get what I mean .
At the end of the day she is expecting you to pay her for sex and any other kink you have agreed so what is there nervous to be about, she also knows you know she is there to be fucked. Its not like a first date where you have no idea how things are going to go, its a dead certain. Unless you can't get it up - then you might want to reconsider your hobby

[Munter84]

I don't find it nerves, more the excitement of what you see when they open the door. Its the buzz, more the chase than the catch if you get what I mean .
At the end of the day she is expecting you to pay her for sex and any other kink you have agreed so what is there nervous to be about, she also knows you know she is there to be fucked. Its not like a first date where you have no idea how things are going to go, its a dead certain. Unless you can't get it up - then you might want to reconsider your hobby

Exactly right, it's natural to have some butterflies in the belly when you're seeing a new girl but people would do themselves a favour to frame it as excitement, not nerves, certainly not fear. So much of what's going to happen next is already decided, at least in theory. There's every expectation that money will change hands and then you'll have sex - you're about to have fun, no need to pussyfoot around or catastrophise! Lean in to the excitement of it and consider it an adventure.

Unless of course genuine red flags are going off - shitty area, loitering pimps, comms that make you feel you're being messed around or set up - in that case, get the hell out of there. That's a different cause of apprehension.

[nwluvit]

If I get nervous, which I still do occasionally, I have a stiff Gin and Tonic as close as possible to the punt. The Gin relaxes and the tonic aids any stomach issues.

[alabama1]

I never get nervous seeing a new WG, only excited !

[Jameson20]

"Smoke a blunt before you punt."

[Count Backwards]

As one or two others have said, if you're not driving having a drink before the punt can help.

[alabama1]

As one or two others have said, if you're not driving having a drink before the punt can help.

Looking again at your post OP, why would you want to stop nerves ? Surely nerves is linked to excitement, which is what fuels our desires when meeting someone new. My advice is, do not try to avoid nerves, but embrace them.

[pbrown355]

I think the point is that the nerves may cause PE or performance anxiety ED

[Mhp2024]

I hear you on this, when I first started punting I saw blowjob babe a few times and she made me cum way too quickly, but credit to her we chilled and went again after but I didn't manage twice ever with her.

I did see a girl outside of punting tho and met at a hotel and I was quite nervous about cumming too soon as we had met for some kinky fun, but we arranged a drink at the hotel bar first when we had that horrendous heatwave maybe 2023, 37c if I remember correctly.

Well the drink definitely helped as we played and fucked for what felt like hours and kept hopping in and out of the shower cooling off, but granted not being a able to drink if driving won't really help.

I openly tell anyone I see that I can sometimes get overly excited and can they take it steady so we can both enjoy and it seems to work no issues ..

[JMitchell]

Can’t seem to figure this one out my self but  i just go in and don’t look back!! only live once i guess

[Thephoenix]

In my early days of punting, I would simply tell the girl I was nervous.
I can only remember ever getting a sympathetic response and encouragement from them.