This has been discussed on here several times.
I guess it depends - how do you feel about your "other half" being fucked by random strangers, albeit on a commercial basis? I would imagine it gives a frisson of excitement at the start of a relationship, but what about a year or so in?

This has been discussed on here several times.
I guess it depends - how do you feel about your "other half" being fucked by random strangers, albeit on a commercial basis? I would imagine it gives a frisson of excitement at the start of a relationship, but what about a year or so in?

I would suggest quick search and read of the multiple threads on this. Should give you all the intel you need to progress or not, but ultimately it is your own decision.

Yes sometimes, no mostly

And she might be on here reading your post.

Just try and pick one that isn't mentally damaged and good luck 🤞 🤣

thanks all...perhaps its my inability to efficiently use the search function but i did look for other threads and didnt see anything....

The search function often isn't easy to use. This popular topic crops up quite frequently and has indeed been discussed many times.

I posted this in one such thread in 2023 with some links https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=378729.0

There may even be more recent threads?

In your case you are coming from it from a slightly different angle as the discussion is mostly around meeting first as punter/SP.

Your situation avoids one problem that there is no EAS that has developed from paid encounters. It still has some elements in common though in terms of the challenges ... in particular as others have said being comfortable with her having sex with many other men. If yours is also a purely sexual relationship it probably doesn't matter too much at this stage. That can change though.

As she has been honest with you, have you reciprocated and told her you also punt?

I mean, many WGs have boyfriends and even husbands, so I gather it can work. Personally though, it'd be a challenge.

A former WG? I *think* I'd be OK with that, provided she didn't have any lifelong STDs as a result. A current WG would be a lot more difficult. Even if I could convince myself that it was really just a job for her, and she got regularly tested, I would be forever worrying about if she had caught something asymptomatic since the last test. I like to kiss. I don't like to use condoms in longterm romantic relationships. I also like peace of mind. At least a couple of those would come into conflict.

That's not to mention the prevalence of mental health issues among escorts, the substance use, how you would introduce her to your family and mates (be upfront or forever worry about her being outed one day)...

Ah, sorry, just seen the Doc asked that Q too!

Perhaps an unusual question for a Monday. I met someone through conventional dating sites. All good, couple of dates etc and she then admitted she wasnt in aesthetics but worked in the "adult industry". Some facial recognition software attempts and sure enough found her on awork. Given the amount of feedback she is clearly a seasoned pro. Spoke to her and she admitted all however says "its just a job". Not sure it works for me but interested if anyone else had dated an escort and if it could work?

Just read your post again. May I ask what facial recognition software you used? I am really surprised that a face photo you have of her got a hit on an AW image?

I am also surprised that having confronted her about it, she wasn't annoyed at your 'snooping' and didn't tell you where to go?

  A mates son got involved with a WG a few years ago she told him she worked partime in a Hairdressers and just washed and did reception work this did not equate with her spending Range Rover nice flat and paid for meals out when they went out Refused to answer her phone and was beyond reach on her Working days this caused a bit of friction and was the key for him finding out she was a WG ,,,It frightened his parents shitless thinking the usall rubish re clap and other nasties ( they paid for private clinc tests on him ) she did not smoke or drink and was a sort of office type looking girl . It did not last he and parents couldnt handle the sperate life thing which she could. I only saw a glimse of her by chance when he was with her in a local pub Id of thought she was a school teacher office work and seemed well middle class ish 
Easy big money I expect is the reason she did it But she seemed to like him a carpenter normal working lad...

The BIG question is....

Have you told her that you punt?! 

No the BIG question seeing as the OP found her AW profile then where the fucks the link   

A mates son got involved with a WG a few years ago she told him she worked partime in a Hairdressers and just washed and did reception work this did not equate with her spending Range Rover nice flat and paid for meals out when they went out Refused to answer her phone and was beyond reach on her Working days this caused a bit of friction and was the key for him finding out she was a WG ,,,It frightened his parents shitless thinking the usall rubish re clap and other nasties ( they paid for private clinc tests on him ) she did not smoke or drink and was a sort of office type looking girl . It did not last he and parents couldnt handle the sperate life thing which she could. I only saw a glimse of her by chance when he was with her in a local pub Id of thought she was a school teacher office work and seemed well middle class ish 
Easy big money I expect is the reason she did it But she seemed to like him a carpenter normal working lad...

Perhaps she just like thew fact that he always had wood 

I think some SPs do it for a while to get enough money behind them quickly to secure the rest of their lives e.g. buy house, buy car, enough money in the bank/pension to secure them and once they have those, then they may quit and get a regular job.  It must be tough going from being an escort to a regular day job where you don't have so much freedom and control over what you do, but I'm sure they don't miss the constant phone calls and texts from SSs and smelly cocks. They do get paid holidays, lunch breaks, possibly private health care and 9 to 5 working hours.

The smart ones come in with a 'plan' or 'target' and fuck out as soon as that is met, without having got caught up with the 'drugs' that 'can' surround the industry.

Total respect for them TBH.

I’m dating a Thai TS escort. She’s promised me she’ll stop once she hits her target. It’s nice having her give me gifts, pay for dates, stay in luxury hotels together and the sex is amazing. But it feels hollow knowing she’ll fuck anyone for money and I get very angry and jealous when I know she’s working.

You don't say how old you are OP but the older I get the more you have to accept that there are very few individuals that come without some kind of baggage.

I think that brutal honesty is the way to go at the start. Not that you want to know the whole in's and out's of every booking but what her reasons are, what here aims are, what her amibitions are...you know all the questions you'd want to know about any prospective long term partner.

But this is different. Can you just leave it behind as well as she may be able to?

Will you both suffer from not being able to describe when she's had a bad day at work?

How will you cope if she gets a punter with EAS?

How will you feel that time she doesn't feel like it when you know she's opened up for Tom, Dick and Abdul that day.

How will you feel that time she doesn't fell like it and you realise you are getting a service just like Tom, Dick and Abdul.

How will you feel when she doesn't want to partake in a particular activity ever, when you know she provides it when payment is being made.

How would you cope when she may meet someone else through work? 

Could you cope if any of your friends or family knew?

Is she dependent on the money that her role provides? Will she ever be in a position to leave it - does she want to?

Finally, would you be able to deal with it if she made certain "adjustments" to her activities...if the answer to this is yes, then there's a fucked up power dynamic and it isn't going to end happily for her.

It's probably quite rare but some people obviously make it work. You both need to be completely open and honest from the start though, she needs to be ok with you punting as well. She's obviously going to be having sex with a lot more people than you but you'd then get to punt guilt free and not have to hide it. There's a couple of pros I've met that I could imagine would have been worth the risk of giving that a go with if the situation had cropped up.

Dating an escort...can it work?

Of course it can.
They're not all single.

This is the challenge. Most have split personalities. They come across as quite normal in the booking, they can hold it together for as long as the booking lasts but outside of it they have serious psychological issues.

The majority of SPs I've got to know outside of the booking environment are quite seriously damaged.

I fully agree with this, and the longer an sp works the more it affects her mental health.

Just try and pick one that isn't mentally damaged and good luck 🤞 🤣

Here you are with the same predictable comment   

This is the challenge. Most have split personalities. They come across as quite normal in the booking, they can hold it together for as long as the booking lasts but outside of it they have serious psychological issues.

The majority of SPs I've got to know outside of the booking environment are quite seriously damaged.

I agree with most of that, I'm not saying it's all SP's, but I've experienced it first hand and through association with others, before anyone wants to pipe up.

The line of work is not what most people would consider normal, and the type of people an SP meets (cheating husbands, men who punt a lot etc etc), means that they will most likely have a perception of men that isn't necessarily conducive to a healthy relationship.

In addition, I would imagine a lot of SP's get in to this line of work for financial reasons, either out desperation or for financial freedom. This too can have an impact on the behaviour of an SP in a relationship. She may fear that if she goes down the traditional route of being a home maker she will end up back in the quest for either of the two aforementioned financial reasons. And, before anyone wants to pipe up, I have experienced this situation too.

Well it’s fundamentally true Lou, many have mental health issues and plenty balance this with substance abuse. Of course there are exceptions granted 

You state the word "many" and "plenty".....what number and how do you know this as a fact ?

So before this gets out of hand and becomes increasingly confrontational, perhaps a few facts are in order.

This is a gross oversimpification, but the UK figure for women overall who are deemed to have a mental health issue is between 25 -30%. This has increased since Covid and affects younger women slightly disproportionately.

Studies around female sex workers specifically, are not huge in number, but they are sufficient to come up with an increased figure of around 50%. Street workers are more likely to suffer than off-street.

It becomes complex across the affected group, in that some have pre-existing conditions which are almost always exacerbated by the type of work, while others only develop mental health problems due to the nature of the work.

This is just to give some perspective to the scale. Sex workers do indeed have an increased likelihood of mental health problems compared to the general population, but it is not correct to say that nearly all of them will be affected.

It is also true to say that drug and alcohol abuse rates are generally higher than in the general population but with the same proviso as above.

Because normally after my punts with a few of my regulars the kettle comes on, as long as they don’t have a booking after mine. We sit down have a brew and we start to chit chat about life and mental health topic comes up time to time and they mention it.

How much do they charge you for that ? 

Some people get off knowing there other half is getting a seeing to.

I wouldn't mind- especially if I could join in or watch