how would you play this?

[livlad]

so browsing on the various sugar baby sites like you do and I've just spotted a new profile from a fit 20 year old co-worker that works in my place (im 40), for context we are on different shifts so never really said anything more than a hello and bye to each other.
would you be tempted to just go for it or stay well clear?

[berksboy]

Stay well clear.

[Bunbury]

Stay well clear.

Good advice

[jamiekinkxxx]

Stay well clear.

 

[rebelscum]

Stay clear was going to be my advice too.  You might have limited contact right now, but if it all goes South, you might be regretting it. 

[quatter11]

Why are you even considering this? Is it the risk element, the vicarious thrill of it being someone that could fuck your career and personal life up?

[qarma]

All of the above.

With bells on.

[The_Don]

Stay well clear.

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[livlad]

Yeah I'll steer clear, cheers guys guess I was just hopeful of seeing a few success stories

[RandomGuy99]

Stay well clear.

this

[PilotMan]

No, ignore what everyone else has said, you'd be crazy not to go for it.

Let us know how you get on.

I'm sure it will make a great read.

 

[myothernameis]

so browsing on the various sugar baby sites like you do and I've just spotted a new profile from a fit 20 year old co-worker that works in my place (im 40), for context we are on different shifts so never really said anything more than a hello and bye to each other.
would you be tempted to just go for it or stay well clear?

Different out look, so know what you know of her, its Xmas time, and the works night out.  I know a lot can happen at a work night out, like work mates getting of with each other.  So in this situation would you be tempted to try your hand, and see if both of you have a fling

[Mr Sinister]

so browsing on the various sugar baby sites like you do and I've just spotted a new profile from a fit 20 year old co-worker that works in my place (im 40), for context we are on different shifts so never really said anything more than a hello and bye to each other.
would you be tempted to just go for it or stay well clear?

Unless you want to out yourself as a punter at work I'd stay well clear of this. You can try approaching her in a different context but again big risk you get exposed.

[PumpDump]

Set up a second profile with a fake photo, befriend her as an online relationship and pay her for nudies!

[Waterhouse]

No, ignore what everyone else has said, you'd be crazy not to go for it.

Let us know how you get on.

I'm sure it will make a great read.

 

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[Stevelondon]

Why the hell are people concerned as to whether you out yourself as a punter….. or not.
Surely this lass has just as much to lose so to speak….. she would be outing herself as a SB.

Only the OP knows what his situation is.

This could just work out to be the best thing he’s ever had ….. if he goes for it that is. 🤷🏼

[Blackpool Rock]

Set up a second profile with a fake photo, befriend her as an online relationship and pay her for nudies!

Why, so you've got some sort of hold or bribe over her 

[PumpDump]

Why, so you've got some sort of hold or bribe over her 

That might be your fucked up mind, but I just wanna see the goods 

[Blackpool Rock]

That might be your fucked up mind, but I just wanna see the goods 

It wasn't a suggestion mate but what I thought your thought process was 

[Cambridgy]

Depends if you’re single - it’s not illegal and she’s probably got more to lose from a damaged reputation.
A lot of her co-workers will lump this into the sex-work bucket if it became widely known, and many folk are intolerant assholes.

You can chat to her, IMO it pays to be honest…I’d you are in a relationship then I’d say proceed with utmost caution!

[Blackpool Rock]

Depends if you’re single - it’s not illegal and she’s probably got more to lose from a damaged reputation.
A lot of her co-workers will lump this into the sex-work bucket if it became widely known, and many folk are intolerant assholes.

You can chat to her, IMO it pays to be honest…I’d you are in a relationship then I’d say proceed with utmost caution!

Yeah I wouldn't do anything through the website and nothing at all if in a relationship but if single and you could just get friendly and chatting to her then drop a few hints at having a bit of cash that you've got to splash and she might take the bait.

At the end of the day she wants a bit of cash and to be treated so probably doesn't matter to her how she meets the guy, also probably best to never let on how you found her otherwise it could fuck things up if it slips out after a while, either that or just be up front from the get go

[ik8133]

so browsing on the various sugar baby sites like you do and I've just spotted a new profile from a fit 20 year old co-worker that works in my place (im 40), for context we are on different shifts so never really said anything more than a hello and bye to each other.
would you be tempted to just go for it or stay well clear?

I would go with yout gut feeling as you already know what she looks like in person.  If she is hot and you fancy her, make contact, be open about it, telling her you work in the same place and how would see feel about an arrangement?  I'm sure she'd much prefer to meet someone she knew a little about than a complete stranger.  That is my take on it anyway, only you know the situation and if you think it's worth pursuing.

[livlad]

Thanks everyone definitely a lot to chew on.
May attempt a little light flirting at work and see how she responds but at the end of the day she probably would have as much to lose as me if word somehow got around.

[toetally]

That's not how the reputation thing works.
If word gets around, she's just a young girl trying to get by, taking money off blokes who are mug enough to pay for her company.
You, on the other hand, will be a disgusting old creep trying to exploit a girl young enough to be your daughter and a borderline paedo.
Don't go there.

[stampjones]

It wasn't a suggestion mate but what I thought your thought process was 

Why on earth would you think that? What PD said might have an edge of creepiness about it but is basically a standard transaction on SB sites. What you said is just plain stalkerish

[ik8133]

Thanks everyone definitely a lot to chew on.
May attempt a little light flirting at work and see how she responds but at the end of the day she probably would have as much to lose as me if word somehow got around.

Not sure I'd do the light flirting thing, it may give out the wrong signals to her and may appear a bit creepy.  I would contact her through the site to establish that she is offering what you are looking for.  You could also mention that you work at the same place and ask if this might be a problem for her, if she says it it is, wish her well and leave her be.   

[Blackpool Rock]

Why on earth would you think that? What PD said might have an edge of creepiness about it but is basically a standard transaction on SB sites. What you said is just plain stalkerish

What I "Said" was actually a question about what his intentions were, as I said it's what I thought His thought process was, if you follow his posts on other threads then perhaps you'd understand why

[ik8133]

That's not how the reputation thing works.
If word gets around, she's just a young girl trying to get by, taking money off blokes who are mug enough to pay for her company.
You, on the other hand, will be a disgusting old creep trying to exploit a girl young enough to be your daughter and a borderline paedo.
Don't go there.

Not too sure what you are getting at here?  Why would he be a paedo for making an arrangement with someone who is happy about entering into said arrangement, she's not under age?

[scutty brown]

When it all goes wrong, sexual harassment complaints from her would lose you your job.
Especially given the age difference

[Dogfather]

Best way to play it is to put a link to her profile on here.

I'm sure some volunteers will give her a try and feedback if she is worth your time.

[webpunter]

Plenty more fish in the SB Awank & massage ponds
No point getting into stuff with a potential conger eel

Even 5 years ago certainly 10 & 20 years workplace affairs of whatever nature less likely to cause a problem
Nowadays you would be crucified with me-too
Try explaining that looking for a new job, err like why ?

What hasn't been mentioned is that if you do mention her sideline to her what happens if she blows you out
She may well up the bar with a work acquaintance [will you pass the test ?] or more likely bin you out completely
Then you are left high & dry looking like a bell end
Avoid

[Hornydevil666]

As Dogfather said, i think the only way for all us experts is for you to put her profile pictures or a link so we can gauge the risk factor involved
I.e. "if she is a little hottie"

[Strawberry]

When you say 'go for it', do you mean approach her at work, or approach her on the SB platform?

[hairdownthere]

so browsing on the various sugar baby sites like you do and I've just spotted a new profile from a fit 20 year old co-worker that works in my place (im 40), for context we are on different shifts so never really said anything more than a hello and bye to each other.
would you be tempted to just go for it or stay well clear?

Never get high on your own supply!

Seen it many times, 'hidden' relationships at work (which everyone knows about and has an opinion on) going wrong and it's always the guy that's outed as the cunt, no matter what the girl has done.

She'll get praised for speaking up, you'll get shamed

[Stevelondon]

Well…….. once again. Advice asked for on the UKP forum is met with a solid….. Yes, No, Maybe, I would, I wouldn’t.

Confused. You soon will be. 

[Stevelondon]

That is my take on it anyway, only you know the situation and if you think it's worth pursuing.

Stop using my lines. 

[ik8133]

Stop using my lines. 

I did change the wording a little bit! 

[Stevelondon]

I did change the wording a little bit! 

Oooooh……. High penalties for copyright infringements. 😂

[Fuzzyduck]

A few variables in this situation: office politics/dynamics, how young/good looking you (ie would you consider her out of your league normally), whether you're partnered up or not. Only you can really decide but, as others have said, stay well clear is probably very good advice.

Personally I'd only try pulling her on as civvie basis and would avoid the SB route. That might change if either of you left the company.

[bops909]

Just a couple of things I'd suggest to think about.

If you were browsing online and found her, there's a chance someone else at work will do as well.

Depends how big the workplace is of course, but with you saying you've not really spoken to her, it sounds like a pretty big workplace, so possibly a non-trivial chance she'll get discovered by someone else. If she's also on OF or something else that might increase the risk.

I'd also just check you are 100% separate between your personal and professional lives with phone noes, avatars, images, devices, email addresses etc etc. so there's no accidental outing of yourself between the two.

[ik8133]

When you say 'go for it', do you mean approach her at work, or approach her on the SB platform?

Personally I would approach her through the SB platform, she may or may not reply, but if she does, both will know where they are coming from.   

[yandex]

Personally I would approach her through the SB platform, she may or may not reply, but if she does, both will know where they are coming from.

If you really must, then I'd agree with this. I don't know how the platform works, but if you can message, add that she 'looks like someone who works in the same place I do' and see where that gets you.

I would avoid doing it though. Whilst she's advertising on a publicly available website, workplace harassment would be a difficult sell as long as contact was only via the site. If it all came out though, and she decided you were responsible for 'outing' her then it would be difficult to defend - assuming you work in the kind of company which has a HR dept, rather than one which will just sack you and not give a shit.

Incidentally, my daughters tell me that the SB/OF type of work is much less taboo than in my day. As far as I can tell, rinsing 'rich', white, older men out of their cash is seen as fair game by a number of our younger generation and they keep up the pretence that it isn't really sex work.

[Saco]

Get in there lad

[livlad]

So an update to this decided to go with the majority vote and stay away from the co-worker, sad I know however I did get chatting to a stunning 20yo blonde gym fit body who I'm seeing later today

[PilotMan]

So an update to this decided to go with the majority vote and stay away from the co-worker, sad I know however I did get chatting to a stunning 20yo blonde gym fit body who I'm seeing later today

Don't forget to review her 

[livlad]

Don't forget to review her 

just finished seeing her she was incredible seemed quite shy as she said she is brand new to this or could have been nerves, she was incredibly tight as well didn't take long to pop, rested and chatted for a little but unfortunately couldn't resuscitate my cock (bring some blue tabs next time).
and no i'm not sharing as the last time i did that some fucker messed it up for me

[cunnyhunt]

and no i'm not sharing as the last time i did that some fucker messed it up for me

You do remember why you are here?

[southcoastpunter]

Is she an escort ( from AW or similar) or a Sugar Baby from Seeking or similar? If the latter then it’s usual NOT to formally review them - some guys put a little detail ( a couple of lines) on the Seeking thread in their region but lots don’t - depending on your arrangement with her. If it’s a PPM type of arrangement with just a “ yes I will see you again in the future sometime then guys will normally answer questions from other guys ( eg “yes I have seen her and I thought she was great” or just a headline!

I understand what you mean if she is a SB and particularly if she is new to it - unfortunately some guys approach things in such a way that makes them feel like escorts which the majority hate the idea of and if they feel like that they quit !

So imo - def share details of Escorts bug be much more guarded with ladies from Seeking, Secret Benefits or other “sugar” sites

[WelshClipper]

I am at an age where such dalliances are way in my past.

My thoughts are along the line that “the thought of making out with this girl is probably a bigger thrill than the reality”

Infatuations eventually fall flat in my view. That’s one of the reasons I pay for sex, I never have to look back with regret.

I punt for other reasons as well, of course 

[daviemac]

You do remember why you are here?

livlad's last review of 24 posted February 13th. Your last review of only 15 posted November 2023 do you remember why you are here?