How to stay STD safe with escorts/massages?

[The Massage Connoisseur]

I'm looking to try out an escort for the first time, I usually only have massages with HE but I want to step up to an escort. However I'm really scared around STDs, as condom's do not protect you from:
- herpes
- syphilis
- genital warts
- HSV
- and a few others

Does anyone have any tips on how to be safe based on their experiences? Do you tend to physically look at their pussies and examine it before sex? Or is this a risk you just have to accept if you'd like to proceed with an escort? Thank you

[JontyR]

Stick to massages mate. Don't have any B2B either.

[Jayne_cobb]

Go for a well reviewed (on here) escort as most of the good ones have regular STD tests (as should us punters).
The only way to be 100% safe from catching an STD is to live a hermit like lifestyle cut off from society.

Absolutely do not try to perform a gynaecological exam before parting with any cash - I very much doubt any escort will put up with it.

I would imagine you are far safer having protected sex with a well regarded escort (who regularly gets herself tested) than with a random civvy hookup.

You do realise that unless the women you are going to see use disposable gloves for the happy ending you've got an element of risk (albeit small) of catching something there as well?

This hobby is all about the level of risk you are comfortable with.

[southcoastpunter]

there is risk in everything we do every day including crossing the road. But we do things to minimise the risk - like stopping and looking both ways, listening, using a crossing where there is one etc etc. Punting is like that - yes the are certain risks, some activities carry more risk than others so know the risk and make the decision that is right for you in your circumstances.

The only way to have no risk is not to have sex or undertake any sexual activity at all.

[RandomGuy99]

Well usually what happens is that both you and the SP spend the first 15 minutes of a booking doing a visual examination to make sure that there are no symptoms of any STIs and each completes a 60 question survey about previous sexual encounters, family history, drug habits and favourite pastimes.  Once both parties are happy then they both give permission for the sexual activities to commence.

What really happens is that you have to understand is that having sex with another person comes with risks and you have to manage them. Both SPs and SSs should be having regular STI tests to reduce the risk of them being infected with an STI and passing it on to a sex partner.  Ideally you should be practicing safe sex by using condoms. You should also be using lune to to reduce the risk of condoms tearing.  Certain sex acts carry more risk such as oral sex, anal sex and rimming. You have to decide if you are happy to accept those by performing those acts. If you are not then don't perform them or use condoms for receiving oral or dams for giving oral.

Generally, SPs care a lot about their health as should we all, so the vast majority of them practice safe sex using condoms and lube. SPs regularly get STI tested to ensure that they're staying safe and not carrying any infections that could be passed to SSs. SSs should do the same. 

An SP will generally give your cock a discreet once over while preparing your cock to give you oral sex. They like to peel your foreskin back to check that there is no knob cheese lerking to make them throw up and to check for obvious signs of an STI.  The SP will also visual check for problems around your lips but again they do it discreetly rather than stick your head under an Anglepoise lamp with a 100W bulb in.

As a SS you might discreetly check an SP's vagina or anus before deciding whether to perform oral sex or rimming on it. If you're not happy then don't do it.

Acts like CIM also carry more risk of picking up an STI. Again it's up to you if you want to do it.

Some SSs and SPs don't do kissing sometimes because of a concern about STIs and some just for personal preference.

You will read on here that some SSs don't perform oral sex on an SP because they are wary that 5 other SSs might have been there already that day. This is entirely up to them. You have to decide what you are happy doing and the risks you take.  However, the vast majority of SPs leave time between bookings to ensure that they have time to wash and be fresh ready for the next SS.

Most SPs and SSs care about cleaniness and will be squeaky clean when they turn up for bookings and SSs will take an additional shower on arrival if the SS asks them to as it generally makes for a better booking with the SP being happy to deliver all the agreed services.  Some SSs don't clean themselves properly and then find that an SP will refuse to perform certain acts such as oral without a condom because the SS has a smelly dirty cock. It pays to listen to the SP and make her happy with your cleaniness levels.

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You need to decide what acts you would like to engage in and understand and accept the risks that are associated with them or simply change your list of services to a point where the level of risk is acceptable to you.

If an SP offers unprotected sex aka bareback then the risks are higher and I think most SSs avoid such SPs but there is a market for such services, hence why some SPs offer it.

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[willyfog69]

I agree with all the gentlemen here.
At first I was a little scared too, but then you fuck one and then another and you see that nothing happens to you...then you think you are immortal and you just keep going. Obviously getting herpes at the very beginning can block your impetus for a while...

[scutty brown]

wear a specialised punting condon

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[daviemac]

I agree with all the gentlemen here.
At first I was a little scared too, but then you fuck one and then another and you see that nothing happens to you...then you think you are immortal and you just keep going. Obviously getting herpes at the very beginning can block your impetus for a while...

You can post reviews as you obviously punt? or are you not based in the UK?

BTW Off Topic is exactly that the place for discussing all things not related to paid sex, it's not the place to discuss prostitutes.

[Bunbury]

Get tested regularly.
I do every 6 months
Pre COVID I was married so only did pump and dump, no kissing or oral.
After COVID divorced so went for the lot, hence the regular test.

[Mr Garmin]

As Smiths used to say (often) "punting's not for the faint-hearted"

When I was in a relationship I was very cautious, only going for FBSM & the occasional punt that I deemed low risk.  The danger of picking up something and getting caught would have been catastrophic.  I'd read reports and couldn't believe the activities that some would partake in with a working girl.

Now the danger of discovery has gone away I can fully indulge and it's really opened my eyes to the relative risk I'm taking.  I'm not saying that there's no risk but I've realised that I've lived my life being scared of the boogeyman.

[uncle jessie]

If the OP is that anxious thinking about having penetrative sex with an escort , perhaps punting ain't for him and sticking with a rub an tug is his best option .
Think if you did go through with a punt that anxious before the deed is done you would be shitting yourself with worry for weeks post punt that you have caught every STI going .

[DastardlyDick]

If the prospect of shagging an SP gives you that much anxiety, you may be best advised not to. How pissed off will you be  if you go to see a lady but the stress causes temporary ED?

[Colston36]

If there were a prize for needless worry this is the winner. For over 60 years I've done everything imaginable on the sex front. The only time I had a problem was after being with a 17 year old amateur when I was 29 - 58 years ago.

[mrwhite]

The majority of SPs have regular tests for STDs and you are probably more likely to pick one up in civvie street.

If you are that concerned about picking something up then wear a condom at all times or just don't punt.

The worst thing I probably ever caught from an SP was a cold and even that could easily have been from a commuter on the train on the way to or from the meeting.

[alabama1]

The majority of SPs have regular tests for STDs and you are probably more likely to pick one up in civvie street.

If you are that concerned about picking something up then wear a condom at all times or just don't punt.

The worst thing I probably ever caught from an SP was a cold and even that could easily have been from a commuter on the train on the way to or from the meeting.

You'd like to think so, but you are only assuming that, as you could not possibly know that as fact.

[Jazzy99]

1.Use a condom for sex. This one is obvious
2. Use a condom to receive oral.
3. Don't kiss on the lips
4. Don't give oral. Or use a dental dam or cut a condom use it as a barrier when eating pussy.
5. When having sex, don't grind her groin on yours.
6. If you shave your balls, wait at least 24 hours for cuts to heal
7. If you brush your teeth then wait at least couple of hours before FK
8. For BTB massage, opt for oily massage as it creates a thin film which acts as a barrier.

Most SP look after their sexual health. Stick to independent and reputable agency girls. Stay away from street girls, druggies etc.

[Jimbag1]

I used to be really paranoid about this, myself, but I've been doing this for over a decade at this point and I've never caught anything. Condoms are remarkably effective at stopping most STIs (including the ones on your list).

It's possible to catch anything even if you use a condom but the chance of it spreading is minimal if you actually use them correctly.

For what it's worth, HSV is just herpes, is it not? So you've listed that twice.

Syphilis is extremely difficult to catch if you use a condom.

Genital warts generally give themselves away because the WG will have visible warts.

The only one that I'd say you're actually likely to catch is HPV and that's because you're pretty much guaranteed to catch HPV if you're sexually active in any capacity. Almost everyone has it at one point or another. You can get vaccinated against it by the way - in fact, they vaccinate everyone in school against it these days so depending when you were born, you might already have been vaccinated against it.

[Strawberry]

I used to be really paranoid about this, myself, but I've been doing this for over a decade at this point and I've never caught anything. Condoms are remarkably effective at stopping most STIs (including the ones on your list).

It's possible to catch anything even if you use a condom but the chance of it spreading is minimal if you actually use them correctly.

For what it's worth, HSV is just herpes, is it not? So you've listed that twice.

Syphilis is extremely difficult to catch if you use a condom.

Genital warts generally give themselves away because the WG will have visible warts.

The only one that I'd say you're actually likely to catch is HPV and that's because you're pretty much guaranteed to catch HPV if you're sexually active in any capacity. Almost everyone has it at one point or another. You can get vaccinated against it by the way - in fact, they vaccinate everyone in school against it these days so depending when you were born, you might already have been vaccinated against it.

Might be useful to know the HPV vaccine protects against the variant of HPV that causes genital warts, as well as the type that is associated with cervical cancer. However it doesn't protect against all the variants of HPV;

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[Doc Holliday]

M.C. welcome to UKP

I agree with the comments that if you are (unnecessarily) overanxious you may be better off sticking with massage and HJ, though I am not sure some of the 'ridicule' was necessary. I notice you haven't responded since .. I hope you haven't been put off?

There is a great deal of information about STIs on the forum and your question has been asked many times before. As a result there is some excellent advice, but also some not so good information and you should really look at reputable external sources. It is good that you are asking yourself these questions and hopefully educating yourself before you start as so many do not.

On that note, in your case and should you decide to proceed, it is advisable to get 'baseline' STI tests to ensure you are not infected before you start.

Lots of comments about choosing reputable SP's because they are more likely to be tested. That assumption is controversial but also irrelevant. Your default position is to assume they may be infected and protect yourself accordingly by getting tested yourself at whatever frequency is deemed appropriate to your activity.

Personal hygiene and how 'clean' someone seems is relevant to both parties comfort and enjoyment, but of very little significance to STI transmission. Equally visual 'medical' examination is of no relevance to most STDs and for those where it may be relevant it is unlikely you will know what to look for and subsequently what you do about it should you see something.

So condoms used correctly for all penetration. If you are anxious avoid protected anal intercourse and consider oral with a condom also. The latter is especially significant if you have a civilian partner with whom you are sexually active and engage in unprotected sex with.

If you wish to give oral there is a risk, but this is considered very small. Barrier use (dental dam) in that respect is, in practice, very rare and if you have concerns best just not to engage in it.

Consider also Hepatitis B vaccination not too far down the line.

You will be fine 

[Doc Holliday]

I used to be really paranoid about this, myself, but I've been doing this for over a decade at this point and I've never caught anything. Condoms are remarkably effective at stopping most STIs (including the ones on your list).

It's possible to catch anything even if you use a condom but the chance of it spreading is minimal if you actually use them correctly.

For what it's worth, HSV is just herpes, is it not? So you've listed that twice.

Syphilis is extremely difficult to catch if you use a condom.

Genital warts generally give themselves away because the WG will have visible warts.

The only one that I'd say you're actually likely to catch is HPV and that's because you're pretty much guaranteed to catch HPV if you're sexually active in any capacity. Almost everyone has it at one point or another. You can get vaccinated against it by the way - in fact, they vaccinate everyone in school against it these days so depending when you were born, you might already have been vaccinated against it.

Some good advice.

Just a word on Syphilis. Condoms provide limited protection as it can be spread by body contact alone. The key thing with Syphilis is regular testing. It is easily treated if detected.

HPV vaccination was only given to boys since 2019, so there will not be too many punters who had it at school. I understand if you are under 25 and were eligible to receive it at school but did not, you can still receive it on the NHS It is of maximum benefit if given circa 12/13 before anyone is sexually active.

As you say as you become sexually active you will undoubtedly become infected but with variable outcomes.

This vaccination was a potential game changer in terms of cervical cancer especially, but unfortunately Covid interrupted uptake and subsequent vaccine hesitancy post covid, means levels of immunisation are not what they should be.

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