Oh and please OP you are not ugly and 60 is nowhere near old. I think you just have low self esteem and have convinced yourself that is why (most) SP don't want to DFK with you. From reading you detailed description of how you like to kiss its quite likely most SP are not up for that kind of kissing. That is why as you keep saying SP that are "renowned " for DFK have refused you.
The constant implication that it is down to your unattractive looks/age is just offensive. We are professional SP who don't care what you look like. We are not on a tinder date!! Most SP that I know don't even really like seeing clients that they find attractive. You don't exactly get into this industry expecting to only meet fit young men. I have seen clients with genuine disabilities and facial deformities and still give them the service as anyone else.
Hello Laura,
I appreciate your sweet and encouraging reply. Thank you for spending time writing it.
You are correct. I do have very low self-esteem, and that goes back to my late teens when I was severely bullied by various individuals and by groups of people. A lot of the time it was 5 or 6 of them in tandem against me. Those bullying scars will never heal. However, the fact is that I never had a girlfriend. Girls ran away from me because I was so ugly. My wife only married me for my father’s wealth, and we have been in a sexless marriage. She even says I am ugly. If I was able to get sex at home, then I would never see any other lady, let alone pay for sex.
I appreciate what you have said, but perhaps you are in the minority of SPs that are not concerned about the client’s looks, but like I said, you are just within a minority.
About how I like to kiss is not how you have interpreted it. I don’t forcibly want to push my tongue down a girl’s throat nor would I like her to do it to me. I have seen Honey five times now, and if I was that type of a rough kisser, then Honey would not have welcomed me five times nor would other escorts, many of whom I have repeated with.
At the age of 60, I am experienced enough to differentiate between pecks, LFK and DFK, so my style and expectations of DFK are of the same standard that other clients expect and what SPs offer.
I already said that you are in a tiny minority of escorts who are impartial to a client’s looks, but consider how many reviews there are that mention the phrases “chemistry was lacking”, “we didn’t click”, “the lady was mechanical” etc. The main ingredient to chemistry is physical attraction which comes through one’s looks. The same principles apply to the words “click” and “mechanical”. Amongst various other reasons, a lady will be mechanical if she’s not attracted to a client.
And about those ladies who don’t see black people using the same excuse “Due to a previous bad experience I no longer see black people”. This is a total lie. The fact is that those ladies are not attracted to black men, and so this is based purely on looks.
Even those escorts who are not concerned about the client’s looks are probably not aware that subliminally they are concerned, but they just don’t know it.
Being a good-looking person is very important in this world, and in all walks of life. Survey statistics and TV documentaries such as Panorama have shown that attractive people get better jobs and are less likely to be rejected, and that attractive people can get away with mistakes and bad service more often than the unattractive ones. The statistics and surveys also showed that men preferred to be served by attractive waitresses in restaurants, and by beautiful flight attendants when flying.
A well-known frequent punter on this forum almost always gets DFK from ladies, even from those ladies that do not offer this service. On the Adultwork (AW) feedback for this punter, all the ladies speak of his muscles how handsome he is and how his muscles turn them on. If SPs were not biased towards handsome men, then why would they mention this punter’s muscles and handsome looks as turn ons in their AW feedback?
Kissing is the ultimate test of how attractive an escort finds its client, and I have seen many posts in this forum about this. The more handsome the client the greater the chances of him receiving top service and passionate kissing. This view is suggested by quite a few DFK topics that I have read on this forum.
I will conclude by saying that this world is for good looking men and women. Ugly people like me have to be content with what we can get. As the saying goes “beggars cannot be choosers”.