Why do you punt?

[paul_2407]

Like the title says really. Had a WG recently ask me why I punt and it made me think about my reasons other than the blindingly obvious of a good old orgasm.

No doubt someone will tell me to raise this with my therapist lol, but regardless, here’s why I meet WGs.

1. Started out over 15 years back as a curiosity having sought out way too much porn. That punt actually put me off WGs for a long time
2. Picked up a curiosity with WGs again last decade as the excitement of being with different girls coincided with a lack of confidence/support in my life
3. Started naively seeking emotional connection through WGs and ended up dating one for a few months which obviously didn’t end positively
4. Recently got back into seeing WGs more regularly due to the feeling of escape and distraction from life. On reflection, this vice is the one that’s afflicted me the most - worse than alcohol, drugs, etc.
5. Lastly, I’ve started some reading online about why those who suffer from vice continue with their self-destructive behaviours, and so I sometimes wonder if the reason I punt is some subconscious attempt at reminding myself I’m not the ideal I’ve put on a pedestal. That quackery probably DEFINITELY needs to be explored with a qualified professional 

Interested to see if others have had similar experiences.

[Colston36]

Around the start of this century I started, briefly, seeing a German "star" who specialised in pretty extreme stuff because I liked extreme stuff. I used to fy to Munich to see her. I even did a video with her. But she ended this because she could see I was falling for her.

There was then a 10 year gap when I was very happy with someone, but that changed when she found someone who could give her a child - I couldn't as I had had the snip.

That's when I started punting seriously. So for 9 years I have done so an average of twice a week. I have very few regrets or complaints and have only really been disappointed maybe ten times. It helps that I like women and have always liked whores.

My main problem is finding genuinely kinky women.

Nowadays I still punt but have one woman, a retired escort, who I see regularly, plus a few others for when she's not free (she has a tricky family life.)

Next monday I shall see a 19 years old (she says) Colombian. Even if she's stretching the youth that'll be quite an age gap as I'll be 88 next month

[Slimjim3]

Usually to fuck women I would never have a chance to even meet in my personal life. Living in a small town, when am I ever going to meet a girl on a night out with 1000cc + breast implants or fuck a beautiful latina with an enormous BBL? Or those that look like playboy/catwalk models? Things AW has allowed me to do
2nd, good oral in personal life Ive found is very hard to find. Better to use AW
3rd, I love proper massive tits, so when I get the chance on AW I'll go

[hendrix]

It's the only way I get to have sex, and I still really like having sex.

[RandomGuy99]

Cos I was bored.

[ShadowProclamation]

Initially curiosity and an outlet for excess testosterone. Later it became about wanting to try out things I'd seen in porn. Access to the the internet significantly opened up access to all forms of adult material and services. We seemed to become a more sexualised culture, which for me came to an abrupt halt with Covid. I dipped my toe back in last year, but I'm content to make it an occasional pastime now.

[Jujy78]

My reason changes from time to time. But I actually lost my virginity to a punt at age 18 in the Soho walk ups. At school age in my teens I wasn't a very confident lad. My friends used to bunk school and go to Soho for punts but I never went I don't know why. By 18 I was quite confident and had a girlfriend too but she wasn't ready to go all the way. Incidentally the first time I went my school friend took me, then I started going regularly on my own and never looked back. I was in a serious relationship from 19-22 (I was really in love with this one) had regular sex at the beginning but no blowjob. 1st year of my relationship I didn't punt. Then I realised I was getting bored of shagging the same girl plus no blowjob so I started punting again but not as regularly. Between 22-26 I had 3 girlfriends not very serious but I continued punting like mad, then at 26 I got married. Again no punting in the first 3 years of marriage but then the sex dried out and been punting regularly ever since in my mid 40s now.

If I was to evaluate myself I'd say the reason I punt is because I get fed up of fucking the same girl for too long. Even if my wife offered regular sex I think I'd still be punting. Although I do crave to have regular sex with her but that's because I don't get it regularly. I think if I was getting it regularly I'd get bored of her. The other reason is life has been tough on me I've gone through a lot of shit in life and I feel a punt relaxes me, gives me that escape and relief. So in a way I see it as therapy sessions.

[cunningman]

It's the only way I get to have sex, and I still really like having sex.

I suppose that I might have started that way but I'm older now and despite more opportunity I punt less.

Not that I get it any other way: I'm more engaged on 'proper dating' now but I look for a nice relaxing meet and friendship rather than aim for a shag.  I like making friends under low pressure.

I like sex but my body is less willing and unless I'm confident I'd rather just have a slow wank.

I like RO and fingering (and I used to seek out fisting) and OWO/CIM but its less easily available at a sensible price.

I'm more picky.  Definitely not about banging some gorgeous youngster, just about having the session I want and not haggling over extras, which puts me off.  I prefer service and fun to looks and fantasy.

[JontyR]

Access to different kinds of women and different kinds of activity that aren't readily accessible in civvy life.

[stampjones]

One woman has never been enough for me. I want different things on different days, sexually, looks wise, socially, racially, whatever. Whoever the woman Im with has been Ive always wanted that variety. Its not something that will ever change. Punting (and sugaring) is a way to control that without letting emotions get in the way and really fuck things up. For punting I’ve always liked the illegality (yes I know), the seediness, the risk of getting caught. Fir some reason that shit turns ne on

[nuckingfuts]

Disability lead to body confidence issues. I’m also socially fucking stupid (neurodiverse) so seeing a WG helps with my confidence around other women and crossing the line between normal conversation and “flirting” in an environment/space where sex/kink is expected (not demanded)

Thankfully so far, I’ve not had a WG turn me down to my face so that helps with the first point.

[pantywetter]

My problem has always been with the sex at home.  I’ve never been married but have had a number of long term relationships.  Despite asking, I never get enough sex and never of the type I want.  Nothing too out there but a bit of kink, mixing it up, spontaneity and passion would be nice.

With that in mind, punting is much easier and more discrete than an affair for us guys in relationships. 

More recently for me, a lot of it for me is habit.  It’s not quite hitting the spot as it used to and sometimes I feel like I’m just going through the motions

[Stevelondon]

Why do I punt. ?

Cos I can.

When will I stop. ?

When I can’t.

I’m afraid I’m far too shallow to delve deep into my psyche to find and answer to a question I couldn’t care less about.

Why do I drive nice cars ?

I like it.
But could that possibly be because of my childhood. So poor even the poor kids called me poor. Built my own chassis (pram wheels)
Yep that’s probably the reason 

[deg_dilemma]

I got into it because of the boring sex (and lack of) at home. Even before that, going out on the pull was a lot of effort for very seldom reward.

I've always felt guilty about the money because it could be spent on so many better things. But I continue to punt because I'm getting older and in years to come my body won't be able to do why I want it to. So I have to enjoy myself now while I can.

[tomvi]

FYI there have been multiple threads already opened :

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=41631
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=45191
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=12352
...

[Stevelondon]

FYI there have been multiple threads already opened :

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=41631
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=45191
https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=12352
...

What goes around comes around.    We are all getting older and forget 

[Cheltclient]

At first, all those years ago, it was because I was a horny fucker. Used to date fairly consistently and never saw an escort whilst attached but in between, used to enjoy horny sex with fit women, experiencing different things.

These days, I’m older. And sad to say, I would much rather a proper girlfriend but despite my best efforts, no one is interested. So, I punt. Not as prolific as not as horny as I used to be - but I still enjoy sex, still enjoy some intimacy, and it’s good for my mental well being. But yep, if I could get sex elsewhere, I would do and would not punt. But I can’t, so I do. And giving the cloud some silver lining, at least I get sex with younger, fitter women I’d have no chance of getting in real life

[hairdownthere]

I like having sex with different women, in different age groups, from different countries, and I cant be arsed with the emotional side of a relationship.

[Demon8]

Wife stopped putting out after maybe five years into our relationship. Getting anything out of her, even nothing for myself and all focus on her was a battle. Gave up after so many rejections and spoke to other girls, never went through with anything as felt guilty so stopped that.

Started talking to girls on onlyfans as I figured that it was just business. Couldn't shake the feeling I was chatting to some poor fella on the other side and paying through the teeth for it.

Had browsed AW and UKP and fantasised for some time, did a cost benefit analysis and figured it'd be cheaper to see a WG than continue flushing money down the drain on OF. Finally committed during a work trip about two years ago and haven't looked back. I've had two bad experiences but the good has definitely outweighed that.

I think it started with me because I had the business arrangement mindset, which has allowed me to justify what is ultimately physical and financial cheating on my wife, however I consider the physical aspect of our "contract" broken after 18 months of celibacy and guilt even when masturbating.


Ultimately, it scratches an itch I'm not getting at home, and I really cannot be arsed to find another relationship, if whatever this one is falls apart, I'm done with relationships.

[Gunner98]

Depends on the person. Personally, it's more likely to be an addition as I've had issues with gambling and drinking addiction in the past but fortunately quit both before it got really bad. I'm still in my mid 20s now, got a decent job and single so don't see it stopping until I get into a serious relationship. Thought I got into a decent relationship earlier this year but didn't last too long once it got serious. Ultimately do whatever you want provided you aren't hurting other or putting yourself in a difficult situation financially, mentally or physically. Know your limits.

[Jameson20]

It's the best bits of a relationship without dealing with all the crap that comes with a relationship (i.e. most of it.) No kids, in-laws, date nights, arguments, buying them shit, taking them out for meals or on holidays. Just whack down your fee, have your fun and then fuck off safe in the knowledge she isn't expecting a call the next day.

[Longshot]

Started over 25 years ago when i was horny and curious so started picking up street whores.
Got hooked and it went from there.  Had a break for a few years but started back because i wanted a decent blow job (her indoors is reluctant at best and when she does its a tooth scraper )
Got hooked again and im back on the treadmill

[webpunter]

Around the start of this century I started, briefly, seeing a German "star" who specialised in pretty extreme stuff because I liked extreme stuff. I used to fy to Munich to see her. I even did a video with her. But she ended this because she could see I was falling for her.

There was then a 10 year gap when I was very happy with someone, but that changed when she found someone who could give her a child - I couldn't as I had had the snip.

That's when I started punting seriously. So for 9 years I have done so an average of twice a week. I have very few regrets or complaints and have only really been disappointed maybe ten times. It helps that I like women and have always liked whores.

My main problem is finding genuinely kinky women.

Nowadays I still punt but have one woman, a retired escort, who I see regularly, plus a few others for when she's not free (she has a tricky family life.)

Next monday I shall see a 19 years old (she says) Colombian. Even if she's stretching the youth that'll be quite an age gap as I'll be 88 next month

total respec 
here's a track to remind you of Munich 
External Link/Members Only

as for me its like why does a dog lick its balls

[boardyhell]

boredom sometimes
have seen many stunning ladies with amazing times also
the build up to these meetings very often as good as the meeting
recently one of my faves who I had booked on Saturday tested me on Thursday saying she could see me that night
saw her but lost the build up
very often I count down the hours
bit like counting days to Christmas

[Plan R]

Horniness (obviously). It was a compulsion from about 22 - 52..
Just really enjoyed the naughty frisson of paying for it - still do, just (at mid 50s) it's more like a hobby now than a compulsion.

Had plenty of 'normal' relationships along the way as well, during which (assuming I was in luurrvve), I would stop punting).

[Chazz]

as for me its like why does a dog lick its balls

My flexibility's not what it once was, so it's a lot kinder on my back to pay someone else to lick my balls rather than trying to attempt it myself!

[RWD]

I am single, find it difficult meeting women, when I did go on dates, I always ended up in the friend zone so gave up. I would rather not do it this way, but if I want to have sex with someone, paying for it is the only way.

[simon07]

I was annoyed with the dice I ended up as a young man and the restrictions  I could not avoid.

Making up for lost time and moved from a novice to an experienced punter ticking off stuff on my bucket list.
As I get older, hard to get an orgasm or ejaculate as medical conditions like hypertension and prostate affect me.

Seems like I am caught in this obsessive compulsive disorder though I am a lot more selective with whom I punt now.

[Cheltclient]

I am single, find it difficult meeting women, when I did go on dates, I always ended up in the friend zone so gave up. I would rather not do it this way, but if I want to have sex with someone, paying for it is the only way.

Exactly the same as me. I do sometimes feel quite down that I can’t meet someone but with this hobby, I have had sex with some stunning women who wouldn’t even look my way if i wasn’t paying.

[Direwolf]

I like fucking women who would otherwise be unattainable/difficult to pull if I wasn't paying for it

PSE bookings where you can live out your wildest fantasies/roleplays that you've seen in porn.. threesomes etc
Don't have to worry about people you know finding out about embarrassing fetishes you want to explore

Something for all sexual tastes, started in my early 20s mainly seeing 30-40yo MILFs as they reminded me of my friend's mum's/sisters 
Now I'm in my 30s I find myself looking at more 18-25yo hotties that look like they should be on a magazine somewhere

[Brompton]

I married young, once second kid came along the wife had no interest, many years past I went without for years as I believed in marriage (in hindsight what an idiot I was) I tried the lot, didn’t have much money & worked like crazy, did the weekly flowers bit, took her on a big holiday & odd night away to try & revive things romantically although I’m not saying that solves anything or should I have expected it to do so I suppose. She couldn’t even bring herself to kiss me & cringed if I put my arms around her, can’t say why as she would never discuss it but it made feel like what I can only describe as a disgusting person.

So kids grew up & I left with her begging me to stay & 20 years on I still live with the guilt. After a few years of trying to get myself straight financially I just needed a woman’s touch & company 

I’m not a frequent punter mainly due to finances but I have a regular past number of years about 4 times a year if that can be classed as a regular? I’m never rushed out of the door & even get asked to stay sometimes for lunch I suppose this is why I punt occasionally because in that moment I feel wanted but I know it’s a business transaction at the end of the day.

Reading this back I think blimey what a pillock. Anyway it’s consoling to read on this thread some similar comments re lack of sex, sexless marriages, confidence etc

[Aireman]

Curiosity to begin with, I've probably been addicted to using adult sites (not just porn, but hookup sites, apps, sex related sites etc) for years but never took the plunge to seeing an escort. Took the plunge one day about five years ago on a bit of a whim, loved it, and have enjoyed it ever since.

My girlfriend is attractive, I love her, the sex is good and could be more available if I wanted it, so I'm not like some people on here. Idk, I don't punt regularly at all, but there's just a thrill to it that I really enjoy. I like the research, the comms, the travel to there knowing no-one else knows I'm about to pay money to fuck someone. And then the sex itself is always good.

[signy]

Probably because, at heart, I am a pervert and I want too much.

Different types of women, threesomes (MMF and MFF), roleplay (including some wierd/unusual/complicated scenarios), dressing-up (including some XD), filthy talk & fantasy, trans women, outdoor & odd locations, sub/dom dynamics (mostly as a sub), sluts & GNDs, and anything else I can think of.

The chances of finding a civvie compatible with all that and more is slim to zero, and I don't think I could broach the subject even if I found a potentially suitable partner. I am not willing to invest the time and money trying to find a unicorn, but inevitably ending up with some rubbish oral and a quick fuck if I'm lucky. Even at the expensive end of the market, pay the money and (usually) immediately get what I want is a far better approach.

[pantywetter]

I married young, once second kid came along the wife had no interest, many years past I went without for years as I believed in marriage (in hindsight what an idiot I was) I tried the lot, didn’t have much money & worked like crazy, did the weekly flowers bit, took her on a big holiday & odd night away to try & revive things romantically although I’m not saying that solves anything or should I have expected it to do so I suppose. She couldn’t even bring herself to kiss me & cringed if I put my arms around her, can’t say why as she would never discuss it but it made feel like what I can only describe as a disgusting person.

So kids grew up & I left with her begging me to stay & 20 years on I still live with the guilt. After a few years of trying to get myself straight financially I just needed a woman’s touch & company 

I’m not a frequent punter mainly due to finances but I have a regular past number of years about 4 times a year if that can be classed as a regular? I’m never rushed out of the door & even get asked to stay sometimes for lunch I suppose this is why I punt occasionally because in that moment I feel wanted but I know it’s a business transaction at the end of the day.

Reading this back I think blimey what a pillock. Anyway it’s consoling to read on this thread some similar comments re lack of sex, sexless marriages, confidence etc

I’m sure punting keeps a lot more relationships and marriages together than it destroys.

I bet most men are happy in their relationship but don’t get enough/exciting enough sex.

[Brompton]

I’m sure punting keeps a lot more relationships and marriages together than it destroys.

I bet most men are happy in their relationship but don’t get enough/exciting enough sex.

Good point & I have often wondered how many men & women come to that are satisfied in their relationship including the sexual side, good luck to anyone who has found that. I am sure there will be the odd bump in the road but even so.

It would have been my first choice for sure but wasn’t to be, as they say though “life goes on” 

[PumpDump]

Because I am a sexual addict. Plain and simple. Can't get enough.

[kingmg]

Don't want to pay for dates, lose half my assets in marriage for sex tap turned off.

[Maak]

I usually have long dry spells in-between relationships. On a mates bday holiday in Amsterdam RLD tried my first escorts, shagged 4 escorts. When I came back home I researched escorts & found AW.

Ever since, anytime I'm going through a dryspell I dip back in to punting . I try to avoid punting when I'm in a committed relationship, but it's very difficult.

[Thepegmeister]

I was shit with women as a young lad, had no confidence and was always seen as the harmless friend zone lad.

So in my early 20s (which is now 20 years ago) I decided to go and see an escort. After a couple of nervous early encounters, I then started to get more confident and really enjoying it. I worked in a job at the time where I was constantly out and about during the day, so would pop in to see Escorts who were in those areas. It was convenient and pretty exciting for me at the time.

This in turn made me far confident with lasses and I started pulling civvies on nights out, which had never happened before. I think because the pressure was off, that I knew I could go and see an escort during the week, I relaxed more with girls so I was massively less awkward and hugely more confident. I think they can smell desperation on you. 

I then got into a relationship, stopped, then started again when the sex dried up. When that ended I got bs I into it a bit but a change in job and personal life meant I’ve accidentally semi-retired. Maybe also my sex drive has gone down a bit. Still always actively looking, but very rarely at all make a booking these days.

[GorillaWarfare]

A load of reasons. I like the fact it means I've slept with women who would probably be way out of my league barring a lottery win and tried different things that I probably wouldn't be able to try in a 'normal' relationship.

I do like the planning stage, too. How you're going to get there and back, where's the nearest cash machine to the location - stuff like that. I've done a few punts on public transport too which can be a thrill in and of itself, albeit limiting in some aspects - if a girl is in the middle of nowhere with shit transport links this isn't really possible.

There's the fact that there's still a little thrill about it. The fact that sex work is still taboo (although less so nowadays) in a lot of society and you're breaking that taboo. I'm not in a relationship so there's no deception involved in my punting but it's still not something I'd like my family and friends to know about. I'd probably enjoy it less if it was like going to the football or seeing a movie where it might not be everyone's cup of tea but it's normalized.

[yandex]

Was walking home from the pub past the old Jessops, if you knew Sheffield back in the day then you know what I mean, and got asked if I was interested in 'Business'. Thought why not and started a very infrequent dalliance with paid sex. Usually restricted by finance and opportunity. Had a few decent relationships and so the punting was really a guilty secret which came and went.

Fast forward a few years, marriage to a lovely woman who ended up struggling with mental health and menopause issues meant I occasionally revived the habit but it was always accompanied by a tinge of buyers remorse. Now that my wife is much better I find myself doing a lot of window shopping but very rarely following through. When I do, it's usually a case of cash to spare and the thought of a really good blowjob. Going against that is the fact that I am becoming increasingly squeamish about the thought of trafficked women and the ridiculous cost of what could turn out to be a shit punt - I have much better things to spend my money on.

I'm sure I'll dabble again but it will probably be a spur of the moment thing when money/opportunity/working girl line up

[Thepegmeister]

There's the fact that there's still a little thrill about it. The fact that sex work is still taboo (although less so nowadays) in a lot of society and you're breaking that taboo. I'm not in a relationship so there's no deception involved in my punting but it's still not something I'd like my family and friends to know about. I'd probably enjoy it less if it was like going to the football or seeing a movie where it might not be everyone's cup of tea but it's normalized.

I totally get the ‘thrill’ part of it. I enjoyed the anticipation as much as the meet when I first started. Probably a touch of being young and naive.

I had 3 regular ladies I used to see at one point, I was in my mid 20s like I said and they were all mid 30s maybe early 40s. Going to see these slightly older ladies during the work day and then heading straight to the office afterwards used to give me a kick.

Again, I was seen as a harmless fairly quiet/boring lad by most. So going in knowing I’d just had a cracking 30 mins, with everyone none the wiser, was all part of the enjoyment.

[standardpostage]

Because I like it 

[RottenVanilla]

 

Started over 30 years ago, 'coz I was horny af and wanted to try all that things that GF would've crack my skull if I was asking for.
And I bloody liked it.
And I wanted more of it. And I still do.

Doing all that disgusting and obscene things that you're not discussing with anyone. And after the punt you walk away, ashamed with yourself and bloody happy, without any complex about what the other part may think about you.

If I wasn't a punter, I would've been an escort, I couldn't stay away from the thrill 

 

[alabama1]

Started over 30 years ago, 'coz I was horny af and wanted to try all that things that GF would've crack my skull if I was asking for.
And I bloody liked it.
And I wanted more of it. And I still do.

Doing all that disgusting and obscene things that you're not discussing with anyone. And after the punt you walk away, ashamed with yourself and bloody happy, without any complex about what the other part may think about you.

If I wasn't a punter, I would've been an escort, I couldn't stay away from the thrill 

 

Really  I have walked away feeling many emotions, but never ashamed.

[Charliehutton]

An interesting question, with some equally interesting answers. To which I'd just add that, as a pensioner, spending money on punting can make perfect financial sense.

When you're old, you reach a point where whatever you may have in the bank, you're unlikely to need it for anything else. If you don't spend it, one of two things - or a combination of both - will happen to it;
1) It will be divvied up between the kids, who don't need it, and will only waste it.
2) More likely, it will be whittled away in care home fees at £1,000 a week or more.

So you can invest that £80 on half an hour with a succulent young hottie, which will give you fun, excitement, a good cardio-vascular workout and a feeling of well being for the rest of the day, or it'll pay for half a day in a care home by which time you'll be ga-ga in any case.

[Colston36]

total respec 
here's a track to remind you of Munich 
External Link/Members Only

as for me its like why does a dog lick its balls

Thanks for the music. I am actually a jazz/soul fan but that is a great track.

How else but by paying could I, as I near 88, be licking a (claimed) 19-year-old Colombian's cunt on Monday? And a plump Welsh strumpet's on Friday?

There are other factors at work though. Women's interest in sex starts waning at 30. Men's interest, if not performance, carries on.

[Mrwumpty]

No interaction with Mrs W, only on birthdays. Very plain, roll on/ off allowed. And the suggestion of talking about spicing anything up is met with a weeks silence.

Ev3n the basics like a hug, is out the question.

So punting is the only way to go.

[big-al93]

No interaction with Mrs W, only on birthdays. Very plain, roll on/ off allowed. And the suggestion of talking about spicing anything up is met with a weeks silence.

Ev3n the basics like a hug, is out the question.

So punting is the only way to go.

I really don't mean to be dick, but realise this may come across that way. Does she not show you ant affection at all? Or does she not allow a hug because (understandably if you are sexually frustrated) trying to turn the hug into something more?

[MysteryManNo.7]

An interesting question, with some equally interesting answers. To which I'd just add that, as a pensioner, spending money on punting can make perfect financial sense.

When you're old, you reach a point where whatever you may have in the bank, you're unlikely to need it for anything else. If you don't spend it, one of two things - or a combination of both - will happen to it;
1) It will be divvied up between the kids, who don't need it, and will only waste it.
2) More likely, it will be whittled away in care home fees at £1,000 a week or more.

So you can invest that £80 on half an hour with a succulent young hottie, which will give you fun, excitement, a good cardio-vascular workout and a feeling of well being for the rest of the day, or it'll pay for half a day in a care home by which time you'll be ga-ga in any case.

I've a relative in a care home and they are, unironically, paying roughly £1,000 per week to be there. For that price they should be providing at least once weekly escort visits for the inmates clients!