Ever had a civvie girlfriend claim to never orgasm?

[jaydefo24]

Yes, I have a new civvie gf who I’d been in a friendship with for a while and always fancied more but anyway … against my expectation we got together and although the fantasy becoming reality has been a rush, I have started to realise that she looks great but is an unusual combination of forward and ready to have sex a lot but never gets anywhere near orgasm . Upon discussion she said she never orgasms and that it doesn’t matter to her.

Without blowing my own trumpet … my prev experience and feedback has been top notch and ability to bring to O noted.

Is it possible some girls just cannot ever get there? Should I give up?

[Bonker]

This is just the topic to bring to this forum. Well done mate.

Were here to help and step up when needed.

Just send me her number. Oh, and a few photos please.

(What would anyone expect from a guy like me - a sensible response? )

Yes it is possible and not uncommon. The causes can vary from the simple (inhibition / relaxation), to the complex (physical/psychological).

[dlfetishist]

Yes, I have a new civvie gf who I’d been in a friendship with for a while and always fancied more but anyway … against my expectation we got together and although the fantasy becoming reality has been a rush, I have started to realise that she looks great but is an unusual combination of forward and ready to have sex a lot but never gets anywhere near orgasm . Upon discussion she said she never orgasms and that it doesn’t matter to her.

Without blowing my own trumpet … my prev experience and feedback has been top notch and ability to bring to O noted.

Is it possible some girls just cannot ever get there? Should I give up?

Honestly sounds about right, women aren't too different to men, a lot of the ones who can't get off easily have the biggest sex drive because they will chase it and then learn to enjoy sex. Ones who can often get there will and then are like "okay, you finish up, I'm bored now". Unless they're the type who love multiples etc. That's rather rare.

[southcoastpunter]

stick to seeing Escorts - it doesn't matter whether they get an "O" or not!!

If women's mags and forums are to believed (and i don't see why not) it seems, as Bonker said, that its not at all uncommon for some (many?) women not to "O" and especially not from just penetrative sex. And, would you believe it, some women also "fake it" just to save our male ego's!!!,

But, to answer your question, no, i have never had a G/F, FWB, SB etc who claimed never to have had an "O"!!

[jaydefo24]

I should’ve said, I know it’s very common with penetrating sex to struggle for orgasm but with all the other methods too , not had that before.

[jaydefo24]

This is just the topic to bring to this forum. Well done mate.

Were here to help and step up when needed.

Just send me her number. Oh, and a few photos please.

(What would anyone expect from a guy like me - a sensible response? )

Yes it is possible and not uncommon. The causes can vary from the simple (inhibition / relaxation), to the complex (physical/psychological).

Wish I could sent a photo, she’d fetch a lot on AW

[JontyR]

My advice is not to make too much of a thing about it. If she is comfortable with it then so should you be.

The agony aunt column advice for her (not you) would be to spend some quality time by herself and see what works for her.

There are very clearly, in my personal experience, levels of orgasmic ability. I've known women who have been on "retreats" where they have spent time working on this. The results can be fairly spectacular.

[MLawro93]

The question you should ask her is if she can make herself orgasm?

[Dark Vader]

Upon discussion she said she never orgasms and that it doesn’t matter to her.

Maybe she doesn't want to. Some women don't want to give themselves fully to a man like that.

[Thephoenix]

My advice is not to make too much of a thing about it. If she is comfortable with it then so should you be.

The agony aunt column advice for her (not you) would be to spend some quality time by herself and see what works for her.



There are very clearly, in my personal experience, levels of orgasmic ability. I've known women who have been on "retreats" where they have spent time working on this. The results can be fairly spectacular.

 There's help available, however for some women, the goal of orgasm isn't as important compared with men
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However OP,  if all else fails, I can send details of my latest invention.
It worked wonders with Mavis from the bowling club.


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[southcoastpunter]

One of my 2 (Seeking) SB's is probably the envy of many a woman. And no i don't mean because she has sex with me (but come to think of it....haha) but rather because she cums very easily and multiple times - usually 3-5 times in one bout/session of sex.

[Thephoenix]

 There's help available, however for some women, the goal of orgasm isn't as important compared with men
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However OP,  if all else fails, I can send details of my latest invention.
It worked wonders with Mavis from the bowling club.


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[akauya]

Yes, I had two girlfriends who never had an orgasm. They did enjoy sex and penetration, a lot of the time they initiated intimacy, one of them was highly sexed but never had an orgasm. It is unusual but it does happen. One common feature between them is that they both had psychological issues; one had a rather strict upbringing - she was brought up to think sex was just for procreation, the other had serious self esteem issues.

Both were wonderful girls, I fell in love with both of them. The one with self esteem issues enjoyed a lot of massages, very sensual massages which would culminate in sex. She would not come but would enjoy penetration and the intimacy. Not even a vibrator would work with her.

The one with the strict upbringing would not even contemplate masturbation to achieve an orgasm. Like the other one she would enjoy the intimacy and penetration but would never climax.

I'm not an expert but you can see their mental health issues may have had a lot to do with them not being able to climax during sex. I'm sure there are some other cases where the problem (if it is a problem) is physical rather than psychological.

At first, as a man (macho man than I am... ahem) I used to think it was some kind of failing on my part when they didn't come. Especially with the first GF. When I go to the second one I recognised the signs and I wasn't that fussed about being a macho man that has to have his woman climaxing at my every touch.

Like everything else in life there are a huge range of issues that make a woman able or not to orgasm. I have had the whole gamut, I had GFs who were multiorgasmic (my last lover was super-multi-orgasmic. When she was in the right mood and super turned on she would climax 20, 30 times or more. I kid you not), then I had other GFs that would come only once after a very, very, very long and protracted foreplay and sex session, but their orgasms were explosive. The majority of GFs were just OK and would climax "normally".

Us humans are weird, complex and wonderful creatures.

[Thephoenix]

I had a relationship with a woman who'd been educated at a private convent boarding school.

Anything other than penetrative sex was out of the question.
No oral, no fingering etc, even allowing me to stimulate her clitoris during intercourse wasn't allowed.

I could sense that she wanted to orgasm, and would try all various angles of penetration and 'tribbing'.
She'd never orgasmed and had never masturbated (which she considered 'dirty').

Eventually I bought her one of the noisy old Pifco massagers, which older members may remember.
That was it!. She couldn't get enough of it although she insisted on only using it under the blankets as it sounded like a pneumatic drill.
She'd also only use it combined with penetrative sex, and never by itself.

My experience of convent girls was that they were either semi frigid with guilt feelings or raving nymphomaniacs.




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[Doc Holliday]

Eventually I bought her one of the noisy old Pifco massagers,

 ... and they say men are uncaring. You old romantic 

[Doc Holliday]

Upon discussion she said she never orgasms and that it doesn’t matter to her.

On the positive side she was honest. She could have just faked it.

The timing of her telling you this is important. If she told you in advance then it is quite different to if she told you after your attempts failed. The latter is a potential knock to your ego and so you speculate as to whether she is telling the truth or not.?

This is clearly bothering you to the point you feel the need to ask the question "is it possible."

The answer is yes it is possible and it is estimated at least 10% of women have never achieved orgasm (including solo) for a variety of complex reasons as mentioned. However at least 50% of women struggle to orgasm easily and readily. Some of the reasons that affect the first group apply to this group also, but it can also be heavily influenced by the input of the partner(s) involved. In this group it is common for them to achieve orgasm more easily solo, but not with a partner.

Personally I have had women tell me they have never (or rarely) had an orgasm with a partner (some civvies but mostly SP's) but most only tell me after they have done so for the first time 

[B4bcock]

Personally I have had women tell me they have never (or rarely) had an orgasm with a partner (some civvies but mostly SP's) but most only tell me after they have done so for the first time 

You must be sick of hearing my name, Doc.   

[Doc Holliday]

You must be sick of hearing my name, Doc.   

 

[Thephoenix]

... and they say men are uncaring. You old romantic 

I should have added that this happened in the 1970s, long before Anne Summers or online sex shops.

Although they were advertised as beauty/health aids, I bet many old matrons kept one in the back of the wardrobe.
To this day, I've not experienced anything so effective for achieving an intense and fairly rapid orgasm, (apart from Moi obviously), although I've been reliable informed by a couple I used to see that a 'Sybian' takes some beating.

[Doc Holliday]

I should have added that this happened in the 1970s, long before Anne Summers or online sex shops.

Although they were advertised as beauty/health aids, I bet many old matrons kept one in the back of the wardrobe.
To this day, I've not experienced anything so effective for achieving an intense and fairly rapid orgasm, (apart from Moi obviously), although I've been reliable informed by a couple I used to see that a 'Sybian' takes some beating.

The Hitachi Magic Wand is a similar story, but achieved much more notoriety and popularity External Link/Members Only

I still have a working 'branded' Hitachi Wand in my 'suitcase' although these days prefer a later Doxy version which is lighter and a little more powerful, and with more variable speeds/function. Not as well made though. There continue to be many Hitachi imitators but the original is truly iconic.

Powerful mains vibrators are very much a marmite experience though and not for everyone as they may be way too powerful for some women.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

My first missus loved hers!, had to have a Three phase supply installed;!...

[Bonker]

Whatever happened to straddling the spin dryer?

[Doc Holliday]

My first missus loved hers!, had to have a Three phase supply installed;!...

 

[Doc Holliday]

Whatever happened to straddling the spin dryer?

  Fitted kitchens and in particular integrated appliances saw their demise 

Phoenix's above mentioned Sybian is a much better, more versatile (though much more expensive) alternative to straddle. It doesn't do the laundry at the same time though 

[akauya]

Phoenix's above mentioned Sybian is a much better, more versatile (though much more expensive) alternative to straddle. It doesn't do the laundry at the same time though 

Not sure about that. Women are good at multitasking 

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Edit: Apols for the terrible joke

[jaydefo24]

Yes, I had two girlfriends who never had an orgasm. They did enjoy sex and penetration, a lot of the time they initiated intimacy, one of them was highly sexed but never had an orgasm. It is unusual but it does happen. One common feature between them is that they both had psychological issues; one had a rather strict upbringing - she was brought up to think sex was just for procreation, the other had serious self esteem issues.

Both were wonderful girls, I fell in love with both of them. The one with self esteem issues enjoyed a lot of massages, very sensual massages which would culminate in sex. She would not come but would enjoy penetration and the intimacy. Not even a vibrator would work with her.

The one with the strict upbringing would not even contemplate masturbation to achieve an orgasm. Like the other one she would enjoy the intimacy and penetration but would never climax.

I'm not an expert but you can see their mental health issues may have had a lot to do with them not being able to climax during sex. I'm sure there are some other cases where the problem (if it is a problem) is physical rather than psychological.

At first, as a man (macho man than I am... ahem) I used to think it was some kind of failing on my part when they didn't come. Especially with the first GF. When I go to the second one I recognised the signs and I wasn't that fussed about being a macho man that has to have his woman climaxing at my every touch.

Like everything else in life there are a huge range of issues that make a woman able or not to orgasm. I have had the whole gamut, I had GFs who were multiorgasmic (my last lover was super-multi-orgasmic. When she was in the right mood and super turned on she would climax 20, 30 times or more. I kid you not), then I had other GFs that would come only once after a very, very, very long and protracted foreplay and sex session, but their orgasms were explosive. The majority of GFs were just OK and would climax "normally".

Us humans are weird, complex and wonderful creatures.

Excellent reply thank you 

[jaydefo24]

On the positive side she was honest. She could have just faked it.

The timing of her telling you this is important. If she told you in advance then it is quite different to if she told you after your attempts failed. The latter is a potential knock to your ego and so you speculate as to whether she is telling the truth or not.?

This is clearly bothering you to the point you feel the need to ask the question "is it possible."

The answer is yes it is possible and it is estimated at least 10% of women have never achieved orgasm (including solo) for a variety of complex reasons as mentioned. However at least 50% of women struggle to orgasm easily and readily. Some of the reasons that affect the first group apply to this group also, but it can also be heavily influenced by the input of the partner(s) involved. In this group it is common for them to achieve orgasm more easily solo, but not with a partner.

Personally I have had women tell me they have never (or rarely) had an orgasm with a partner (some civvies but mostly SP's) but most only tell me after they have done so for the first time 

She only told me after our first few sexual encounters in which I delay my own for ages until realising that she doesn't get to climax even when certain position and motions seemed to be heading in that direction... she claimed to only "try" masturbating first time aged 33 and it 'didn't work'.

[jaydefo24]

One of my 2 (Seeking) SB's is probably the envy of many a woman. And no i don't mean because she has sex with me (but come to think of it....haha) but rather because she cums very easily and multiple times - usually 3-5 times in one bout/session of sex.

I prefer girls like this!

[cunnyhunt]

I picked up a new FB a couple of months ago, divorced after being married for 20(?) years. Says only been with 2 men before which I did not believe at first. Got to know her more and now know she was telling the truth, said she had never orgasmed before and that husband had been a devout Catholic so sex was infrequent.  First time sex with her was ‘interesting’ she didn’t know what to do, Introduced her to RO and enjoying sex and she now cums time after time. It was like unlocking a door to another world for her.  She does not want sex more than a couple of times a week (at most) but now let's go when she does and is agreeable to trying new things each time.

[jaydefo24]

Sounds like a catch … what’s FB ( friend with benefit ? Facebook ? )

[cunnyhunt]

Sounds like a catch … what’s FB

Sorry, trying to type quickly. FB - Fuck Buddy.

Probably a catch for someone else, she’s a good person, very fit with a good body. She knows this is just sex and is enjoying the ride.