Maybe they put restrictions up because they want to feel pretty & special, then when dusty phone syndrome sets in, they come online to complain and defend themselves. It seems there are two types of mingers, the ones that will put restrictions and those that will do everything including bb.
Personally I dislike those that won't see other races, especially when they state they are not racist but will only see white gentlemen. Makes me laugh, who are they fooling.
I've found Hungarian mingers are generally good punts. Not expensive, will do most vanilla services and are friendly.