WG starting to send me 'hi how are you' messages

[Jeff_withpetersen]

Hi all ... if I could sit under your collective learning tree please. A WG I have seen a few times has started sending me 'hi how are you, how's your day going, how did that thing you were talking about go' style messages on AW ... I think she is relatively poor as doesn't get many punters and has kids as a single mother (she's awesome, just lives in the middle of nowhere so few punters) and is maybe lining me up as a regular meal ticket - my question is, is it going to become a ballache if I still see her once or twice a month and respond to these 'matey' emails or is it better to just disappear and not see her again?

 I'm not developing EAS on my end and highly doubt she is on hers, surely Wallet Attachment Syndrome instead - just wondering if anyone has been in this position before and if it ended up cool or if it ended up with her asking to 'borrow' £500 or some bollocks like that and getting arsey if you said no 'considering what great friends you were'.

[Jimmyredcab]

Think yourself lucky, in 35 years of punting I have never had a pro$$ie ask how I am, but then I am an ugly cunt.   

[Jeff_withpetersen]

Trust me mate I am as well.    I wonder what percentage of the membership here would consider themselves average/above average attractiveness?

[Horizontal pleasures]

Hi all ... if I could sit under your collective learning tree please. A WG I have seen a few times has started sending me 'hi how are you, how's your day going, how did that thing you were talking about go' style messages on AW ... I think she is relatively poor as doesn't get many punters and has kids as a single mother (she's awesome, just lives in the middle of nowhere so few punters) and is maybe lining me up as a regular meal ticket - my question is, is it going to become a ballache if I still see her once or twice a month and respond to these 'matey' emails or is it better to just disappear and not see her again?

 I'm not developing EAS on my end and highly doubt she is on hers, surely Wallet Attachment Syndrome instead - just wondering if anyone has been in this position before and if it ended up cool or if it ended up with her asking to 'borrow' £500 or some bollocks like that and getting arsey if you said no 'considering what great friends you were'.

Link please

[Jeff_withpetersen]

What good would a link do in this instance? I'm neither praising nor criticising her service, this isn't a review or even anything specific to her, just asking for general feedback on this sort of situation. I've said too much in the first post for it to be appropriate to link, if it gets back to her than I doubt she'd take too kindly to some of my comments and then I'm fucked if I do want to see her again.

[socks]

I'd make the call based on how good she is at the service she provides. If she's good then it's worth responding in my book, if she isn't then don't. If she becomes bothersome/persistent then you should post a link as HP suggests, so other punters can take it into account when they make a judgement as to whether they'd like to avail themselves of her services. If it doesn't then I think you're fine keeping it to yourself.

[ForrestGump]

...is it going to become a ballache if I still see her once or twice a month and respond to these 'matey' emails or is it better to just disappear and not see her again?

Most likely she's schmoozing to encourage you to put more business her way. If you rate her as a wg and don't think EAS is a factor then why not indulge if you're enjoying the banter. I would.

[Jackjones]

Might just be here trying to drum up bussiness, take it you have seen her a few times already?

I'd wait and see how it progresses a bit befor trying to figure out what it is she wants, besides your money i mean. Hell atlest she had a brain cell and used AW to contact you not your moblie!

[Type_O_Negative]

My regular sends me friendly text messages from time to time. I'm single so it doesn't bother me at all.

And yes - she asked for money - she wanted £200. I got it back on time like she promised. So in my case everything went ok. But i understand there are punters who wouldn't tolerate any texting from WGs (not to mention about lending money). Still i wouldn't call her a friend but when she doesn't work i pop in for tea or coffee sometimes.

I don't know what to advise - punting is like walking on thin ice...

[house music dave]

My advice is to always err on the side of caution. I'm not saying her niceness is a front I just think to become a WG, women have to jump through some mental hoops to allow them to treat it as  a business i.e. she's nice now, but when she has to she will be as cold as she needs to be.

Questions to ask yourself

Is the unwanted contact making you feel uncomfortable?
How is her profile written, business sexy, or chatty and friendly?


In terms of her being relatively poor, that's not your concern. Your only responsibility is to yourself.

If I was in your situation (which I have been) I'd cut out all comms apart from booking meets, and tell her that you feel more comfortable keeping comms to a minimum outside punts. If you are a regular and she lives in the middle of nowhere she'll respect this as she'll want to keep you as a client.
     

[smiths]

Hi all ... if I could sit under your collective learning tree please. A WG I have seen a few times has started sending me 'hi how are you, how's your day going, how did that thing you were talking about go' style messages on AW ... I think she is relatively poor as doesn't get many punters and has kids as a single mother (she's awesome, just lives in the middle of nowhere so few punters) and is maybe lining me up as a regular meal ticket - my question is, is it going to become a ballache if I still see her once or twice a month and respond to these 'matey' emails or is it better to just disappear and not see her again?

 I'm not developing EAS on my end and highly doubt she is on hers, surely Wallet Attachment Syndrome instead - just wondering if anyone has been in this position before and if it ended up cool or if it ended up with her asking to 'borrow' £500 or some bollocks like that and getting arsey if you said no 'considering what great friends you were'.

WGs who cold call or text me without my express agreement are unlikely to see me again. I have a punting phone but they dont know that.

However, if this doesnt bother you fill your boots is my advice just dont fall for any hard luck stories that she might spout. This is strictly going on you saying its not EAS.

[JV547845]

If I wanted to see them again but was just waiting until I had the horn for them in particular or felt nostalgic I'd reply with `I'm great, I'd love to see you again babe but I'm a bit skint this month and can only afford XX£ - that OK?'. 

The only two who've ever texted me back, their service had gone down hill a bit though and the one I got a missed call from, struggled with my cock (dunno if she really did just have an off day for a professional sex worker and an only slightly larger than average schlong).  She also just played it ice cool when I replied (in case it was the dreaded STD call). 

Another sent me a funny angry message on AW like I was cheating on her for seeing other prossies, when she's only available when I'm working M-F 9-5.  And she kicked me out a little bit early because I wasn't going to cum apparently.  I always remember that when I read on her profile she says she's gagging for cock.  Yes she is, but on her terms, and only until she's done with you.

So none of the many excellent prossies I've ever seen have given me a booty call .  I guess they've already got plenty of work because they were doing something right to start with.

[CBPaul]

I've only had 1 unsolicited contact from a prossie I've seen, haven't got a clue what it was about as she axed her profile before I had a chance to see it.

My guess OP is that she's drumming up business, whether you see her or not depends on how you rate her as a prossie and if you would normally see her again. The dangers are 2 fold IMO.

1. She will see you as a good source of income and become more persistent.
2. It may become awkward to keep her contacts secret if you need to, full marks for using AW mail this time but that may not always be the case.

Over familiarity is not a good thing, whether it be from a fluffy punter or a prossie. Works both ways.

[Jimmyredcab]

My regular sends me friendly text messages from time to time. I'm single so it doesn't bother me at all.

And yes - she asked for money - she wanted £200. I got it back on time like she promised. So in my case everything went ok.

Pleased it worked out OK for you but I would NEVER lend a prostitute money, and I mean never in 10 million light years.

[JV547845]

Yeah much as may occasionally like them as people, I can't ever earn in a day what they can, so they're firmly at the bottom of the list on people I'd lend money to.  They'd be better off learning how to be thrifty from me. 

[Jimmyredcab]

Yeah much as may occasionally like them as people, I can't ever earn in a day what they can, so they're firmly at the bottom of the list on people I'd lend money to.  They'd be better off learning how to be thrifty from me.

Indeed.
If a prostitute needs to borrow £200 she must be a pretty useless prostitute, they can earn that in a couple of hours.   

[smiths]

A WG asking to borrow money off me will result in her never getting my business again. Just like with others i do business with outside punting i dont expect them to ask to borrow money off me under any circumstances. IMO they should be asking family and friends not a punter. If they havent any family or friends its not my responsibility to step in, i am a complete or virtual stranger to them, and its a fucking cheek that they have the brass neck to ask.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

If it were me I'd ask her exactly what she wants, sometimes a very direct approach might work better.

So if she is looking for a regular and if she is as awsome as you say then seeing that a lot of complaints on this board are one's that detail just how bad getting a punt fixed up is, heres one looking for you.

Perhaps you might be able to negotiate a better rate?. Supply and demand;!.

I came close to negoiating a deal with a lady who I thought would make a good regular. OK i know that a lot of us like a supply of "new to us" ladies but sometimes it does get better the more you know the lady. And if you live out in the sticks a bit then the supply might not be as good as others get.

Or does she fancy you on the quiet;?.

You that is, not your wallet..

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Indeed.
""If a prostitute needs to borrow £200 she must be a pretty useless prostitute, they can earn that in a couple of hours.""


Good point Jimmy, it sometimes makes me wonder just what the job thruput is for some girls. Its usualy jazzed up a bit by some but for a lot of the others is it as good as its sometimes made out to be?.

Course it begs the question would a lady lend  -YOU- a couple of hundred;?.

[Jimmyredcab]

Indeed.
""If a prostitute needs to borrow £200 she must be a pretty useless prostitute, they can earn that in a couple of hours.""


Good point Jimmy, it sometimes makes me wonder just what the job thruput is for some girls. Its usualy jazzed up a bit by some but for a lot of the others is it as good as its sometimes made out to be?.

Course it begs the question would a lady lend  -YOU- a couple of hundred;?.

They wouldn't piss on you if you were in flames, sad but very true.   

[InstaPunt]

Either ingnore it or message back with intent of firstly finding out , subtly, is she is doing it to get business. If she wants business and you don't mind giving her more get yourself a deal from the usual price you pay, if she calling just cos she wants to talk and she likes you then its up to you.

[Daffodil]

Sounds like a business ploy to me. When this happens it invariably means there are discounts to be had 

[Daffodil]

Pleased it worked out OK for you but I would NEVER lend a prostitute money, and I mean never in 10 million light years.

Agree completely, it is the height of foolishness to lend a prossie some money.

[valdishere]

To OP - Almost certainly touting for business IMO.
Happened to me years ago got 'How are you' text outta blue about 6 weeks after I'd seen a WG a couple times in one particular week.
Initially alert mode but then thought slightly flattered and I replied leading to some text dialogue.
Arranged to see her again when I was next in her area and another good service but about week later more chatty texts arrived again. Played along with the text tennis game and then saw her maybe another  month later. Once again great service but at end of shagging and wind down chat while getting dressed she gave me the old line 'was only doing this for some extra cash to sort out a few bills' A few days later got a text with same "how are you" dross but it went on to tell me how she needed to work a little harder!!!
Replied asking if all was ok and after few mincing around texts from her with the latest "shouldn't have told you" She then calmly suggested she needed a grand to pay back overdue rent and didn't know what to do!!!
Already had my suspicions but now this confirmed what a conning cunt she was trying to milk me as she'd sussed I probably had a few bob to spare from chat about holidays abroad.
Annoyed I played her along till she was practically sending polite demand texts as to when I could help her out. Decided to end her allusion by sending her a text saying I was moving to a new job much further away - didn't see point in creating angst or ongoing text abuse . Got a few further texts about month later but I didn't reply and guess she realised she'd been found out.
In this game far too many con artists around and in reality when does a punter ever have a freebie offered!!!
So my advice is be wary I doubt she's really looking for you as a friend.

[dilettante]

I've only ever had this once, but then I had said I would go back to see her at around that time - which I then did.  As Jimmy says it could be a good chance to make a rewarding contact, a good cause, single mum - but you never know if there's an unhappy father at the other end of it.  She might genuinely want to be matey and you might benefit from that sexually - otherwise there'll probably be a point when she "crosses the line" and asks for cash advance etc.

[Toshiba]

Ignore her and dont see her again

Nothing good can ever come of texts like that

[James999]

Just reply that you're a bit short of cash at present but you'd love to see her, you either get a reduced rate / freebie, or she realises she can't rinse you for any more cash and will leave you alone.

You have nothing to lose, and if you want to see her again just book her 

[Loki]

I'm guessing the OP doesn't have a separate punting phone...

I personally wouldn't reply to any WG if they did text me, however I would never know as my punting phone is off until  I need to use it...

dangerous game to play... it's all business for them, it should be for you too...

 

[cunnyhunt]

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I personally wouldn't reply to any WG if they did text me

I have replied 2-3 times and had a good deal offered, no problem to me if they need the cash and suits me to fuck them.

[James999]

I have replied 2-3 times and had a good deal offered, no problem to me if they need the cash and suits me to fuck them.

Seems a fair summary 

[Mij]

Seems a fair summary 

Yup..sounds fair enough!

[Dani]

For her to be sending  emails or texts saying hi how are you etc and you have not agreed she can then it is simply that she is skint and is trying to coax you into booking by making you think she is thinking about you.  Its a form of fake flattery I have seen some girls use in the past and it normally works.  If you do answer state you would love to come and see her but you would need x amount of time and only have x amount of money (knock £20 off half hour and £40 off an hour).  If she is desperate enough to be emailing thens he is desperate enough to say yes.
Contact should always only be at the request of the punter.
As for her not getting much work due to being out in the sticks I know a couple of escorts that are in very hard to get to places  and still are very busy. 
Locations makes no difference if a prossie is good as people will travel if they are guaranteed a great service.  You cannot know how many people she sees a day as most people do not use the booking system so you only have what she tells you. 
I think she has already set you up with the sob story of "I don't get much work as I live out here"  now you are getting the hi how are you emails and if you reply, you will soon start to get the, "I don't know what to do as I have to pay x by so and so date and don't get enough work to do it"

It sounds harsh but I have seen so many of these tricks used by just a couple of girls and someone always falls for it.  Perhaps answer her and say you have lost your job and therefor don't have enough money to book right now.  I bet the replies stop really quickly

[InstaPunt]

If she implies , or outright says, business is slow and/or she has money issues etc. If you want to book her then do so, but make out that your doing it only to help her and putting yourself out, act uncertain about whether its in your interest, even outright say you hadn't planned on anything now because you  was planning on a booking in 3 weeks and was considering a well reviewed girl from out of town so needed to factor in extra costs for traveling etc. She will see it as competition to be beaten, and will see you as a booking for this week and in 3 weeks. Expect a good price. If she is cunning she might offer you a bargain for two bookings n  say you have to pay for the second booking when you pay for first. 1000s of things you can say to that.

[valdishere]

Dani, well explained and I know there are many decent prossies like yourself who know the game and play by acceptable rules.
Appears to be too many punters on here hoping its a great chance of a discounted offer which it may occasionally turn out to be.
However let's at least be honest as Dani points out any unsolicited email or text is just touting for business and usually not what punters are expecting as we choose what to buy and when. It may also delude some milder punters into EAS or foolishly 'lend' money that will never be returned.
Prossies sell their bodies and Punters buy based on their own particular requirements when it suits them.

[The President]

Had this once of a regular and wasnt a problem as she was very discreet and knew I was ok with it given the way she approached me

If it wasnt discreet and from a wg I hadnt approved her approach I would be fuming but wouldnt reply

[HappyandLucky]

I've only ever had this once, but then I had said I would go back to see her at around that time - which I then did.  As Jimmy says it could be a good chance to make a rewarding contact, a good cause, single mum - but you never know if there's an unhappy father at the other end of it.  She might genuinely want to be matey and you might benefit from that sexually - otherwise there'll probably be a point when she "crosses the line" and asks for cash advance etc.

IMO, dangerous to get too matey with a prossie. Pay, Fuck & Leave. Take this advise from someone who has been there before and it all went nipples up.

[Ben4454]

  I get texts from WGs occasionally - ends up with when do you want to meet up again. Business strategy retaining clients.

[Sparquin]

If you really are interested in seeing her regularly go for it by all means. If you do then you can tell her, politely, to cut out the messages. Otherwise best to ignore.

[Jeff_withpetersen]

Thanks everybody - no danger of eas or me thinking she loves me here, fear not. Im not sure what the game is as I saw her again fri and all through the week so far ive had normal 'matey sort of texts' but no business hustle yet - I think il keep seeing her but the second the inevitable 'we get on so well, can I borrow £500' comes up, il be off. I'm actually surprised more wgs don't try this actually,  pretending to cultivate a 'friend ship' only takes a minute or two a day and could be worth a lot if they find a real chump.

[HappyandLucky]

What good would a link do in this instance? I'm neither praising nor criticising her service, this isn't a review or even anything specific to her, just asking for general feedback on this sort of situation. I've said too much in the first post for it to be appropriate to link, if it gets back to her than I doubt she'd take too kindly to some of my comments and then I'm fucked if I do want to see her again.

So absolutely no chance of a link then, surely you can trust your punting brotherhood ? 

[InstaPunt]

Thanks everybody - no danger of eas or me thinking she loves me here, fear not. Im not sure what the game is as I saw her again fri and all through the week so far ive had normal 'matey sort of texts' but no business hustle yet - I think il keep seeing her but the second the inevitable 'we get on so well, can I borrow £500' comes up, il be off. I'm actually surprised more wgs don't try this actually,  pretending to cultivate a 'friend ship' only takes a minute or two a day and could be worth a lot if they find a real chump.

More than we realize probably do, look at the examples on one of the threads on here about biggest mistake. Now imagine the all escorts and punters who meet regularly out there etc.