Has anyone ever been rejected? Feeling pretty down and apprehensive...

[Lou2019]

I guess everyone has a right to accept or reject a sexual partner for any or no reason. And I don't see how that is any different if the sex is being paid for.

Having said that, I would hope that if a WG wanted to exclude any particular category of punter, whether race, age, or whatever, she would state it on her profile. And yes, like a previous poster, I have seen lots of black WGs saying no blacks, Polish saying no Poles etc, so it's not necessarily prejudice, rather "it's a small world".

I was once turned away because of age. The WG said she had an age limit of 45. This seriously pissed me off as there was nothing about that on her profile and I had a wasted journey and no plan B.

Of course it may just have been because she didn't like the look of me. I don't think it was that. Although I'm getting on a bit I think I scrub up quite well, though I say so myself, and she has since added the age limit to her profile. Also I have never had that problem before or since.

If I put NWA on my profile because of a bad experience (yes it has only been white men who had been badly behaved) would peoples view be the same?

[alabama1]

If I put NWA on my profile because of a bad experience (yes it has only been white men who had been badly behaved) would peoples view be the same?

I am guessing they use the phrase  'because of bad experience' to be polite. It sound's better than saying that they do not want to see a particular race in general. And that's not them being racist, we all have preferences, punters as well as WG's.

[PilotMan]

If I put NWA on my profile because of a bad experience (yes it has only been white men who had been badly behaved) would peoples view be the same?

If you had an NWA policy, I would just skip past your profile to the next one.

If you had a policy that excludes guys for; having a beard, having dark hair, having no hair, under XX age, over xx age, tall, short, what has that to do with me? It's your issue and not mine.

It wouldn't bother me in the least, your choice, your reason, your body.

I sure as hell wouldn't dwell on it.

[Lou2019]

I am guessing they use the phrase  'because of bad experience' to be polite. It sound's better than saying that they do not want to see a particular race in general. And that's not them being racist, we all have preferences, punters as well as WG's.

the because of bad experience isn’t polite, it’s basically stereotyping a whole race. I think the phase makes their reasoning sound worse as my previous post was indicating.

[Strawberry]

If you had an NWA policy, I would just skip past your profile to the next one.

If you had a policy that excludes guys for; having a beard, having dark hair, having no hair, under XX age, over xx age, tall, short, what has that to do with me? It's your issue and not mine.

It wouldn't bother me in the least, your choice, your reason, your body.

I sure as hell wouldn't dwell on it.

But from your post on this thread, you are white is that correct?If you had experienced a lifetime of discriminatory, judgemental, racist remarks you might not be able to shrug it off so easily.

[Lou2019]

But from your post on this thread, you are white is that correct?If you had experienced a lifetime of discriminatory, judgemental, racist remarks you might not be able to shrug it off so easily.

Exactly the point I was making further up Strawberry smh

[Lou2019]

If you had an NWA policy, I would just skip past your profile to the next one.

If you had a policy that excludes guys for; having a beard, having dark hair, having no hair, under XX age, over xx age, tall, short, what has that to do with me? It's your issue and not mine.

It wouldn't bother me in the least, your choice, your reason, your body.

I sure as hell wouldn't dwell on it.

You are not quite getting it are you

[daviemac]

Discrimination is tough, no question, but hopefully console yourself with the thought that you wouldn't want to do it with a racist escort anyway...

It isn't racist, it's the escort's free choice who she wants to provide a service to. Escorts exclude more than just blacks, age is another popular one with them.

[Steely Dan]

Escorts exclude more than just blacks, age is another popular one with them.

Here is another example of excluding:
External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only

Q. Do you enjoy XXL?   A. No. I ONLY prefer average inches.
Huge lids don`t go well with my saucepan, so if you`re an owner of somewhat called huge-ish, we just won`t get on well, sorry.

ONCE AGAIN - (practice shows some people don`t read this), if you pull out an elephant tusk of a dick, there won`t be any continuation. Of course it`s cool to own an excessive length, but it`s just not my thing, sorry. Don`t make me use my ruler, darling.

[PilotMan]

You are not quite getting it are you

Please do enlighten me.

[Lou2019]

Please do enlighten me.

Re-refer to my previous posts 

[alabama1]

the because of bad experience isn’t polite, it’s basically stereotyping a whole race. I think the phase makes their reasoning sound worse as my previous post was indicating.

Yeah, i meant trying to be polite. But as you say, instead of being honest, they are making it sound worse.

[mandy18]

Wow.

May I ask if the knew this in advance of the booking and declined or when you arrived?

It has been in advance of the booking, some girls will not arrange a meting by text or Email, Other girls think I will not understand them. In all walks of my life, some people equate being deaf with being a bit dense. Thankfully it is not a problem to 90% of the Sp`S,

I have never been declined on arrival.

[JontyR]

Exactly the point I was making further up Strawberry smh

And you make it well. But I don't think that an SP has to give a reason. Her choice.

So why do they? And why make it this? There is an automatic presumption that the facts on a profile are truthful - and heaven knows that's a dangerous assumption.

I take it as that there are plenty of punters that question any number of items on a profile. A blanket ban may lead to a number of pointless enquiries asking why it exists. This reason given may prove to be the most effective in stopping those timewasting enquiries.

[PilotMan]

Re-refer to my previous posts 

Ok, I'm right then.

[pbrown355]

"If you had experienced a lifetime of discriminatory, judgemental, racist remarks you might not be able to shrug it off so easily."
You can either attempt to shrug it off or live a less good version of yourself by letting it overly affect you. Easy for me to say being white, but it's not my fault that a/ I am white, or
b/ it's true

[Lou2019]

"If you had experienced a lifetime of discriminatory, judgemental, racist remarks you might not be able to shrug it off so easily."
You can either attempt to shrug it off or live a less good version of yourself by letting it overly affect you. Easy for me to say being white, but it's not my fault that a/ I am white, or
b/ it's true

Well that was a ridiculously stupid post

[Lou2019]

Ok, I'm right then.

Eh 

[JonasG]

A bit different but in recent years I worry about my fucking beard. Had plenty of escorts get snippy about it. Like half way through, oh the beard is itchy, can’t kiss. I think I’ve only seen one profile where someone made it clear they won’t kiss someone with a beard.  So before a booking I’m wondering whether to trim it right back but is bugs me, doing that for an hour of fucking that I’m paying a lot of money for.

Off topic I know … for the OP … try not to take it personally. Easy for me to say. But maybe see the positives … they’re up front enough it … you can find some who has no problem seeing you.

I've got a beard and I think once a WG said I couldn't kiss her or go down on her cos of that. Maybe another one too? Can't quite recall.

And maybe seen it on a few profiles but overall never been a problem in terms of DFK or RO.

Using beard oils and moisturiser helps maybe.

[blackpunter]

Don't let it knock your confidence. Its just a matter of preference. I'm black myself and i've never been to see a black escort. Its like there's a mental block there that doesn't even allow me to imagine it. This year i've set myself the challenge of seeing a black one though. Everyone is free to choose at the end of the day. There's plenty of choice out there. Just scroll past to the next profile. I will say though it is annoying to read a long WG profile and then at the bottom it says no black men. I'm more annoyed by the fact that i wasted my time reading through the profile and their likes/dislikes list than the fact that they won't see black men.

[big-al93]

Here is another example of excluding:
External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only

Her body, her choice, but a far from clear policy imho. Considering how many men have no idea what average is,how to measure or how much above average the escort considers to be "Huge-ish"

Fortunately I'm hung like a mouse, so I don't have to worry about it. 

[pbrown355]

Thank you for your kind words Lou 2019.

[pbrown355]

Funny how you post something you thought may be a little helpful and certainly not intended to offend and someone decides it is worth an unpleasant put down. Thanks again.

[contentguy]

Funny how you post something you thought may be a little helpful and certainly not intended to offend and someone decides it is worth an unpleasant put down. Thanks again.

If you want to quote someone in your post, there’s a button marked ‘quote’ using that would help us realise that you quoted Strawberry rather than being poor with punctuation.  When you use the quote facility, you can remove all the bits you don’t want to quote.

Are you seriously, as a white guy,  attempting to give advice on how to handle racial discrimination in the UK?

Do you have any inkling as to how stoopid that makes you?

Editing to say I’m posting this to be helpful and not to offend, you numpty! 

[pbrown355]

Tried and failed the quote button. Definitely numpty.
The rest of it was a general lifestyle comment, not original, not mine and not necessarily directly related to race, just about living your best life. I thought it said my opinion on dealing with discrimination did not count so definitely not meaning to give advice beyond my ability to do so.
Since you're the second person to point out that it was stupid perhaps it does not read the way I intended and as such I apologise to anyone offended and Lou in particular.

[contentguy]

  But do persevere with that quote button 

[pbrown355]

But do persevere with that quote button
I did and this is the result

So it's quoted you but not put it as a quote. What am I doing wrong?

[MissWolf]

But do persevere with that quote button
I did and this is the result

So it's quoted you but not put it as a quote. What am I doing wrong?

You need to put your cursor after the last box quotation mark at the end of the quote,  then hit the return button a couple of times to give you a separation from the post you are quoting,  you can then type and hit post.

If you need to check then hit preview and scroll up to see what the post will look like before hitting post 

[daviemac]

But do persevere with that quote button
I did and this is the result

So it's quoted you but not put it as a quote. What am I doing wrong?

Press the quote button on the right to bring up the text box then put your curser after the last '[/quote]' and press enter as shown below then type your reply.                                                                                                         
Hidden Image/Members Only Hidden Image/Members Only

[pbrown355]

But do persevere with that quote button
I did and this is the result

So it's quoted you but not put it as a quote. What am I doing wrong?

Here's hoping

Thanks everyone. Just hope I can remember that next time I want to use it!

[alabama1]

Here's hoping

Thanks everyone. Just hope I can remember that next time I want to use it!

Did you mean to reply to yourself ? 

[nike]

I know they have every right to see or not see who they want, I am not trying to change or challenge that. It's just a bit of a bummer. I would rather be excluded because I'm fat because that's actually something that I can change lol Makes me wonder what kind of negative experiences they might have had in the past to feel this way.

As has been mentioned already, at least she states it on her profile. I have been turned away, once , by a wg, who doesn't mention anything on her profile. I turned up and texted her to say I have arrived, to be told that she doesn't see coloured people, making the excuse that the neighbours were very nosey, apparantly her neighbours are nosey racists.

I just moved on a gave my money to someone who was not a racist.

[Melnw6969]

As has been mentioned already, at least she states it on her profile. I have been turned away, once , by a wg, who doesn't mention anything on her profile. I turned up and texted her to say I have arrived, to be told that she doesn't see coloured people, making the excuse that the neighbours were very nosey, apparantly her neighbours are nosey racists.

I just moved on a gave my money to someone who was not a racist.

I used to see “Amazing Anna” in St Anne’s and she was… yes amazing (really).   But then she moved from her flat in St Anne’s deeper into Lytham and stopped seeing “Blacks / Asians”.   I messaged her and asked her why, i.e. if she had had any negative experiences with coloured guys - as I’ve seen her a couple of times and had a brilliant time.    Her response was that she didn’t want to alert the new neighbours so that was disappointing, the old nosey local racists.     There’s a track by Idles called “Model Village” a have a listed to the lyrics, so true!

[PilotMan]

A WG told me that a big consideration of her job was the enjoyment of having sex. She said she has an NBA policy because she doesn't fancy black guys.

I don't particularly fancy black girls and have only ever punted one. That doesn't make me a racist.

[Strawberry]

I used to see “Amazing Anna” in St Anne’s and she was… yes amazing (really).   But then she moved from her flat in St Anne’s deeper into Lytham and stopped seeing “Blacks / Asians”.   I messaged her and asked her why, i.e. if she had had any negative experiences with coloured guys - as I’ve seen her a couple of times and had a brilliant time.    Her response was that she didn’t want to alert the new neighbours so that was disappointing, the old nosey local racists.     There’s a track by Idles called “Model Village” a have a listed to the lyrics, so true!

Some punters have told me they feel as if they stand out, in less population diverse locations they feel conspicuous.

[Troydor69]

Punters and WGs alike have the right to chose who they meet. That said, and without knowing anything about the girl in the original post, it’s probably worth noting that many Eastern European countries are considerably less liberal when it comes race and sexuality than the UK is and I’ll admit to being somewhat shocked by the views of some EE people that I’ve worked with over the years.

Don’t take it personally, there’s no point in letting a strangers opinion ruin your mood. The good thing about punting is there’s always another one to move on to.

[hunkybc]

I think you are reading into it too much.  I don't think you can read into this in the same way as you would in social civvie life in the real world.

I have my type of WG who I prefer and I guess WGs too when it comes down to men and their size!

[versace]

If you are ever feeling down by getting rejected by a prostitute, just remind yourself, you are not the one who is sucking cock for money. That should put things into perspective and make you feel a bit better. 

[PilotMan]

If you are ever feeling down by getting rejected by a prostitute, just remind yourself, you are not the one who is sucking cock for money. That should put things into perspective and make you feel a bit better.

It looks like he's done that and moved on - he's posted two positive reviews.

Nothing like getting back in the saddle to lift your mood 

[GreyDave]

  To lighten the subject ....

Many years ago when I was a handsome guy Linda st claire  (miss Whiplash ) rejected me ....too young 

[pbrown355]

Did you mean to reply to yourself ? 

Bizarrely alabama, yes on this occasion

[uncle jessie]

Have had some AW profiles tick all the boxes for my ideal WG until I see that dreaded bit on the profile , only see men below 40 . Not going to sneak in under that radar nowadays  .

[alabama1]

Have had some AW profiles tick all the boxes for my ideal WG until I see that dreaded bit on the profile , only see men below 40 . Not going to sneak in under that radar nowadays  .

In my experience on AW, the chances of seeing this on a WG's profile is miniscule.

[Jonestown]

To lighten the subject ....

Many years ago when I was a handsome guy Linda st claire  (miss Whiplash ) rejected me ....too young 

You were lucky, she let me in and put my dick in a tie press !

[KiloRomeo]

Hey everyone I apologize in advance if this topic has been discussed already but I was unable to see anything on it.

I'm sure most of you will be familiar with the "no black clients due to previous bad experience" line on a lot of ads and I just wanted to know how other people interpreted this.

I'm not naive enough to suggest racism has been abolished in this country so is it simply that or is it related to a certain size quota? Whist I'm not black, I am coloured and I've always wondered.

Thanks in advance and apologies if I've broken any rules, I realise this could be seen as a touchy subject.

[hendrix]

There are many threads about this, here's the most recent I think:

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=369539.0

[Doc Holliday]

Hey everyone I apologize in advance if this topic has been discussed already but I was unable to see anything on it.

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=369539.0

Edit Hendrix was five seconds ahead of me 

[KiloRomeo]

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=369539.0

Edit Hendrix was five seconds ahead of me 

Thanks to both of you

[Southernbloke]

I wouldn’t even pretend to know how you feel about that op but do you prefer that girls are upfront about who they will see rather than you being turned away when you arrive at an appointment?
At the end of the day we all have different preferences especially in an intimate encounter.
Personally I don’t see girls from the far east as I don’t find them attractive

[KiloRomeo]

I wouldn’t even pretend to know how you feel about that op but do you prefer that girls are upfront about who they will see rather than you being turned away when you arrive at an appointment?
At the end of the day we all have different preferences especially in an intimate encounter.
Personally I don’t see girls from the far east as I don’t find them attractive

I do appreciate it being stated in the ad as opposed to being turned away, and I am yet to see anyone with the line in their ad, but I guess the reason for this post was to ask what reason a person might have to turn such people away. While I was born in this country, I have an Indian descent which obviously makes me slightly darker. If the reason for turning black people away is racially motivated then I want nothing to do with them, but if they genuinely have just had bad experiences or don't want to see anyone with a 9 inch cock then I suppose I can understand it somewhat.