As an avid reader of the Sun agony column - some of the letters are hilarious - this one caught my eye. I thought Deidre's advice was spot on:
There's really no need to be concerned, in fact quite the opposite, because if he's paying for sex it means he isn't having an affair. Paying an escort is just a quick, convenient bit of fun for him, and is no threat to your marriage, or your family. An affair, though...that would be the thing to worry about.
Nor does it reflect badly on you. Even if you have a perfectly fulfilling sex life, he will always want the one thing that you can never offer, which is sex with someone else. He isn't looking for someone better, he just wants someone different, once in a while. Remember when Hugh Grant was caught with his trousers down in a Hollywood lay-by? He had Liz Hurley waiting for him, but he still fancied a quickie with a cheap bit of rough. It's just part of the male biological make-up, that's all, and perfectly natural.
Anyway, you know those things he likes to do, which he probably picked up from the porn films he thinks you don't know about , that you find a bit...unsavoury? Let him do all that with a professional, then you won't have to bother. The perfect solution!
So remember what a kind, gentle, generous man he is, a loving husband and doting father, who's worked his socks off to provide for his family, and let him enjoy his little peccadilloes, and count your blessings!
Okay, that wasn't quite the advice from Deidre, but I can't help feeling it should have been.
