Asking a SP out on a date (non paid/non sex)

[Joball87]

Dangerous territory. I'm in touch with a recently "retired" SP and we have some nice meets, chat about some personal stuff etc but it's still all arms length - if you like an SP/SA hybrid. But I never delude myself that it's nothing more than the usual, albeit a little nicer, bit more authentic than when she was a full on official SP.

[Doc Holliday]

Finally, was this a fantasy playing out. This is why I started a thread, I wanted to see other people’s views. If in their view it was a fantasy playing out, I take that. Maybe it was.

Thanks for being honest. Playing out a fantasy doesn't tend to progress well on here.

If you now have a potential 'no payment non sexual date' lined up (as per the thread title) then I also wish you well. If there is no mutual sexual attraction between you though, then IMO you have a problem if you are looking for anything beyond a possible 'friendship.'

Good luck 

[Watts.E.Dunn]

I didn't. It happened to me 3 years ago ... and then after about 6 months of the most amazing times she just went off sex - with me or anyone else. We're still friends, but that's all.

From SP to wifey in a short space of time?, thats a deffo relationship thing;!!

So SP's do make for normal relationships?, whoda thunk it:...

[Doc Holliday]

I didn't. It happened to me 3 years ago ... and then after about 6 months of the most amazing times she just went off sex - with me or anyone else. We're still friends, but that's all.

I would still judge that as a positive life experience overall.

I didn't either on a number of occasions. Most were great fun but fairly short lived, until in one instance and after only a few meets, I discovered from a third party she was planning to leave her husband and move me in.

I had no real inkling of how strongly she felt. I thought we were just having fun. I backed off swearing I would not go down that road again, but it later transpired I would do so just once more.

[Hobbit]

EAS is dangerous and we have all been there. If you just want to go out on the Platonic date with her then feel free to ask but I wouldn't expect anything more as some people have suggested. It has been discussed several times on this forum and people have different views, but I would simply never ever date or marry a hooker.

[Thephoenix]

EAS is dangerous and we have all been there.

 . Not me!

[Hobbit]

. Not me!

Then you are very wise.

[Colston36]

I would still judge that as a positive life experience overall.

I didn't either on a number of occasions. Most were great fun but fairly short lived, until in one instance and after only a few meets, I discovered from a third party she was planning to leave her husband and move me in.

I had no real inkling of how strongly she felt. I thought we were just having fun. I backed off swearing I would not go down that road again, but it later transpired I would do so just once more.

Generally I like escorts, often feel affection for them, but no further: the life doesn't lend itself to reliability. 

[shed]

. Not me!

Nor me !

[Generalstockinghead]

If you do make a go of it and she stop escorting, would you stop punting?

[stewpid]

I would urge caution to the OP as I have been in a similar position a few years ago. Met a WG, things were electric from the first shag and got better the more we met, I fancied her but would never cross the barrier and ask a WG girl out. Then after one meet she asked me out and of course I was flattered and agreed and leading up to that date I stopped seeing her as a customer so there would be a gap between that and the possible start of something though we would message each other during.

Dating did not go that well and it was hard to reconcile the image we had of each other with the reality outside the bedroom and in the end I was getting the brush off so ended all contact. It took me a good 2 years to get over the headfuck of all of that and in the end I was annoyed that feelings had got in the way of what was a great regular shag.

I hope your outcome is different but be prepared for pain if it's not. 

[funfungoodguy]

The girl met you through work, she decided to hire out her body, you rented, that was the deal, both had control of the situation. Prending you can then come to know that person as a non money transaction for sex, and build in the normal personal things that we enjoy in a usual personal relationship, is a delusion. We go to a WG for sex/ fantasy/ descretely to enjoy things we can't get elsewhere, that we would likely not do with the 'personal girlfreind' type relatiosnhip. She also probably doesn't tell her mates that she's a hooker, she probably preserves a normal social network of friends separate from her 'work' contacts. The chance of the one that was sex for money, converting well into the other which is freindship/ partner/ relatioship/ known to our friends and social group, without fall out sooner or ater, is very low indeed and probably dangerous territory. Don't kid yourself. Get some new hobbies, meet people that way.   

[JustaPunter]

If you do make a go of it and she stop escorting, would you stop punting?

Why would she have to stop working?

I can see that happening at some point in the future but why would you expect it straight away?

[king tarzan]

The girl met you through work, she decided to hire out her body, you rented, that was the deal, both had control of the situation. Prending you can then come to know that person as a non money transaction for sex, and build in the normal personal things that we enjoy in a usual personal relationship, is a delusion. We go to a WG for sex/ fantasy/ descretely to enjoy things we can't get elsewhere, that we would likely not do with the 'personal girlfreind' type relatiosnhip. She also probably doesn't tell her mates that she's a hooker, she probably preserves a normal social network of friends separate from her 'work' contacts. The chance of the one that was sex for money, converting well into the other which is freindship/ partner/ relatioship/ known to our friends and social group, without fall out sooner or ater, is very low indeed and probably dangerous territory. Don't kid yourself. Get some new hobbies, meet people that way.

Absolutely eye of the 🐅 spot on!!

[Festa]

Some girls offer a package rate for dining out and a shag. I cannot see the point myself.

Do it if you want the fantasy of a 'date'

[Thephoenix]

The girl met you through work, she decided to hire out her body, you rented, that was the deal, both had control of the situation. Prending you can then come to know that person as a non money transaction for sex, and build in the normal personal things that we enjoy in a usual personal relationship, is a delusion. We go to a WG for sex/ fantasy/ descretely to enjoy things we can't get elsewhere, that we would likely not do with the 'personal girlfreind' type relatiosnhip. She also probably doesn't tell her mates that she's a hooker, she probably preserves a normal social network of friends separate from her 'work' contacts. The chance of the one that was sex for money, converting well into the other which is freindship/ partner/ relatioship/ known to our friends and social group, without fall out sooner or ater, is very low indeed and probably dangerous territory. Don't kid yourself. Get some new hobbies, meet people that way.

I assume your speaking from personal experience then???

[Punting2022]

If you do make a go of it and she stop escorting, would you stop punting?

If this was me then yes, i would stop punting and i would want the girl to stop escorting.

What husband/partner can be Ok with his wife/Gf shagging random men for money. As a man i would provide for both in the relationship.

Good luck OP. but dont get hurt. Keep an open mind

[versace]

If this was me then yes, i would stop punting and i would want the girl to stop escorting.

What husband/partner can be Ok with his wife/Gf shagging random men for money. As a man i would provide for both in the relationship.

Good luck OP. but dont get hurt. Keep an open mind

  Everyone watch out, we got a real knight here with his horse and all!

[akauya]

If this was me then yes, i would stop punting and i would want the girl to stop escorting.

What husband/partner can be Ok with his wife/Gf shagging random men for money. As a man i would provide for both in the relationship.

Good luck OP. but dont get hurt. Keep an open mind

You really need to get some life experience a bit, are you very young? You'd be surprised that there are plenty of men who don't mind their wives/GF shagging other men for money, hell there are some who don't mind them shagging other men for free (and actively encourage it - have you heard of swinging, BDSM and cuckolds?)

Try not to be too judgemental, life is not black and white.

[alabama1]

If this was me then yes, i would stop punting and i would want the girl to stop escorting.

What husband/partner can be Ok with his wife/Gf shagging random men for money. As a man i would provide for both in the relationship.

Good luck OP. but dont get hurt. Keep an open mind

You assume a lot mate. Stop trying to advise members on here . and you will more likely be accepted 

[JonasG]

The girl met you through work, she decided to hire out her body, you rented, that was the deal, both had control of the situation. Prending you can then come to know that person as a non money transaction for sex, and build in the normal personal things that we enjoy in a usual personal relationship, is a delusion. We go to a WG for sex/ fantasy/ descretely to enjoy things we can't get elsewhere, that we would likely not do with the 'personal girlfreind' type relatiosnhip. She also probably doesn't tell her mates that she's a hooker, she probably preserves a normal social network of friends separate from her 'work' contacts. The chance of the one that was sex for money, converting well into the other which is freindship/ partner/ relatioship/ known to our friends and social group, without fall out sooner or ater, is very low indeed and probably dangerous territory. Don't kid yourself. Get some new hobbies, meet people that way.

Spot on.

Keep escorts and your social lives separate.

[lillythesavage]

You really need to get some life experience a bit, are you very young? You'd be surprised that there are plenty of men who don't mind their wives/GF shagging other men for money, hell there are some who don't mind them shagging other men for free (and actively encourage it - have you heard of swinging, BDSM and cuckolds?)

Try not to be too judgemental, life is not black and white.

But he will provide for everything  .

I have only once been in a monogamous LTR, it was the only one that ended badly 

[king tarzan]

You really need to get some life experience a bit, are you very young? You'd be surprised that there are plenty of men who don't mind their wives/GF shagging other men for money, hell there are some who don't mind them shagging other men for free (and actively encourage it - have you heard of swinging, BDSM and cuckolds?)

Try not to be too judgemental, life is not black and white.

Those men who don't mind are lowlife, should be ashamed of themselves.. a shit stain on being a man.. more than likely ponce love glued to the money..

Brutal hard cold facts

[daviemac]

Those men who don't mind are lowlife, should be ashamed of themselves.. a shit stain on being a man.. more than likely ponce love glued to the money..

Brutal hard cold facts

If anybody should be ashamed of themselves it's you. 

You think you are the big macho man when in reality you are anything but. Any decent human being would accept the life choices of others whether they agree or not.

You want to force your ideals on every one else and that is not what a decent man does. A world without tolerance like you strive for would be a vey sad place indeed. 

[king tarzan]

If anybody should be ashamed of themselves it's you. 

You think you are the big macho man when in reality you are anything but. Any decent human being would accept the life choices of others whether they agree or not.

You want to force your ideals on every one else and that is not what a decent man does. A world without tolerance like you strive for would be a vey sad place indeed.

Agree to disagree on this 1

[daviemac]

Agree to disagree on this 1

The more you post the more you show what type of person you really are. You hero worship tossers who, cheat, take drugs, assault children, are general lowilfes and are the epitemy of how not to live your life.

BTW I am giving my opinion of you after experiencing what you post on this forum, unlike you who form opinions of others when you have no experience of them at all.

[king tarzan]

The more you post the more you show what type of person you really are. You hero worship tossers who, cheat, take drugs, assault children, are general lowilfes and are the epitemy of how not to live your life.

BTW I am giving my opinion of you after experiencing what you post on this forum, unlike you who form opinions of others when you have no experience of them at all.

All that aside.. you will give them 👍👍👍👍for being best of the best in history..

That agreed on 👍👍👍

[puntingpumping1920]

"I'm in love with a Hooker"

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[daviemac]

All that aside.. you will give them 👍👍👍👍for being best of the best in history..

That agreed on 👍👍👍

Nope, they are tossers, has the all time premier league goalscorer ever been found to take drugs, has he ever assaulted a child, has he ever refused to play or spat his dummy out and left the stadium early because he was left on the bench, errr no.

BTW in his last game in charge Ruud Gullit left Alan Shearer on the bench against Sunderland, one of the most intense derby games in the country, but him being a true professional he went on as a sub when told, he didn't spit his dummy out and go home.

There's loads of other top players who are also decent human beings not like the ones you hero worship. 

[Jamesbattersea]

Op, i have 3 regular SPs that i communicate with on a personnal level all the time i take them little prezzies, bring them lunch, do little DIY jobs fo them, i'm even going round in my van tomorrow to help one of them move house, these freindly gestures have there advantages one girl has cooked me dinner a couple of times before and she's a good cook,, i quite often go way over the time i'vd paid for cos if they have nowhere to be or no others punters coming soon it's often nice for them to sit and have a friendly chat as their working day can be long, boring and sometimes they get a nobhead and it's good for them to have someone to vent to. It's nice to be nice and i want to beleave in karma. I don't however feel i'm ever going to have anything more than a profesional personnal relationship with them, because i a bit older than them, i'm married, i m fat and ugly. I enjoy their company and that's it.

You should ask yourself
Are you ready for rejection?
Could your mental state handle her saying no?
Are you married with kids are you going to hurt anybody else?
Could you really handle her carrying on as a WG?

However saying all this i'm friends with a WG that fell for a punter and now 7 years later she's married to him with a baby on the way. She still works part time with his blessing I even know him and he's a really nice bloke. So it can happen  you just need to make sure your ready for it which ever way the dice rolls!

[Payyourwaymate]

"I'm in love with a Hooker"

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  I should not be laughing considering I got into an emotional entanglement with one but still...LOL.

[Thephoenix]

Those men who don't mind are lowlife, should be ashamed of themselves.. a shit stain on being a man.. more than likely ponce love glued to the money..

Brutal hard cold facts

You posted a while ago that these are nonsense relationships and can't be classified as a couple.
I'll ask again....What do you classify as a couple?


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[puntingpumping1920]

I should not be laughing considering I got into an emotional entanglement with one but still...LOL.

Damn, what happened

[king tarzan]

You posted a while ago that these are nonsense relationships and can't be classified as a couple.
I'll ask again....What do you classify as a couple?


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What a lovely photo 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Doc Holliday]

I should not be laughing considering I got into an emotional entanglement with one but still...LOL.

In nearly 20 years of following this subject on punting forums, yours has to be one of the most 'ironic' cases I have ever read   

[Doc Holliday]

You posted a while ago that these are nonsense relationships and can't be classified as a couple.
I'll ask again....What do you classify as a couple?


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That image is just giving him wanking material 

[Hobbit]

Those men who don't mind are lowlife, should be ashamed of themselves.. a shit stain on being a man.. more than likely ponce love glued to the money..

Brutal hard cold facts

Have to agree with you but I wouldn't have put it in those words. Everyone has the choice to do what they want and as a man, I certainly wouldn't be happy if my wife or girlfriend was seeing other men. The people that are usually happy with that kind of thing are usually driven by a high level of sexual desire and certain traditional values go out the window.

For me in a relationship, certain values are non-negotiable.

[Payyourwaymate]

Damn, what happened

I got caught off guard bro, I thought we were friends, she wanted more next thing I know, I was in a mad situation. It's not sweet, the amount of man that have stared at me with her like how?! or yeah he is lucky or "the man" to be with such an attractive woman and they couldn't see the confusion and pain of how I ended up in such a situation in my eyes lol. Sometimes in life we get caught slipping and take losses LOL. My fault of course, I have to take accountability. Anyway, moral of the story is stay away from falling into emotional entanglements with SPs.

[Payyourwaymate]

In nearly 20 years of following this subject on punting forums, yours has to be one of the most 'ironic' cases I have ever read   

I know... I know  .

[Tender.french.kiss]

If this was me then yes, i would stop punting and i would want the girl to stop escorting.

or maybe start punting and treat us with a review?

[Punting2022]

or maybe start punting and treat us with a review?

Trying to find a girl, Money does not grow on trees nowadays. Have to make sure I give my money to the right one.  Review will come soon.

Im not simply going to waste it on some random. I am close to booking someone, just need that final push and will see her and review.

[Thephoenix]

That image is just giving him wanking material 

I realised after I'd posted the picture.
I'd made it easy for him.
I should have left it as an open question, but he probably wouldn't have answered.

[Thephoenix]

In nearly 20 years of following this subject on punting forums, yours has to be one of the most 'ironic' cases I have ever read   

Thinking the same remembering his previous posts vehemently denying such an arrangement was even possible.

[Thephoenix]

How can these categories even be classified as couples..
Nonsense relationship's is more the appropriate terms

I'll try one last time KT.
What do you classify as a couple?

[JustaPunter]

Trying to find a girl, Money does not grow on trees nowadays. Have to make sure I give my money to the right one.  Review will come soon.

Im not simply going to waste it on some random. I am close to booking someone, just need that final push and will see her and review.

If you can’t scrape together £70/80 then no point being on a punting related forum really is there?

Maybe MoneySavingExpert would be better?

[Festa]

Trying to find a girl, Money does not grow on trees nowadays. Have to make sure I give my money to the right one.  Review will come soon.

Im not simply going to waste it on some random. I am close to booking someone, just need that final push and will see her and review.

This could be a Mills and Boon storyline... A tortured romantic waiting for the right one.

[Punting2022]

If you can’t scrape together £70/80 then no point being on a punting related forum really is there?

Maybe MoneySavingExpert would be better?

Most model girls are about 300 to 450 upwards.
Im not paying for a dirty chav

[bnhdgsn]

Most model girls are about 300 to 450 upwards.
Im not paying for a dirty chav

I was tending to be sympathetic until that.

[daviemac]

Most model girls are about 300 to 450 upwards.
Im not paying for a dirty chav

So you think the more you pay the better the experience??     There's no correlation between price and quality.

[finn5555]

Most model girls are about 300 to 450 upwards.

Mugs game paying that