How do you pace yourself on longer punts - to make it last?

[tigerbiker]

I normally go for 15 or 30 min appointments, mainly to go low cost but also because I know I finish the deed quicker than I would sometimes imagine in my head before I get there. So many times I leave long before time is up.

I avoid SPs who have a set pattern of play (which is how many SPs pace things to fit the time). I like to take the lead and fill the time with what I want (I don't like massages which I know is used as "time padding" by some SPs).

I just get carried away and even in 30 min bookings, I can end up with cock in pussy after 6 or 7 mins and a spunky condom by the time the 10th minute has arrived (I'm a one pop guy). More than half the 30 min punt then ends up chatting about crap which seems like a waste of dirty punting time - pity I can't take it as credit and get a free fuck on a different day with the left over time (now there is a marketing opportunity for escorts - time credit banking?)

Before I get to a punt, I imagine what I'm going to do - slow build with all my dirty fantasies carried out - but when I get going, I get my hand in their knickers in the first 30 seconds, then a minute of fingering, 30 seconds of nipple licking, 2 min bj and then I'm raring to fuck and the spunk shows up. Part of my problem could be due to my ex-wife who complained that I took too long to fuck her - if I had not cum in 3 mins from the first wet finger she would announce that sex was cancelled because she was tired - so I always got in quickly when the juice was showing.

I have just booked an hour with a new SP - I have it in my head that I'm going to have drawn out bj, ro and lingering filthy time playing with her pussy and tits that will fill the hour - how can I save the fucking and spunk ejaculation until at least the second half?

I've done blow'n'go/15 min P&D and ironically, they can feel rushed and unfulfilling.

How do you pace yourself to get full VFM?

[IAmNotFamous]

If I pop in 15 minutes within a 30 minute booking and I enjoyed myself, I don’t really care.

Just enjoy the moment.

Otherwise you risk being unable to unload in 30 minutes thinking about it.

Truth be told, anyone who works out (two and a half hours each week sweating) will be fit enough to last long.

[signy]

How do you pace yourself to get full VFM?

It's been said before, but the point should be to have good time and come away satisfied, not to chase some mythical "value for money" that depends on a range of factors, not just when you ejaculate.

I am not sure why you are booking an hour if you can only last 15 minutes, but in any case there are a few things you can do to help. Firstly, tell your SP that you will only come once; in an hour's booking many people will want to (at least) twice and the SP can rush the first go to ensure time for the second, which is not what you want. Otherwise, try some other activites that don't involve penetrative sex, such as a shared shower or a tie-and-tease session, and maximise the time enjoying her body rather than rushing to sex.

The SP is not your wife, she is there to give you a good time, but for this to happen open communication is key; tell her what you want.

[BobbyDazzler99]

I normally go for 15 or 30 min appointments, mainly to go low cost but also because I know I finish the deed quicker than I would sometimes imagine in my head before I get there. So many times I leave long before time is up.

I avoid SPs who have a set pattern of play (which is how many SPs pace things to fit the time). I like to take the lead and fill the time with what I want (I don't like massages which I know is used as "time padding" by some SPs).

I just get carried away and even in 30 min bookings, I can end up with cock in pussy after 6 or 7 mins and a spunky condom by the time the 10th minute has arrived (I'm a one pop guy). More than half the 30 min punt then ends up chatting about crap which seems like a waste of dirty punting time - pity I can't take it as credit and get a free fuck on a different day with the left over time (now there is a marketing opportunity for escorts - time credit banking?)

Before I get to a punt, I imagine what I'm going to do - slow build with all my dirty fantasies carried out - but when I get going, I get my hand in their knickers in the first 30 seconds, then a minute of fingering, 30 seconds of nipple licking, 2 min bj and then I'm raring to fuck and the spunk shows up. Part of my problem could be due to my ex-wife who complained that I took too long to fuck her - if I had not cum in 3 mins from the first wet finger she would announce that sex was cancelled because she was tired - so I always got in quickly when the juice was showing.

I have just booked an hour with a new SP - I have it in my head that I'm going to have drawn out bj, ro and lingering filthy time playing with her pussy and tits that will fill the hour - how can I save the fucking and spunk ejaculation until at least the second half?

I've done blow'n'go/15 min P&D and ironically, they can feel rushed and unfulfilling.

How do you pace yourself to get full VFM?

I feel your pain. If I go at it as soon as I’m hard I can pretty much cum on request.

I tend to take it slow, just get a standard massage to kill some time then try to fill the time with a bit of RO. Each time I feel like I’m about to bust, I would stop & then change positions,. I have found that doggy doesn’t stimulate as quick so you tend to last longer (for me anyway). Get the SP to get on all 4s whilst you’re standing on the floor not on your knees on the bed. For some reason this doesn’t put much friction on your cock so you can have a bit of fun. Again switch positions till you’ve had enough & times running out then go for home run!

If you find the right SP & become a regular the more you see her the longer you could last as you could build up an understanding

Hope this helps.

[sim0256]

Go for an hour and ask for REAL GFE, ie. some touching and exploring on the bed to start and don't rush it.  I also (prob due to age) am now a one pop guy but always go an hour. Tell them what I like and that I want to take it slow.  Ask for an outfit you like when booking and tell them you wish to remove it at your pace, same goes with your clothes. Plenty of kissing and touching both ways and then down to a nice long BJ (always OWO) some RO and anything you like. Know what position will make you come quickest and leave that to end when you can't hold it any longer. 

The point I'm really making is get a girl who you can talk to about what you want and need and don't go if they seem to work to routine, should they start into a routine stop them as say thats not what you want. Girls with little English will always work to a routine. The correct girl may cost a little more but will be worth it in the long run.  I've been told a girl would rather you tell what you want rather than you  getting there and getting them naked and jumping on.

take your time and good luck>

[occasionally-south]

What do you actually want from your punts?

If you want to fuck for longer, have a wank before?

If you're not getting enough sex, try a 15-minute on day 1 to empty your balls, then a 30-minute or longer the next day so you will be able to hold back a bit?

You'll have to work out what works for you. I could have several wanks but not scratch the need-a-fuck itch at all...whereas after I've cum in a girl, I'm *done*.

[Adoniron]

I used to do one hour punts when I could cum twice but now I stick to 30 minutes, unless it's a massage with extras meet when I'm only going to get to cum once anyway. In a 30 minutes meet I find I can control when I cum pretty well, often much to the frustration of an SP who is trying to get me off ASAP.

[jimbobted]

We've all been there.
I find if I'm anxious or nervous for some reason I seem to blow my load early.

I fairly often do longer 3 or 4 hour bookings and will usually only pop twice in those. The key I've found is plenty of foreplay and DFK. A blowjob to get me going. Now if I just fucked from that point I'd be finished a few minutes. When I feel the sap rising I slow down, take a break go back to fingering/RO/BJ for a while then start again. Might have to do that a couple of times but then I find I can last a decent time. I guess it's a bit like edging.
Round 2 is usually much easier and I can pump away for a very long time, usually penetration in round 2 won't actually get me there so I finished with OWO/CIM or wanking onto her tits or face.

[PilotMan]

Some excellent advice from everyone!

I've found that if I over think it and try to hold back, I end up not coming at all.

What I try to do now is take it real slow with as much foreplay as possible. I like to get the girl on top first as this is the least likely position for me to cum. Then I switch to either doggie or mish, once the sap rises I need to let it go. If I hold on for a change of position it usually ends up in frustration.

Some SP's genuinely want you to cum and see that as their duty, so they'll keep sucking and wanking until it happens. i.e. Katrina Latina. The majority don't care and are happy to finish as soon as I give up.

I've also noticed that I have to REALLY fancy the girl to come in penetration as opposed to CIM or COB. So I "try" to walk from punts if I don't fancy the girl.

I would rather book an hour and leave at 30 minutes, than book for 30 minutes and feel a time pressure.

The thought of making a 15 minute booking is too much pressure.

[jimbobted]

It's been said before, but the point should be to have good time and come away satisfied, not to chase some mythical "value for money" that depends on a range of factors, not just when you ejaculate.

Don't know about OP, but for me short duration isn't worth the hassle and effort of arranging the punt, creating a cover story, shuffling work commitments around etc etc etc.
I'm not going to do all that for a 30 minute pump and dump. 1 hour minimum for me, preferably longer. And having paid for that time I want to make the fireworks last more than 15 minutes.

[JonasG]

If you want to long out 30 minute punts you've just got to do more foreplay.
Moving onto intercourse after 6 minutes is way too quick.

Spend a good chunk kissing standing up/groping and all that, then BJ and then add RO to the session and this will take up a good amount of time.

Then more kissing and BJ after the RO and only then move onto sex and by then it's like 25 minutes when you cum.

[alabama1]

If you want to long out 30 minute punts you've just got to do more foreplay.
Moving onto intercourse after 6 minutes is way too quick.

Spend a good chunk kissing standing up/groping and all that, then BJ and then add RO to the session and this will take up a good amount of time.

Then more kissing and BJ after the RO and only then move onto sex and by then it's like 25 minutes when you cum.

This in a nutshell. I can't get my head around the OP not grasping this. It's not rocket science.

[DeeptoSleep]

Not easy for me to free up time so not keen on shorter meets and I'm conscious that the excitement and build up will always get the better of me so tend to go for a quick first pop. The can relax and build up to the 2nd slowly, admittedly getting more challenging in my old age!

[MissWolf]

Explain to the SP the issues youbare having then book an hour, get the first shot out nice and quick then do some tie and tease till he's straining at the leash to go again, a good sp will include lots of edging in the tie and tease then finish you off with a few mins to spare for the clean up.

Alternatively have a wank an hour before to take the edge off and prolong the foreplay, don't go for the fuck till 20+ mins into a booking.

[IAmNotFamous]

I can’t stress this much. I’m not a doctor or employed by the NHS.

Before I went on a keep fit regime, I had these issues.

Since going on a fitness regime (2.5 hours a week), I find myself being able to get down to business and last very very long. 

[lillythesavage]

If you want to long out 30 minute punts you've just got to do more foreplay.
Moving onto intercourse after 6 minutes is way too quick.

Spend a good chunk kissing standing up/groping and all that, then BJ and then add RO to the session and this will take up a good amount of time.

Then more kissing and BJ after the RO and only then move onto sex and by then it's like 25 minutes when you cum.

Exactly, P&D with little or no foreplay have a place though  , obviously not working for the OP so choosing right and following your advice should help.

[Johnnyb0y]

If it’s first meet then I will only do 30 minutes to save money if the chemistry is shit.  I have learned the hard way but try to stick with WGs with positive ratings on UKP.

For me the tempo of the punt is always driven by the WG e.g. they are only human and if they have had the bad luck to have had arseholes and wankers before you then can put them in negative mood and we all have days when we just get up on the wrong side of the bed 

If I like the look of the WG will go for 5 mins of DFK and exploring bodies
5/7 minutes of OWO but if this is toothy or shit technique will fast track to CG
5 minutes in CG and kissing breasts with DFK if on offer. CG in my experience is the sex position at highest risk of being rejected by the WG but I try and and gage that from feedback on this site
5 minutes in doggy
5 minutes in mish and load into the bag

Above is my average and preferred experience.  If the chemistry / vibe is bad then I just try and get what I can e.g P&D

I agree with earlier comments about this being a selfish hobby so best to not overthink and just go with the moment to enjoy best you can.

[lamboman]

Alternatively have a wank an hour before to take the edge off

And diminish any subsequent pleasure.

[jimbobted]

Alternatively have a wank an hour before to take the edge off

That would probably result in me losing the horn and not wanting to punt at all.

[Moby Dick]

I struggle to cum in 30minute bookings.
Need longer, but that is probably an age / experience thing.

If you want to last longer close your eyes and think of Nora Batty and her wrinkled face / stockings:

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If that don’t work, think about sounding bars:

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Problem is: if you try and control or delay your cumming, you will just end up not cumming so readily when you get older. Will cost you more as you have no choice to book an hour and need a finger up your ass and two mouths around your cock before just about managing to dribble a third of a teaspoon.

[Adoniron]

That would probably result in me losing the horn and not wanting to punt at all.

Yes might as well just save the money and go to the pub.

[alabama1]

Explain to the SP the issues youbare having then book an hour, get the first shot out nice and quick then do some tie and tease till he's straining at the leash to go again, a good sp will include lots of edging in the tie and tease then finish you off with a few mins to spare for the clean up.

Alternatively have a wank an hour before to take the edge off and prolong the foreplay, don't go for the fuck till 20+ mins into a booking.

What you don't seem to realise (and i am quite surprised as you do not appear to be a novice in this industry) is, having a wank not only relieves a man physically, but also mentally too. So, physically, he may well have recovered in an hour, and as you say, with the edge taken off, but mentally he may well have lost the desire to have sex for maybe 24 hours.

[PilotMan]

What you don't seem to realise (and i am quite surprised as you do not appear to be a novice in this industry) is, having a wank not only relieves a man physically, but also mentally too. So, physically, he may well have recovered in an hour, and as you say, with the edge taken off, but mentally he may well have lost the desire to have sex for maybe 24 hours.

+1

[tp69]

What you don't seem to realise (and i am quite surprised as you do not appear to be a novice in this industry) is, having a wank not only relieves a man physically, but also mentally too. So, physically, he may well have recovered in an hour, and as you say, with the edge taken off, but mentally he may well have lost the desire to have sex for maybe 24 hours.

By saying 'what you don't realise' suggests she's wrong, which is not necessarily the case as it'll depend on the individual.

Personally, having a wank doesn't diminish my desire at all, and on the contrary, the 2nd time I cum is stronger, and the 3rd is even stronger. It's relative.

[frankc]

Drive the punt the way you want it, take control and change positions regularly...I've also found edging when you have a wank helps

[MissWolf]

What you don't seem to realise (and i am quite surprised as you do not appear to be a novice in this industry) is, having a wank not only relieves a man physically, but also mentally too. So, physically, he may well have recovered in an hour, and as you say, with the edge taken off, but mentally he may well have lost the desire to have sex for maybe 24 hours.

I hear you and accept we are not all the same, I may have been to precise in my advice of an hour before, my intention was not to lessen the drive but to make it more manageable and less frantic.

I'm not unaware of the results of having a wank on some men but there will be many others for which it has the opposite effect by taking the edge off the physical but not the mental.

It works the same with women, a lot of them achieve orgasm and are done, physically and mentally,  others like myself get hornier the more orgasms I have, when I've cum during a booking I often then bring myself off again afterwards as I'm so wound up, it doesn't lessen I just get more rampant 

As with any advice the reader needs to take away what is useful to them or that they think will work for them and discard the rest, if he thinks it may help its something he can try, if it does then great, if not no harm done move on.

[jonny6612]

If you want to long out 30 minute punts you've just got to do more foreplay.
Moving onto intercourse after 6 minutes is way too quick.

Spend a good chunk kissing standing up/groping and all that, then BJ and then add RO to the session and this will take up a good amount of time.

Then more kissing and BJ after the RO and only then move onto sex and by then it's like 25 minutes when you cum.

A good topic raised by the OP.  Some great advice with numerous good points, but the above post summarises my ideal 30 minute punt.  I only enjoy penetration for a few minutes, and I cant last too long in penetration anyway if i really fancy the SP. 

I love foreplay, and i want the full time.   The problem is a lot of SP's don't really allow it and basically insist on penetration literally 5 minutes in to the booking.  I've had several ladies tell me i've paid for oral and penetration, not to suck their tits etc.  At a place overseas, you need to pay quite a large supplement if you want any foreplay - even on 1 hour bookings they expect only to give a blowjob and penetrate. 

[alabama1]

I hear you and accept we are not all the same, I may have been to precise in my advice of an hour before, my intention was not to lessen the drive but to make it more manageable and less frantic.

I'm not unaware of the results of having a wank on some men but there will be many others for which it has the opposite effect by taking the edge off the physical but not the mental.

It works the same with women, a lot of them achieve orgasm and are done, physically and mentally,  others like myself get hornier the more orgasms I have, when I've cum during a booking I often then bring myself off again afterwards as I'm so wound up, it doesn't lessen I just get more rampant 

As with any advice the reader needs to take away what is useful to them or that they think will work for them and discard the rest, if he thinks it may help its something he can try, if it does then great, if not no harm done move on.

So, we have both learned a little from each others posts then, (me more than you probably). Thanks for your informative reply. 

[Stevelondon]

“How do you pace yourself to get full VFM”


I don’t.
Maybe in my younger days I would be thinking along those lines. But as time goes on and I’ve gotten older. My tastes and kinks have changed somewhat.
The days of me wanting a two pop encounter are gone and I simply don’t see sucking and fucking as being the be all and end all of my punts.

We are all different of course but as far as the OP is concerned. I would go along with the others who have suggested perhaps just enjoying the punt rather than wanting it to last longer because you’ve paid for it……. So to speak.
Value for money is not always about time.


Then again. If you want hints at how to stop yourself from cumming too quickly and therefore making the shag last longer. Thinking of Margaret Thatcher lowering herself onto my face…….. always worked for me 

[HailWood]

Try reciting (in your head or the SP will think you’ve cracked up) the 1966 England World Cup winning team. 

[JonasG]

A good topic raised by the OP.  Some great advice with numerous good points, but the above post summarises my ideal 30 minute punt.  I only enjoy penetration for a few minutes, and I cant last too long in penetration anyway if i really fancy the SP. 

I love foreplay, and i want the full time.   The problem is a lot of SP's don't really allow it and basically insist on penetration literally 5 minutes in to the booking.  I've had several ladies tell me i've paid for oral and penetration, not to suck their tits etc.  At a place overseas, you need to pay quite a large supplement if you want any foreplay - even on 1 hour bookings they expect only to give a blowjob and penetrate.

Indeed, my perfect punt is 15 minutes foreplay with 10-15 minutes penetration and then just cum the once.

Tbh, thanks to this forum and if you stick to the well reviewed great GFE WGs I more often than not have the ideal 30 minute punt. The great GFE WGs with lots of positives all more often than not provide great foreplay consistently.

Certainly in the days where i would do TOFTT punts etc. I'd encounter those shit P+D WGs but now I stay clear of that.

[PilotMan]

I agree with Stevelondon, value isn't always about time and trying to eke out every last possible position and every moment of time and multiple pops.

I would rather pay for a one hour punt and leave after 30 minutes, it takes the pressure of rushing through every position and action.

[Stevelondon]

I agree with Stevelondon, value isn't always about time and trying to eke out every last possible position and every moment of time and multiple pops.

I would rather pay for a one hour punt and leave after 30 minutes, it takes the pressure of rushing through every position and action.

I think there is a lot to be said in that. Of course as we are all well aware. We all want different things in this punting world and as much as I admire someone with the stamina to shag for what seems an eternity, 
I can't.
Not anymore anyway (says with fingers crossed behind his back)

I'm more than happy to explain things to a new SP I am seeing. In the hope she will extend things in an hours booking, so to speak,
Good ones do.
I spent a lovely hour with Jaimee who indulged my love to worship and be teased before the actual fuck.
It worked out fine but if it had ended after 45 minutes I would still have thought it money well spent rather than think of a lost 15 minutes.

But as I always say. Each to their own way of thinking.

[MissWolf]

So, we have both learned a little from each others posts then, (me more than you probably). Thanks for your informative reply. 

 

[jonny6612]

Indeed, my perfect punt is 15 minutes foreplay with 10-15 minutes penetration and then just cum the once.

Tbh, thanks to this forum and if you stick to the well reviewed great GFE WGs I more often than not have the ideal 30 minute punt. The great GFE WGs with lots of positives all more often than not provide great foreplay consistently.

Certainly in the days where i would do TOFTT punts etc. I'd encounter those shit P+D WGs but now I stay clear of that.

Yes, you're absolutely right. 

Unfortunately, the majority of my infrequent punts have often been TOFTT at the low priced Manchester parlours.  I used to have great GFE style punts at parlours which have now closed, and I keep thinking that I'll find a similar service at the places still operating.  Unfortunately, it's just not happening.  I'm glad the OP starting this topic, as it's made me think and i will now try and stick to some of the well reviewed GFE SP's. 

I don't agree with those saying time spent is almost irrelevant; i can't get enough of the foreplay so i want the full time i've booked.  But, as has been said, each to their own.