Lust for life!

[Romeo Sensini]

Anyone else struggle to keep themselves up beat?

[cotton]

Think its the change of season Romeo , everything will be ok , autumn is the best time of the year 

[standardpostage]

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This will make you feel better. Very upbeat 

[Thephoenix]

Well you do look a miserable sod Romeo.

Personally I wouldn't say I struggle, but I do always try and look on the bright side and count my blessings.

We have to experience sadness to know what happiness is don't we?

No one can be happy all the time unless they're bonkers.

[Romeo Sensini]

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This will make you feel better. Very upbeat 

Nope.

But typing "nope" made me smile so cheers for that 

[Gordon Bennett]

Who says you have to be upbeat Romeo? It's your life, you're free to present whatever version of yourself to the world you choose. Straining and contorting to put out an unnatural version of yourself will probably make you tense and ill. Much better to relax and be yourself.

[mr.bluesky]

S.A.D seasonaly adjusted depression.  Go out and punt more is the best remedy  , people do feel more down during the winter. Less daylight hours, cold miserable weather. What is there to look forward to  apart from weekend punting 

[tynetunnel]

Anyone else struggle to keep themselves up beat?

Yes a little, I have been unwell lately and it’s taken a toll on me mentally, along with the Covid/Brexit/Fuel/lorry driver crap we are all enduring. I always find I feel better with something to look forward to. If you are able, I suggest booking a holiday somewhere next year and then print off some pics of the destination, and the date and stick it up on the back of the loo door or similar location: out of the way but where when you see it, it’ll be a nice surprise all over again as you are reminded of the impending trip.

I hope you feel better soon my friend 

[Watts.E.Dunn]

S.A.D seasonaly adjusted depression.  Go out and punt more is the best remedy  , people do feel more down during the winter. Less daylight hours, cold miserable weather. What is there to look forward to  apart from weekend punting 

Umm ... Its Seasonaly Affected Disorder! And yes slack of sunlight!, its a real sod in places like Finland and the like all those long winter dark days.

An ex lady friend of mine her brothers wife she was from there topped herself because of it:(..

[mr.bluesky]

Umm ... Its Seasonaly Affected Disorder! And yes slack of sunlight!, its a real sod in places like Finland and the like all those long winter dark days.

I knew it was something like that  should have googled it first. Ignore the ramblings of an old man 
Keep your pecker up Romeo remember every cloud has a silver lining,  there's always light at the end of the tunnel  and all those other nonsensical sayings   

[binbag]

Lust is what makes life worth living/lusting after.

[Genesis42777]

Anyone else struggle to keep themselves up beat?

Greetings RS 
                                    Iam totally with you buddy..iam 60 and i find it difficult to keep upbeat at times to.I think there is massive presure on people i remember back in the 80,s life just seemed so much simpler.But as iam getting older iam working more hours than i ever did,there just seems to be so much insecurity over work and people seem to want so much more i think there is a definite in-balance there.And people are way more disrespectful to one and another.

So yes buddy..i know were your coming from

Regards G 

[Gordon Bennett]

I knew it was something like that  should have googled it first. Ignore the ramblings of an old man 
Keep your pecker up Romeo remember every cloud has a silver lining,  there's always light at the end of the tunnel  and all those other nonsensical sayings   

Yes. I'd forgotten the nonsensical "motivational" sayings, they're horrific aren't they!?

I suspect you could actually tip a depressed person over the edge simply by saying "cheer up! It may never happen!!" or the truly appalling "hey buddy, why don't you turn that frown upside down!?".

[binbag]

"mustn't grumble"

[JamesKW]

Think its the change of season Romeo , everything will be ok , autumn is the best time of the year 

I thought seasonal disorder didnt start until January,personally I am quite upbeat as I have gone full steam ahead into stuff I havent done for the last year and a half (this doesnt include prossies,as I did that) I would only be downbeat if we ever have to go into lockdown again.

[Blackpool Rock]

I thought seasonal disorder didnt start until January,personally I am quite upbeat as I have gone full steam ahead into stuff I havent done for the last year and a half (this doesnt include prossies,as I did that) I would only be downbeat if we ever have to go into lockdown again.

Think it's different for everyone, I used to get it years ago sometime in Oct / Nov and sometimes it was like flicking a switch between being happy and a few minutes later being really down, it happened like that if something triggered it.
Used to start feeling better once spring came so usually April / May time but I can recall once still feeling shit in June, perhaps it was just depression as there was a lot of shit going on in my life back then.

It was like I started going into hibernation and was excessively tired all the time, permanently felt like i'd had a couple of pints my head was just fuzzy 
I have to say though since I started exercising and going to the gym plus eating plenty of fresh fruit i've never had it since and that is 20 years ago, exercise as they say is a great medicine as it kick starts your body 

As a more general though I have thought in the last few years my zest has waned, I no longer wake up at weekends on a bright sunny day in May full of enthusiasm and vigour to get out and about so that i make the most of it while it's good weather, perhaps that's just getting old, you have to start slowing down some time 

[LLPunting]

Check out the latest report on BBC News about the "explosion" of Happiness Coaches over lockdown, that'll depress you.   

[JamesKW]

Check out the latest report on BBC News about the "explosion" of Happiness Coaches over lockdown, that'll depress you.   

Yes this is an industry that became quite big before COVID,wellness,spirtuality etc,it is very big amongst young middle classes helping with their now perceived mental issues they all have nowdays.It still exists but it seems to be one of those industries frightened to leave Zoom.

[Colston36]

Anyone else struggle to keep themselves up beat?

Don't cut your ear off! "Lust for Life" was a film about Van Gogh.

But seriously, I too alternate between joy and gloom. Many of us do. Especially as we get older - me being 85.

Exercise cheers you up, by the way. There's a huge amount of research that shows that.

[Stevelondon]

Don't cut your ear off! "Lust for Life" was a film about Van Gogh.

But seriously, I too alternate between joy and gloom. Many of us do. Especially as we get older - me being 85.

Exercise cheers you up, by the way. There's a huge amount of research that shows that.

I think your right Colston. Its all to easy to sit and wallow, which just makes things worse in my opinion.
I'm getting on a bit too but my problem is that I have never really grown up. The body is becomming weary and god help me I try not to look in mirrors anymore. But a bit of exercise is good for you.
I usually take a drive down to the park and sit and watch the joggers.....does me the world of good.

Joking,,,,,,,,

[lillythesavage]

Yes a little, I have been unwell lately and it’s taken a toll on me mentally, along with the Covid/Brexit/Fuel/lorry driver crap we are all enduring. I always find I feel better with something to look forward to. If you are able, I suggest booking a holiday somewhere next year and then print off some pics of the destination, and the date and stick it up on the back of the loo door or similar location: out of the way but where when you see it, it’ll be a nice surprise all over again as you are reminded of the impending trip.

I hope you feel better soon my friend 

In exactly the same boat, not helped by ignoring it for some time because of the news of the NHS being in a terrible state and thinking looking for treatment was a waste of time.

The truth is very different, my GP referred me to A&E, had blood tests within 20 minutes of arriving, results in 2 hours, a CT scan at 9am the following morning and told to book an ECG by phone, which I did Friday morning and given an appointment for 9.45 on Monday.
Even getting a further blood tests as requested was not a problem, turned up, took my number, which was the next after the one showing on the screen, in and out in less than 10 minutes.

The hospital was the quietest I have ever seen it and it would seem to be a great time to get at least a diagnosis in record time. As soon as the first blood test showed a problem I was amazed how quickly further appointments were available.

[starman]

I think a lot of people are feeling it, me included.  It's an amalgamation of things that has occurred over the past 18 months.  Without getting political or anything, its the reason why I don't watch the media / news or 'live tv' any more.  To quote Morrissey, "it says nothing to me about my life".  Just build your own little world that you are happy in.  If feeling a bit low (don't listen to Morrissey), but as the post subject is 'Lust for Life', I would suggest a bit of Iggy (assuming you don't mind his music).  What always picks me up is listening to a bit of Rezillos.  Saw Eugene Reynolds in the early 90's when Punk was way out of fashion.  He was awesome, so much energy, it wore me out watching him and I was 30 years younger.

[radioman33]

Probably good advice to stop reading the news especially daily mail.Everyday is negative news for 2 years,just start exercising more.

[JamesKW]

Probably good advice to stop reading the news especially daily mail.Everyday is negative news for 2 years,just start exercising more.

Daily Mail website is the worse scaremongering,sensationalist clickbait,if you took that seriously you would be constantly depressed.Some seem to take it seriously as it was a big cause of our recent petrol crises.

[yonimax]

Most TV series, movies etc seem dystopian. Best to listen to good radio/podcasts, Youtube has good content some old clips too. Much better than watching some new fangled nonsense being broadcast old wine in a new bottle (or blonde/babe). I tend to try and watch some non-western content if possible with subtitles, travel videos etc on youtube, prime etc. lots of choice if you look for it. Best to save money, eat good food, punt, listen/play good music

[binbag]

Any suggestions for staying upbeat after being dumped?. It has been about 18 months but she's in my head all the time. Try as I might to accept that shes fancies some other bloke it still hurts like hell.

[Thephoenix]

Any suggestions for staying upbeat after being dumped?. It has been about 18 months but she's in my head all the time. Try as I might to accept that shes fancies some other bloke it still hurts like hell.

Really sorry to hear that.
I realise 18 months is a long time and I understand how you feel.
However I do believe that time will heal eventually, even though you can't see that yet.
I hope you can eventually heal the scars and find a meaningful relationship again one day.👍

[lillythesavage]

Any suggestions for staying upbeat after being dumped?. It has been about 18 months but she's in my head all the time. Try as I might to accept that shes fancies some other bloke it still hurts like hell.

Think positive, you cannot change the past, only the future and your future is better without someone who did not want to be with you. You may have avoided a lot worse, get back out there, the next one could answer all your prayers.

[king tarzan]

I love to treat myself in complete silence
1 large glass cold milk
2 snickers bars

Simple humble life 👌👌👍👍

[lamboman]

Anyone else struggle to keep themselves up beat?

I have my down times for no apparent reason,I used to think it was as I got older but looking back I've always been like this.
Best thing for me is to keep busy all the time,all the best.

[Marmalade]

I think a lot of people are feeling it, me included.  It's an amalgamation of things that has occurred over the past 18 months.  Without getting political or anything, its the reason why I don't watch the media / news or 'live tv' any more.  To quote Morrissey, "it says nothing to me about my life".  Just build your own little world that you are happy in.  If feeling a bit low (don't listen to Morrissey), but as the post subject is 'Lust for Life', I would suggest a bit of Iggy (assuming you don't mind his music).  What always picks me up is listening to a bit of Rezillos.  Saw Eugene Reynolds in the early 90's when Punk was way out of fashion.  He was awesome, so much energy, it wore me out watching him and I was 30 years younger.

What’s said about Daily Mail must go doubly for Morrissey. A gifted man — but his gift is making people depressed! Daily Mail is the biggest selling newspaper in Britain. So you can read it with a pinch of depression-avoiding salt to a) tell you what the great unwashed are being told to think, b) to get the news first before more ‘respectable’ papers check if it’s true.

I don’t knock the Daily Mail any more: it’s a British Institution. A salacious blend of truth and hype. But once my brain has woken up I’ll open the Economist, then flick through the Guardian just to balance any feeling of ivory tower self-satisfaction. I’d get the Times as well but they insist on charging me for more than a smithereen. Ditto the Independent. The Telegraph has turned into a pompous parody of literati. But then I’ll go online for the BBC. Not because they have anything much to say but I do like the theme tune!

Too much connectedness (or too little) can make one feel despondent about one’s own little shit. Whereas doing exercise, physical and occasionally mental, gives the feeling of having achieved something.

[Marmalade]

Any suggestions for staying upbeat after being dumped?. It has been about 18 months but she's in my head all the time. Try as I might to accept that shes fancies some other bloke it still hurts like hell.

What a fucking cow she is. Ooops? Am I not allowed to think that?

Being ‘dumped’ a.k.a. She is ‘wanted’ (high value): you are ‘not wanted’ (ultra low value).

She is how you see her, how you ‘long’ for her or how you ‘miss’ her. Change the fucking viewpoint. Think of her worst features. If that’s hard, ask your friends to point them out. If you haven’t got any friends just imagine them. Does she have a fat arse? A cynical smile? Shit a blow jobs? Obsessed with her hair? — which was never bloody film star quality anyway. What about that irritating squeaky voice she had?

Oh wait a minute. You’re thinking about ‘how she made you feel’. Ahhhh that was nice. BUT SHE’S NOT DOING THAT NOW, IS SHE? Just being a cunt to you actually. Dump her. Dump that cunt that’s infesting your brain. Look: there’s nothing evil about hating her. You don’t have to put into words out loud. Then just say ‘dislike’. She’s a black & white picture from the past. Bleach the colour from your the mental image you have of her. Shrink it down to size. It was a bad movie. Dump it. You, you, to you, are infinitely the most important being in the world and the highest reality. Empty it of all else. Then choose to keep all the wonderful things that people who truly love you have said about you. Imagine them saying them, now, in your head. Maybe write them down. You are starting to create. Your world. Choose what — and who — you will like to invite into that amazing picture.

[Marmalade]

I love to treat myself in complete silence
1 large glass cold milk
2 snickers bars

Simple humble life 👌👌👍👍

Getting fat Tarzan? 

[Romeo Sensini]

Probably good advice to stop reading the news especially daily mail.Everyday is negative news for 2 years,just start exercising more.

I have found this helps. I've never bought newspapers but lately I turn off the early evening news and local news. Instead there is usually another channel showing something about walks, rail journeys or something slightly educational. Ditto exercise, I never feel better than when I'm riding my bike (and that includes when I'm riding a WG  )

[Squire Haggard]

Any suggestions for staying upbeat after being dumped?. It has been about 18 months but she's in my head all the time. Try as I might to accept that shes fancies some other bloke it still hurts like hell.

A friend of mine has very recently started to go through this. Anything, anyone, or anywhere new, to act as a distraction is a good idea. Anything that takes your mind of her. I have seen the Facebook page of one that dumped me long ago. Over many years, she has morphed into something that I would not even ride into battle.  Yours might be the same one day.

[Romeo Sensini]

Any suggestions for staying upbeat after being dumped?. It has been about 18 months but she's in my head all the time. Try as I might to accept that shes fancies some other bloke it still hurts like hell.

Feel for you Binbag, being rejected isn't nice. But what Marmalade says makes sense and you want what you cant have, which is a strong emotion. Did you try dating again? Nothing like a bit of fresh passion to help a person forget. Passion for a new hobby might work in the short term.

[mradventures]

i had that with a girl... but i saw her again kinda for awhile, and she was a narc. took me much to long to figure that out.

but you need to try and put it behind you, and focus on the opportunities you have, like for example banging lots of sp's
and also even if she magically returned it wont be the same, because she hurt you alot and fucked off, so you will probably have a niggiling feeling always :/

[Watts.E.Dunn]

These days I've got such a high opinion of myself that hardley any women would get a second thought if they did that!, simples feck them thery weren't up to MY standards:)....