How to not hurt an escort with a big dick?

[YorkshireLad]

I saw an escort for an hour (not reviewed because I’m keeping her for myself)  & decided I’d make her a regular but when I contacted her to book the next meet she asks if we can do 30 minutes instead because I’m too big.
I prefer longer meets & want to see her regularly so how do I not hurt her? I don’t mind slow sensual sex so is it the pounding that hurts a girl or putting your dick all the way in? If I slowly put it all the way in would it hurt less or would I have to put it partially in?

[Steely Dan]

Plenty of fish, move on.

If it is an ongoing problem, fuck mostly in spoons.  Nice for both, but your dick wont go in all the way (Generally - nothing is certain in fucking).  Guys with small dicks should avoid spoons.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Tried Castrol lubes;?...

[MissWolf]

I saw an escort for an hour (not reviewed because I’m keeping her for myself)  & decided I’d make her a regular but when I contacted her to book the next meet she asks if we can do 30 minutes instead because I’m too big.
I prefer longer meets & want to see her regularly so how do I not hurt her? I don’t mind slow sensual sex so is it the pounding that hurts a girl or putting your dick all the way in? If I slowly put it all the way in would it hurt less or would I have to put it partially in?

72 reviews and you have to ask if its the pounding that hurts 🤦‍♀️

Have you never come across someone who can't take your size before?

The female vagina isn't an endless tunnel, we have a cervix and only a certain amount of stretch,  the stretch varies with each individual as does size etc just like it does with cocks so not every cock will fit every vagina.

I find the more aroused and turned on I am the more I can take size wise and I'm guessing that's true of most women.

My suggestion to you would be to move on and find someone who can accommodate your size more comfortably and stop the pounding unless encouraged to do so, a big cock can do damage if its not used with care.

[myothernameis]

because I’m too big

Exactly how big are you, and compared to others, have you got more than the average punter 

I consider my self w/e and at around 7" with 5" circumference, and never had any issues with escorts, but they do comment on my size and cock 

[PunterNumber69]

"What affects vaginal size?

The vagina’s size and depth changes in certain situations. It can stretch to accommodate the insertion of a tampon, a finger, or a penis.

During arousal, more blood flows to the vagina. This causes the vagina to elongate and the cervix, or tip of the uterus, to lift up slightly, allowing more of a penis, finger, or sex toy to fit in the vagina.

While a vagina expands during arousal, a large penis or sex toy can still cause discomfort when having sex."

External Link/Members Only

I'd suggest spending more time on foreplay to see if the vagina elongates or just moving on. 

If you have a bigger than average penis then I'd advise against pounding. That's really not going to be fun for the woman.  The goal of the exercise is not to hurt or damage someone.

[daviemac]

"What affects vaginal size?

The vagina’s size and depth changes in certain situations. It can stretch to accommodate the insertion of a tampon, a finger, or a penis.

During arousal, more blood flows to the vagina. This causes the vagina to elongate and the cervix, or tip of the uterus, to lift up slightly, allowing more of a penis, finger, or sex toy to fit in the vagina.

While a vagina expands during arousal, a large penis or sex toy can still cause discomfort when having sex."

External Link/Members Only

I'd suggest spending more time on foreplay to see if the vagina elongates or just moving on. 

If you have a bigger than average penis then I'd advise against pounding. That's really not going to be fun for the woman.  The goal of the exercise is not to hurt or damage someone.

How do you know what a woman may or may not like.     I think I'll take notice of the person posting on here who actually has a vagina, I would think she would have a bit more of an insight into how they work.

[southcoastpunter]

I saw an escort for an hour (not reviewed because I’m keeping her for myself) 

to hell with your big dick. What a thing to say! And some guys on here give newbies a hard time for not reviewing!!

[PunterNumber69]

How do you know what a woman may or may not like.     I think I'll take notice of the person posting on here who actually has a vagina, I would think she would have a bit more of an insight into how they work.

Well..... I ask them as they're human beings just like me.

I was watching an episode of Naked Attraction the other night and the presenter on that, who I think is a doctor, mentioned that it's a medical fact that the vagina does elongate when the woman is aroused. They had a little animation suggesting that it could almost double in depth.  However, that doesn't mean every vagina can take monster cocks. The female contestant had ME and she mentioned that she'd had a boyfriend who had a large penis amd it hurt and she wasn't wanting a boyfriend with a large penis. 

Just because you see a woman being pounded in a porn movie doesn't mean it's not hurting her. I imagine having someone like Dredd or Mandingo banging you is always going to hurt. The performer is just tolerating it for the pay. I'd never expect an SP to be doing that, so I never pound qny SP, but that's just my personal preference.

Some women like a larger cock and some don't. They're all unique.  That's just how it is.

[MissWolf]

Some women like a larger cock and some don't. They're all unique.  That's just how it is.

True but I think you will find those that like a larger one are those that are larger or more able to stretch in that area.

Now there is no saying who is going to be larger, a petite lass can sometimes accommodate more than a tall lass so I'm not talking body size here.

Then there are the old birds like me, I've had my cervix removed during my hysterectomy so I have less stretch than I used to have, a big cock and I'm talking 8+ inches and girthy takes careful negotiation to begin but once I've relaxed and stretched then its all good, I still couldn't take a pounding from that size though.

My biggest client is about 9.5 length and in proportion for girth, thankfully he is also very gentle and skilled 

[PunterNumber69]

True but I think you will find those that like a larger one are those that are larger or more able to stretch in that area.

Now there is no saying who is going to be larger, a petite lass can sometimes accommodate more than a tall lass so I'm not talking body size here.

Then there are the old birds like me, I've had my cervix removed during my hysterectomy so I have less stretch than I used to have, a big cock and I'm talking 8+ inches and girthy takes careful negotiation to begin but once I've relaxed and stretched then its all good, I still couldn't take a pounding from that size though.

My biggest client is about 9.5 length and in proportion for girth, thankfully he is also very gentle and skilled 

Personally, I find the women that have had children can handle larger cocks probably because they've been stretched a bit as part of child birth. However, it's not true of every woman that's had a child.  Although according to the article I linked to this is not actually true as the depth of the vagina isn't changed by child birth.

[Pat Phelan]

I’m a 6 incher and only ever had a couple of remarks about my dick being big in the past, because it’s really not. The good thing about not being big is you can pound the shit out of them.

[daviemac]

Well..... I ask them as they're human beings just like me.

I was watching an episode of Naked Attraction the other night and the presenter on that, who I think is a doctor, mentioned that it's a medical fact that the vagina does elongate when the woman is aroused. They had a little animation suggesting that it could almost double in depth.  However, that doesn't mean every vagina can take monster cocks. The female contestant had ME and she mentioned that she'd had a boyfriend who had a large penis amd it hurt and she wasn't wanting a boyfriend with a large penis. 

Just because you see a woman being pounded in a porn movie doesn't mean it's not hurting her. I imagine having someone like Dredd or Mandingo banging you is always going to hurt. The performer is just tolerating it for the pay. I'd never expect an SP to be doing that, so I never pound qny SP, but that's just my personal preference.

Some women like a larger cock and some don't. They're all unique.  That's just how it is.

She's a tv presenter and journalist not a doctor so it seems you know as much about her as you do about women and their vaginas.

Edit

I'll take a tape measure tomorrow and get her to measure mine.   

[MissWolf]

Personally, I find the women that have had children can handle larger cocks probably because they've been stretched a bit as part of child birth. However, it's not true of every woman that's had a child.

Yep had 2 of those and tbh it didn't really make any difference to me, it may do to some but I didnt feel any differently
But the vagina is designed to stretch to accommodate childbirth and to retract afterwards, helped obviously by the hormonal overload so in theory it shouldn't change, unless of course you get cut or rip during labour and have scarring

[PunterNumber69]

She's a tv presenter and journalist not a doctor so it seems you know as much about her as you do about women and their vaginas.

Edit

I'll take a tape measure tomorrow and get her to measure mine.   

True, I believe she has a team of researchers and doctors who consult on the programme as they try to get people to understand their and their partner's bodies more, hence the animation they showed of the vagina elongating.

And as per the article I linked to:

"Vagina size and penis length

The average erect penis is about 33 percent longer than the average vagina. While both penis and vagina sizes can vary, these organs can usually accommodate each other.

A 2015 studyTrusted Source found the average erect penis length to be just over 5 inches (13.12 cm). Some women may report discomfort if their sexual partner has a penis that is larger than average.

It may be painful or uncomfortable if an object such as a penis or sex toy hits the cervix. Having adequate lubrication and communicating any discomfort to a partner can help keep sexual activity pleasurable."

And another article:

External Link/Members Only

[daviemac]

True, I believe she has a team of researchers and doctors who consult on the programme as they try to get people to understand their and their partner's bodies more, hence the animation they showed of the vagina elongating.

And as per the article I linked to:

"Vagina size and penis length

The average erect penis is about 33 percent longer than the average vagina. While both penis and vagina sizes can vary, these organs can usually accommodate each other.

A 2015 studyTrusted Source found the average erect penis length to be just over 5 inches (13.12 cm). Some women may report discomfort if their sexual partner has a penis that is larger than average.

It may be painful or uncomfortable if an object such as a penis or sex toy hits the cervix. Having adequate lubrication and communicating any discomfort to a partner can help keep sexual activity pleasurable."

Do us all a favour and give it a rest, I for one don't need you repeating something you've read on the internet. By the way you talk I've forgotten more about the female anatomy than you'll ever know.

Edit

The only real answer to the OP's question is for him to ask the girl concerned what suits her so it doesn't hurt.

[bushman]

A 2015 studyTrusted Source found the average erect penis length to be just over 5 inches (13.12 cm). Some women may report discomfort if their sexual partner has a penis that is larger than average.

It may be painful or uncomfortable if an object such as a penis or sex toy hits the cervix. Having adequate lubrication and communicating any discomfort to a partner can help keep sexual activity pleasurable."

And another article:

External Link/Members Only

Average "global" size is probably that small. I would be surprised if it's true for the UK.

[PunterNumber69]

Average "global" size is probably that small. I would be surprised if it's true for the UK.

And there was me just trying to pass on some knowledge I gained from watching a TV programme, talking to women and reading a few articles on the internet.  I'm not trying to have an argument.  You can take onboard the information or choose to brand it as "fake news".  It's entirely up to you.

[Thephoenix]

I saw an escort for an hour (not reviewed because I’m keeping her for myself)  & decided I’d make her a regular but when I contacted her to book the next meet she asks if we can do 30 minutes instead because I’m too big.
I prefer longer meets & want to see her regularly so how do I not hurt her? I don’t mind slow sensual sex so is it the pounding that hurts a girl or putting your dick all the way in? If I slowly put it all the way in would it hurt less or would I have to put it partially in?

If you want to make her a regular, isn't the lady the best person to ask this question?

[PunterNumber69]

If you want to make her a regular, isn't the lady the best person to ask this question?

+1

[Straightsix]

Yeh, im not sure about this one. I'm below average yet most girls couldn't take mine ......up the ass.

[Straightsix]

Tried Castrol lubes;?...

'Magnatec' is shit

[Straightsix]

72 reviews and you have to ask if its the pounding that hurts 🤦‍♀️

Have you never come across someone who can't take your size before?

🤭

[alabama1]

Sorry, the title of this thread had me initially thinking that the escort was the one with the big dick. 

[YorkshireLad]

If you want to make her a regular, isn't the lady the best person to ask this question?

This is probably the best advise, thanks 

[stevedave]

to hell with your big dick. What a thing to say! And some guys on here give newbies a hard time for not reviewing!!

Agreed, I'm surprised more people haven't picked up on this.

[Clitheroelad]

I saw an escort for an hour (not reviewed because I’m keeping her for myself)

Then you dont deserve any attention on here.

[daviemac]

Agreed, I'm surprised more people haven't picked up on this.

It has been noted.   

[Whiteknight]

OP with all the reviews and experiences, and still don't know how to use it 

It may not be the size that was the problem in the first place, probably just being rough and bad angles 

[GingerNuts]

All the gear (allegedly) and no idea.

[stevedave]

It has been noted.   

 

[Waterhouse]

All the gear (allegedly) and no idea.

My thoughts exactly. 

[Bikerman]

I always get told its not what you got.....its what you do with it that counts..im not goid in cock  area  but been told im good with fingers and tongue...oh and toys

[alabama1]

I always get told its not what you got.....its what you do with it that counts..im not goid in cock  area  but been told im good with fingers and tongue...oh and toys

Kerplunk ?

[bushman]

I am still curious to know the OP's "massive" size. How big is THAT big? Or is it a case of rough and clumsy OP?

[oddson1970]

I am still curious to know the OP's "massive" size. How big is THAT big? Or is it a case of rough and clumsy OP?

My guess is rough and clumsy as it has never been mentioned by any of his previous punts

[Watts.E.Dunn]

I'm a 3 incher and still women complain!, theres no saftisfing some people is there;!?...

[PunterNumber69]

My guess is rough and clumsy as it has never been mentioned by any of his previous punts

That might just be because he has met an SP who is being open and honest about the issue, which I think is good. If I was him the last thing I'd want to be doing is hurting someone when having sex.

[Webby581]

I always get told its not what you got.....its what you do with it that counts..im not goid in cock  area  but been told im good with fingers and tongue...oh and toys

This is very true and sadly it took me a long time to learn it.
I am blessed with a smaller than average willy (4.5" x 3.5"circumference ...... all on a good day) and my self consciousness about it stopped me messing about outside of my long term relationship until my 30s. I had only ever had intercourse with her until then, although i had been given a couple of handjobs here and there by others in my teens.
At which point i had a e-m relationship with a lady who LOVED my cock and literally couldnt get enough of it - it stimulated her sexually in places that the bigger cocks that she was used to previously just didnt reach...... or missed on the way in/out somehow.
In fact, although she had 10+ sexual partners previously, she had never experienced an orgasm through penetrative sex until riding my little fella. Yet with me, she would come multiple times, every time. Maybe it was the different angle of attack that the smaller dick offers - dunno but she bloody loved it and we were at it like rabbits for about 3 months and carried on intermittently when the opportunity arose for the next 17 years.

I had also learned by now how to add pleasure for my partners by having a reasonable technique and being very good (i was told) and unselfish with my hands, tongue and toys, when available, to compensate for the lack of cock-volume, which all helped.
Having gained a lot of confidence i spread my wings a bit and had a few other sexual relationships and in most cases they were very satisfactory for the woman as well.
I must admit, when i am punting i am less invested in making it great for the SP - its all about me really and its healthy to be selfish sometimes.

all that said though - i still wish it was a LITTLE BIT bigger

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Do you know Anyone who dosnt wish something was different about their body;?....

[Whiteknight]

My guess is rough and clumsy as it has never been mentioned by any of his previous punts

+1 

[Stevelondon]

Oh how I empathise with the OP.
I akways have to piss in the cubicle rather than the urinal.....I hate other blokes in the lav having an inferiority complex.
 

[JPin]

Firstly, ask her how you can make it more comfortable for her. I'm sure you'll be able to find a way by communicating with one another.

Second, spend more time warming her up, helping her to relax.

Third, try getting some CBD lube involved... It's great for arousal/relaxing the vaginal region. (THC lube is even better but illegal in the UK).

Four, consider moving on if it's not going to work. 

[YorkshireLad]

It has been noted.   

What does this mean? Am I going to be banned if I don’t review her?

[Bd4u247]

True but I think you will find those that like a larger one are those that are larger or more able to stretch in that area.

Now there is no saying who is going to be larger, a petite lass can sometimes accommodate more than a tall lass so I'm not talking body size here.

Then there are the old birds like me, I've had my cervix removed during my hysterectomy so I have less stretch than I used to have, a big cock and I'm talking 8+ inches and girthy takes careful negotiation to begin but once I've relaxed and stretched then its all good, I still couldn't take a pounding from that size though.

My biggest client is about 9.5 length and in proportion for girth, thankfully he is also very gentle and skilled 

In bold , totally dig what you have said. Very true, indeed.

I am in the 8" region length wise and 6" circumference and. some petite girls are able to devour big cocks like they are nothing , whilst taller thin girls push your hips back with their hands to limit penetration..

It varies like you mentioned and is never really predictable the response you get. Some tall thin girls want just a little more than the tip , some tiny petite lasses take the full length and actively grind/push back with their hips. Totally unpredictble !!

That being said , my answer to OP is to get her really wet with your tongue. Get her super excited and she will relax and accomadate. Start off gentle and build up tge poundage. 

Sticking a big dick into an unaroused and unrelaxed woman just wont work.

Take it slow mate and build up to it.

[Moby Dick]

Must be doing it wrong.

Ok I accept some are tighter than others. Some are nice n snug, whilst others I am hardly touching the sides. Need to strap a plank to my arse because I’ve given them a wide on.

I’ve participated in DP, DVP, seen DAP and girls take a fisting. Nothing seems impossible so either you need to get them in the mood first or book her after she’s been stretched by a gangbang.

How about a link?

[Mkhelen]

If you like the escort more foreplay and get her actual turned on.

If you want just a shag get her to to get on top and don't be offended if she lubes up for it.

She can take what she can manage inside

Your paying her let her do the work

You know if your too big when a SW will be grabbing it her whole hand round the base of the penis and you only get the tip in
You guys know this as restrictive penetration when it hurts we clam up and say go easy

Quite a few older ladies on Fabswingers  would love your monster cock for free and wanted to get ravaged and feel sore the next day as part of the fetish for big dick

Some of us SW don't want to be sore or split in two for the next gent booked in after you

Maybe be the last booking of the day when she's been stretched out a bit

[stevedave]

How about a link?

Nah, he wants to "keep her for himself". 

[Dipper]

I saw an escort for an hour (not reviewed because I’m keeping her for myself)  & decided I’d make her a regular but when I contacted her to book the next meet she asks if we can do 30 minutes instead because I’m too big.
I prefer longer meets & want to see her regularly so how do I not hurt her? I don’t mind slow sensual sex so is it the pounding that hurts a girl or putting your dick all the way in? If I slowly put it all the way in would it hurt less or would I have to put it partially in?

In answer to the thread title….

Don’t punt TS’s.

[threechilliman]

In answer to the thread title….

Don’t punt TS’s.

Lol, I was going to say!