'I don't want to put you on the spot, Frenchie, so don't answer this if it would make you uncomfortable; but I wonder if you feel that Mrs Frenchie might have twigged from that conversation the other week that you're a punter?'
No ...,no way.. ......you've got to bear in mind my circumstances.. I live in France and only punt when I visit the UK (usually by myself )
Mrs Frenchie hasn't got any worries about kids, money , job ......she is basically very happy and I think this is a lot of the problem..
COMPLACENCY !!!!!
I have no doubt that Mrs Frenchie loves me very much ..... we are , like a lot of couples , best friends in lots of ways ....like a lot of men
this is the one bugbear ...sex ! It doesn't help that years ago Mrs Frenchie had a long list of 'likes' ..that coupled with everyone I knew
wanted to shag her.!!
Your question illustrates a 'get out clause ' (some hopes ! ) that I've got tucked away...Am I happy ...yes ...
Do I want another relationship.. NO!
So if everything is reasonably good ,....why would I throw it all away ....just because of lack of sex .....Having said that things have definitely changed in the last few years. A mate of mine is 64 and shags his way through his 'Dateline' dates .
In another posting some months ago I related the story of my wife's friend in the UK some years ago . Thirtysomething , blonde , attractive , long legs ...husband a decent hardworking bloke , two kids etc .. etc ...
He met an old flame on the internet and pissed off with her. The females all got together 'The bastard '..' How could he do it!!'
'Fancy running off with someone else .. lowlife !! ' Etc.. etc...
Of course the truth eventually came out that the lovely looking wife hadn't had sex with him for THREE FUCKING YEARS !!!!
And they REALLY wonder why he pushed off ????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
Would he of stayed if he punted ????.... another discussion some other time I think .
During my heart to heart with Mrs Frenchie I even told her of other mens experiences on this subject and directly qouted some things from this forum ! ( I had a small health scare recently and told her that I'd been on a men's health forum and there was a section about married sex lives )
Needless to say, it didn't do any good . I think this is the problem.....we've probably all tried our best.. nothing works .
A friend of mine (40's )who has a good looking wife and is a good looking chap himself is always moaning about the lack of interest .
He doesn't know I punt , but I couldn't resist saying ' -------- , - if you think ANYTHING is going to change in the next twenty years ..dream on !!!'......Maybe this is why the majority (?) of punters are past a certain age ?
Sorry to go off on a bit of a rant - but it's nice to share thoughts with like minded people.