Any decent hookup sites for civvies that aren’t a complete scam?

[Troydor69]

Does anyone have knowledge of, or has used, a chat site that is aimed at casual hook ups? Done the usual searches on google but I get the impression that most are scams that charge to send messages to
girls who are probably fake anyway.  I still think punting via AW is going to be the most reliable way of finding genuine girls (obviously for a fee) but I’m curious if there are genuine hook up sites out there at all?

[Rick2468]

It isn't officially a hook up site but I have met quite a few woman from Faceparty. I met about 10 different women off there over the course of about 5 years. My mate met 2 or 3 times that. Had to travel around the country a fair bit to meet women who were willing to meet me! Used to regularly visit a really busty bird from Glasgow whereas I live in London. Then I got fat and uncool so pulling powers were lost.

The site is really geared to 20 somethings. I think if you were 30 you would be considered too old.

[no2punter]

Tinder, Bumble, etc, although I've never managed to get a hookup out of them in the UK.

[Rick2468]

Tinder, Bumble, etc, although I've never managed to get a hookup out of them in the UK.

I met someone from Bumble a few weeks ago but was a traditional date rather than a hookup. I always found OKCupid the best of the dating apps and I have met a few women from there over the years and hooked up, including a canadian woman who was the absolute love of my life but her interest in me cooled after a while. We are still friends on facebook so I get to see her gorgeous face and body all the time to rub it in. She was really dirty as well and even said once that she would do anything I wanted in the bedroom which makes the whole break up even more painful. Sigh.

POF is a waste of time. I have met a couple of people from there but only after really grafting away on there for hours. Some woman from POF cancelled our date literally an hour before we were due to meet which really annoyed me as I was all dressed up and about to leave the house. Tinder is a waste of time. I think on Tinder the women are more after instagram  followers. I did have some interest from a chick who was cute and had large boobs but for some reason I just could not be assed to go on a date with her so we never met up.

[emraw]

All of these sites have more men than women, so the women become more fussy and its hard to get a hook up,  but the most openly blatent hook up site is fabswingers - quality of girls is lacking somewhat but if you persevere you should find someone

[stevedave]

Tinder, Bumble, etc, although I've never managed to get a hookup out of them in the UK.

I got laid plenty on bumble and tinder. Less so POF.

[stevedave]

All of these sites have more men than women, so the women become more fussy and its hard to get a hook up,  but the most openly blatent hook up site is fabswingers - quality of girls is lacking somewhat but if you persevere you should find someone

Fab is a total sausage fest in my experience, not had much luck on there at all. It's easier and less time consuming just to pay for it.

[llanfair571]

I got laid plenty on bumble and tinder. Less so POF.

I've been interested in signing up, but I'm completely rubbish at writing out profiles and taking pictures.

[Spacecowb0y]

Fab is a total sausage fest in my experience, not had much luck on there at all. It's easier and less time consuming just to pay for it.

The man is right. Tried a few sites and even shagged a bored housewife for a while, but it's just easier to pay

[sparkus]

I met someone from Bumble a few weeks ago but was a traditional date rather than a hookup. I always found OKCupid the best of the dating apps and I have met a few women from there over the years and hooked up, including a canadian woman who was the absolute love of my life but her interest in me cooled after a while. We are still friends on facebook so I get to see her gorgeous face and body all the time to rub it in. She was really dirty as well and even said once that she would do anything I wanted in the bedroom which makes the whole break up even more painful. Sigh.

POF is a waste of time. I have met a couple of people from there but only after really grafting away on there for hours. Some woman from POF cancelled our date literally an hour before we were due to meet which really annoyed me as I was all dressed up and about to leave the house. Tinder is a waste of time. I think on Tinder the women are more after instagram  followers. I did have some interest from a chick who was cute and had large boobs but for some reason I just could not be assed to go on a date with her so we never met up.

Last year I got my dick wet constantly via Tinder but it almost became a full time occupation and the main recipients of my dick were tourists, so just got to roll with it (for instance, bird has shit date at 5pm and bails before her 10am flight next day, you have to be a) available at 7pm suddenly and b) not fussed she didn't go for you first and c) stick around long enough to pork)

This year has been abysmal (had a few near misses with OH colleagues on there) and Bumble hasn't led to anything beyond chatting (though for anyone with a thing for Asians, Indian or Chinese, that's your app)

I think these things have their eras, for instance Tinder was in its infancy when I did POF and again I got plenty of action on that.  Now, doubtful.

[Ali Katt]

Has anyone had any success with Happn? I like the idea.

[willie loman]

Last year I got my dick wet constantly via Tinder but it almost became a full time occupation and the main recipients of my dick were tourists, so just got to roll with it (for instance, bird has shit date at 5pm and bails before her 10am flight next day, you have to be a) available at 7pm suddenly and b) not fussed she didn't go for you first and c) stick around long enough to pork)

This year has been abysmal (had a few near misses with OH colleagues on there) and Bumble hasn't led to anything beyond chatting (though for anyone with a thing for Asians, Indian or Chinese, that's your app)

I think these things have their eras, for instance Tinder was in its infancy when I did POF and again I got plenty of action on that.  Now, doubtful.

What kind of nationalities were these tourists and what were their ages? keep up the good work!

[inspetorbarros]

Tinder, bumble and happn: tried for 3 months, swiping, uploading new pics, fancy bio, bla bla bla...  and got fuck all. A colossal waste of time in my case.

[sparkus]

What kind of nationalities were these tourists and what were their ages? keep up the good work!

Chinese, Aussie, Canadian, Scandis and Italian, off the top of my head.  Also had hookups with various foreigh born women who live here, but proportionately less (again not crunched the numbers but it seems that way)

As I said, the international visitor numbers to London are less than a 10th of what they were so that's choked supply of such women to apps.

As for hookups with women outside of the above, I've no doubt that 20 somethings are getting it on with each other but as a bloke staring 41 y.o. up the arse now that's not my market.  There are professional women with high pressure jobs or businesses who do go on there for a one night dinner and sex but they're quite picky and often not particular fit themselves.

[sparkus]

Tinder, bumble and happn: tried for 3 months, swiping, uploading new pics, fancy bio, bla bla bla...  and got fuck all. A colossal waste of time in my case.

If you just want hookups then you don't add a bio under any circumstances.  Hostage to fortune and a lot of women who are only on there for sex (as one said to me, "If I wanted a relationship I wouldn't pursue it with anyone on here!") take no bio as code for hookup only intention (so the ones on there for relationships will swerve you also and not waste your time).

I found that the Superlike was the most effective way to get noticed and translated into convos which led to dates and sex with people I actually found attractive.  But you need to shell out for that.  Without that I doubt I'd have had as much action.

I personally don't rate Bumble at all and noticed that the two apps often had the same women on them anyway.  For the sake of time and money you need to focus on one and give it all you have, but that does mean swiping and talking constantly (which is hard around an OH and drains your battery).

[willie loman]

Chinese, Aussie, Canadian, Scandis and Italian, off the top of my head.  Also had hookups with various foreigh born women who live here, but proportionately less (again not crunched the numbers but it seems that way)

As I said, the international visitor numbers to London are less than a 10th of what they were so that's choked supply of such women to apps.

As for hookups with women outside of the above, I've no doubt that 20 somethings are getting it on with each other but as a bloke staring 41 y.o. up the arse now that's not my market.  There are professional women with high pressure jobs or businesses who do go on there for a one night dinner and sex but they're quite picky and often not particular fit themselves.

interesting, i assumed americans would be at the top.

[Chorley]

Just my personal experience, but they're a complete waste of time unless you look like a male model  I think even then its probably a lottery as there are so many fake profiles, dead profiles and piss taking unicorn hunters. 

[sparkus]

interesting, i assumed americans would be at the top.

They were on there but none converted from chat to meet.  One I suspected was looking for cash and although she was only mid-20s was quite chunky.  An unattractive French girl also later on in the convo revealed she was actually a WG.

You asked ages, all were 30s among the tourists.  The non-tourists all 40s.

[sparkus]

Just my personal experience, but they're a complete waste of time unless you look like a male model  I think even then its probably a lottery as there are so many fake profiles, dead profiles and piss taking unicorn hunters. 

There's a lot of comments on here about how they're a waste of time and while I wouldn't go as far to say "male model", I think the pre-requisites for it to work are a) be well turned out b) be available at short notice in central London c) be able and WILLING to take them interesting places/listen to their boring stories about work/failed creative projects back home, thus setting you apart from the average horny bloke.  Do your research, which means asking them about their experience/dislikes.  There's also some on here who swear by the alpha approach, which clearly has its adherents as I've heard numerous stories about men treating them as if god's gift and telling them to take their cock or leave it.

Ultimately if there was an app which guaranteed sex to men looking for it then it would be the most successful tech giant on the block.  Look at how many dead threads there are on here for FabSwingers and AdultFriendFinder.  But I was sniffy about Tinder until I read a few pointers on here.

[Steely Dan]

Once when I was on a temporary assignment in another town (there week days) I joined meetup.com .  Tinder seemed too risky.  Meetup was random meetups in pubs with groups of 5 to 10 ... often for a pub quiz. OK fun on its own.  No secret I was on the website and doing meetups.  Any girl I met a second time was fair game to ask for a phone number - got a fuck buddy that way ... size 14, no oil paining, but reduced the pressure on the ole punting budget.  Never done Tinder/Bumble, but this seemed less work as I didn't have any messing about before the first face to face meet, and no text or email crap.  Had a one night stand with a pretty hot chick too.  Both way younger than me.

I'd guess this wont work during pandemic.

I was on Ashley Madison for a month or 2, but the only meet up I got was with a woman who shared during pre sex dinner that she wanted a £100 'donation'.  She was just about my limit for fucking for free, for £100, there are way better on AW. Course I did it anyway (already a wasted evening and £40 meal...) , but no way was I going to repeat.

[advent2016]

Does anyone have knowledge of, or has used, a chat site that is aimed at casual hook ups? Done the usual searches on google but I get the impression that most are scams that charge to send messages to
girls who are probably fake anyway.  I still think punting via AW is going to be the most reliable way of finding genuine girls (obviously for a fee) but I’m curious if there are genuine hook up sites out there at all?

What's your end goal?
Do you want near certain sex on first date with or without payment?

If I want a WG and a particular service I use AW or Barracuda or similar agency

Otherwise pre covid I've met a few women using POF, Tinder, armydating ($), Seniormatch, E-harmony ($$), Sugar babies ($$$), SA ($$$$), Wild, Pure

[Rick2468]

I wasn't up to much over the weekend so spent quite a bit of time on POF. I keep seeing the profile of a woman who says she is a lapdancer and we always chat for a bit but when I ask her for a drink she goes quiet so obviously not interested. I have had better luck with a woman from Southampton on there (I'm in London) who is recently divorced and quite open about just wanting casual. She is 10 years older than me but is in good shape so hope to meet her soon. I am getting cautious about COVID again so that may come into play and stop me meeting her.

I also saw on POF a woman who worked as an escort for a while. I can't find her profile but she was called DirtyDiamondxxx or something. I don't find her attractive but messaged her anyway haha. Haven't heard back.

I'm mentioned this before but several years ago I saw Rebecca More on POF. I can't tell for sure it was a genuine profile but my instinct was that it was genuine as it was just photos of her in her garden, at meals etc rather than modelling photos. I messaged her normally (didn't say "You are a porn star" or anything) and she viewed my profile but unfortunately didn't message. When I saw she had looked at my page I was frantically refreshing the site praying for a message to come through. She gets a bit of stick on here but I think she is attractive but also really great in her porn scenes. I know it's acting vs reality but by god I would have loved to have met her.

[londonhas]

Surprisingly the only one I had luck with was pof yonks ago. made a friend for going to concerts but due to change of plans our second meet ended up being watching a film at mine. Halfway through ended in a bj and came all over her face (my first facial.. always had cim swallow only haha)

[sparkus]

Surprisingly the only one I had luck with was pof yonks ago. made a friend for going to concerts but due to change of plans our second meet ended up being watching a film at mine. Halfway through ended in a bj and came all over her face (my first facial.. always had cim swallow only haha)

I'm tempted back by POF as the tourist pool for Tinder has plumetted and there's also a huge risk on those apps (eg. I saw profile of OH work colleague which means she may have seen mine).  The last time I went on there, two years ago, there really wasn't anything doing though compared to previous years as I think a lot who would have used it are now just on Tinder and Bumble.

There's also a 'plus sized' dating app 'WooPlus' which is quite cheap but as grim as you'd think.  Once you've waded past the council estate mums with tats/status dogs most of the members are haughty middle class types.

[Rick2468]

Surprisingly the only one I had luck with was pof yonks ago. made a friend for going to concerts but due to change of plans our second meet ended up being watching a film at mine. Halfway through ended in a bj and came all over her face (my first facial.. always had cim swallow only haha)

You reminded me I met a really filthy woman on collarme which was a fetish site. She advertised as a Mistress looking for slaves but we were talking and one day I logged in and she said "I can't stop thinking about you". She had a plain face but she was 5ft11 and an awesome body. When we met up she asked me to go straight to her flat. No meeting in public or anything just straight to hers! With hindsight it was a bit dodgy doing that as I could have been mugged or worse. We basically fucked all night, I was well up for it and think I was hard for about 10 hours straight! We never met up again as I had got what I wanted. I googled her years later and saw she had gone to court for asking a mentally challenged man to give her money! She was definitely a bit questionable and I would class her as a chav but she was gorgeous.

It surprises me how much action I was getting back then. I still do alright today but I have to work much harder at it! In the mid 2000s I was in better shape and had a fashionable haircut and some women had no qualms meeting someone for sex. Maybe people were less wary of the internet back then. I never really invested much time in any of the women because I felt I could move on and get another shag within the next couple of months. With hindsight I met some women who were both attractive and also very cool and would have made a good girlfriend but I didn't realise at the time because I didn't give a shit.

I expect people will think I'm bullshitting but I met a woman who did a bit of modelling. Her modelling name is Carly Holt so if you google Carly Holt Busty you will see who I mean. Yep, I actually tapped that. And I wish I could again grr. She was absolutely awesome perhaps my favourite ever shag. I also was chatting for ages with a woman from Brighton who entered Page 3 Idol or something but we never actually met up unfortunately.

[Ali Katt]

Did anyone ever meet anyone off Nasty Chat back in the day? I know it was largely an American site, but I never really did more than browse it.

[advent2016]

I used Rub maps / Monkey a lot in the past for the USA

[Mr Sinister]

I'm tempted back by POF as the tourist pool for Tinder has plumetted and there's also a huge risk on those apps (eg. I saw profile of OH work colleague which means she may have seen mine).  The last time I went on there, two years ago, there really wasn't anything doing though compared to previous years as I think a lot who would have used it are now just on Tinder and Bumble.

There's also a 'plus sized' dating app 'WooPlus' which is quite cheap but as grim as you'd think.  Once you've waded past the council estate mums with tats/status dogs most of the members are haughty middle class types.

I've been back in civvy land for quite a bit.
POF is bottom feed, lots of single moms, damaged women, fat chicks etc...they know it too and act like they're special so it's work. I fucked 1 girl over the weekend from it. Women on there are strange overall.

Bumble and Tinder, had quite a few casual hookups recently, usually by date 2 I'm fucking, couple ONS. Hinge I'm starting too. Of course guys you need to be decent looking and in shape to get matches after that game, don't worry about having a detailed profile cause it's all about looks and getting a woman to meet you early as possible.

Wooplus did it during lockdown, talked to a few women, but yes tons of single mom's. It's for plus sized women they have the advantage, act entitled, plus plenty of paying simps on there. I met one big assed EE, didn't get to hit but think I may give it another go. if you like curvy women, especially with big tits and asses there are some attractive women on there.

SA, had plenty of interest and messages from my profile, openly stated I was there for NSA with 30+ women so no sugarbaby arrangement. But I haven't paid the membership, find it hard to justify when I'm getting action from non-paying apps.

Craigslist - not like it used to be, a complete waste of time, some fucked up women on there, girls only interested in doing pictures, video. If you go down the "reward" route not worth it I was once quoted £100 for a topless HJ from a fatty and there's scams everywhere.

I also go with a redpill/alpha approach to it thats definitely opened my eyes to the dynamics between men and women.

[Gambitman92]

If you just want hookups then you don't add a bio under any circumstances.  Hostage to fortune and a lot of women who are only on there for sex (as one said to me, "If I wanted a relationship I wouldn't pursue it with anyone on here!") take no bio as code for hookup only intention (so the ones on there for relationships will swerve you also and not waste your time).

I found that the Superlike was the most effective way to get noticed and translated into convos which led to dates and sex with people I actually found attractive.  But you need to shell out for that.  Without that I doubt I'd have had as much action.

I personally don't rate Bumble at all and noticed that the two apps often had the same women on them anyway.  For the sake of time and money you need to focus on one and give it all you have, but that does mean swiping and talking constantly (which is hard around an OH and drains your battery).

This is BS imo, there are plenty of girls on okcupid with full bio's looking for hook ups, they just put it on their profiles, lots also put "short term dating" and "non monogamous". You can filter out profiles based on the answers we give to questions, plenty of girls said "yes" to sex on the first date, plenty have said "yes" to casual hook ups and friends with benefits. It isn't a secret. A lot of girls won't just fuck anyone, having good pictures helps a lot but you need to have a personality.

I have a full bio and 4 pictures, I put that I'm looking for short/long term dating, hook ups and a relationship with the right person. Hasn't stopped me from getting laid and getting dates, that's why I stopped and have not punted since June. If it makes a difference, I only message the girls who "like" my profile first, it makes it very easy to get dates since they already liked my pictures/bio.

I agree about POF having too many single moms/overweight women, I am not knocking them as we all want to find someone but it isn't for me, while Tinder has too many bots & fake profiles, Bumble I have yet to try.

[Chorley]

Just my personal opinion. But unless you look like Chris Hemsworth/ you can resemble Chris Hemsworth in a selfie then don't bother with online dating.
The ratio of blokes to women is crazy. Hence why you get obese Unicorn hunters on POF rejecting god knows how many perfectly decent matches 
 As a case in point I have a mate whose an amateur rugby player/personal trainer and he has to do pretty much fuck all to get a shag except exist. Lucky bastard
I'm just an average looking bloke who looks bloody awful in photos, so I've pretty much given up with this method.
 Trouble is I'm.equally shite with face to face interactions 

God job I don't  mind being single. 

[sparkus]

This is BS imo, there are plenty of girls on okcupid with full bio's looking for hook ups, they just put it on their profiles, lots also put "short term dating" and "non monogamous". You can filter out profiles based on the answers we give to questions, plenty of girls said "yes" to sex on the first date, plenty have said "yes" to casual hook ups and friends with benefits. It isn't a secret. A lot of girls won't just fuck anyone, having good pictures helps a lot but you need to have a personality.

I have a full bio and 4 pictures, I put that I'm looking for short/long term dating, hook ups and a relationship with the right person. Hasn't stopped me from getting laid and getting dates, that's why I stopped and have not punted since June. If it makes a difference, I only message the girls who "like" my profile first, it makes it very easy to get dates since they already liked my pictures/bio.

I agree about POF having too many single moms/overweight women, I am not knocking them as we all want to find someone but it isn't for me, while Tinder has too many bots & fake profiles, Bumble I have yet to try.

Mate, did I mention OkCupid?

[king tarzan]

The man is right. Tried a few sites and even shagged a bored housewife for a while, but it's just easier to pay

Much less hassle... Choice of hotties...easy mango access without having to talk bollox for ages...
And above all you don't have to listen to a woman chatting shit

[Ali Katt]

Genuine question before match.com and the like took off did anyone use Guardian Soulmates Dating?

[sparkus]

Just my personal opinion. But unless you look like Chris Hemsworth/ you can resemble Chris Hemsworth in a selfie then don't bother with online dating.
The ratio of blokes to women is crazy. Hence why you get obese Unicorn hunters on POF rejecting god knows how many perfectly decent matches 
 As a case in point I have a mate whose an amateur rugby player/personal trainer and he has to do pretty much fuck all to get a shag except exist. Lucky bastard
I'm just an average looking bloke who looks bloody awful in photos, so I've pretty much given up with this method.
 Trouble is I'm.equally shite with face to face interactions 

God job I don't  mind being single. 

Sometimes I don't rate my looks much tbh and at the same time I don't go around assessing other guys.  School is quite formative in that sense, how you're perceived and received there generally shapes your attitude about the importance of the opposite sex.  I wasn't particularly hard and generally had to use words rather than fists to avoid kickings, at the same time from 14 onwards I started to get asked out and this was very surprising to me.  Lads like your mate would get snatch without trying, I guess sometimes I had to but I had no complaints.  I also think coming from a family of mainly females with few males helps with being at ease around women/empathy.  As for photos, I take loads or get them taken and delete all the duff ones, even then out of 20 only two might work.

Some women claim they prefer genuine over too good looking.  A self-professed handsome mate and me once pulled two girls and the one I ended up with said he looked 'tacky as fuck' and she 'could just tell he was the kind of be in love with himself'.  She wasn't wrong but I suppose that radiates out and can cancel out good looks ie. the belief that being easy on the eye is usually accompanied by arrogance.  So it won't always be plain sailing for your mate with every bird he sees.

Personal trainers will probably always have the pick of their clients, some women fall for men like that.  That said, I'd love to meet a personal trainer who lets you fuck her brains out afterwards.

[sparkus]

Genuine question before match.com and the like took off did anyone use Guardian Soulmates Dating?

Dipped my toe in not long back, was a total waste of time.

[Ali Katt]

Dipped my toe in not long back, was a total waste of time.

Doesn't surprise me especially if someone lives outside London or Manchester. A lot of those university lecturers are always horny though.

[sparkus]

Doesn't surprise me especially if someone lives outside London or Manchester. A lot of those university lecturers are always horny though.

The demographic was skewed towards older women and very professional/creative ones at that.  All seemed to want a 'life partner'.

There seemed to be absolutely no tolerance or entertaining of hook-up on there BUT a colleague who was on there (you wouldn't, at all) said she'd gone on a date with a middle aged bloke who was quite pushy about going back to hers and she later met someone socially of the same ethnicity who mentioned they'd also went on a date with the same guy and slept with him because they couldn't fend him off.  Apparently the site admins were wise to him as they'd had complaints about him from several women, so it does happen.

[Mr Sinister]

Much less hassle... Choice of hotties...easy mango access without having to talk bollox for ages...
And above all you don't have to listen to a woman chatting shit

It's easier to pay, but cannot match real intimacy and attraction from a non wg. On a break from punting as it does nothing for me right now, my last interactions with wg was pure P&D and leave which is fine when I needed to let off some steam. The dating scene is work yes and can be frustrating, you also need to know how to game women, but I've done some self improvement on myself and am getting the results.

There's noting like a civvy totally submitting to you, I met up with a girl last night and had her sucking me off for an hour I didn't even need to tell her to do that. I'm also starting to fuck civvies with the physical attributes I like which feels like a win and puts me on the up, of course punting makes it easier to attain.

[king tarzan]

It's easier to pay, but cannot match real intimacy and attraction from a non wg. On a break from punting as it does nothing for me right now, my last interactions with wg was pure P&D and leave which is fine when I needed to let off some steam. The dating scene is work yes and can be frustrating, you also need to know how to game women, but I've done some self improvement on myself and am getting the results.

There's noting like a civvy totally submitting to you, I met up with a girl last night and had her sucking me off for an hour I didn't even need to tell her to do that. I'm also starting to fuck civvies with the physical attributes I like which feels like a win and puts me on the up, of course punting makes it easier to attain.

The woman I had was such an irritation to my peaceful calm pleasant life..
Thank heavens she has pissed off for good!!

[munterhunter]

Does anyone have knowledge of, or has used, a chat site that is aimed at casual hook ups? Done the usual searches on google but I get the impression that most are scams that charge to send messages to
girls who are probably fake anyway.  I still think punting via AW is going to be the most reliable way of finding genuine girls (obviously for a fee) but I’m curious if there are genuine hook up sites out there at all?

It has nothing to do with ""the site." They don't set out to scam people, the proplem is the scammers who are out to scam people. They see another opportunity to fleece the gullable and join up.
You can expect the site operator to protect you from being scammed but your best defence is your own common sense.

[sparkus]

It has nothing to do with ""the site." They don't set out to scam people, the proplem is the scammers who are out to scam people. They see another opportunity to fleece the gullable and join up.
You can expect the site operator to protect you from being scammed but your best defence is your own common sense.

POF has a fair few profiles of quite hefty women with malteser-sized moles promising sex (in fact, POF is #1 in some lads' mag type feature on how to get laid easily if looks aren't an issue) but they always seem to suggest the munter hunter (to borrow your monicker) visit another website for it to happen.  Perhaps they trawled facebook for munter women real pics and then used them (actually horny blokes who can't be arsed to wade through POF to get laid often message random women on facebook in the hope of that, it's pretty gross to hear about).

This was also hyped in media articles about 10 years ago: External Link/Members Only
I signed up and quickly got chatting to two local women, one I had seen around so in her case she was definitely real.  She was very enthusiastic but I called it off when she got quite specific about what we'd do during our three hours and 2.5 hours of that involved RO and I was as she was a big unit (would have been OK for two pops then split).  The other seemed real enough and had several on/off FBs on the go, usually younger men in loveless marriages staying together for the kids.  She was 10 years older but had a big pair on her and we'd agreed to meet in a park so she could assess for security reasons before inviting me back.  She then called it off as I casually mentioned I had a hangover from a night on the piss and she said alcohol was an absolute no as her ex was an alchy

[Rick2468]

I have seen a fair number of escorts on POF who are seeking dating. I have messaged a few saying hello and obviously don't let on that I know they escort. They normally say "Student" as their occupation but in one case the escort had put "customer services" as her occupation which I thought was very funny. I spoke to one escort and was getting quite far and she gave me her phone number which incidentally was the same number they had on their adultwork page. It seemed to be going well but she suddenly just ghosted me and I never knew why. It was exciting to potentially have a date with an escort because I imagine they would be filthy but in reality I wouldn't want a woman who fucked a few different blokes most days.

She isn't an escort but nearly 10 years ago I spoke to Piggymouth who is a cam girl. She was blonde back then and didn't have any visible tattoos. When I saw the page for Piggymouth I knew I recognised the face but it took me a week to realise who it was because she looked so different. We spoke on the phone and she was extremely flirty but I didn't get my ass in gear and met her because I had the hots for someone else which didn't work out anyway so massively kicking myself.
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I have been cruising the dating sites quite a lot recently and been talking to a very attractive woman who has an amazing figure. It's going well and hope to meet her soon. She is 10 years younger than me which isn't ideal but she seems keen.

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I have seen a fair number of escorts on POF who are seeking dating. I have messaged a few saying hello and obviously don't let on that I know they escort. They normally say "Student" as their occupation but in one case the escort had put "customer services" as her occupation which I thought was very funny. I spoke to one escort and was getting quite far and she gave me her phone number which incidentally was the same number they had on their adultwork page. It seemed to be going well but she suddenly just ghosted me and I never knew why. It was exciting to potentially have a date with an escort because I imagine they would be filthy but in reality I wouldn't want a woman who fucked a few different blokes most days.

She isn't an escort but nearly 10 years ago I spoke to Piggymouth who is a cam girl. She was blonde back then and didn't have any visible tattoos. When I saw the page for Piggymouth I knew I recognised the face but it took me a week to realise who it was because she looked so different. We spoke on the phone and she was extremely flirty but I didn't get my ass in gear and met her because I had the hots for someone else which didn't work out anyway so massively kicking myself.
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I have been cruising the dating sites quite a lot recently and been talking to a very attractive woman who has an amazing figure. It's going well and hope to meet her soon. She is 10 years younger than me which isn't ideal but she seems keen.

Hopefully it all goes well mate  I'm  going to give the apps a go again. I don't hold out much hope TBH, but I'm going to give it them a good go till the New Year.
Having managed less than a handful of shitty awkward dates in nearly ten years I guess I'll just except that I'm crap ant dating and relationships in general and I'm meant to be single forever. 

[Rick2468]

Hopefully it all goes well mate  I'm  going to give the apps a go again. I don't hold out much hope TBH, but I'm going to give it them a good go till the New Year.
Having managed less than a handful of shitty awkward dates in nearly ten years I guess I'll just except that I'm crap ant dating and relationships in general and I'm meant to be single forever. 

Thanks. I would love to post of photo of her to show off as she looks fine but against the rules I think.

I mention POF a few times but I think OKCupid is the best site from my experience. However saying that I am unable to log in using the mobile app so I can only use it on my laptop and therefore I don't log in so often. It's annoying as I was talking to an attractive woman and she started talking about her fantasies and she said she wanted to have a threesome with an older couple. That is not a fantasy I would want to do but it showed she was certainly a bit saucy. I actually thought she was fake because she was so forward about sex but we FaceTimed and it was her. I didn't log into OKCupid for a week and when I did I saw she had unmatched me which might have been because I hadn't responded to her message for a while so kicking myself. POF is actually quite shit you have to spend a lot of time digging through the shite.

I also had a date with a woman from OkCupid who had a 1950s pin-up vibe about her and she had enormous boobs. I try and be a gentleman and not oggle but it was impossible in the case and she caught me staring at her tits about 20 times. She didn't want a second date and awkwardly I was in a bar a couple of weeks later and randomly saw her, she looked up and saw me looking at her and she looked extremely freaked out. It was obvious she thought I was stalking her so I had to leave. Makes me cringe whenever I think about that moment. I'm still linked with her on Instagram and she is now dating an absolute beast of a man who looks like a 6ft4 bear so if I run into him I could be in trouble.

[jaydefo24]

I met someone from Bumble a few weeks ago but was a traditional date rather than a hookup. I always found OKCupid the best of the dating apps and I have met a few women from there over the years and hooked up, including a canadian woman who was the absolute love of my life but her interest in me cooled after a while. We are still friends on facebook so I get to see her gorgeous face and body all the time to rub it in. She was really dirty as well and even said once that she would do anything I wanted in the bedroom which makes the whole break up even more painful. Sigh.

POF is a waste of time. I have met a couple of people from there but only after really grafting away on there for hours. Some woman from POF cancelled our date literally an hour before we were due to meet which really annoyed me as I was all dressed up and about to leave the house. Tinder is a waste of time. I think on Tinder the women are more after instagram  followers. I did have some interest from a chick who was cute and had large boobs but for some reason I just could not be assed to go on a date with her so we never met up.

Sorry to hear that mate, any ideas why her interest waned ? Is she just a slutty one who needs variety or you did something specific ?

[jaydefo24]

Hopefully it all goes well mate  I'm  going to give the apps a go again. I don't hold out much hope TBH, but I'm going to give it them a good go till the New Year.
Having managed less than a handful of shitty awkward dates in nearly ten years I guess I'll just except that I'm crap ant dating and relationships in general and I'm meant to be single forever. 

How old are you ? Roughly.

I have different tips and advice depending on your answer.

[Rick2468]

Sorry to hear that mate, any ideas why her interest waned ? Is she just a slutty one who needs variety or you did something specific ?

She never told me and I was too scared to ask. Things were going extremely well and I made a throwaway comment about her moving in with me, didn't really mean anything by it but she said something like "Okay well that's a bit serious" then she seemed to cool off after that so I wonder if she felt I was too forward. We agreed to continue hanging out as friends and of course I hoped to get back with her then she mentioned she was going on a date with another guy and I was gutted and told her I couldn't see her anymore. She still messages me over Facebook on my birthday and I always try to keep the conversation going but she goes quiet after a while.

This is going to sound totally pathetic but I dated her for 4 months 6 years ago and I still think about her today! She was such a bundle of energy and was always happy and positive and it would rub off on me. Also very creative and her Dad was a CEO who earned £3M a year so she was rich haha. Her family home in Canada looked like the house from Home Alone and she would fly first class to places. She sold art online as her official job but I think she just lived off pocket money from her pop. Also she was gorgeous, Dad was Indian and Mum was white so she had a beautiful coloured skin and hair. She was slightly curvy but very confident with it. Also she was filthy. On our first date we went for drinks and ended up getting a bit drunk and she pushed herself up to me and said "I want you to take me back to yours and fuck me". I was absolutely raging! We did some things that I had never even thought of. Like one day she asked me to hump her legs which I thought was weird but I went with it and it was great haha. I know this sounds like I am a 12 year old boy writing out his fantasies but it all happened. It definitely feels like I opened pandora's box I would have loved to have kept hold of her. I have dated other people since that I like but definitely not the same. I'm not heartbroken anymore but definitely feel like I lost out.

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How old are you ? Roughly.

I have different tips and advice depending on your answer.

Cheers fella. Wil send a Pm 

[billybobsmith]

I'm having a quick look at POF at present.  Everyone so far seems to be age 30-40+ regardless of my filters and some have some really major chips on their shoulders judging by their profiles, yet I bet they keep going back to the same type of man they constantly moan about who treats them like dirt.
Messy site, and as with Tinder, seems to require ££ to see various things (sort of chatting to one girl on there, 3 others haven't responded and another is on Snapchat and does meets etc., although I expect her to want "£120 for my premium package that includes photos, a video, and you can meet me" or something along those lines, with no intention of ever meeting after she gets the cash)

[sparkus]

I have seen a fair number of escorts on POF who are seeking dating. I have messaged a few saying hello and obviously don't let on that I know they escort. They normally say "Student" as their occupation but in one case the escort had put "customer services" as her occupation which I thought was very funny. I spoke to one escort and was getting quite far and she gave me her phone number which incidentally was the same number they had on their adultwork page. It seemed to be going well but she suddenly just ghosted me and I never knew why. It was exciting to potentially have a date with an escort because I imagine they would be filthy but in reality I wouldn't want a woman who fucked a few different blokes most days.

She isn't an escort but nearly 10 years ago I spoke to Piggymouth who is a cam girl. She was blonde back then and didn't have any visible tattoos. When I saw the page for Piggymouth I knew I recognised the face but it took me a week to realise who it was because she looked so different. We spoke on the phone and she was extremely flirty but I didn't get my ass in gear and met her because I had the hots for someone else which didn't work out anyway so massively kicking myself.
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I have been cruising the dating sites quite a lot recently and been talking to a very attractive woman who has an amazing figure. It's going well and hope to meet her soon. She is 10 years younger than me which isn't ideal but she seems keen.

I did see one escort of my acquaintance on there, but I wouldn't put it past cunts to just nick their pics and try to sucker blokes into scams that way.  I did years later randomly see her with a bloke in tow, so who knows.