Sugarbabies / Seeking Regional Thread (SE)

[Danj89]

seems happy to chat and then asks for money up front - variety of reasons / excuses! Potential scammer

Spoke to her on another platform went quiet and then started sending me pics of her in hospital,doesn't seem serious.

Also pineapple - Southampton looks to want emotional/platonic only no intimacy.

[markymarkfb]

Anyone on here tried to use a promo code on seek recently?? does not seem to be a section for it now, have they removed that option ?

[nawtybutniceboy]

seems happy to chat and then asks for money up front - variety of reasons / excuses! Potential scammer

That was my experience too. Had a long phone conversation with her and she came across as totally normal and a nice person….

 But got requests for cash and gifts at random times of day, with excuses around needing fuel money and being stuck at petrol stations (3am?), despite allegedly getting paid by her employer on a daily basis.

Every time she struck up a text conversation it lead to demands - her opening message was about not being materialistic! Load of bollocks!

Story(s) didn’t pass the sniff test so gave it a miss. 

[southcoastpunter]

Anyone on here tried to use a promo code on seek recently?? does not seem to be a section for it now, have they removed that option ?

yes it would seem so. we do get some individual offers from time to time but Seeking seemed to have closed down the "sharing" of discount codes!

[markymarkfb]

yes it would seem so. we do get some individual offers from time to time but Seeking seemed to have closed down the "sharing" of discount codes!

Well im not paying over 100£ to message someone

[finn5555]

Well im not paying over 100£ to message someone

Seeking isn’t for you then 

[Saco]

How’s people’s experience on seeking nowadays? Was great back in the day, I have signed up for a month to test the waters again, fingers crossed 🤞

[MichaelDBW]

How’s people’s experience on seeking nowadays? Was great back in the day, I have signed up for a month to test the waters again, fingers crossed 🤞

Hit and miss I'd say, my last spell on there in April/May was pretty fruitful and have made a few promising connections that will hopefully keep me busy for a good while .. They are London-based though, it's harder to find girls on there more local now I would say. Prior to that most recent subscription, I'd had a couple of spells on there which weren't so great. The gems definitely do seem more scarce than they once were (from my own experience but others may say different).

[southcoastpunter]

How’s people’s experience on seeking nowadays? Was great back in the day, I have signed up for a month to test the waters again, fingers crossed 🤞

i can't see the point of you asking the question if you have already signed up again - you have already spent the money so give it your best shot and see her yourself!

[sugardaddy0511]

Hit and miss I'd say, my last spell on there in April/May was pretty fruitful and have made a few promising connections that will hopefully keep me busy for a good while .. They are London-based though, it's harder to find girls on there more local now I would say. Prior to that most recent subscription, I'd had a couple of spells on there which weren't so great. The gems definitely do seem more scarce than they once were (from my own experience but others may say different).

Do you travel to London for meets or do they travel to meet you ? If so how long journeys are some SB comfortable with as I have loads who only want London meets

[MichaelDBW]

Do you travel to London for meets or do they travel to meet you ? If so how long journeys are some SB comfortable with as I have loads who only want London meets

Initial meets have always been in London but beyond that most (though not all) have been alright with travelling, though I'm only 40 minutes by train and live right by a station, so it's not a mega-effort on their part! How far out from London are you? .. I do buy and send them their tickets too, some people on here might say that's not the done thing, but once I've met someone once I'm OK with doing that.

[Saco]

Hit and miss I'd say, my last spell on there in April/May was pretty fruitful and have made a few promising connections that will hopefully keep me busy for a good while .. They are London-based though, it's harder to find girls on there more local now I would say. Prior to that most recent subscription, I'd had a couple of spells on there which weren't so great. The gems definitely do seem more scarce than they once were (from my own experience but others may say different).

Yeah agree the gems are few and far between, glad you had some luck recently though and sounds like you’ve made some decent contacts

[sugardaddy0511]

Initial meets have always been in London but beyond that most (though not all) have been alright with travelling, though I'm only 40 minutes by train and live right by a station, so it's not a mega-effort on their part! How far out from London are you? .. I do buy and send them their tickets too, some people on here might say that's not the done thing, but once I've met someone once I'm OK with doing that.

I have always sent tickets from Trainline . I think the key is first meet in London , thanks for the tip

[Danj89]

External Link/Members Only - eve , Southampton.

Wants 3k per month cash allowance for weekly meets.

[paul_tall_]

External Link/Members Only - eve , Southampton.

Wants 3k per month cash allowance for weekly meets.

That’s a serious amount of money esp if she wants it up front even if she found someone that was happy with that sort of allowance say £750 a meet  . Her profile doesn’t come across as someone who will be available weekly , esp as she mentions juggling a full time career , a baby and starting a masters .

[NightKid]

That’s a serious amount of money esp if she wants it up front even if she found someone that was happy with that sort of allowance say £750 a meet  . Her profile doesn’t come across as someone who will be available weekly , esp as she mentions juggling a full time career , a baby and starting a masters .

She's just delulu pro max, don't really need to read that much into it 

[paul_tall_]

External Link/Members Only Shara - 34 - Woking

This surely has to be a wind up profile ?

Hasnt worked since 2022 dues to mental health issues, admits photos are old other than one , states struggling with weight issues , happy to host once her partner has found a job otherwise coffee or a room elsewhere that you arrange

[bigden40]

External Link/Members Only Shara - 34 - Woking

This surely has to be a wind up profile ?

Hasnt worked since 2022 dues to mental health issues, admits photos are old other than one , states struggling with weight issues , happy to host once her partner has found a job otherwise coffee or a room elsewhere that you arrange

At least she’s honest. 

I liked the bit where she says it got worse when she started hearing voices!

[sugardaddy0511]

External Link/Members Only    Lara 26 Salisbury, scammer and time waster . Please stay away

[paul_tall_]

External Link/Members Only    Lara 26 Salisbury, scammer and time waster . Please stay away

what was the scam ?

[Danj89]

Spoke to her in sept 2024, seemed proper flakey , cancelled on two meets. One when I was in Salisbury to see some old work colleagues and declined a friend a lift on the way back as was meant to see her after.
She also had a verification video on another platform and looked nothing like the pics and super spotty so guess I dodged a bullet. No scam vibes though ,she kept reaching out to sort an arrangement but went funny everytime I made clear I would only be willing to start something once intimacy was on the cards.

[sugardaddy0511]

what was the scam ?

arranged to meet , reached the place , said was on the way and when asked to share location, blocked me . Had a sob story of grandma in Greece on her deathbed and need a grand urgently to visit her etc .

[paul_tall_]

External Link/Members Only currvyenglish
Not based in Guildford but say Brighton, didnt get to talk allowance as her telegram is full of buy content posts so avoided

[paul_tall_]

External Link/Members Only Beth based in Surrey

New profile let’s see how long she lasts as profile smacks of looking to date an older guy not sb/sd

[paul_tall_]

A couple more that appear to be looking for relationships and will get a shock
External Link/Members Only Miranda (Hook)
External Link/Members Only Shamila (Woking)

Bet the first one is a fun date based on her profile not wants

[Danj89]

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Frankie-chichester

Spoke to her on another platform last year. Reconnected on seeking this year but wants a 350ppm but insists on 20% deposit prior to meeting. Said I would consider it if she could prove with screenshots that she met someone after taking a deposit. Made excuse about a message timer ,seems like a scam.

[sugardaddy0511]

Chlo Andover 33 The girl is a genuine SB

[Cunning Punt]

A couple more that appear to be looking for relationships and will get a shock
External Link/Members Only Miranda (Hook)
External Link/Members Only Shamila (Woking)

Bet the first one is a fun date based on her profile not wants

Have you actually spoken to them or are you just making comment based on their profiles? The first one is fairly ugly and states she's 49 and looks 10 years older so doubt she's going to much attention anyway apart from maybe guys in their 70s.
The second one is a 34-y-o Asian girl who doesn't seem to be looking for a relationship at all but occasional platonic meets.

[paul_tall_]

Have you actually spoken to them or are you just making comment based on their profiles? The first one is fairly ugly and states she's 49 and looks 10 years older so doubt she's going to much attention anyway apart from maybe guys in their 70s.
The second one is a 34-y-o Asian girl who doesn't seem to be looking for a relationship at all but occasional platonic meets.

I was more pointing out new profiles that read as relationships rather than sb /sd
Shamaila is also on secret benefits , I did email her , quite a non flirty hi how are you type message , read but no reply .
Miranda , I haven’t messaged for a start I fall under her give yourself a slap category , interestingly with her if you do a bit of digging she has a past based on her views .
Beth who I mentioned before I spoke to , I’m not her type , not sure she is looking for a full on relationship but she complained that guys don’t know what they want .
There are certainly more profiles that are looking for the relationship rather than casual now appearing and it’s just a comment that seeking is targeting the high end dating whilst having a history of profiles that want a paid arrangement

[MichaelDBW]

I was more pointing out new profiles that read as relationships rather than sb /sd
Shamaila is also on secret benefits , I did email her , quite a non flirty hi how are you type message , read but no reply .
Miranda , I haven’t messaged for a start I fall under her give yourself a slap category , interestingly with her if you do a bit of digging she has a past based on her views .
Beth who I mentioned before I spoke to , I’m not her type , not sure she is looking for a full on relationship but she complained that guys don’t know what they want .
There are certainly more profiles that are looking for the relationship rather than casual now appearing and it’s just a comment that seeking is targeting the high end dating whilst having a history of profiles that want a paid arrangement

Yes I had a platonic M&G drinks meet with a girl one evening last week, she was a new member on there and was saying that the site really wasn't what she was expecting when she signed up. I had that exact same conversation with her that 100% (or near enough, IMO) of the guys on there still see it as Seeking Arrangement whereas not all girls see it that way.

[paul_tall_]

Yes I had a platonic M&G drinks meet with a girl one evening last week, she was a new member on there and was saying that the site really wasn't what she was expecting when she signed up. I had that exact same conversation with her that 100% (or near enough, IMO) of the guys on there still see it as Seeking Arrangement whereas not all girls see it that way.

Conversely I think there are still girls who are signing up looking for a full sb/sd relationship with all the rewards and are equally shocked by the direct messaging of some guys . A girl who i met a few times earlier in the year in reality was looking for a monthly allowance on a par with a guy she had got into an arrangement/mistress thing out of her work environment which had come to an end and he had been extremely generous. She admitted that she thought seeking would give her that when in reality guys would never commit to any financial agreement, were lewd in messaging and disrespectful. I made it clear from the outset that i was not looking to provide what she wanted . It was fun whilst it lasted but you could tell she wanted way more just by the conversations

[southcoastpunter]

Seeking is still going through its "transition" - the issue is, i think, most of the guys don't want it to go that way. we want it to be more like "seeking arrangements".

And i have been told that many guys are rude and agressive especially if told "no thanks" (that is one reason why some girls just block rather than say "no thanks").

I do monthly allowances rather than PPM - paul Tall, can i ask who your lady was - maybe she might be good for me and i for her!

[paul_tall_]

Seeking is still going through its "transition" - the issue is, i think, most of the guys don't want it to go that way. we want it to be more like "seeking arrangements".

And i have been told that many guys are rude and agressive especially if told "no thanks" (that is one reason why some girls just block rather than say "no thanks").

I do monthly allowances rather than PPM - paul Tall, can i ask who your lady was - maybe she might be good for me and i for her!

Afaik she isn’t on the site anymore and when last I heard from her was seeing someone completely unrelated to seeking

[southcoastpunter]

Afaik she isn’t on the site anymore and when last I heard from her was seeing someone completely unrelated to seeking

ok - thanks anyway!

[Cunning Punt]

Conversely I think there are still girls who are signing up looking for a full sb/sd relationship with all the rewards

I've only conversed with a handful girls in 7 years on SA who didn't want some sort of SB arrangement, virtually always some sort of allowance or occasionally another very costly lifestyle-related 'reward'. A couple of those girls were fairly recently but the non-SBs are by far and away in the minority still.

The thing is if girls are looking for a straightforward fwb situation or even a relationship then they're a lot less likely to go for a middle-aged guy who isn't good looking (I'm including myself in this bracket).

Meanwhile, most guys on there are effectively looking for sex for cash, as they always were. So describing it as a transition is being polite; the reBrandoning which started at least 3 years ago isn't really working.

[paul_tall_]

I've only conversed with a handful girls in 7 years on SA who didn't want some sort of SB arrangement, virtually always some sort of allowance or occasionally another very costly lifestyle-related 'reward'. A couple of those girls were fairly recently but the non-SBs are by far and away in the minority still.

The thing is if girls are looking for a straightforward fwb situation or even a relationship then they're a lot less likely to go for a middle-aged guy who isn't good looking (I'm including myself in this bracket).

Meanwhile, most guys on there are effectively looking for sex for cash, as they always were. So describing it as a transition is being polite; the reBrandoning which started at least 3 years ago isn't really working.

Totally normal that we’re seeing the recent changes differently; we’ve all had different experiences and expectations, and backgrounds.

We will have seen varying levels of difference be that newer profiles who seem to align more to what the sites “supposed” new direction is compared with the same old faces that are always online.

Personally I think that the sites aim is to get back to a site prior to Covid and even the student explosion back then and be that hidden exclusive arrangement / feb based on long term rather than one offs ppm .

Whether the site survives will remain to be seen , certainly in my eyes the initial post Covid experience was shocking , improved a bit but has gone down hill . They lost control of the scam type elements on the site and punished the guys more it’s no wonder the site had lost its traditional clientele.

I’m not based in London and rarely ever went looking for London based girls so that may narrow my view

[Cunning Punt]

Alexandra, 25, Oxford - timewaster.
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M&G arranged and she confirmed 3 hours before the date but didn't turn up and blanked me with no messages and didn't even read mine.
Her comms overall were a bit flaky and she looks very spaced out in her profile pictures.


Ivory, 38, Oxford - wants relationship, is dull and a possible catfish.
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She wants a long-term relationship and doesn't want to meet until trust established after several weeks of texts and voice notes. She will talk on the phone  and her voice and texts reveal her to be a typically dull humourless Russian. She refused to have a video call, which is a red flag; while I can't be 100% sure, I very much doubt she looks like the girl in the profile photos.

She claims to be an angel investor and I was always wondering if there was going to be a potential scam attempt somewhere down the line.

[paul_tall_]

Alexandra, 25, Oxford - timewaster.
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M&G arranged and she confirmed 3 hours before the date but didn't turn up and blanked me with no messages and didn't even read mine.
Her comms overall were a bit flaky and she looks very spaced out in her profile pictures.


Ivory, 38, Oxford - wants relationship, is dull and a possible catfish.

She wants a long-term relationship and doesn't want to meet until trust established after several weeks of texts and voice notes. She will talk on the phone  and her voice and texts reveal her to be a typically dull humourless Russian. She refused to have a video call, which is a red flag; while I can't be 100% sure, I very much doubt she looks like the girl in the profile photos.

She claims to be an angel investor and I was always wondering if there was going to be a potential scam attempt somewhere down the line.

This is the profile for Ivory External Link/Members Only you had linked your messages.
Think you are right this would be a scam Angel Investor and Russian, sounds like they are playing the long game by messaging and voice note messaging. Did they every ask abut your fina ncial background ? Could quite easily be part of a pig butchering scam group

[Cunning Punt]

This is the profile for Ivory External Link/Members Only you had linked your messages.
Think you are right this would be a scam Angel Investor and Russian, sounds like they are playing the long game by messaging and voice note messaging. Did they every ask abut your fina ncial background ? Could quite easily be part of a pig butchering scam group

Thanks. No, they didn't ask and I would have immediately terminated the conversation and mentioned that if they had. The girl I spoke to didn't seem that bright and the more I think about it, it does seem like a long-game scam and she was a front.

[Gunnarman]

Chlo Andover 33 The girl is a genuine SB

Profile link? Have you met her? What's she looking for?

[paul_tall_]

Profile link? Have you met her? What's she looking for?

This is her profile link base on what he has said External Link/Members Only

[sugardaddy0511]

Profile link? Have you met her? What's she looking for?

all I can say that as per her , she has had long term arrangement before . She seemed nice person when I met her for a drink

[seed_sprayer]

all I can say that as per her , she has had long term arrangement before . She seemed nice person when I met her for a drink

Yes I’ve met her; she’s a nice girl, pics are accurate. Reluctant to give any gory details as I suspect she doesn’t see that many guys and some of our forum seem to like showing girls this forum (but who knows) - no red flags.

[Hantsolo]

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Lisa, Chichester.

£300 per meet, but wants "a small deposit the first time to prove you're genuine"

I didnt bother asking how much is small, but I bet its at least £50 that you'd never see again!

[paul_tall_]

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Lisa, Chichester.

£300 per meet, but wants "a small deposit the first time to prove you're genuine"

I didnt bother asking how much is small, but I bet its at least £50 that you'd never see again!

Usual reverse searches dont generate any viable matches, if its genuinely her then shows its not just the young ones (her profile age is 43) that are potential money up front scammers.
Dont recall seeing her profile before

[Hantsolo]

Usual reverse searches dont generate any viable matches, if its genuinely her then shows its not just the young ones (her profile age is 43) that are potential money up front scammers.
Dont recall seeing her profile before

She's been there before, when she gave me her whatsapp we had previous messages from 5 years ago. Although she didnt ask for a deposit then, but the conversation dried up so meeting wasnt discussed.

[Cunning Punt]

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Grace, 26, Oxford
Timewaster. Flaky comms and then sends her Amazon gift list on WhatsApp, so clearly just want men to send her gifts and not actually meet.

[southcoastpunter]

anyone met, chatted to or have info on the following two please:

Jasmine, 19, New Milton
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Princess 25 Southampton
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[macman26]

anyone met, chatted to or have info on the following two please:

Jasmine, 19, New Milton
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Princess 25 Southampton
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They've all seem to have gone, mate

[southcoastpunter]

i can still see their profiles Macman - so presumambly they haven't deactivated their accounts.