Sugarbabies / Seeking Regional Thread (SE)

[southcoastpunter]

let me ask a question on allowances....not something i usually do as I normally just wine and dine and provide ad hoc gifts etc. So if you agree an allowance do you normally give that before you are intimate? Or is it only once that has happened. Discussing it with a SB but interested on how others have approached it.
TIA
Budgie

I usually pay half the agreed monthly allowance directly after our first intimate meet (i do it by bank transfer - i am single and nothing to hide) and the second half of the allowance after out second intimate meet. 

a bit of context - i use a monthly allowance rather than PPM's - i always consider them as potential long term and not as a short term. of course it doesn't always work out LT for various reasons. I have always had a coffee/drink M&G first then a separate dinner date so we have always meet at least twice before. For me, its important that we really get on well together as in my arrangements we spend much more time out of bed than in it, although that is also important too. My SB's are usually in their early/mid 20's and i am now over 60 although look more mid 50's.

[massagepuntingfan]

let me ask a question on allowances....not something i usually do as I normally just wine and dine and provide ad hoc gifts etc. So if you agree an allowance do you normally give that before you are intimate? Or is it only once that has happened. Discussing it with a SB but interested on how others have approached it.
TIA
Budgie

Personally I'd never give an allowance and prefer ppm - its safeguards both interests. If a girl demands an allowance from the first meeting I tell them I don't do this until trust has been built. I also make it clear that any ppm is dependant on intimacy. Essentially no sex no money. I do make it very clear from the outset what I'm looking for and it cuts through a huge amount of bullshit and fannying around. There are plenty of women who prefer the direct approach so don't be timid in stating your needs.
Everyone has different ways of going about things but this has given me lots of success over 6 years.

[bigden40]

let me ask a question on allowances....not something i usually do as I normally just wine and dine and provide ad hoc gifts etc. So if you agree an allowance do you normally give that before you are intimate? Or is it only once that has happened. Discussing it with a SB but interested on how others have approached it.
TIA
Budgie

For me no cash changes hand until after intimate relations have concluded.

I usually start on a per meet basis and can move to a monthly allowance once trust has developed and frequency has settled down to a normal cadence.  Where I have a monthly allowance (after 1-2 months PPM) I usually pay half at the start of month and half mid-month.

[Cunning Punt]

xwitchy3, Goth girl in Milton Keynes
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Ugly and chubby in real life, weird, totally unshaven, unclean, lazy and just lies there - did nothing for or to me and then tried to claim we'd agreed on a lot more money. Cheeky bitch.

New profile, now called punksi:
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Avoid like the plague.

[AffAlchemist]

New profile:
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Avoid like the plague.

thats your inbox pal

[Cunning Punt]

thats your inbox pal

Thanks, mate, corrected link in original post above.

[AffAlchemist]

Thanks, mate, corrected link in original post above.

Thanks for the Intel
She had sent me her number but I hadn't yet replied
Fancied something quirky but not dirty / unshaven haha so thanks for saving me the time and wasted effort
Out of interest can you share what you paid ppm

[Gunnarman]

How bad is seeking ATM in south coast ? I am contemplating going premium but last 2 premium memberships were useless down in the south coast . Should I bother or are there really some gems to be found ? I am looking for a reliable sugar baby I can meet for a reasonable ppm .

I jumped back on SA after eight months away and it's pretty damn dire on the south coast.  The lack of attractive SBs is kind of a letdown, especially when there are about four universities within an hour drive from me.  I'm not sure why the quality and quantity has drastically decreased over the years, but it's a letdown, and it is making me reconsider sticking with my two current SBs and not trying something new.

[Budgiesmuggler]

I usually pay half the agreed monthly allowance directly after our first intimate meet (i do it by bank transfer - i am single and nothing to hide) and the second half of the allowance after out second intimate meet. 

a bit of context - i use a monthly allowance rather than PPM's - i always consider them as potential long term and not as a short term. of course it doesn't always work out LT for various reasons. I have always had a coffee/drink M&G first then a separate dinner date so we have always meet at least twice before. For me, its important that we really get on well together as in my arrangements we spend much more time out of bed than in it, although that is also important too. My SB's are usually in their early/mid 20's and i am now over 60 although look more mid 50's.

Thank you sir and to others for the intel...this is the crux of the issue, when do i make the first payment. Makes sense to do half say at start of the month and then half mid-month. We are talking about £1,000 so not astronomical. But do you say you will only start the transfers...after first intimacy or take a leap of faith, pay half and then assume it will happen in the first couple of dates? Assume the latter right?

[sugardaddy0511]

let me ask a question on allowances....not something i usually do as I normally just wine and dine and provide ad hoc gifts etc. So if you agree an allowance do you normally give that before you are intimate? Or is it only once that has happened. Discussing it with a SB but interested on how others have approached it.
TIA
Budgie

always after intimacy. At best if new take money out when in a room and clothes are off .

[sugardaddy0511]

I jumped back on SA after eight months away and it's pretty damn dire on the south coast.  The lack of attractive SBs is kind of a letdown, especially when there are about four universities within an hour drive from me.  I'm not sure why the quality and quantity has drastically decreased over the years, but it's a letdown, and it is making me reconsider sticking with my two current SBs and not trying something new.

same here jumped back and found that the current ones are the best

[southcoastpunter]

Thank you sir and to others for the intel...this is the crux of the issue, when do i make the first payment. Makes sense to do half say at start of the month and then half mid-month. We are talking about £1,000 so not astronomical. But do you say you will only start the transfers...after first intimacy or take a leap of faith, pay half and then assume it will happen in the first couple of dates? Assume the latter right?

I think the girls who do a monthly allowance are perhaps a bit different from the PPM girls!
For me, because I have met them at least twice ( non paid platonic) it’s half  immensely after an intimate meeting- it’s usually at my place and I do the transfer before she has left! I do the other half in the same way after our second intimate meeting! My arrangement are based on 3 or 4 meets per month so yes she could disappear and not continue with the arrangement but at least I have had two intimate meetings out of it!
But so far —- I have been lucky or perhaps it’s just a good selection process!!

[Cunning Punt]

I'm not sure why the quality and quantity has drastically decreased over the years, but it's a letdown, and it is making me reconsider sticking with my two current SBs and not trying something new.

Read this thread and others; I've already said why on the previous page here:

Agree with all the above; it's dire, with very few girls and most of them are timewasters. It's become gradually more difficult in the past 4 years since Covid.

Various reasons for this, largely related to a) many of Generation Z being entitled and lazy; b) the way that Brandon has totally fucked up the site by trying to change it into a high-end dating site not about money or sex. Trouble is, only ones who took notice were guys who want sex for nothing; girls still want money and few of them now are willing to open their legs to get it. Many genuine SDs have been banned or lost interest, which then means girls lose interest, and it's a vicious circle.

[southcoastpunter]

Yes read back a bit - guys have a number of theories/ views as to why it’s not so good - I agree with CP to some extent but imo there are other reasons too!
But if you have 2 good existing SB’s then you are a lucky boy - stick with them!

[sugardaddy0511]

Yes read back a bit - guys have a number of theories/ views as to why it’s not so good - I agree with CP to some extent but imo there are other reasons too!
But if you have 2 good existing SB’s then you are a lucky boy - stick with them!

same situation but concerned about the future !

[updownandaround]

External Link/Members Only - Bee, Bracknell

I came across this one, figuratively and literally, a few days ago. If you're into some Polish MILFy action then she's a very decent shag where pretty much anything goes (she's an anal superstar) plus she admitted to being a swinger. She originally wanted 350 for a few hours but we settled at 200 when I said no. She's clearly done some escorting work before, she rocked up and came straight to the room, no messing.

[sugardaddy0511]

External Link/Members Only - Bee, Bracknell

I came across this one, figuratively and literally, a few days ago. If you're into some Polish MILFy action then she's a very decent shag where pretty much anything goes (she's an anal superstar) plus she admitted to being a swinger. She originally wanted 350 for a few hours but we settled at 200 when I said no. She's clearly done some escorting work before, she rocked up and came straight to the room, no messing.

thanks for sharing some positive experience. Though not in my area but looks good and Polish girls are my favourite

[updownandaround]

thanks for sharing some positive experience. Though not in my area but looks good and Polish girls are my favourite

10/10 in terms of anal but she seems to be quite high traffic and didn't seem too fussed about condoms.

[888]

How was her DFK and body? Also how many hours did you spend with her for £200? Very tempted to see her but your post about high traffic and a laissez-fare approach to condoms is concerning…

[updownandaround]

How was her DFK and body? Also how many hours did you spend with her for £200? Very tempted to see her but your post about high traffic and a laissez-fare approach to condoms is concerning…

Her DFK was full on tonsil deep. Body is decent, she's a regular gym goer. We didn't discuss time limits but I got a good couple of hours out of her without her looking at her watch. But then again, I usually get bored of girls pretty quickly and want them out the door.

[Hantsolo]

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Nicole, Brighton

Anyone had the pleasure? Shes been on SA for 5 years, but can't find any feedback.

Was out for drinks early evening in Hove yesterday and saw her out with some guy. Dressed like a tart, flaunting her huge fake tits and seemed to want to start a fight with anyone, loud, rude and the guy she was with left her in the pub as he'd clearly had enough. She carried on drinking, got louder, more offensive and obnoxious.

Looked a complete car crash and this was about 6pm.

[finn5555]

Was out for drinks early evening in Hove yesterday and saw her out with some guy. Dressed like a tart, flaunting her huge fake tits and seemed to want to start a fight with anyone, loud, rude and the guy she was with left her in the pub as he'd clearly had enough. She carried on drinking, got louder, more offensive and obnoxious.

Looked a complete car crash and this was about 6pm.

And you was balls deep in her by 7pm 

[Hantsolo]

And you was balls deep in her by 7pm 

🤣 definitely not, like most of the people in the pub I was keeping out of her firing line!

[Budgiesmuggler]

I can also categorically confirm she is rude, arrogant and entitled.....and that was based on a few whatsapp exchanges.

[Gunnarman]

Any info on this one- I've got a thing for older women. Said £250 pm, seems kind of pro.

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[Hantsolo]

Any info on this one- I've got a thing for older women. Said £250 pm, seems kind of pro.

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Yes, met her a few years ago. She’s very high traffic, desperate for the money. Only met her once, but she then kept texting me and I ended up blocking her number.

[Gunnarman]

Yes, met her a few years ago. She’s very high traffic, desperate for the money. Only met her once, but she then kept texting me and I ended up blocking her number.

Thanks for the info.  Was the experience good at least?

[Hantsolo]

Thanks for the info.  Was the experience good at least?

I would rate it as average. She’s quite a large woman and I’ve had better, younger and slimmer for the same / less. As I said, I’ve never been tempted to return.

[southcoastpunter]

Rachael aged 29 Southampton   External Link/Members Only

attractive and (i thought at first) very nice but either two faced or just playing me to get platonic meets.

at our first meeting she told me she had met one other guy from seeking (she is new to Seeking) but "did something i didn't want to do - for financial reasons" ( ie a hotel sex meet). At our second meet (both unpaid and dinner only dates) she told me she found him boring. we discussed the details of what our arrangement could be (including the financials and the fact that sex was part of it) - she seemed happy.

A few days later i messaged her about starting the arrangement and gave a suggested date - then she comes back with "i wouldn't feel comfortable having a sexual encounter with you whilst i am seeing him" - long story short she then said she was happy to see me in a platonic arrangement but is going to stick with "the boring one". could be she just didn't want sex with me but why didn't she say so - i also said i didn't mind her seeing (just) one other guy but she stuck with her "no sex".
so maybe it was just me - or maybe she plays guys to get free dinners (she did suggest a few expensive places) and/or a platonic arrangement.

[Cunning Punt]

Rachael aged 29 Southampton   External Link/Members Only

so maybe it was just me - or maybe she plays guys to get free dinners (she did suggest a few expensive places) and/or a platonic arrangement.

Useful headsup though the warning is in her profile which strongly suggests platonic only eg says "I would like to be taken to dinners and events" and talks about intellectual conversation. So to answer your question, not just you.

[paul_tall_]

Rachael aged 29 Southampton   External Link/Members Only
"did something i didn't want to do - for financial reasons"

may never have even happened and the guy doesn't exist, sounds like she was planting a seed of having financial issues in the hope of you agreeing to paid platonic dates.

[sugardaddy0511]

External Link/Members Only  Elle 27 Winchester / Southampton. Another good reason why not to book a hotel before you meet a sugar baby for first meet . Stood up on me at the last minute yesterday . Anyone seen her ? She seemed genuine but would not settle for less than 350

[southcoastpunter]

SD0511 - i have met her, she is genuine in the sense of being a real person, nor did she try to scam me or anything like that. However she was a bit flakey in terms of arranging a dinner date but never flaked last minute. more difficult to tie down to a specific date.

IMO - she has a nice body (from pics she sent me and from seeing her in person - but dressed),  facial not so good (not my type) and when we got to money she asked what i had done before (which are monthly allowances) and turned that into PPM amounts - which was below her expectation. when i asked what amount she was thinking she just wouldn't give me a straight answer so we called it a day and said goodbye.

[southcoastpunter]

Bells, Southampton aged 22 - SCAMMER
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chatting to her - agreed to meet for a dinner date and she ask me to buy her a new dress for the date. when i said no but if we get on well together i will buy her one for the second date she pushed a bit to get something upfront. when i refused - immediately blocked.

[sugardaddy0511]

SD0511 - i have met her, she is genuine in the sense of being a real person, nor did she try to scam me or anything like that. However she was a bit flakey in terms of arranging a dinner date but never flaked last minute. more difficult to tie down to a specific date.

IMO - she has a nice body (from pics she sent me and from seeing her in person - but dressed),  facial not so good (not my type) and when we got to money she asked what i had done before (which are monthly allowances) and turned that into PPM amounts - which was below her expectation. when i asked what amount she was thinking she just wouldn't give me a straight answer so we called it a day and said goodbye.   She bailed out on me as said taxi too expensive and I had been waiting for 30 minutes. She declined to meet me for a drink without ppm of 350 . You did well to meet her SCP without ppm

[sugardaddy0511]

Bells, Southampton aged 22 - SCAMMER
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chatting to her - agreed to meet for a dinner date and she ask me to buy her a new dress for the date. when i said no but if we get on well together i will buy her one for the second date she pushed a bit to get something upfront. when i refused - immediately blocked.

you always go for the nubile and good looking chicks mate

[Gunnarman]

External Link/Members Only  Elle 27 Winchester / Southampton. Another good reason why not to book a hotel before you meet a sugar baby for first meet . Stood up on me at the last minute yesterday . Anyone seen her ? She seemed genuine but would not settle for less than 350

Met her for drinks.  Found her to be on the flaky side, comms were poor, and not that interesting of a person.  Didn't pursue further

[sugardaddy0511]

Met her for drinks.  Found her to be on the flaky side, comms were poor, and not that interesting of a person.  Didn't pursue further

paid platonic meet or no allowance?

[Gunnarman]

paid platonic meet or no allowance?

Just a first drinks/meet.  I don't do platonic or money on a first meet.

[sugardaddy0511]

Just a first drinks/meet.  I don't do platonic or money on a first meet.

looks like a lot of guys did not pursue her after first platonic meet

[martleto88]

Sorry for the off topic .
The lady I dated was
External Link/Members Only - Bee.
Look I will be honest she is a type of woman that’s is slim good looking and good fuck.
Takes it everywhere. Red flag I run out of condoms ( 4 yes I can do more then 2-3 times) . 🚩 Red Flag… she wanted WITHOUT i said no chance she try to convince me she is safe blah blah but not in UK! In Ukraine Russia, Latvia, Chekia, Poland and UK i would never do it…I arranged for £300 she wanted £400 but yeah with the uber home it cost me £350
I finished her 2 times not easy job but managed. She changes positions talks a lot but it will be really really emergency call. She even invited me next time when I come back at hers… she liked me or pretended i didn’t care
Anyhow company expense so I don’t care.

Would I repeat? - Yes but ABSOLUTELY NO ALCOHOL. Do not give her alcohol! Her friend is very beautiful and younger but wasn’t with me was with another punter! There was an emergency that they had to talk. I hope the guy had good time!

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£300 arranged haven’t met might do but I can’t be bothered to travel to Hers… hotels there ( hotels not pub hotels) are £150-200 uhhh naaah she seems alright but I dunno even why I texted her I think someone her mention something.
I do believe £300 is fair price in this times but i it’s just too far…


I think I am just gonna be going to escorts when visiting UK from now on… it’s just SW and  London is rubbish from Seeking point of view…


Question did anyone dated or spoke with this ones.. I am in talks but let me know if they are waste of time?
Thanks in advance:

External Link/Members Only - Chloe223

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( she came up on tinder aswel)

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Texted at my last visit gave me a number on WhatsApp but I never approached

Good luck lads I might go for escort these days…

[Danj89]

KLO I spoke to on IG and wanted a 500 ppm , conversation went dead when I asked to move onto WhatsApp - take from that what you will.

Classy IT girl - has various profiles before and been discussed on here before I think someone saw her in her local area for 150ppm plus hotel for an hour.

[paul_tall_]

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Spoke to Chloe while back, wanted £200 , her up to date pictures are not attractive, also scam vibes, very keen to meet at her, needed money for rent

[Budgiesmuggler]

Just trying to get some fun in before Xmas so any intel/red flags on any of these ladies purleeeease:

Tiffany, 37, Brighton
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Slow on comms....im on the verge of giving up

Duchess, 35, Brighton
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English, very posh, seems genuine, keen to meet

Siobhan, 35, Brighton
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Again very slow on comms....

Zodiacsky699, 38, Brighton
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Not even on whatapp yet

Thanks in advance
Budgie

[jd181064]

Sorry for the off topic .
The lady I dated was
External Link/Members Only - Bee.
Look I will be honest she is a type of woman that’s is slim good looking and good fuck.
Takes it everywhere. Red flag I run out of condoms ( 4 yes I can do more then 2-3 times) . 🚩 Red Flag… she wanted WITHOUT i said no chance she try to convince me she is safe blah blah but not in UK! In Ukraine Russia, Latvia, Chekia, Poland and UK i would never do it…I arranged for £300 she wanted £400 but yeah with the uber home it cost me £350
I finished her 2 times not easy job but managed. She changes positions talks a lot but it will be really really emergency call. She even invited me next time when I come back at hers… she liked me or pretended i didn’t care
Anyhow company expense so I don’t care.

Would I repeat? - Yes but ABSOLUTELY NO ALCOHOL. Do not give her alcohol! Her friend is very beautiful and younger but wasn’t with me was with another punter! There was an emergency that they had to talk. I hope the guy had good time!

External Link/Members Only - ClassyITGirl
£300 arranged haven’t met might do but I can’t be bothered to travel to Hers… hotels there ( hotels not pub hotels) are £150-200 uhhh naaah she seems alright but I dunno even why I texted her I think someone her mention something.
I do believe £300 is fair price in this times but i it’s just too far…


I think I am just gonna be going to escorts when visiting UK from now on… it’s just SW and  London is rubbish from Seeking point of view…


Question did anyone dated or spoke with this ones.. I am in talks but let me know if they are waste of time?
Thanks in advance:

External Link/Members Only - Chloe223

External Link/Members Only - KLO
( she came up on tinder aswel)

External Link/Members Only - LOU
Texted at my last visit gave me a number on WhatsApp but I never approached

Good luck lads I might go for escort these days…

Classy IT girl will do £200.

[martleto88]

Spoke to Chloe while back, wanted £200 , her up to date pictures are not attractive, also scam vibes, very keen to meet at her, needed money for rent

Yeah I saw she has an old profile. On that pic is my type from youngers but yeah conversation reached to swap telegrams or WhatsApp and that was it… dead radio.
But thanks for the heads up. I am away from UK till January and i think I will be after my work here from now on😂 uk is dry from good chicks for average amounts … I blame OF 😂

[nawtybutniceboy]

KLO I spoke to on IG and wanted a 500 ppm , conversation went dead when I asked to move onto WhatsApp - take from that what you will.

Classy IT girl - has various profiles before and been discussed on here before I think someone saw her in her local area for 150ppm plus hotel for an hour.

I've seen Classy IT girl several times at £150ppm. She's another that seems to be a bit lax on the protection front.... "just don't cum inside me" ffs. Luckily I've learned to come prepared with seeking girls. They frequently seem to forget to bring condoms.

[martleto88]

I've seen Classy IT girl several times at £150ppm. She's another that seems to be a bit lax on the protection front.... "just don't cum inside me" ffs. Luckily I've learned to come prepared with seeking girls. They frequently seem to forget to bring condoms.

Ok… off the list then… 😂 I have problems with condoms in UK that’s why I always bring my one from Europe cause the ones here rarely have more wide ones…. The pharmacies are a joke. You walk in boots or whatever… 1 type. Go to Tesco… 2 types. Go to Waitrose ( now I know why they call it old ppl shop) none… luckily in Asda and Morrisons which in London rarely have them as shops have the wide ones… seriously… 😂

[CheeseBoard]

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Carla Didcot

Anyone seen or have info on this one?  This feels like a scam / scammer.

She initially messaged me, and shared her number.  Once on WhatsApp, took a week trying to arrange a call (slow to reply, then 1 or 2 word answers).  When we had a chat, she sounds like a gangster (the way she spoke and use of slang phrases).  Wanted to meet immediately, and then asked for a favour..  I said as long as its not wanting money now as I'm tired of these asks,  she said not too worry about the favour.  She then said the favour was for an advance.  She is very very eager to meet (too eager) so totally feels off from a safety pov.

I don't think I'll take it further but wondered if anyone had any dealings 

[Hughjorgen95]

I used Seeking.com for the first half of 2024 in the Farnborough area and had agreat time, but it was A LOT of work.

I was upfront that I was looking for long term intimate arrangement with a monthly allowance and think this definitely contributed to finding the right girls. First SB unfortunately cancelled after a couple of months as she met a BF and didn't want to cheat. I sadly had to end the relationship with the second SB as my other half works from home and knows my routine too well and she was starting to notice me texting/going out too often. I did have another two that were interested but I could only afford one at a time.

I was paying an allowance of £400 a month and seeing them around once a week, so it worked out about £100 a meet for very intimate GFE's.

My tips for being succesful on Seeking.com would be as follows -

- Look for a SD/SB relationship, the best girls on there aren't looking for one-off meets.
- Avoid all the divas on there, go for the girl next door look.
- Be prepared to put in the work (as in texting and messaging) and let the girl get to know you and trust you. Remember they aren't hookers inviting you into a rented shag pad. A lot of them (the best ones tbh) are single mums inviting you into the home they're raising their kids in, they don't want random strangers in there.
- Be polite, be patient, be your best self. I probably worked harder meeting the second SB than I have done getting meets on dating sites, but it definitely was well worth it in the end.

Obviously, I could have had an easier time and had prettier girls on AW, but for me the intimacy was well worth it.