Communications with girls

[Fig]

Afternoon all,

I just thought I’d ask the forum’s opinion on a subject that’s currently vexing me:

I’m in the midst of trying to arrange quite a specific meet for next week with a girl who has not yet been reviewed on here. My usual MO is to only contact girls who post a phone number - usually because I’m horny and in a hurry! However, this girl is only contactable by email, either directly or via AW.

My problem is that getting a response out of her is like pulling teeth. 2 days and 2 emails for the first response and still waiting for the next response after a further two days. Even making allowances for the bank holiday I’m starting to feel a little unloved! I can see when she’s read my emails and I can see when she’s logged into her account - plenty of time and opportunity to at least acknowledge.

Trouble is, when she has replied, she’s sounded keen and engaged.

Is it reasonable timescales for email bookings, or am I being uncharitable?

Look forward to your thoughts with thanks in advance...

[bdyno]

I normally expect a reply within 24 hours, but I've been in that situation too.

One of the girls I recently TOFTTed with took over a month to arrange because of her slow comms - usually replying a few days after she read the email.

If she sounds keen though, stick with it.  Just remember to make a big note about it in your review so the rest of us can plan accordingly.

[sensualencounter]

Why not ask her for a number and call to arrange if she offers it. Or does her profile clearly state “no phone” at all?

Or just give up and move onto someone else as it does piss me off when ignored.

[Fuzzyduck]

What's her link? Whilst she may not have reviews, some on here may have had similar experiences or even seen her.

Some girls are just crap with comms for all sorts of reasons, e.g. sex work might not be full time/high priority for her. If you are getting angsty about it, you're investing far too much in it already. Keep that flame alive but arrange an alternative/plan B, C.
Some SPs are notoriously hard to book, so even if she agrees to a booking, I'd make a plan B in case you get ghosted at the last minute.

[houseboot]

"My usual MO is to only contact girls who post a phone number - usually because I’m horny and in a hurry!"

Usually?     It only appears to have happened 3 times in the last 2 years


"I’m starting to feel a little unloved!" 

Yes, we know the feeling.  We've been waiting to hear from you 


"I can see when she’s logged into her account"

Yep, we can see when you log on here too 


"Trouble is, when she has replied, she’s sounded keen and engaged."

Pot, kettle, black 


"am I being uncharitable?"

She sounds just like you   


"Look forward to your thoughts with thanks in advance..."

Please read above 

[Fig]

I normally expect a reply within 24 hours, but I've been in that situation too.

One of the girls I recently TOFTTed with took over a month to arrange because of her slow comms - usually replying a few days after she read the email.

If she sounds keen though, stick with it.  Just remember to make a big note about it in your review so the rest of us can plan accordingly.

Thanks for the reassurance Bdyno. I will stick with it for now because time is still on my side. I’ll definitely review if it comes together, as it should be fun!

[Fig]

What's her link? Whilst she may not have reviews, some on here may have had similar experiences or even seen her.

Some girls are just crap with comms for all sorts of reasons, e.g. sex work might not be full time/high priority for her. If you are getting angsty about it, you're investing far too much in it already. Keep that flame alive but arrange an alternative/plan B, C.
Some SPs are notoriously hard to book, so even if she agrees to a booking, I'd make a plan B in case you get ghosted at the last minute.

I think you may be right about her other priorities Fuzzy, so I’ll cut her some slack for now. Good point about having a plan B. 

[Donel75]

Girls who only allow contact through the AW system seems to be getting more and more common. I'm not sure if it's something AW charge the working girl for?

What's worse is getting part of the directions over mail, getting to the postcode only to find there's no phone reception and you have to drive 5 miles to connect and get that all important house number.

Tried to avoid these accounts, but as I said, they seem to be more prevalent.

[Fig]

"My usual MO is to only contact girls who post a phone number - usually because I’m horny and in a hurry!"

Usually?     It only appears to have happened 3 times in the last 2 years


"I’m starting to feel a little unloved!" 

Yes, we know the feeling.  We've been waiting to hear from you 


"I can see when she’s logged into her account"

Yep, we can see when you log on here too 


"Trouble is, when she has replied, she’s sounded keen and engaged."

Pot, kettle, black 


"am I being uncharitable?"

She sounds just like you   


"Look forward to your thoughts with thanks in advance..."

Please read above 

Ouch houseboot! I can feel the burn!

TBF (to me!) I get to indulge around twice a year at most - and sometimes not for more than 18 months at a time. But since I joined, I have reviewed when I’ve punted, although most of the time I don’t have much valid to contribute.

I don’t want to piss you (or anyone else here) off (apologies if I have), but I hope I’m still A valid member of this site.

 

[houseboot]

Ouch houseboot! I can feel the burn!

TBF (to me!) I get to indulge around twice a year at most - and sometimes not for more than 18 months at a time. But since I joined, I have reviewed when I’ve punted, although most of the time I don’t have much valid to contribute.

I don’t want to piss you (or anyone else here) off (apologies if I have), but I hope I’m still A valid member of this site.

 

As quoted on another recent thread:-

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=258707.msg2651198#msg2651198

it helps if you make your request clear.

If you are genuinely asking a general question, with no intention of revealing who or where, then you should have posted it in the General Discussion Forum. - I can move if that is your true intention.

If you want help with a particular SP, which it appears you do, then you should state her name & location in the Subject line and provide a link in your post - I can add those to the Subject line if you reveal them.

If you ask things in such an airy fairy way, without really providing any useful information for others to help you, then expect people to give you short shrift.

If you want help then provide some useful leads.

If you just want to whinge then just go out in your back garden and have a scream there.

[planetrock1479]

As quoted on another recent thread:-

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=258707.msg2651198#msg2651198

it helps if you make your request clear.

If you are genuinely asking a general question, with no intention of revealing who or where, then you should have posted it in the General Discussion Forum. - I can move if that is your true intention.

If you want help with a particular SP, which it appears you do, then you should state her name & location in the Subject line and provide a link in your post - I can add those to the Subject line if you reveal them.

If you ask things in such an airy fairy way, without really providing any useful information for others to help you, then expect people to give you short shrift.

If you want help then provide some useful leads.

If you just want to whinge then just go out in your back garden and have a scream there.

Feet up. Popcorn out.
And the show begins.

[houseboot]

Feet up. Popcorn out.

And the show begins.

Nope.

I won't be wasting any more time on him 

[Fuzzyduck]

I think you may be right about her other priorities Fuzzy, so I’ll cut her some slack for now. Good point about having a plan B. 

No problem. What's her link? Or are you the timewaster that houseboot alleges?

[Fig]

As quoted on another recent thread:-

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=258707.msg2651198#msg2651198

it helps if you make your request clear.

If you are genuinely asking a general question, with no intention of revealing who or where, then you should have posted it in the General Discussion Forum. - I can move if that is your true intention.

If you want help with a particular SP, which it appears you do, then you should state her name & location in the Subject line and provide a link in your post - I can add those to the Subject line if you reveal them.

If you ask things in such an airy fairy way, without really providing any useful information for others to help you, then expect people to give you short shrift.

If you want help then provide some useful leads.

If you just want to whinge then just go out in your back garden and have a scream there.

Hi Houseboot,

It appears I have got my etiquette wrong and posted in the wrong place. This was a genuine general question and appeal to the wisdom of those more experienced than me; it was not a cry for help with a specific girl. If you are able to move the post to the right place I would be grateful. I apologise again for my error.

[bdyno]

it was not a cry for help with a specific girl.

Did you actually read your original post?

Just in case, here t is again:

Afternoon all,

I just thought I’d ask the forum’s opinion on a subject that’s currently vexing me:

I’m in the midst of trying to arrange quite a specific meet for next week with a girl who has not yet been reviewed on here. My usual MO is to only contact girls who post a phone number - usually because I’m horny and in a hurry! However, this girl is only contactable by email, either directly or via AW.

My problem is that getting a response out of her is like pulling teeth. 2 days and 2 emails for the first response and still waiting for the next response after a further two days. Even making allowances for the bank holiday I’m starting to feel a little unloved! I can see when she’s read my emails and I can see when she’s logged into her account - plenty of time and opportunity to at least acknowledge.

Trouble is, when she has replied, she’s sounded keen and engaged.

Is it reasonable timescales for email bookings, or am I being uncharitable?

Look forward to your thoughts with thanks in advance...

That sounds very much like asking for help with a specific girl to me.

It's one thing to make a genuine mistake, but there's no need to try bullshitting your way out of the hole you dug yourself.

[Cornish_Wanderer]

Hi Houseboot,

It appears I have got my etiquette wrong and posted in the wrong place. This was a genuine general question and appeal to the wisdom of those more experienced than me; it was not a cry for help with a specific girl. If you are able to move the post to the right place I would be grateful. I apologise again for my error.

It sounds very much like you were discussing a specific girl. In no way did it sound like a general question. You even mentioned that you'd specifically messaged the girl in question  and had to wait a certain amount of time.

Can you add the link please as  FuzzyDuck has kindly asked?

[tammy5fingers]

Afternoon all,

I just thought I’d ask the forum’s opinion on a subject that’s currently vexing me:

I’m in the midst of trying to arrange quite a specific meet for next week with a girl who has not yet been reviewed on here. My usual MO is to only contact girls who post a phone number - usually because I’m horny and in a hurry! However, this girl is only contactable by email, either directly or via AW.

My problem is that getting a response out of her is like pulling teeth. 2 days and 2 emails for the first response and still waiting for the next response after a further two days. Even making allowances for the bank holiday I’m starting to feel a little unloved! I can see when she’s read my emails and I can see when she’s logged into her account - plenty of time and opportunity to at least acknowledge.

Trouble is, when she has replied, she’s sounded keen and engaged.

Is it reasonable timescales for email bookings, or am I being uncharitable?

Look forward to your thoughts with thanks in advance...

Holy shit guys, this post is a not asking for help regarding a specific WG, the only question asked was it a reasonable timescale for email bookings designated by the ? at the end of the sentence. The rest of the post is just setting the scene. OK it could of been worded differently to make the question clearer but surely a master degree in English is not required to be a member of this forum.

Has this forum become so bitchy that all people do is criticise mistakes, time and time again i see the same people bitching, try being more friendly for a few months and see if the number of reviews goes up. Its no wonder people don't post reviews as much as they should.

FIG, it may help if you post the WG details, as we all know lots of people see WG's and don't submit reviews but then comment when the WG comes up in a thread. 

[hermanmunster]

Holy shit guys, this post is a not asking for help regarding a specific WG, the only question asked was it a reasonable timescale for email bookings designated by the ? at the end of the sentence. The rest of the post is just setting the scene. OK it could of been worded differently to make the question clearer but surely a master degree in English is not required to be a member of this forum.

Has this forum become so bitchy that all people do is criticise mistakes, time and time again i see the same people bitching, try being more friendly for a few months and see if the number of reviews goes up. Its no wonder people don't post reviews as much as they should.

FIG, it may help if you post the WG details, as we all know lots of people see WG's and don't submit reviews but then comment when the WG comes up in a thread.

Couldn't agree more. If the idiots (whose sole intention is to ridicule the experiences/admissions of others, whilst trying to boost their own feeble egos) are removed, then more people would feel inclined to contribute in an open, frank manner to the benefit of 99.99% of users of this site.  The site itself would then gain credibility - surely this is stating the obvious?

[houseboot]

Holy shit guys, this post is a not asking for help regarding a specific WG, the only question asked was it a reasonable timescale for email bookings designated by the ? at the end of the sentence. The rest of the post is just setting the scene. OK it could of been worded differently to make the question clearer but surely a master degree in English is not required to be a member of this forum.

Has this forum become so bitchy that all people do is criticise mistakes, time and time again i see the same people bitching, try being more friendly for a few months and see if the number of reviews goes up. Its no wonder people don't post reviews as much as they should.

FIG, it may help if you post the WG details, as we all know lots of people see WG's and don't submit reviews but then comment when the WG comes up in a thread.

The OP asked for advice, he was given advice.

The OP was asked for more details, he hasn't provided those details.

The OP was asked if he had posted in the right Forum, he stated he got it wrong. However, as others have pointed out, this contradicts his other statements so I haven't moved it.

Agreed a Masters degree in English is not a prerequisite of being a poster here, the same applies though to being a responder here.

Your indignation is noted.

How about setting an example and providing more advice to people here?

The very people you criticise or also the same posters who provide information time and time again ... often getting no thanks in return.

How was Melissa's?

[tammy5fingers]

How about setting an example and providing more advice to people here?

The very people you criticise or also the same posters who provide information time and time again ... often getting no thanks in return.

How was Melissa's?

I believe posting reviews is giving advice, those who i have criticised are in the few and are not the only ones who contribute to this site, and i'm sure they don't do it for the thanks.

re Melissa's, obviously i didn't go otherwise there would of been a review, but its nice to know you trawl through my posts in order to find away of taking a dig, but i guess you'll just say your were kindly enquiring about how i got on. I will pm you when i have made my next booking just to keep you in the loop.

[houseboot]

I believe posting reviews is giving advice, those who i have criticised are in the few and are not the only ones who contribute to this site, and i'm sure they don't do it for the thanks.

re Melissa's, obviously i didn't go otherwise there would of been a review, but its nice to know you trawl through my posts in order to find away of taking a dig, but i guess you'll just say your were kindly enquiring about how i got on. I will pm you when i have made my next booking just to keep you in the loop.

Oh dear, you came here all guns blazing and when you're points are addressed you become defensive and touchy.

I look forward to you contributing in a more positive manner.

Please don't criticise if you're not prepared to give more advice yourself. Reviews are just a small part of contributing.

[tammy5fingers]

Oh dear, you came here all guns blazing and when you're points are addressed you become defensive and touchy.

I look forward to you contributing in a more positive manner.

Please don't criticise if you're not prepared to give more advice yourself. Reviews are just a small part of contributing.

I don't see how I became defensive and touchy, it was you who replied to my initial statement defending what you said, I had at no time named anyone or pointed towards any statement made by anyone other than the original poster, so why did you feel the need to defend what you said? You then made it personnel by implying that i have not been contributing reviews. ("How was Melissa's?")

I was providing more advice "try being more friendly for a few months and see if the number of reviews goes up" also in a positive manner

[houseboot]

I don't see how I became defensive and touchy, it was you who replied to my initial statement defending what you said, I had at no time named anyone or pointed towards any statement made by anyone other than the original poster, so why did you feel the need to defend what you said? You then made it personnel by implying that i have not been contributing reviews. ("How was Melissa's?")

I was providing more advice "try being more friendly for a few months and see if the number of reviews goes up" also in a positive manner

No.

You came here all guns blazing accusing everyone of being bitchy and critical.

Your points were addressed and instead of acknowledging that you got all sulky.

Don't criticise others if you can't take criticism yourself.

If you feel others are unfriendly, unhelpful then be a bit more proactive yourself and help others.

[tammy5fingers]

No.

You came here all guns blazing accusing everyone of being bitchy and critical.

Your points were addressed and instead of acknowledging that you got all sulky.

Don't criticise others if you can't take criticism yourself.

If you feel others are unfriendly, unhelpful then be a bit more proactive yourself and help others.

Seems i have hit on a nerve here.

i didn't accuse everyone of being bitchy, I said this forum has become bitchy and the same few are being critical, its a big difference.

My points were not addressed, as if they were you would of excepted them and kept your mouth shut, instead you chose to make it personnel by trying to take a dig a me, which obviously failed as no meeting took place and hence no review, and at NO point have i ever said others were unfriendly and unhelpful so stop trying to make it look like i'm talking about the whole forum.

You say i need to be more proactive and help others so i will point some help your way. Houseboot, you are a Forum Helper, you are not here to criticise or moan about the way someone writes a post, try to be more positive in your approach especially new forum users, remember your not getting any younger and if new users don't keep coming this great forum will cease.

So there you go, your points have been addressed but im pretty sure this wont be the last comment as it seems you the type of man that always has to have the last word.

[houseboot]

"Seems i have hit on a nerve here"

A bit of projection there tammy5fingers. You appear to be in denial.

[hermanmunster]

"Seems i have hit on a nerve here"

A bit of projection there tammy5fingers. You appear to be in denial.

tammy5fingers was obviously correct - you do need to have the last word. 


Why not just read the reviews and comments, and if possible offer your own reviews and constructive comments.  Perhaps there is an insecurity issue here or maybe an ego problem.  Although you are obviously free to waste your own time as you see fit.  But please don't discourage others from providing useful information.

[tammy5fingers]

tammy5fingers was obviously correct - you do need to have the last word. 


Why not just read the reviews and comments, and if possible offer your own reviews and constructive comments.  Perhaps there is an insecurity issue here or maybe an ego problem.  Although you are obviously free to waste your own time as you see fit.  But please don't discourage others from providing useful information.