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Goes by the name Jasmine, super friendly and chatty and told me where to head before she would give out her address, on the morning of the meet we messaged a number of time and when I asked for confirmation 1hr before meeting she stopped replying. Very strange as she hasn't blocked me on Seeking or WhatsApp as I sent a message later on asking if she was okay but never heard back.  :unknown:

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Had you had a video call or voice call before agreeing to meet ?

Offline northlondonluke

Had you had a video call or voice call before agreeing to meet ?

Hey, no I didn't although we did send voice notes. Definitely something I'll consider next time.

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Sorry…

So I cancelled, got the pre punt nerves about it as I wanted to be 100% sure on what I was getting.

I’m getting lots of messages and women interested but I find it all still hard to get confirmation that it is them in the photos, none will share Instagram with me so not sure what I’m doing wrong???

I like this site and I think if I work out how to use it well I will get some good punts.

In the end I saw Isabel from black label, fiesty petite Brazilian who I will do a review on soon.

Thanks for everyone’s help though I really appreciate it 🙏🏻

In my experience of seeking, most girls are pretty much exactly like their pics, so not sure why you were so worried. Also, you don't pay until the end of the data, unlike a punt when it's all upfront. So you meet her, if she looks nothing like the pic, you walk and might have to give £20 if you want to be polite, but most wouldn't as she was deceiving you.

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Jazz - External Link/Members Only, made contact a week ago and messaged back and forth quite a bit over whatsapp.  Fancied the pants off her until she asked for £600ppm.  Plus she keeps trying to push her sex tapes/photos on for cash.  Then a few days ago she asks for money so she can a ticket to Paris because it was her cousins’ birthday!  Have stayed away since. Shame as I was totally attracted to her.
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Jenny667, sorry no link as she’s either deactivated her account or blocked me so I cant find a link to her profile anymore. We messaged over WhatsApp and eventually came to an agreement (£400) to meet up for a whole afternoon of fun, no initial video call or public meet & greet.  On the day she was late and I thought it wasn’t going to happen.  Plus the clock was ticking on the dayuse reservation, and we only had just over 3hrs left by the time she showed so I wasn’t in the best of moods at the start.  However when she did show my mood was blown away when she lifted her skirt to reveal crotchless tights under her short black skirt without panties.  A brave girl as she was travelling by tube! With the time left in the hotel room I had my fill of fun twice.  Though the fun was good, we didn’t have a strong connection so not sure if there’ll be a next time, yes yes I sound like a girl now.
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Jenny667, sorry no link as she’s either deactivated her account or blocked me so I cant find a link to her profile anymore. We messaged over WhatsApp and eventually came to an agreement (£400) to meet up for a whole afternoon of fun, no initial video call or public meet & greet.  On the day she was late and I thought it wasn’t going to happen.  Plus the clock was ticking on the dayuse reservation, and we only had just over 3hrs left by the time she showed so I wasn’t in the best of moods at the start.  However when she did show my mood was blown away when she lifted her skirt to reveal crotchless tights under her short black skirt without panties.  A brave girl as she was travelling by tube! With the time left in the hotel room I had my fill of fun twice.  Though the fun was good, we didn’t have a strong connection so not sure if there’ll be a next time, yes yes I sound like a girl now.

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Thanks, if I click your link I get a Profile Not Available message so I guess she's blocked me.  Guess the feeling there wont be a next time was mutual. Oh well.  I'll have the memories.
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Melissa, 29 - External Link/Members Only

Have kept this one in the London regional discussions as she’s just outside the M25 but let me know if I need to repost it elsewhere. 

Been talking with her on/off on SA for well over a month but doesn’t bite when I try to move it to WhatsApp.  She's very wary and cautious of anyone on SA after a negative experience but think I'm making progress and she may be ready for a meet & greet  :lol:  Hope the time put in to this one is worth it
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Thanks, if I click your link I get a Profile Not Available message so I guess she's blocked me.  Guess the feeling there wont be a next time was mutual. Oh well.  I'll have the memories.

Quite a few girls do this thing where after they give you their number they block you on their, I suppose the logic would be it helps them filter out people they're already talking to. But who knows with these hoes.

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Quite a few girls do this thing where after they give you their number they block you on their, I suppose the logic would be it helps them filter out people they're already talking to. But who knows with these hoes.

Or you can’t see when they’re online

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Jenny667, sorry no link as she’s either deactivated her account or blocked me so I cant find a link to her profile anymore. We messaged over WhatsApp and eventually came to an agreement (£400) to meet up for a whole afternoon of fun, no initial video call or public meet & greet.  On the day she was late and I thought it wasn’t going to happen.  Plus the clock was ticking on the dayuse reservation, and we only had just over 3hrs left by the time she showed so I wasn’t in the best of moods at the start.  However when she did show my mood was blown away when she lifted her skirt to reveal crotchless tights under her short black skirt without panties.  A brave girl as she was travelling by tube! With the time left in the hotel room I had my fill of fun twice.  Though the fun was good, we didn’t have a strong connection so not sure if there’ll be a next time, yes yes I sound like a girl now.

Forgot one major thing - she admitted the photos on her profile are not her! However she is pretty in a typical Chinese early twenties girl kind of way with that pale white skin appearance, about 5'4 tall, slim.  B/C size cups I'd say.
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Offline Richjimbo

I met her a while back.  She’s exactly like the pictures but … the sex is very vanilla and she was constantly asking for extra money and gifts- from medical treatments to clothes and trips. 


Jazz - External Link/Members Only, made contact a week ago and messaged back and forth quite a bit over whatsapp.  Fancied the pants off her until she asked for £600ppm.  Plus she keeps trying to push her sex tapes/photos on for cash.  Then a few days ago she asks for money so she can a ticket to Paris because it was her cousins’ birthday!  Have stayed away since. Shame as I was totally attracted to her.

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Jazz - External Link/Members Only, made contact a week ago and messaged back and forth quite a bit over whatsapp.  Fancied the pants off her until she asked for £600ppm.  Plus she keeps trying to push her sex tapes/photos on for cash.  Then a few days ago she asks for money so she can a ticket to Paris because it was her cousins’ birthday!  Have stayed away since. Shame as I was totally attracted to her.

Looks great, but the fake tits are a dealbreaker  :dash:

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Forgot one major thing - she admitted the photos on her profile are not her! However she is pretty in a typical Chinese early twenties girl kind of way with that pale white skin appearance, about 5'4 tall, slim.  B/C size cups I'd say.
Running a tad behind on reviews matey, if you could explain please?

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In my experience of seeking, most girls are pretty much exactly like their pics, so not sure why you were so worried. Also, you don't pay until the end of the data, unlike a punt when it's all upfront. So you meet her, if she looks nothing like the pic, you walk and might have to give £20 if you want to be polite, but most wouldn't as she was deceiving you.

thats a crazy statement. In life in general almost no girls are "pretty much exactly like their pics" they are all editing their waists and their boobs and their bums on apps like facetune, let alone the airbrushing of faces. Theres loads of profiles on seeking that fall into this category

recently i have seen an influx of profiles where the photos are clearly ai generated versions of themselves or of someone anyway

i have met a few girls from the site who either looked nothing like their pics or were at least a disappointment irl

and i have dodged many a bullet by facetiming a girl from the site to realise that they do not look like their pics and that i do not want to meet them

meeting someone and having to walk because i couldnt be arsed to facetime them is a complete waste of one of my days off

im sorry but this is shitty advice, plain and simple

if a girl is genuine she will be willing to have a 30 second facetime before meeting

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I met her a while back.  She’s exactly like the pictures but … the sex is very vanilla and she was constantly asking for extra money and gifts- from medical treatments to clothes and trips.

i saw her too. found her very nice to look at but very robotic. no real kissing or anything. would have been better off getting an escort as that basically sums up what she is. this is not an arrangement, its a girl meeting guys to have sex for money with zero attempt at anything more. a brass would have been cheaper and a better service

that 600 asking price came way down to 400 also
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this is not an arrangement, its a girl meeting guys to have sex for money with zero attempt at anything more.

would be interested to know what is in your experience an "arrangement" - what does it consist of? what do you actually do together? is it a PPM or a weekly/monthly allowance?

I am interested for two reasons - because i use Seeking in a way that many on here don't and it seems to me from this and other Seeking threads that this is actually what many guys want - just sex but think they get a better deal / VFM from Seeking (especially for longer meets) than say from a AW girl
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would be interested to know what is in your experience an "arrangement" - what does it consist of? what do you actually do together? is it a PPM or a weekly/monthly allowance?

I am interested for two reasons - because i use Seeking in a way that many on here don't and it seems to me from this and other Seeking threads that this is actually what many guys want - just sex but think they get a better deal / VFM from Seeking (especially for longer meets) than say from a AW girl

An arrangement is when you don't just meet up in a hotel to fuck. As in actually spending time together doing things other than preparing to, engaging in, or cleaning up after sex.

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would be interested to know what is in your experience an "arrangement" - what does it consist of? what do you actually do together? is it a PPM or a weekly/monthly allowance?

I am interested for two reasons - because i use Seeking in a way that many on here don't and it seems to me from this and other Seeking threads that this is actually what many guys want - just sex but think they get a better deal / VFM from Seeking (especially for longer meets) than say from a AW girl

yes but escorts use seeking and girls who dont typically escort also use seeking as their own type of escorting

this jazz girl did not want to do anything in the real world, no drinks beforehand, no food, no activities. strictly come to the hotel chat for 20 mins. fuck twice and then she leaves.

she is purely in it for the money, nothing else

to me a good arrangement would be where we meet up and go out and do fun stuff and both have a good time and then then mutual benefits side of things is like a nice bonus for both parties but not the sole reason behind meeting

the best arrangements ive had have actually started out where the first few times meeting there was no money exchanged and no hotels used. Just paying for the date activities food etc/her minimal travel costs and building a connection before eventually on say date 3 ppm becomes a thing for both of you

someone like this jazz is ok to meet just once but shes escorting, its not an arrangement.

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thanks jacobs1 - you aren't a million miles away from what i do.

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An arrangement is when you don't just meet up in a hotel to fuck. As in actually spending time together doing things other than preparing to, engaging in, or cleaning up after sex.

My longest was 2 1/2 years then another for 6 months. Unfortunately I never felt comfortable doing the “spending time together stuff” …. Must be the punter in me  :D

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Cleo 19, External Link/Members Only - I think real, started well, turning very frustrating in terms of actually meeting for £500 though. I guess the risk of trying to meet someone younger.

Chloe, 27, External Link/Members Only real, agreed to meet for £800, having started by asking for £1k. Too much for me currently.


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This charming individual contacted me directly on seeking, warning me about my suspicions of her being a pro. Threatened to expose “ her group” that I am a contributor to UKP.  Personally, I think she has been either tipped off by somebody on here or has a in clandestine account and surfs her profile. The bottom line is she’s a hooker, asked for 500 sheets upfront and pesters the hell out of you. Some of you guys may not have any truck with her approach. Not that I actually wrote anything derogatory about her, merely pointing out my suspicions which turned out to be the truth. 🤣🤣

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would be interested to know what is in your experience an "arrangement" - what does it consist of? what do you actually do together? is it a PPM or a weekly/monthly allowance?

I am interested for two reasons - because i use Seeking in a way that many on here don't and it seems to me from this and other Seeking threads that this is actually what many guys want - just sex but think they get a better deal / VFM from Seeking (especially for longer meets) than say from a AW girl

My current 'arrangement' over the past year, is a monthly allowance, we meet 2/3 times a month, sometimes we just do something fun (no sex), other times we will spend the night in a hotel or at my house.

If I just wanted sex I would stick with AW. I do find it funny on here when people say things like 'she was giving off pro-vibes in her messages' when that is exactly what they are looking for (i.e. one off sex).

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Cleo 19, External Link/Members Only - I think real, started well, turning very frustrating in terms of actually meeting for £500 though. I guess the risk of trying to meet someone younger.

Chloe, 27, External Link/Members Only real, agreed to meet for £800, having started by asking for £1k. Too much for me currently.
Chloe's profile shows her located in France was she expecting you to travel to her or to pay for travel in the UK

As for Cleo , im always wary of profiles or messages that state their birthday is upcoming. Bit of an innuendo post about being given one she wont forget. Looks very young and no doubt will be id'd everywhere you go with her if its beyond the hotel room

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This charming individual contacted me directly on seeking, warning me about my suspicions of her being a pro. Threatened to expose “ her group” that I am a contributor to UKP.  Personally, I think she has been either tipped off by somebody on here or has a in clandestine account and surfs her profile. The bottom line is she’s a hooker, asked for 500 sheets upfront and pesters the hell out of you. Some of you guys may not have any truck with her approach. Not that I actually wrote anything derogatory about her, merely pointing out my suspicions which turned out to be the truth. 🤣🤣

This is exactly why I previously suggested that this thread should be restricted to paid members. I even tried reporting it to the moderators (as that's the only way to do it) and made the same recommendation, but I haven't received any response.

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You might notice that some Seeking thread on UKP are referred to “open thread” - that is because there used to be a closed thread that was open to paid seeking members only (this was  going back 7 or 8 years ) but it was stopped because of the high amount of work it caused !

If you think about it - how do the Mods confirm you are a seeking member? And as most guys seem to buy one months membership then have a break for several months what happens there? It’s a logistical nightmare- so was dropped! And as we are often reminded- the Seeking section is an added bonus to the site not a main part of it! It’s an Escort review site first and foremost!

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You might notice that some Seeking thread on UKP are referred to “open thread” - that is because there used to be a closed thread that was open to paid seeking members only (this was  going back 7 or 8 years ) but it was stopped because of the high amount of work it caused !

If you think about it - how do the Mods confirm you are a seeking member? And as most guys seem to buy one months membership then have a break for several months what happens there? It’s a logistical nightmare- so was dropped! And as we are often reminded- the Seeking section is an added bonus to the site not a main part of it! It’s an Escort review site first and foremost!

IIRC i lost access for not having an active profile as you needed to re-validate every now and then, was a good resource though would still be open to information being shared. Its a shame the posts cant be viewed (I understand why) though im sure most seeking profiles would be long gone but may have returned as a new profile

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If you think about it - how do the Mods confirm you are a seeking member?

What I meant was the Seeking thread on here should be accessible to paid UKP members only

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Running a tad behind on reviews matey, if you could explain please?

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Just haven't been punting as much in the past year.  Going through one of those periods where I'm putting my efforts to find nooky only from SA.  Also any spare money I do save has been going in to a different and equally expensive hobby - HiFi  :music:
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yes but escorts use seeking and girls who dont typically escort also use seeking as their own type of escorting

this jazz girl did not want to do anything in the real world, no drinks beforehand, no food, no activities. strictly come to the hotel chat for 20 mins. fuck twice and then she leaves.

she is purely in it for the money, nothing else

to me a good arrangement would be where we meet up and go out and do fun stuff and both have a good time and then then mutual benefits side of things is like a nice bonus for both parties but not the sole reason behind meeting

the best arrangements ive had have actually started out where the first few times meeting there was no money exchanged and no hotels used. Just paying for the date activities food etc/her minimal travel costs and building a connection before eventually on say date 3 ppm becomes a thing for both of you

someone like this jazz is ok to meet just once but shes escorting, its not an arrangement.

pretty much similar to my MO
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What I meant was the Seeking thread on here should be accessible to paid UKP members only

Yes you definitely have to be careful what you post on here regarding women on Seeking. The Seeking pros definitely check UKP, it's come back on me once or twice when I've asked for information on a lady and she's contacted me on WhatsApp asking if it was me requesting info. Of course I deny any knowledge but it can be awkward.
As for Melody she's def a pro and although I've not seen her she did inform me a year or so ago that I was on a 'seeking blacklist'. I'm assuming its a WhatsApp group for the pros but frankly its all bluster as this supposed blacklist has never prevented me and others from meeting the women I/we want to meet on Seeking.

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Just haven't been punting as much in the past year.  Going through one of those periods where I'm putting my efforts to find nooky only from SA.  Also any spare money I do save has been going in to a different and equally expensive hobby - HiFi  :music:

The seeking is just a bonus section matey, for contributing members, the rules still apply, especially rule 27 as previous quoted.

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The seeking is just a bonus section matey, for contributing members, the rules still apply, especially rule 27 as previous quoted.

Sad to hear there's no space here for people like me who punt and contribute occasionally instead of regularly?  Something not better than nothing? Where's the line between two, is there a quota?  Would I have not been banned if I had not posted at all? 

You may as well push me out now as I'm going to be on holiday for half of that countdown and I'm not going to be forced to punt and review after I return just to stay.  With respect losing access to UKP isn't an epochal moment in my life - SA, AW, Vivastreet and the massage parlors will still be there.
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First post. I’ll contribute and write reviews soon….active and extreme punter but want to leave a bit of space between the last punts and actual post as I think a lot of the SPs lurke on here and other sites, but impossible to say who it is.

This site is incredibly helpful and also very amusing, I genuinely believe top lads on here with a great sense of humour.

To contribute to this specific thread. I ping pong between a lot of brassing or sugar babes.

My view is that you have plenty of brass on Seeking, plenty. You can spot them easily, how they talk, their asks etc. I am not on seeking to pay a brass her dinner, watching her eat her sushi, listen to their non-existing banter and pay 5x the price vs AW. IMO trial and error on seeking according to your budget. I don’t mind to pay 800 or 1k first time if I think they are genuine amateur and it’s an overnight as they meet someone they don’t know. Repeat meets I would only offer at 300 overnight. This strategy worked well for me as they will accept if they are into you….and at that price I don’t give a fuck if they eat their truffle pasta in front of me as long as its good fun for everyone involved.

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First post. I’ll contribute and write reviews soon

We will look forward to reading them, just a reminder only punts that took place withing the previous 6 months can be posted.

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It seems they are making rules more strict to avoid "compensation" type relationships.

Did anyone else faced same issue?

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So, I have been using site for many years now and had many arrangements. I am always careful about the words I use while message to make sure I do not violate the rules but now I have got warning and I my message has violated some policy.
It seems they are making rules more strict to avoid "compensation" type relationships.

Did anyone else faced same issue?

Any chance that someone reported you?

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Seeking ACCOUNT SUSPENSION

So, I have been using site for many years now and had many arrangements. I am always careful about the words I use while message to make sure I do not violate the rules but now I have got warning and I my message has violated some policy.
It seems they are making rules more strict to avoid "compensation" type relationships.

Did anyone else faced same issue?

I dropped email to customer care and got following reply. It seems SeekingArrangement (its former name) has changed itself to Seeking now and trying to present as a dating site. Following is the response from Customer Care and it might help other peolple here to make sure they do not discuss (or use such words on that site).

Seeking strictly prohibits any references to, or arrangements involving, compensated companionship—including dating, intimacy, or mentorship exchanged for money, gifts, or other benefits. Some examples of prohibited content include:

Mentions of “sugar dating” or related terms like “sugar daddy,” “sugar mama,” or “sugar baby.”
References to “PPM” (pay-per-meet), “allowance,” or any specific financial terms in relation to companionship.
Offers or requests involving paid dates, transactional intimacy, or financial arrangements.
Promotion of escorting, intimate massages, cuddling services, or similar compensated services.
Attempts to negotiate any compensation for personal interaction.
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What you do or say off our platform is not our business, as long as you do not break any laws. However, while on Seeking.com, we need you to abide by our guidelines and keep our community classy.
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I dropped email to customer care and got following reply. It seems SeekingArrangement (its former name) has changed itself to Seeking now and trying to present as a dating site. Following is the response from Customer Care and it might help other peolple here to make sure they do not discuss (or use such words on that site).

Seeking strictly prohibits any references to, or arrangements involving, compensated companionship—including dating, intimacy, or mentorship exchanged for money, gifts, or other benefits. Some examples of prohibited content include:

Mentions of “sugar dating” or related terms like “sugar daddy,” “sugar mama,” or “sugar baby.”
References to “PPM” (pay-per-meet), “allowance,” or any specific financial terms in relation to companionship.
Offers or requests involving paid dates, transactional intimacy, or financial arrangements.
Promotion of escorting, intimate massages, cuddling services, or similar compensated services.
Attempts to negotiate any compensation for personal interaction.
You can review our full Community Guidelines here: External Link/Members Only

What you do or say off our platform is not our business, as long as you do not break any laws. However, while on Seeking.com, we need you to abide by our guidelines and keep our community classy.
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This is very helpful, thank you

In particular: 'Mentions of “sugar dating” or related terms like “sugar daddy,” “sugar mama,” or “sugar baby”.'
The other day I was messaging a SB and a warning flashed up stating something suggesting that I was using inappropriate language inferring some transactional element. I looked closely at my message and took out the "SB" part. All fine, message went through.

Didn't think too much of it at the time - I was just glad the message went through.
But it seems that they're keen to shake off any notions of their previous identity as a sugar dating platform.

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And yet, Seeking allow profile descriptions like this from the laydeez....
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Seeking ACCOUNT SUSPENSION

So, I have been using site for many years now and had many arrangements. I am always careful about the words I use while message to make sure I do not violate the rules but now I have got warning and I my message has violated some policy.
It seems they are making rules more strict to avoid "compensation" type relationships.

Did anyone else faced same issue?

I've been suspended twice in the last 6 weeks, on both occasions for being "rude" and I had to watch a video. They do seem to be a lot hotter on enforcing their rules now than they have been over the last 15 years!

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Goes by the name Jasmine, super friendly and chatty and told me where to head before she would give out her address, on the morning of the meet we messaged a number of time and when I asked for confirmation 1hr before meeting she stopped replying. Very strange as she hasn't blocked me on Seeking or WhatsApp as I sent a message later on asking if she was okay but never heard back.  :unknown:

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I met her in maybe in January of this year or December, she's actually quite a lot of fun in person (with quite the background story) but looks quite different to her photos and certainly chunkier. She wanted 300, came straight to the hotel, did the deed and buggered off but that's the way I like it. At the time, she could not host so that's a new one! It was pretty vanilla, nothing to write home about.

Offline londonhunter008

And yet, Seeking allow profile descriptions like this from the laydeez....
External Link/Members Only  :unknown:

Women do not need to take subscription to read or send messages and there is no loss if account is suspended. They can just create new profile or go to another site. For men, you might loose your subscription and may have to create new Id to created another profile (if you want to continue).

I stick to this site because of all the policy around verification, could hide all pics and they do not use bots etc. It was a genuine site and I have found many gems on here. I tried other arrangement sites but did not like them as much. SeekingArrangement (ooppsss! Seeking now :D ...dont want to break a rule) has worked well for me for over years. Ill stick to it bit longer and see how things progress with new rules.
« Last Edit: July 23, 2025, 08:37:44 pm by londonhunter008 »

Offline paul_tall_

Women do not need to take subscription to read or send messages and there is no loss if account is suspended. They can just create new profile or go to another site. For men, you might loose your subscription and may have to create new Id to created another profile (if you want to continue).

thats not necessarily true i know a woman that got banned after being warned a couple of times and was unable to create a new profile and was warned about legal action if she tried to create a new one


Offline paul_tall_

And yet, Seeking allow profile descriptions like this from the laydeez....
External Link/Members Only  :unknown:
this profile was created last year so probably before they changed the guidelines, notice her profile is not verified in any form either. I would imagine if she updated it now it would be flagged or maybe if messaging

Offline londonhunter008

thats not necessarily true i know a woman that got banned after being warned a couple of times and was unable to create a new profile and was warned about legal action if she tried to create a new one

Thank you for confirming. Its good  that they are trying to impose these rules strictly but that also means that most of the Pro SBs or Escorts will slowly disappear from the site. I have used this site for many years and earlier its was purely an arrangement site but now they don't even want anyone to use these words in the profile or communication. I dont use Seeking to find Escorts (there are easier ways to do that in London and tones of review on this forum) but even other women(non professional SB who do not do this full time) expect financial help or allowance even though they meet you genuinely based on good chemistry. One of the first few question from women is how you can support them and it will be very tricky to convey that message without violating the policy of the site.
« Last Edit: July 24, 2025, 10:34:03 am by londonhunter008 »

Offline londonhunter008

Anyone tried  External Link/Members Only site? I am just exploring it. It seems many women have uploaded verification video and you can see a verified profiles along with verification video to be sure that its a genuine profile. I dont understand the credit system they have instead of monthly subscription.

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Anyone tried  External Link/Members Only site? I am just exploring it. It seems many women have uploaded verification video and you can see a verified profiles along with verification video to be sure that its a genuine profile. I dont understand the credit system they have instead of monthly subscription.

Lots and lots of previous threads /comments about Secret Benefits including one member who did a LOT of research on them. Very short summary is that they use more bots and have more fake profiles than most other SD/SB sites and more than Seeking - but some guys (a few) have had some successes on there.

On SB, you buy a number of messages you can send (eg 50 messages) rather than "time" (ie one month) when you can send them.

i should have asked if you have done a search on here - its always worth doing that before asking questions. If you had, you would find a number of threads and comments including .... one from you from last December saying you have previously tried it!
« Last Edit: July 24, 2025, 02:29:56 pm by southcoastpunter »