Seeking.com (London)

[southcoastpunter]

We haven’t messaged since - so much for wanting only one guy 

perhaps she still does - just not you! (haha)

[DashSam89]

If you fancy her pictures, I’d go for it mate, you might click better than I did?

Yeah. I fancy her. Is she tall? and looks a little flat chested?

[j4247]

Yes she’s tall. 5ft 10 ish I’d say. Gym goer so quite toned.

Tits are on the small size for her height and general build (which is average size), but still very nice and perky.

Let us know how you get on.

[WKD123]

....

On the plus side I paid £250 ppm, she was on time, although her comms can be slow at times. ...

Did you also have to cough up for a day use hotel?  I must admit when I factor in that, plus lunch it's starting to look a wee bit expensive, this SA game 

[j4247]

Yes, you’ll need to pay for a hotel, if you don’t have your own place/a hotel you’ve already got booked etc you can use.

She was happy with and actually suggested a cheap lunch from a burger place when I met her

[southcoastpunter]

Did you also have to cough up for a day use hotel?  I must admit when I factor in that, plus lunch it's starting to look a wee bit expensive, this SA game 

with respect, if you thought it might be a cheap alternative to say AW, then you didn't do your research properly. Its not cheap but when you find the right one, it can be so much better! For some of us, the coonection and the resulting sex is so much better that its worth it. For others, its not.

[Crockers]

Well, the slinky English girls blew me out. Lols. 😀

Had drinks and dinner with a sassy, 20s, thic, pretty English girl of Jamaican heritage. The complete opposite! Lols.

Snogged and groped her smooth, big bum under her dress as we snogged goodbye.

Agreed to meet but she's gone all shy.

Got a drinks meet this Monday with a slim White English, attractive girl, mid-20s.

Got a couple of Essex milfs in their late 30s ready to rock. They are fun in bed but will hold them in reserve.

Two girls pissed me off.

A girl who saud she lived in London but, when on WA, told me she's in Yorkshire 'but was coming to London soon'.

No doubt she would ask me for her fare. I told hervI wasn't happy with her wasting my time.

An Eastern European girl simply DMed me saying '£350'. She hadnt even checked my profile, nor, I would imagine had read my profile.

I was especialky annoyed as all but two of the 25 EE girls I've seen have said no.

I now state clearly on my profile that I'm of Anglo Indian origin. Therefore I asked her if she was happy with people of my heritage, and that in my experience EE girls are not used to a modern multicultural London.

I was polite but passive aggresive.

She never replied. Lols.

I am only trying to stuck with British girls now. Never had a problem with them, regardless as to them being White, Black, Induan or mixed.

Sorry to bring this issue up, but it is a factor for me.

May not be for other blokes of my heritage though as I do have a very alternative image.

But it's interesting the British girls have never had a problem with it.

[NightKid]

Well, the slinky English girls blew me out. Lols. 😀

Name of the game mate, but you already knew that.

May not be for other blokes of my heritage though as I do have a very alternative image.

But it's interesting the British girls have never had a problem with it.

Britain's historically been a far more liberal country than most to begin with, though I suspect with your alt looks you might still be in a niche regardless - just out of curiosity, what sort of alternative are we talking here? Goth, punk?

[Crockers]

Don't want to give too much away but, yeah, that direction. Punk, tattoos, piercings etc.

It's been, for me, an interesting social exercise. I never pay more than £300 and normally only £250.

It's made me respect the liberal niceness of the British girls. (I know there are exceptions, of course.)

And a few of them even accepted a very low sum - one even agreed £200 for a few hours!
I did bang two EEs but they were very London - brought up here.

[Crockers]

Would you guys meet a girl who's keen to meet without having checked your profile or pic?

Or play it by ear/gut instinct?

My first meet is always (apart from three occasions) platonic.

Chatting to one now who falls into the above category.

Looks erotic and sassy as fuck.

Granted we have had a good vibe on SA and on WA, though.

Last time I ended up in bed with a girl straightaway on meeting, a girl who hadn't checked my profile or pic, she turned out to be a stripper/escort!

[updownandaround]

Would you guys meet a girl who's keen to meet without having checked your profile or pic?

Or play it by ear/gut instinct?

My first meet is always (apart from three occasions) platonic.

Chatting to one now who falls into the above category.

Looks erotic and sassy as fuck.

Granted we have had a good vibe on SA and on WA, though.

Last time I ended up in bed with a girl straightaway on meeting, a girl who hadn't checked my profile or pic, she turned out to be a stripper/escort!

I think you have to factor in whether she has her profile set to record views on other profiles, if that's set then you don't see a view by all accounts. But remember, a lot of the girls have no real interest in what you look like but rather what your capacity to meet her financial requirements is. 😂 Be safe though and insist on a video call before a meet, you'll save yourself a lot of time by doing a vibe check that way.

[Crockers]

I think you have to factor in whether she has her profile set to record views on other profiles, if that's set then you don't see a view by all accounts. But remember, a lot of the girls have no real interest in what you look like but rather what your capacity to meet her financial requirements is. 😂 Be safe though and insist on a video call before a meet, you'll save yourself a lot of time by doing a vibe check that way.

Thanks for that.

[NightKid]

My first meet is always (apart from three occasions) platonic.

Think you already have your answer isn't it? I have the same strategy as I find irl the most genuine way to gauge someone plus I also hardly engage in any form of e-comms whether it's voice notes or video calls.

As for meeting someone who turns out to be a sex worker, I personally wouldn't have any issues with that s'long as I actually enjoy her company and the price is right ofc.
Which is why the face-to-face element is crucial for me to decide whether I wanna jump into bed with them or not.

[Crockers]

Yeah, thanks for your reply.

[Graphics789]

Think you already have your answer isn't it? I have the same strategy as I find irl the most genuine way to gauge someone plus I also hardly engage in any form of e-comms whether it's voice notes or video calls.

As for meeting someone who turns out to be a sex worker, I personally wouldn't have any issues with that s'long as I actually enjoy her company and the price is right ofc.
Which is why the face-to-face element is crucial for me to decide whether I wanna jump into bed with them or not.

Is the first meet strictly platonic, as in if you like them and get on well, do you arrange a second meet with a view to be intimate or do you get intimate on the first meet if there’s chemistry and attraction?

Trying to understand the need for platonic dates; they cost so much time, unless you end goal is to find 1-2 suitable long term SBs then playing the long game makes sense.

[ik8133]

Is the first meet strictly platonic, as in if you like them and get on well, do you arrange a second meet with a view to be intimate or do you get intimate on the first meet if there’s chemistry and attraction?

Trying to understand the need for platonic dates; they cost so much time, unless you end goal is to find 1-2 suitable long term SBs then playing the long game makes sense.

It's not necessary platonic, it's whatever you agree with the girl and yourself, what you are both comfortable with.  It's just a safeguard really to make sure you'd be comfortable taking things forward.  A couple of years ago I met this girl for a social meet, she had a front tooth missing and a black stump where it should be.  No indication of this in her SA profile, I didn't take things any further other than a coffee.  Others I've met without a social meeting and they've been fine, so basically go with your instincts. 

[southcoastpunter]

Trying to understand the need for platonic dates; they cost so much time, unless you end goal is to find 1-2 suitable long term SBs then playing the long game makes sense.

personally as i only look for potential long term, i always do a (platonic) M&G and a dinner. For long term establishing a  "click" or "connection" (or watever you want to call it) is, IMO, so important.

additionally, whilst some girls are ok to go to a hotel room on the first meeting but some are not and want a platonic meeting first to see how you get on. I personally like that - unless of course they start asking for a payment for a platonic meet which is for me and most guys is a no-no!

 If you just want to fuck them and leave, i have to ask why are you doing seeking? surely AW and other sources are less time consuming and probably cheaper.

[stampjones]

 If you just want to fuck them and leave, i have to ask why are you doing seeking? surely AW and other sources are less time consuming and probably cheaper.

I like short time one off ppm meets and longer term gf style arrangements closer to your thing. They’re not mutually exclusive and the former can develop from the latter. I think a seeking meet, even a ppm one, can be different to AW. Unless you’re meeting someone who’s on both sites its a different vibe. Even on ppm meets you wouldnt (well I wouldnt) just walk in and drop your keks. There’s still an element of chatting and getting in the mood. There’s no time for that in an escort meet. Its also not necessarily more expensive. Three hours at 300 total cost is cheaper than 150 an hour. Its just a bigger minimum charge. I guess its the thing about seeking is its different for everyone and, if you find the right girl, completely customizable to what you’re looking for

[updownandaround]

personally as i only look for potential long term, i always do a (platonic) M&G and a dinner. For long term establishing a  "click" or "connection" (or watever you want to call it) is, IMO, so important.

additionally, whilst some girls are ok to go to a hotel room on the first meeting but some are not and want a platonic meeting first to see how you get on. I personally like that - unless of course they start asking for a payment for a platonic meet which is for me and most guys is a no-no!

 If you just want to fuck them and leave, i have to ask why are you doing seeking? surely AW and other sources are less time consuming and probably cheaper.

If I have one offs it's usually related to the quality of sex, if the next is no good then I'll not see her again. So why prolong it with a platonic meet first where you're investing time and money? This is why I prefer to get into the guts (literally) of things on the first meet as it saves time in the long run. All that said, we're all different and have different ways to approach the same outcome, which is good sex with someone we like and vibe with.

[updownandaround]

I like short time one off ppm meets and longer term gf style arrangements closer to your thing. They’re not mutually exclusive and the former can develop from the latter. I think a seeking meet, even a ppm one, can be different to AW. Unless you’re meeting someone who’s on both sites its a different vibe. Even on ppm meets you wouldnt (well I wouldnt) just walk in and drop your keks. There’s still an element of chatting and getting in the mood. There’s no time for that in an escort meet. Its also not necessarily more expensive. Three hours at 300 total cost is cheaper than 150 an hour. Its just a bigger minimum charge. I guess its the thing about seeking is its different for everyone and, if you find the right girl, completely customizable to what you’re looking for

You're totally right about the contrast between an escort and a Seeking girl. You can imprint your preferences on a Seeking girl way more than the time limitations of seeing a proper WG. Plus the Seeking girl is usually a lot more grateful for the money than the WG who has a lot of revenue diversity with multiple customers every day.

[Cunning Punt]

Plus the Seeking girl is usually a lot more grateful for the money than the WG who has a lot of revenue diversity with multiple customers cocks every day.

I think that's a key point about the difference. 

[updownandaround]

I think that's a key point about the difference. 

I was more looking at it from a fiscal point of view with a side of economics thrown in to round the meal deal off.

[NightKid]

Is the first meet strictly platonic, as in if you like them and get on well, do you arrange a second meet with a view to be intimate or do you get intimate on the first meet if there’s chemistry and attraction?

Trying to understand the need for platonic dates; they cost so much time, unless you end goal is to find 1-2 suitable long term SBs then playing the long game makes sense.

Not strictly no, I simply let it be that when possible. Like I mentioned, it's a strategy so if there's an instant chemistry/attraction/vibe from the get-go then I'd make exceptions of course however as you've pointed out I do seek to play the long game with all the girls I engage without necessarily trying to limit my stable count either so if you can appreciate the nuances of that then it's just a matter of viewing it as ROI on your time investment, which I find acceptable for me.

It's not necessary platonic, it's whatever you agree with the girl and yourself, what you are both comfortable with.  It's just a safeguard really to make sure you'd be comfortable taking things forward.

Others I've met without a social meeting and they've been fine, so basically go with your instincts.

This.

I like short time one off ppm meets and longer term gf style arrangements closer to your thing. They’re not mutually exclusive and the former can develop from the latter. I think a seeking meet, even a ppm one, can be different to AW. Unless you’re meeting someone who’s on both sites its a different vibe. Even on ppm meets you wouldnt (well I wouldnt) just walk in and drop your keks. There’s still an element of chatting and getting in the mood. There’s no time for that in an escort meet. Its also not necessarily more expensive. Three hours at 300 total cost is cheaper than 150 an hour. Its just a bigger minimum charge. I guess its the thing about seeking is its different for everyone and, if you find the right girl, completely customizable to what you’re looking for

Also this. I'd omitted a line I wrote earlier but part of the reason why I mentioned I didn't mind even if the girl was a sex worker is because, regardless of our backgrounds or motivations for being on the site, we're all still humans at the end of the day so when you connect with another human it's an amazing thing and what's even moreso is where that might lead to as well.

[Trenlover]

Signed up again, last 2 times I subscribed for a month didnt meet anyone, although had offers im not parting with £300 unless its a real stunner, and struggling to get anything for under £300 in London.   

Still, I wish seeking was like it was back in 2016/2017, was SO easy to get girls for reasonable prices.    Theres too many punters on there now. 

[southcoastpunter]

Signed up again, last 2 times I subscribed for a month didnt meet anyone, although had offers im not parting with £300 unless its a real stunner, and struggling to get anything for under £300 in London.   

Still, I wish seeking was like it was back in 2016/2017, was SO easy to get girls for reasonable prices.    Theres too many punters on there now. 

ah - wasn't everything so much better in the past, when the £ was stronger against the $ and e and the Thai baht and when there were more EE girls here and more British girls about and when Mars Bars were bigger and when you could look at a good looking lady in the street without feeling bad about it. when...... i could go on and on.

But things ain't like that now and there is no going back. it is what it is and that applies to Seeking. Makes me wonder why you signed up again if you feel like that?

[updownandaround]

Signed up again, last 2 times I subscribed for a month didnt meet anyone, although had offers im not parting with £300 unless its a real stunner, and struggling to get anything for under £300 in London.   

Still, I wish seeking was like it was back in 2016/2017, was SO easy to get girls for reasonable prices.    Theres too many punters on there now. 

You're right mate, it's not as easy as it used to but there's hella poon on there still, you just have to dig a bit more and grind. It is still the best platform for this kind of stuff and the outcomes more often than not surpass AW in terms of quality and VFM.

[dpicardsalvage]

Nostalgia isn't what it used to be

On the point of paying £150 seeking meet against £300 adultwork

One thing I don't see factored in is your time, the very old saying time is money certainly applies to Seeking and other similar sites. Unless you are a good-looking or better chap (in which case you would have plenty of success on Tinder anyway) you need to put in hours of "work" to find that gem who is "half the price" of AW

Not knocking these sites but it isn't quite as simple as that unless you value your time at zero.

[updownandaround]

Nostalgia isn't what it used to be

On the point of paying £150 seeking meet against £300 adultwork

One thing I don't see factored in is your time, the very old saying time is money certainly applies to Seeking and other similar sites. Unless you are a good-looking or better chap (in which case you would have plenty of success on Tinder anyway) you need to put in hours of "work" to find that gem who is "half the price" of AW

Not knocking these sites but it isn't quite as simple as that unless you value your time at zero.

I have plenty of time to waste on the chase so I'm all good on that front. It's one of the enjoyable parts of the whole experience and then comparing notes with other guys who partake in Seeking!

[southcoastpunter]

One thing I don't see factored in is your time, you need to put in hours of "work" to find that gem who is "half the price" of AW

Not knocking these sites but it isn't quite as simple as that unless you value your time at zero.

nearly everyone who uses Seeking agrees it is time consuming and that it is not a cheap alternative to AW etc. But often the sex is way better and often the VFM (on a longer meet) is way better too. Depends what you want / what you value.

[wagglemypaddle]

Signed up again, last 2 times I subscribed for a month didnt meet anyone, although had offers im not parting with £300 unless its a real stunner, and struggling to get anything for under £300 in London.   

Still, I wish seeking was like it was back in 2016/2017, was SO easy to get girls for reasonable prices.    Theres too many punters on there now. 

There are still plenty of women on there who will meet for 200, and a few who will even meet for 150 More 'girl next door' types, but they're the ones who I prefer anyway. Even had overnights recently for 200 which represents great VFM.

[updownandaround]

nearly everyone who uses Seeking agrees it is time consuming and that it is not a cheap alternative to AW etc. But often the sex is way better and often the VFM (on a longer meet) is way better too. Depends what you want / what you value.

The experience is way better with the exception of a recent punt I had with MissWelshKandice, other than the limited time of 30 minutes, I found her to be just as good as you can get with Seeking in terms of sexual chemistry.

[Crockers]

Warning - rant coming.

Texted this girl.

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Her first reply was 'What's your Nationality'.

'Anglo Indian, what's yours?' I replied.

Not a dicky bird since.  Bet she's Easten European. Fed up with them, but at least she hasn't wasted to much of my time.

All I can say is thank god for the English , Scottish and Welsh girls who don't mind fucking blokes like me.

Fucks sake, you'd think that in these days where we have a Prime Minister, a London Mayor and a Scottish First Minister all of Indian heritage that mindsets would've changed.

But bloody Easter Europeans, bringing their 70s thinking over here.

They boil my piss.

Actually, the Polish girls are also cool but they are very British I find. And they're not really EE.

[updownandaround]

Warning - rant coming.

Texted this girl.

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Her first reply was 'What's your Nationality'.

'Anglo Indian, what's yours?' I replied.

Not a dicky bird since.  Bet she's Easten European. Fed up with them, but at least she hasn't wasted to much of my time.

All I can say is thank god for the English , Scottish and Welsh girls who don't mind fucking blokes like me.

Fucks sake, you'd think that in these days where we have a Prime Minister, a London Mayor and a Scottish First Minister all of Indian heritage that mindsets would've changed.

But bloody Easter Europeans, bringing their 70s thinking over here.

They boil my piss.

Actually, the Polish girls are also cool but they are very British I find. And they're not really EE.

Sorry to hear that but if it helps, I get knocked back all the time and I am as white as they come! You just can't win them all, if we did then girls would become very boring, very quickly.

[Crockers]

Yeah, cheers.

On a positive note, just agreed a very reasonable, imo, £300 ppm with a slim, willowy, attractive girl in her late twenties.

She's seen my pic and read my profile.

And, yes, she's English! Just waiting for her to agree to a first, unpaid platonic meet.

Another attractive, imo, tall, slim, English girl gets on really well with me online. However she wants £500. I won't budge from £300.

The Black English girl who I met for drinks and snogged and groped had agreed £250. However she now wants £500 as taken advice from a 'friend'. No thanks.

The other silky slim long legged English girl I met for unpaid drinks and also snogged and groped told me she had a better offer. I offered £500 a month, for two meets a month.

I was kinda half expecting that as her job involved working with loads of country Tory types.

God bless the British.

Lols.

[southcoastpunter]

we all get knocked back at times for all sorts of reasons. i get it that in this day and age, the race/natiionality reason is especially bad but if someone is anti - black/Indian/Asian etc then don't waste too much time worrying about it in punting. there are others who are ok with it.

BTW i have a couple of Polish Seeking "friends" (but not in the London area) and they are really racist - so Crockers if you find Poles that are ok with you, you are perhaps lucky - or maybe its the "London influence" which doesn't extend to outside into "the sticks"!!

[Crockers]

BTW i have a couple of Polish Seeking "friends" (but not in the London area) and they are really racist - so Crockers if you find Poles that are ok with you, you are perhaps lucky - or maybe its the "London influence" which doesn't extend to outside into "the sticks"!!

Lols. I entered an arrangement with a couple of Polish escorts who live and work in London.

Much reduced rates per hour, many hours, meeting on their days off, meeting at their flats, cooking etc.

Tremendous fun and connection. We just got on at first sight.

Fucked four other Polish escorts. Reasonable vfm and interaction. However that  was a paid transactional feel, albeit fun, but haven't been back to them.

[updownandaround]

Lols. I entered an arrangement with a couple of Polish escorts who live and work in London.

Much reduced rates per hour, many hours, meeting on their days off, meeting at their flats, cooking etc.

Tremendous fun and connection. We just got on at first sight.

Fucked four other Polish escorts. Reasonable vfm and interaction. However that  was a paid transactional feel, albeit fun, but haven't been back to them.

Mate, sounds like you're doing just fine!

[southcoastpunter]

meetcakes  External Link/Members Only aged 18 - timewaster/scammer

chatted to her a bit, she sent a few pics including one of her trying on a new outfit in a shop and asked if i would buy it for her. when i said no, never before we meet, she initially said she understands. then, a couplr of days later, sent a few more pics including her trying on another outfit and again asks me to buy it for her. i again refuse. she then blocked me (on WA but strangely not on SA)

[stampjones]

meetcakes  External Link/Members Only aged 18 - timewaster/scammer

chatted to her a bit, she sent a few pics including one of her trying on a new outfit in a shop and asked if i would buy it for her. when i said no, never before we meet, she initially said she understands. then, a couplr of days later, sent a few more pics including her trying on another outfit and again asks me to buy it for her. i again refuse. she then blocked me (on WA but strangely not on SA)

She was on my list to message. Thanks for saving me the effort. She is cute though!

[Tomi91]

Hi! Is anyone met with her? External Link/Members Only  - Red
She is member since 2018 and doing Vibes frequently so probably most of you already come up with her profile

[updownandaround]

Hi! Is anyone met with her? External Link/Members Only  - Red
She is member since 2018 and doing Vibes frequently so probably most of you already come up with her profile

I do believe I met her in 2020, decent girl but super opinionated if memory serves. Did not repeat but that's not unusual for me so don't read too much into it.

[NightKid]

I do believe I met her in 2020, decent girl but super opinionated if memory serves. Did not repeat but that's not unusual for me so don't read too much into it.

D'you remember the asking or what you might've paid her regardless?

[paul_tall_]

Boxerchik - External Link/Members Only

Very direct but nice to talk to lady. Some might fancy and reasonable allowance. More towards east London.

She now has a premium profile, agree with being direct, but there is something that doesn't feel right in her communication

[Jeffpike]

She now has a premium profile, agree with being direct, but there is something that doesn't feel right in her communication

She's not hard to find as a boxer on the internet. Just didn't find her attractive, so despite he being nice to talk just didn't go ahead.

[Tomi91]

Has anyone met with her?

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She is very nice, but also suspected as a pro as she can meet immediately

[Man99999]

Have any of you gents met this lady before?

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[wagglemypaddle]

Has anyone met with her?

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She is very nice, but also suspected as a pro as she can meet immediately

she favourited and messaged me a few weeks back but my membership had expired so can't see her message or reply. I actually considered re-subscribing just for her as I find her incredibly attractive. would be intrigued to know how things went if anyone has met her.

I would be eternally grateful if someone could IM me her number so I could add her on WA. would meet her at the drop of a hat. semi pro or not.

[Trenlover]

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Anyone seen this one? Offers £200ppm and can meet quick so possible proz, but she is very pushy which is usually red flag

[stampjones]

External Link/Members Only PrettyAngel

Sounds very sane and balanced!

[Alburn]

I've just rejoined SA after about a long hiatus and it's definitely feeling harder to find quality SBs. But I've connected with a few who I'm set to meet over the next few weeks. I used to use seeking as an alternative to dating - I would meet for drinks, and if that worked well maybe dinner and then back to a hotel to enjoy the night.

My situation is a little different now, so I need to be more discreet so the majority of the meeting needs to be behind closed doors. I'm meeting one next week for an afternoon and I'm trying to figure out how to make the most of it. I can normally go a few rounds but I think I'll be spent by the 2 hour mark. I like the chemistry that can develop through seeking but paying for a meet for a few hours + a day use hotel room can cost around 3-400 which makes me think that AW might be a better bet. How do you guys spend your time on your meets?