Just a little whinge....the amount of profiles I read where they wish to be treated like a princess, like they DESERVE....is it the self entitlement that seems to have wrapped itself around the younger generation or am I reading too much into it whilst bored on a sunny Friday afternoon? 🤣
It seems to me to be a result of a weird mix of over-inflated self-esteem; wish-fulfilment; imposter syndrome and the reality, for a lucky few, that it can sometimes spectacularly pay-off. Those that actively go for this are aware that a small number of hoes, whether by virtue of lucky happenstance, hard work and/or the kind of self-abasement that comes with porta-potty gigs, have been able to earn big-bucks, and quite fancy a slice of that themselves, if only they have the audacity to first ask for it.
As an example - one girl I mistakenly corresponded with during covid, on meeting, turned out to be grossly obese. It wasn't going to go any further for me, but as she was a funny and fun person, we nattered anyway over the following months. It transpired she had a long history of abuse and trauma to add to the poor self-image her over-eating caused. Nonetheless, she was attractive enough to certain groups of men (apparently Middle-Eastern types have a thing for fatties). For her, abuse (theirs, and her own self-harming) were a form of therapy by reliving trauma. She actively 'wanted' (
nb: with the right man) to have her consent taken away'. This is an otherwise very bright, realistic and socially aware woman.
One sometime admirer, having gone on two sexless dates with her, would send her money - presumably in the hopes of impressing and later controlling her. Over a year (and bear in mind, no sex took place) he sent over £30k, 2/3rds of which after she ceased all contact with him, even blocking his number, etc. I saw the receipts in her banking app. Doubtless she confided this ridiculous good fortune to some of her friends, who, assessing their physical attractiveness vis a vis hers, correctly concluded that they probably had at least a reasonable shot at achieving similar. Whilst they don't necessarily expect this to produce any results most of the time, as Warren Buffet might say, sometimes you just need to hold out for the fat pitch to come along, and be ready when if and when it does.
My current main SB won me around a different way: going so far as to stress on her then profile
'I'm not a princess; I don't have a shoe or handbag habit', and since our assignation began just over a year ago, has several times underlined that, when it comes to putting her up, she's quite content with ordinary, unfussy accommodation. She's gone so far as to return money that I've sent to cover incidentals, with notes that 'It's not needed'. Such women are obviously keepers, and so, wherever possible, I try and ensure that we live the high life and she gets treated like the gem she is.
Lest I flatter myself that I'm above any of this fray, I'm currently laying the groundwork with another, more local to me, who I've been on several dates with over the course of the last year, but whose knickers, for various reasons, I've yet to gain ingress to. In her own words, she's just 'a country girl', but her previous arrangement was with a billionaire (I've seen the pics) who she reluctantly ditched because he was, entirely unsurprisingly, a control-freak. In my faith that that day will eventually come, I'm currently around £2k down to her, beaver unseen. It remains to be seen whether this punt pays off or not.
For all kinds of understandable reasons, most of the time, women are the gate-keepers to sex; whereas men are the gatekeepers to commitment. Both parties present themselves accordingly.
