Confidence

[mickmac]

That's what punting has given me.

My first punt was only 6 months ago, and it came after 2 or 3 years of constantly thinking about it, but not having he balls to actually go for it, now I've seen 6 different girls and  had around 10 punts and I seem to spend every waking hour thinking about the next punt, the next new girl,new things to try.

it wasn't like that at first, I even posted on here that I wasn't sure if punting was for me, but I've come through that, met a few great girls, and all I can say to anyone on here still contemplating their first punt, is go for it, you won't regret it.

I'm happier, ive almost given up on porn completely (how can it compete with a real pussy!),  finding it easier to chat to  and compliment women, this is all from a shy bloke who was never great with the ladies and who's been stuck in a sexless marriage for 10 years.

Sorry if his comes across as a bit self indulgent,  it's not meant to be, I just want to show others who might be like I was, that there's so much upside, and very little downside to this life. Well, apart from the cost, the bad punts, the amount of time spent researching and on sites like this, and all the other inherent dangers...

[Ali Katt]

I think your post comes from a good place.

I think you are in danger of having a sex addiction if you spend a lot of time thinking of the girls you are planning on seeing. Don't get me wrong I do think about it, but it is a very small part of my week.

Well done on cutting back the porn. Nobody has seen the extent of the effect it has on society, but I think it is breeding a nation of teenage "bed wetters".

Tbh it hasn't made me confident with girls in the way you might think it has made me apathetic towards relationships and no that's not a good thing. I would suggest if you have been married you have at least done something right in terms of being able to attract women and what people forget is many men do suffer from the same insecurities women do, we just hide it better.

[Moby Dick]

Yeah I found the teenage years difficult.
I stopped wanking because i thought it made me spotty.

[wristjob]

Punting goes through phases, and I think that is true for everyone. There are times you find 1 or 2 really good girls and you are hyped up for the next punt and throwing your budget out the window. A few years back I had something like 5 punts in a year, I just wasn't interested. 6 months with approx 2 punts a month doesn't seem like a lot and hopefully it will sort itself out - and if it's had other positive effects on your life all the better.

[mickmac]

I think your post comes from a good place.

I think you are in danger of having a sex addiction if you spend a lot of time thinking of the girls you are planning on seeing. Don't get me wrong I do think about it, but it is a very small part of my week.

Cheers, I am a bit worried that it's an addiction,  but then again I'm just coming out of 10 sexless years, so hopefully it will settle down in time.

If/when my marriage ends, I'd like to think that this will help me get back out there and find a new partner,  but if not, what the hell, carry on punting!

[Ali Katt]

Yeah I found the teenage years difficult.
I stopped wanking because i thought it made me spotty.

You should have cum on your face. Better than clearasil.

[Moby Dick]

You should have cum on your face. Better than clearasil.

I ain’t no 🦒 giraffe.
Used to end up on the ceiling.

[Ali Katt]

Cheers, I am a bit worried that it's an addiction,  but then again I'm just coming out of 10 sexless years, so hopefully it will settle down in time.

If/when my marriage ends, I'd like to think that this will help me get back out there and find a new partner,  but if not, what the hell, carry on punting!

Like I say it has the reverse effect. Back when I went to parlours, I had the knowledge I could be sucked off by a fit girl in an hour or less. That is a powerful feeling, but also how could having 3 dates with an awkward cuddle compare? I don't know. What I do know is despite what people say I am open to dating again, but believe it or not finding a punt can be easier than organising a date.

Tbh I was punting twice a month at my peak sometimes every week. Really what put me off was stuff happening in my personal life, then I took a two year break and rethought the way I punt.

[Happylad]

Yeah I found the teenage years difficult.
I stopped wanking because i thought it made me spotty.

But did not wanking actually clear the spotting?  And if so is it too late for me to improve my complexion that same way?

[Malvolio]

Cheers, I am a bit worried that it's an addiction,  but then again I'm just coming out of 10 sexless years, so hopefully it will settle down in time.

If/when my marriage ends, I'd like to think that this will help me get back out there and find a new partner,  but if not, what the hell, carry on punting!

I'd imagine you're like a kid in a sweetshop at the moment and will calm down eventually, but as long as you can afford to punt at your current rate and still enjoy it you may as well crack on.  As far as I know we only have one life in this world, so why not make the most of it.

[Jerjer]

This youtuber echoes some of the contributions on this thread regarding escorting and addiction, together with all the usual caveats. A brave man to publicly out himself although perhaps a little foolish if he wants to one day tie the knot:

External Link/Members Only

[Ali Katt]

This youtuber echoes some of the contributions on this thread regarding escorting and addiction, together with all the usual caveats. A brave man to publicly out himself although perhaps a little foolish if he wants to one day tie the knot:

External Link/Members Only

What's that shit on his walls. It looks like a student flat. Just because he may or may not have sex addiction there's no need for him to have such low standards.

[Jerjer]

What's that shit on his walls. It looks like a student flat. Just because he may or may not have sex addiction there's no need for him to have such low standards.

Yes, I spent most of the video wondering why his walls looked like a very poor display in a primary classroom.
In his previous video on escort addiction, made some years ago, he actually mentions UKPunting so I suppose he may still be a member here.

[Ali Katt]

Yes, I spent most of the video wondering why his walls looked like a very poor display in a primary classroom.
In his previous video on escort addiction, made some years ago, he actually mentions UKPunting so I suppose he may still be a member here.

if he is he can comment.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

Go easy micmac it can get addictive and you can suffer with burnout bin there etc.

But the upsides, where can someone like me late sixties get to shag nubile young lass'es around 40 years younger then meself.

A lot of them seem to like older men so they say, they know how to treat a lady;)

Well so they say I always thought they liked me wallet more somehow?

Shirley knott:!?

[Kool Keef]

That's what punting has given me.

My first punt was only 6 months ago, and it came after 2 or 3 years of constantly thinking about it, but not having he balls to actually go for it, now I've seen 6 different girls and  had around 10 punts and I seem to spend every waking hour thinking about the next punt, the next new girl,new things to try.

it wasn't like that at first, I even posted on here that I wasn't sure if punting was for me, but I've come through that, met a few great girls, and all I can say to anyone on here still contemplating their first punt, is go for it, you won't regret it.

I'm happier, ive almost given up on porn completely (how can it compete with a real pussy!),  finding it easier to chat to  and compliment women, this is all from a shy bloke who was never great with the ladies and who's been stuck in a sexless marriage for 10 years.

Sorry if his comes across as a bit self indulgent,  it's not meant to be, I just want to show others who might be like I was, that there's so much upside, and very little downside to this life. Well, apart from the cost, the bad punts, the amount of time spent researching and on sites like this, and all the other inherent dangers...

Enjoy yourself mate
There's worse hobbies/habits to have 

[Home Alone]

Hear, hear. You seem to have worked out why you want to punt and what you want out of it. Keep following that line of thought and you shouldn't go far wrong.

Just two caveats: don't ever let yourself get suckered into E.A.S; and - I often say this - I'm such a rotten liar that I couldn't have started punting if I'd been married. That's not got any moral basis; it's simply that lying would almost certainly have led to an expensive divorce.

[wristjob]

if he is he can comment.

Get off his case, he made a video ffs 

I started watching the original video - it was grim. For the life of me I don't get this nofap thing and generally it's not healthy. I mean I do accept some of the sentiment that I think the availability and nature of porn now has gone too far and that the long term effects of people coming into that kind of world are probably scary.

The crux of the above video seems to be he's matured into being in control of the situation but also accepting it's not wrong nor bad. Probably the journey many have made, some more smoothly than others. If you aren't one of these dick accountant who scams 200k and spends it on escorts then I think eventually we are all forced to control it financially and then it becomes a routine part of life, not some big novelty the OP is experiencing.

People got to have interests and looking it from a different angle you could get a lot of escorts for the price of a ticket to see Liverpool lose!

[mickmac]

This youtuber echoes some of the contributions on this thread regarding escorting and addiction, together with all the usual caveats. A brave man to publicly out himself although perhaps a little foolish if he wants to one day tie the knot:

External Link/Members Only

Fair play to him for doing both those videos, and for admitting he's changed his mind on using escorts, but I hope to god he doesn't do any more in that style, I almost fell asleep watching them.

From my point of view, ive never been addicted to anything, smoking, drinking I do in moderation,  drugs I dont do, but sex is always on my mind (isn't it for most blokes?) - ironic considering how long I actually went wihout it.

I appreciate all the replies on here - I thought I was going to get mullered for starting such a daft thread!

I'm doing it within my means at the moment,  mainly because I started putting small amounts of cash aside a few years ago when I first thought of doing it, but there's not much left now, especially as ive gone from 'I'll do one punt a month', to one every 7-10 days at the moment, like someone said, I'm like a kid in a sweetshop,  I'm sure that will come to an end soon.

[southern punter]

Hi mickmac, thanks for your post, it was almost uncanny reading it as we seem to have a great deal in common.  I also am historically shy and crap with women, started punting about 6 months ago, have had about 10 punts, have gone from thinking every month or two would do nicely to being a "kid in a sweetshop" pushing the budget by going every week or two, and have also noticed my interest in porn drop significantly.

I am not so sure whether it has given me "confidence" to chat up civvies.  Mainly because I have not tried, I fall more in line with Ali Katt's experience! I do find it has given me some "perspective" though, for example I was hung up on an ex for a while whereas now I am more "there are plenty of fish", and I have learnt various other small things about myself and how I relate to people, which I won't bore you all with.  Suffice to say I thought it would help my 'base' needs and feel neutral-to-bad otherwise, but it has been holistically helpful.  I get more mental health benefit from a punt than I ever got from the same time and money spent with 'proper' therapists, not even joking.

I would like to comment on the linked videos but I watched about four minutes and the guy hadn't actually said anything, good example of why I rarely watch youtube, get to the point ffs!! 

[mickmac]

Suffice to say I thought it would help my 'base' needs and feel neutral-to-bad otherwise, but it has been holistically helpful.  I get more mental health benefit from a punt than I ever got from the same time and money spent with 'proper' therapists, not even joking.

Maybe punting should be offered on the NHS, I'd vote for any party who put that in their manifesto!

I would guess there are many similar guys like us doing this, for any number of different reasons. The confidence I mention is with the girls I see, I haven't transferred it to civvies yet, but with the first few girls I just let them lead the meet, now I find I can dominate more and get exactly what I want without being shy or embarrassed.

[Malvolio]

I would guess there are many similar guys like us doing this, for any number of different reasons. The confidence I mention is with the girls I see, I haven't transferred it to civvies yet, but with the first few girls I just let them lead the meet, now I find I can dominate more and get exactly what I want without being shy or embarrassed.

Correct - as you're paying you need to tell the WG what you're after and drive the punt.

[TheMurloc]

Correct - as you're paying you need to tell the WG what you're after and drive the punt.

+1

I spent a few years in an unhappy marriage and became very submissive in the relationship and eventually becoming celibate because while I hated the relationship I was in I remained faithful to the vows taken in marriage. It destroyed my sexual confidence and since divorce I’ve had a. Kills of non intimate relationships fail. I started punting October last year and that has reawakened the sexual confidence I had in my early years and am no longer embarrassed to speak with girls about my sexual needs, something that didn’t ever happen with my wife!

I’ve also discovered the n my late 40s, what really turns me on and what my type is, which ironically isn’t what I thought it was and that is a life changer as I now know exactly what I’m looking for in a woman I want a relationship with.

[Rockhead]

it was almost uncanny reading it as we seem to have a great deal in common.  I also am historically shy and crap with women...
I do find it has given me some "perspective" though, for example I was hung up on an ex for a while whereas now I am more "there are plenty of fish", and I have learnt various other small things about myself and how I relate to people, which I won't bore you all with.  Suffice to say I thought it would help my 'base' needs and feel neutral-to-bad otherwise, but it has been holistically helpful.  I get more mental health benefit from a punt than I ever got from the same time and money spent with 'proper' therapists, not even joking.

I can relate to a lot of this thread, including this!

Having been confined to a sexless relationship I then got out of that and - after overcoming nerves, lack of self-esteem etc - got into punting. That in turn has led me to explore my other kink which is session wrestling (against females). So while I miss aspects of 'normal' relationships, and I do date so haven't ruled out another, I have been greatly enjoying the freedom that this 'lifestyle' brings. I also have an 'arrangement' with a long-fancied female friend and I'm particularly enjoying that at the moment, too.

Like my dad I'm shrewd and cautious with money so I feel there's no danger of genuine addiction - I know I can afford a punt and a wrestle every month. It doesn't always work out like that because life throws up things like unexpected car repairs, burst pipes etc, but in general it works. So whether I'm fucking or fighting I've got something to look forward to that really gets my adrenalin and pleasure receptors going. I feel more alive and in the moment. I think it has made me more confident with civvie women too, mainly because their approval is no longer the be all end all i.e. if a date comes to nothing then I don't feel down; I just shrug and look forward to other stuff.

[wheeliebinwanking]

That's what punting has given me.

My first punt was only 6 months ago, and it came after 2 or 3 years of constantly thinking about it, but not having he balls to actually go for it, now I've seen 6 different girls and  had around 10 punts and I seem to spend every waking hour thinking about the next punt, the next new girl,new things to try.

it wasn't like that at first, I even posted on here that I wasn't sure if punting was for me, but I've come through that, met a few great girls, and all I can say to anyone on here still contemplating their first punt, is go for it, you won't regret it.

I'm happier, ive almost given up on porn completely (how can it compete with a real pussy!),  finding it easier to chat to  and compliment women, this is all from a shy bloke who was never great with the ladies and who's been stuck in a sexless marriage for 10 years.

Sorry if his comes across as a bit self indulgent,  it's not meant to be, I just want to show others who might be like I was, that there's so much upside, and very little downside to this life. Well, apart from the cost, the bad punts, the amount of time spent researching and on sites like this, and all the other inherent dangers...

Well done for coming out with this post fella. You're walking on well trodden ground and you're certainly not alone. I am sure I posted something a couple of years back that brought out a bunch of married men to comment. I am in a loving but sexless marriage. Nearly 2 years without but due to family / other stuff I am more than happy to stay in the sexless marriage and seek my fun elsewhere

WBW

[niftyfiftydave]

+1

I spent a few years in an unhappy marriage and became very submissive in the relationship and eventually becoming celibate because while I hated the relationship I was in I remained faithful to the vows taken in marriage. It destroyed my sexual confidence and since divorce I’ve had a. Kills of non intimate relationships fail. I started punting October last year and that has reawakened the sexual confidence I had in my early years and am no longer embarrassed to speak with girls about my sexual needs, something that didn’t ever happen with my wife!

I’ve also discovered the n my late 40s, what really turns me on and what my type is, which ironically isn’t what I thought it was and that is a life changer as I now know exactly what I’m looking for in a woman I want a relationship with.

Been married twice and engaged another couple of times and a few long term relationships and affairs, lots of one nighters and still been punting since a teenager, not a legal one either. Can,t say it gave me confidence or i found the type of women i like, more variety and being a randy git i think with a few kinks partners were not interested in or perhaps i was too lazy or shy to ask.