I found it surprising when a girl recently told me (surprisingly candidly) that nearly all of her previous meets/arrangements were one time only affairs despite her preferring long term (but clearly accepting short term also). I thought there would be more of a mix.
It got me thinking that I wonder how often others on here usually meet a girl - assuming they like them and had a good time. I've only met a fairly small amount of girls. 3 or 4 was one time only - we didn't quite click for whatever reason. Another girl 5 or 6 times before it got boring and another - the girl in question - it must be 20 times now - every few weeks on average.
From reading back the threads here it does seem like a lot of us move on pretty quickly, with a few exceptions. Be interested to hear others thoughts. If you got on well with a girl and found her attractive, do you still generally move on? for variety?
This is an interesting question and one I too have wondered about. I suspect each individual's experience will be somewhat different. However, my observations, reflecting back on use seeking for 10+ years would be:
1) the key variable is geographical: if meeting someone within my 'home' area, I'll generally be hoping that it'll turn into a medium- to long-term arrangements; away from home, when my presence is transient, the expectation will be for a one-off meeting;
2) meeting women for one (or occasionally more) platonic dates (the notorious M&G, with no expectation of sex on the first date, more often leads to further sexual dates over the longer-term;
3) the younger the women, the more likely a very short-term set up, including a preponderance of one-off meets. There are multiple reasons for this, not least that the circumstances of younger peoples' lives change much more rapidly than those of us old timers;
4) that said, I have been seeing my current long-term SB for a little over 5 years now. We met when she was 21. So, as I said, generalising may not get us very far!
