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[Payyourwaymate]

Gloucester/Cheltenham Area.

Have seen a tallish, slim blonde from just west of Gloucester 3 or 4 times.

Young.

Saw her recently and she said she'd seen 20/25 guys on Seeking.

Just wondering if there are any UKP members among them and would like to say hi and compare notes 😉👍😉

Apologies in advance but I won't be passing on her details but just curious if any UKP members have also enjoyed her.

I don't think she's on the site at the mo so can't give her link either.

Message me and maybe give me the last three numbers of her phone to check we're talking about the same girl.

A dream teen indeed - message me if you think you've seen her...

So you won't pass on her details but want people to give you information on how she was with them?  I'm not sure that is how fair exchange of information works. What benefit do they get out of doing that? So you can turn around and say to the girl you won't do XYZ with me but you did it with MR X or MR X turns arounds and says you did XYZ with MR Y but not me? how dare you  and fuck shit up for them and yourself?

[CheeseBoard]

StokeC

Why don't know you if she is on the site or not? Has she blocked you on SA? If not, then you'd know

It comes across (to me) like you are fishing for information and hoping for a bite for either your benefit or possibly for the SB to arm her with a UKP username so she can look them up.  Whatever the reason, it sounds dodgy.  You posted on the closed thread and when given fair responses, you repost it in the open thread.

If anyone has already messaged you, i hope they don't end up regretting it 

[Cunning Punt]

He’s been given the exact same feedback on the other threads by successful experienced people
Seeking is not for everyone

Yes, and more pertinently, UKP is not for everyone.

The whole point of this site is to exchange information openly that is of genuine benefit to other members, not to swap private notes with one other member about girls you have already seen purely for your own amusement/kicks. 

[cotton]

StokeC

Why don't know you if she is on the site or not? Has she blocked you on SA? If not, then you'd know

It comes across (to me) like you are fishing for information and hoping for a bite for either your benefit or possibly for the SB to arm her with a UKP username so she can look them up.  Whatever the reason, it sounds dodgy.  You posted on the closed thread and when given fair responses, you repost it in the open thread.

If anyone has already messaged you, i hope they don't end up regretting it 

My best guesses are ;
1 - hes seen her a few times and now shes made her excuses and finished it and StokeC wants to investigate her to find out if shes telling the truth , is she still seeing other people , why did she ditch him etc etc.  In other words hes not moving on in a healthy way , hes latched on to her in a stalky way.
2 -hes bursting to talk about her but theres some hidden reason why he cant tell us , some hidden reason why he can only talk about her with other guys who have seen her.
Whatever the reason it sounds dodgy.
@ StokeC how old was she ?

[tynetunnel]

He said “young” and “teen”

[Hobbit]

He said “young” and “teen”

Maybe he's her dad or something creepy like that. 






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[jokaa]

Hi all need some advice.

Paid and been using SA for a few days now, but today my account got suspended. It said due to escorting based messaging (I fucked up)

My questions are:

- as my first violation, is there any chance of reinstating my account?

- it said in the notice if this is your first violation then contact support and they may reinstate. However, I can find a support email. I did send a ticket through though.

- I had already paid. If I can reinstate my account will they refund my money or at least let me cancel the auto renewal?

If all is lost and I can't get my account back, any way for me to create a new account and start again?

I was really enjoying it. So disappointed.

[Bobbins1973]

Hi all need some advice.

Paid and been using SA for a few days now, but today my account got suspended. It said due to escorting based messaging (I fucked up)

My questions are:

- as my first violation, is there any chance of reinstating my account?

- it said in the notice if this is your first violation then contact support and they may reinstate. However, I can find a support email. I did send a ticket through though.

- I had already paid. If I can reinstate my account will they refund my money or at least let me cancel the auto renewal?

If all is lost and I can't get my account back, any way for me to create a new account and start again?

I was really enjoying it. So disappointed.

Hi
Feel your pain as I got lazy and did the same - I thought checks wouldn’t be as stringent during lockdown but 3 days into a sub and I was banned
Previously I grovelled and got reinstated (twice - once an early mistake and 2nd they made a mistake)
Raised a ticket this time but never got an answer where in the past usually takes 2 to 3 days. Contacted them on Twitter and insta to complain about lack of action)
In the end I raised another ticket quoting previous number and threatened a chargeback which I explained would cost them as much as my sub to investigate and a few days later got a refund back in my bank but no message or response to my tickets)

I’ve created another account with different email but not took out a sub as it’s pointless during lockdown unless you enjoy the banter and have time on your hands which I don’t have atm so hoping to resubmit around Easter and may use google vouchers or similar as they may not allow same bank details (although I’d use a different account/card)

Good luck if you get any reply but they aren’t interested in paying subscription holders which is bizzare in this time of financial hardship for most whilst females with free profiles can use any phrase or be underage and they turn a blind eye

[heathen666]

Hi all need some advice.

Paid and been using SA for a few days now, but today my account got suspended. It said due to escorting based messaging (I fucked up)

My questions are:

- as my first violation, is there any chance of reinstating my account?

- it said in the notice if this is your first violation then contact support and they may reinstate. However, I can find a support email. I did send a ticket through though.

- I had already paid. If I can reinstate my account will they refund my money or at least let me cancel the auto renewal?

If all is lost and I can't get my account back, any way for me to create a new account and start again?

I was really enjoying it. So disappointed.

Send support an email saying you're really sorry and didn't intentionality use escorting terms. You'll be more careful in future. Just finding your feet on the site, re-read t&cs etc. Yoy should find you will get your account back.. But saying that some haven't in the past.

If they reinstate your account I expect they won't give you any kind of refund. Yes you will be able to disable auto renewal via the settings.

If you create a new account, use a browser and not the app, different email address, photos etc. Some use a vpn but be careful with this.

[jokaa]

Thanks Heathen and Bobbins for the replies.

I did send a support ticket and I also sent 2 emails to support's email, but still no reply. It hasn't been 24 hours yet - is this a normal lag time for a reply?

Honestly, the only reason it happened is all the girls kept saying 'PPM', 'no anal', etc etc, so I thought oh okay it can be talked about. Didn't realise there was 1 rule for the men paying and the girls with free accounts.

If I don't hear from them in say 48 hours, should I send in another support ticket begging and grovelling?

[Steve2]

Thanks Heathen and Bobbins for the replies.

I did send a support ticket and I also sent 2 emails to support's email, but still no reply. It hasn't been 24 hours yet - is this a normal lag time for a reply?

Honestly, the only reason it happened is all the girls kept saying 'PPM', 'no anal', etc etc, so I thought oh okay it can be talked about. Didn't realise there was 1 rule for the men paying and the girls with free accounts.

If I don't hear from them in say 48 hours, should I send in another support ticket begging and grovelling?

Just send a chargeback on your credit card. That normally prompts a quick response

[jokaa]

Just send a chargeback on your credit card. That normally prompts a quick response

How do I do a chargeback on my credit card?

[GingerNuts]

How do I do a chargeback on my credit card?

Contact your card provider.

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SA can contest your claim.

[jokaa]

Contact your card provider.

External Link/Members Only

SA can contest your claim.

Got it thank you!

If I do this, Seeking will in no way reinstate my account will they? I want my account back mainly!

[martini2429]

Got it thank you!

If I do this, Seeking will in no way reinstate my account will they? I want my account back mainly!

Then wait until Seeking have said no, once that has happened then do the Chargeback

 

[GingerNuts]

Got it thank you!

If I do this, Seeking will in no way reinstate my account will they? I want my account back mainly!

I don't know how they'd react to you starting a chargeback.

[tynetunnel]

I don't know how they'd react to you starting a chargeback.

I could make an informed guess!

[stampjones]

Honestly, the only reason it happened is all the girls kept saying 'PPM', 'no anal', etc etc, so I thought oh okay it can be talked about. Didn't realise there was 1 rule for the men paying and the girls with free accounts.

I dont know what rules they apply but I use extreme caution - if a girl asks if I want ppm I ignore it and say lets talk on WA. Basically dont say or acknowledge anything sexual or to do with an arrangement while on seeking. Basic chat on seeking then WA for everything else

[allroadboy]

The terms and conditions, which they made me read, before they'd let me back in, states that no chargebacks will be made if they ban you, so I guess if a card company asks for chargeback they refuse as you have agreed to their T & C's ?

The problem we have with them is that in the USA prostitution is illegal, whereas here it is legal. Very few blokes in the USA banned for using language that over steps the mark will ever appeal as they are shit scared of being accused of soliciting sex for money. Whereas here, we don't care so much as it is a legal activity, providing age is ok and no trafficking etc

[jokaa]

Still no response from the ticket I sent in, plus the 2 emails I've sent. What terrible customer service 

Should I keep chasing?

[Bobbins1973]

Still no response from the ticket I sent in, plus the 2 emails I've sent. What terrible customer service 

Should I keep chasing?

Just send them a threatening email saying you are about to raise a chargeback unless they refund or reinstate your account
My guess is that they will send you a refund based on how much subscription remained on the account

[Asurmen]

Still no response from the ticket I sent in, plus the 2 emails I've sent. What terrible customer service 

Should I keep chasing?

Sounds normal for SA customer service, they are appalling.

Keep trying and good luck.

[southcoastpunter]

with respect Jokaa and Boobins, you have been a bit daft - this thread is full of warning about choice of language and especially about anything that looks like you might be offering money for sex! It doesn't matter what we guys think about the ladies (IE are they or some of them at least WG / Escorts or not)....just don't go anywhere near using language that could be interpreted in that way.

I also have to disagree with Bobbins that its pointless joining/using SA during lockdown. In my experience, generally it takes a little while to chat and get to know the ladies and doing this at this time will enable a "fast start" after lockdown. I have meet a couple of ladies for an initial "do we like each other?" meeting - an outside takeaway coffee and chat.

Everyone has different views on SA, my personal view is that if you are only interested in finding a lady for a quick f*ck, it probably will be better and cheaper to stick to AW. It can take a lot of time and hard work but there are a few real gems on SA.

[Cunning Punt]

I also have to disagree with Bobbins that its pointless joining/using SA during lockdown. In my experience, generally it takes a little while to chat and get to know the ladies and doing this at this time will enable a "fast start" after lockdown. I have meet a couple of ladies for an initial "do we like each other?" meeting - an outside takeaway coffee and chat.

Are you talking about M&Gs during this lockdown? In which case, maybe save that judgment till you've actually had intimate meets with these girls.

Don't get me wrong, I hope they work out and there's significantly more chance if you've met them for M&G not just texts.

Either way, it's worth making the general point that girls on SA can lose interest rather quickly, as can SDs, and conversation easily dries up. Momentum is often crucial which is why most guys don't bother subbing during lockdown.

[stokecity]

So you won't pass on her details but want people to give you information on how she was with them?  I'm not sure that is how fair exchange of information works. What benefit do they get out of doing that? So you can turn around and say to the girl you won't do XYZ with me but you did it with MR X or MR X turns arounds and says you did XYZ with MR Y but not me? how dare you  and fuck shit up for them and yourself?

Thanks for the interest in this, gents.

Whilst I appreciate that the vast majority of UKP members will see my post and then just ignore or move on or whatever is appropriate, I see there are a few who feel the need to provide snarky, nasty or just thick comments.

A couple of membesr even called me creepy.

Excuse me for chuckling at that one, but aren't we a bunch of middle aged guys who pay young girls to suck our cocks?

I would have thought that was the very definition of "creepy," tbh, but there we go.👍👍👍

Meanwhile, it looks like I've now been locked out of the closed Seeking thread.

Aaah, so that's how it works is it?

Creepy? I thought I was being charming...💗💕👍😉

[cotton]

Thanks for the interest in this, gents.
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Creepy? I thought I was being charming...💗💕👍😉

So why arnt you willing to share info about this girl , whats the big mystery 

[Hobbit]

Are you talking about M&Gs during this lockdown? In which case, maybe save that judgment till you've actually had intimate meets with these girls.

Don't get me wrong, I hope they work out and there's significantly more chance if you've met them for M&G not just texts.

Either way, it's worth making the general point that girls on SA can lose interest rather quickly, as can SDs, and conversation easily dries up. Momentum is often crucial which is why most guys don't bother subbing during lockdown.

I have to agree. These girls don't like long conversations with multiple messages back and forth. A lot of them prefer to be straight to the point and meet up as quickly as possible. During lockdown, this is virtually impossible and therefore most aren't even interested at the moment, so there's no point in signing up as it's quite dry. (Excuse the pun).

[Hobbit]

Thanks for the interest in this, gents.

Whilst I appreciate that the vast majority of UKP members will see my post and then just ignore or move on or whatever is appropriate, I see there are a few who feel the need to provide snarky, nasty or just thick comments.

A couple of membesr even called me creepy.

Excuse me for chuckling at that one, but aren't we a bunch of middle aged guys who pay young girls to suck our cocks?

I would have thought that was the very definition of "creepy," tbh, but there we go.👍👍👍

Meanwhile, it looks like I've now been locked out of the closed Seeking thread.

Aaah, so that's how it works is it?

Creepy? I thought I was being charming...💗💕👍😉

If that's charming then I would hate to see you being creepy.

[jokaa]

So they've confirmed that they banned me in the end and won't be restoring my account.

I created a new account using a different email, photo, name, contact number - then when I went to go pay and sign up to the premium service it suspended my account straight away.

Any ideas on why this might be? I also used a VPN so I'm on a private network and they can't track my IP. So annoyed I can't get back on this damn platform!

The only thing I can think of is I used a debit card with my real name on it, but this isn't the same card I used the first time around (was a credit card last time) and this new debit card is registered at a different address. Could that have been it?

[datwabbit]

So they've confirmed that they banned me in the end and won't be restoring my account.

I created a new account using a different email, photo, name, contact number - then when I went to go pay and sign up to the premium service it suspended my account straight away.

Any ideas on why this might be? I also used a VPN so I'm on a private network and they can't track my IP. So annoyed I can't get back on this damn platform!

Did you use the same payment type?

[jokaa]

No, the first time round was a VISA credit card. 2nd time around is a Mastercard debit card.

Not sure what to do here - is the only way to use a card not in my name? Why didn't the VPN work?

Basically, how can I get back on Seeking as a paid member? lol

[jokaa]

The issue also is I don't know what to do about paying without revealing my name. Am I stuck and locked out of seeking forever at this point?

[jokaa]

Can anyone help? Please

[Atlas1957]

Did you do a chargeback on the first account?  Maybe they have blacklisted your name if you did.

Did they take the money from the second card or refuse to take it?

Are you down two month's subscription?

Sorry, not sure about what other payment methods there are, I think they've removed non credit card options in the last year, but I remember looking into one off pay as you go credit cards a few months ago and that might be an avenue to try.  Another more complicated option is you might have to befriend a local punter and get them to set up an account for you using their card then give them the cash?  Need to find someone you trust that trusts you for that.

I do wonder though if you've been caught out by something else that matched you to the first account.  Maybe they matched something in the photos, like the meta-data.

[Joelawerence]

The issue also is I don't know what to do about paying without revealing my name. Am I stuck and locked out of seeking forever at this point?

I had this same issue last year, they can connect your accounts through your Credit card details like Name, address, etc. I challenged them on this referring the GDPR requirement regarding Personal Data storage but they came back saying they store only the required data as per GDPR rules. They also mentioned that they store the data for 6 months and then it is auto deleted. So I tried joining again after 6 months of my last try of creating a new account and then I finally managed to create a new account.

In summary, I think your only option is to wait for 6 months and then create an account.

[Atlas1957]

Now might be a good time for the more experienced gentlemen on the site to mention any alternative (good) sites?  I understand SA aren't the only "game in town" in the UK?

[Joelawerence]

Now might be a good time for the more experienced gentlemen on the site to mention any alternative (good) sites?  I understand SA aren't the only "game in town" in the UK?

Secret Benefits and SugarDaddyMeet are two sites I have heard are half decent. I haven't had any meets through them yet, but profiles mostly seem genuine from what I saw.

[punterstanding]

The issue also is I don't know what to do about paying without revealing my name. Am I stuck and locked out of seeking forever at this point?

You can pay using Google Pay vouchers, just buy them in your local supermarket / newsagents and load them onto a new google account with email address that you've set up specifically for the purpose, calling yourself whatever you like so can't be connected with your old profile. Restart your router beforehand to change the IP address

[Brumish]

Now might be a good time for the more experienced gentlemen on the site to mention any alternative (good) sites?  I understand SA aren't the only "game in town" in the UK?

I don't think ive ever dabbled with any other similar sites as SA more or less has a Monopoly.
Only thing I'd say is, get your arse on tinder. Most of the SBs are on there and it's just a matter of piquing their interest without mentioning the obvious in your bio.

[jokaa]

 

You can pay using Google Pay vouchers, just buy them in your local supermarket / newsagents and load them onto a new google account with email address that you've set up specifically for the purpose, calling yourself whatever you like so can't be connected with your old profile. Restart your router beforehand to change the IP address

This sounds like it could work.

So I go to supermarket and get the vouchers. Then I load those vouchers to a new Google Account with a new email.

How do I then pay for SA? When trying to get a membership, the only option I see is credit card.

[heathen666]

Payments:

Revolut: create an account with your real name, address can be fake though. When you create a virtual card you can use any name during payment.

Cdkeys.com - you can buy google gift cards at a small discount, down side is you have to buy in blocks of £50,25 & 10

Alternative websites - sugardaddymeet is shit.. 50 messages sent out to online SBs. Not one view or reply.

[heathen666]

This sounds like it could work.

So I go to supermarket and get the vouchers. Then I load those vouchers to a new Google Account with a new email.

How do I then pay for SA? When trying to get a membership, the only option I see is credit card.

Via the app

[jokaa]

Oh shit didn't know you could do that! Thanks Heathen.

[punterstanding]

This sounds like it could work.

So I go to supermarket and get the vouchers. Then I load those vouchers to a new Google Account with a new email.

How do I then pay for SA? When trying to get a membership, the only option I see is credit card.

It does! I think when you've loaded the vouchers, you can set Seeking to look for the payment method if you use Chrome logged into the same Google account

[jokaa]

Payments:

Revolut: create an account with your real name, address can be fake though. When you create a virtual card you can use any name during payment.

Cdkeys.com - you can buy google gift cards at a small discount, down side is you have to buy in blocks of £50,25 & 10

Alternative websites - sugardaddymeet is shit.. 50 messages sent out to online SBs. Not one view or reply.

Heathen, I have Revolut already.

If I go this method, think I can sign back up without any trade of my ties to the banned account? Different name, address etc. all ok?

[heathen666]

Heathen, I have Revolut already.

If I go this method, think I can sign back up without any trade of my ties to the banned account? Different name, address etc. all ok?

Different email address
Mirror your photos (to get around any image recognition)
Some use a VPN but be careful with payments as I've been banned from trying to get around VAT payments by using a US IP address
Join via a browser rather than the app
Might even be worth using some generic wording in your profile until it gets approved and then change it.

Can't think of anything else

[jokaa]

Different email address
Mirror your photos (to get around any image recognition)
Some use a VPN but be careful with payments as I've been banned from trying to get around VAT payments by using a US IP address
Join via a browser rather than the app
Might even be worth using some generic wording in your profile until it gets approved and then change it.

Can't think of anything else

Thanks brother, really appreciate the help. Will give this a try and report back.

[Joelawerence]

This sounds like it could work.

So I go to supermarket and get the vouchers. Then I load those vouchers to a new Google Account with a new email.

How do I then pay for SA? When trying to get a membership, the only option I see is credit card.

I actually tried creating an account through App as well, and my account got banned by linking my IP address I think. So before you buy the vouchers wouls advise you to create an Account and login through the app first. If it works for a Day or two then buy the vouchers.

[tazz]

Gone on sugardaddie.com but not paud a subscription lots of sa regulars on it. Anyone else signed up?

[tazz]

I don't think ive ever dabbled with any other similar sites as SA more or less has a Monopoly.
Only thing I'd say is, get your arse on tinder. Most of the SBs are on there and it's just a matter of piquing their interest without mentioning the obvious in your bio.

Seen lots on tinder advertising their insta account but not found any sbs in london. Have you?