seeking.com - Open Topic

[thatsaint]

Bear in mind that Seeking is not (or rather was not) an Escort site - it was an arrangement site whereas you did more with the ladies (dinner and/or social stuff) and not just "go to a hotel". I now say "was" as it has changed in the last few years. more guys just want to go straight to a hotel (ie just buy sex) and more ladies have come on to meet that demand (ie Escorts). In addition the number of ladies wanting a financial payment for a M&G or for "dinner first and we will see how it goes" (ie no real intent to take things further) has increased substantially. Maybe they see it as "easy money"

I too will not pay a girl for a M&G or dinner etc (obviously i pay for the dinner and drinks etc) but there are some guys that will. Don't let guys from here (which is afterall predominately a punters site not a SD/SB site) tell you how to spend your money - if you want to pay a gorgeous girl to take her to dinner then do so - all you have to do is be happy that you consider it money well spent . Each to their own and all that!

Thanks mate, I understand it's a different site and not a site to meet escorts. There seems to be a mix of people on there, some using it as an actual dating site, some to find escort dates and some to peddles pictures of themselves in exchange for gifts.
I've been asked to pay girls for pictures of them so far, which I can't fathom why people would do that, but as you say, each to their own!!

My punting I prefer TS to be honest, but seeking was just looking for 1 or 2 regular girls that could have an evening with. It's quite difficult to figure out, who's just wanting cash for nothing and who are genuine. I would not want to pay for a meet and great, as you can see a lot will just walk away after having a free meal and getting paid to eat it. Just wanted clarification from some of the experienced members here if that normal or exception!

[paul_tall_]

External Link/Members Only Martha, 25 , Latvia, London, Dubai, Hong Kong

from her profile

About Me
It seems Seeking has removed income and net worth from profiles. I seek real, successful person, so forth, I would ask to verify your net-worth, as I don't want to waste anyones time, especially mine.


 I don't live in London and if you are looking for easy access  to beautiful woman, - I wont be the one. Highest standards only

[updownandaround]

Another thing I find fairly fascinating are the girls who you meet once or twice, and despite appearing to really enjoy themselves, creaming over your cock etc, they put little effort into keeping you 'hooked'. The absolute best ones will have a bit of banter with you via text (I'm not talking 10's of messages per day here) etc between meetings. You'd think it would be far less effort to reply to literally 1 or 2 messages every other day from a guy you know and like (ok, can tolerate) than try and constantly hunt for new men including going on coffee M&G's etc. Mostly these girls are logging in most days to Seeking still.

I can understand ghosting etc if she doesn't like you, but putting such little effort in, yet still responding... eventually is a bit baffling! Most girls are on it immediately if there's a sniff of another meeting I find.

Admittedly this is rare, but it has happened a few times - maybe these girls prefer variety too!!

What an interesting observation! Here's my 2p on the subject. I think Seeking has turned into the ultimate P&D extension to AW. I caveat everything I say from my observations and therefore may seem like generalisation.

I think most legit girls that join Seeking are probably looking for a longer term "arrangement" where they are compensated by one or a small number of guys that are reliable. The reality that they find is somewhat different and end up with a series of guys that promise the earth but end up them only seeing once. I don't promise the earth but I find it very rare that I meet exceptional women from there in terms of looks or sex. That means that I see a girl once, the sex is mediocre and I rarely follow up. I can't be the only person to experience this and as a result the girls become disillusioned and leave the site. (The Tiktok reality doesn't match their real world experience in other words) The girls that remain are used to being pumped, dumped and ghosted so they know they need to keep grinding to keep the income.

I was also puzzled as to why some girls who seemingly had a fantastic time never seemed to follow up. But we have to remember these girls are getting banged on Seeking, Tinder/Hinge/Bumble, Instagram and wherever else they have a public presence so they don't need to chase. Even the most average girls are getting a huge amount of attention digitally so they are perpetually distracted. I tend to find the ones who do get hooked become obsessive which is another darker problem.

A gross generalisation but in my opinion most women are like cats, they go to whomever is giving them food and attention.

[Jumping Jack Flash]

What an interesting observation! Here's my 2p on the subject. I think Seeking has turned into the ultimate P&D extension to AW. I caveat everything I say from my observations and therefore may seem like generalisation.

I think most legit girls that join Seeking are probably looking for a longer term "arrangement" where they are compensated by one or a small number of guys that are reliable. The reality that they find is somewhat different and end up with a series of guys that promise the earth but end up them only seeing once. I don't promise the earth but I find it very rare that I meet exceptional women from there in terms of looks or sex. That means that I see a girl once, the sex is mediocre and I rarely follow up. I can't be the only person to experience this and as a result the girls become disillusioned and leave the site. (The Tiktok reality doesn't match their real world experience in other words) The girls that remain are used to being pumped, dumped and ghosted so they know they need to keep grinding to keep the income.

I was also puzzled as to why some girls who seemingly had a fantastic time never seemed to follow up. But we have to remember these girls are getting banged on Seeking, Tinder/Hinge/Bumble, Instagram and wherever else they have a public presence so they don't need to chase. Even the most average girls are getting a huge amount of attention digitally so they are perpetually distracted. I tend to find the ones who do get hooked become obsessive which is another darker problem.

A gross generalisation but in my opinion most women are like cats, they go to whomever is giving them food and attention.

I think that the same applies in reverse. There has been an increase of apparent SB’s who also have an AW profile. Some of them use us just as much as we use them.

There are still genuine girls on there but they are harder to find and I’m sure that the girls will say the same about a lack of genuine SD’s.

[Atrueyorkie]

I honestly detest when “SB’s” have a AW profile.

You’re telling me I can shag you for 60 and on seeking im paying you 200-300. Absurd and in my opinion deceitful depending on what the arrangement is I.e. exclusivity.

It is usually pretty easy to spot if they are a WG or Semi pro.

[updownandaround]

I honestly detest when “SB’s” have a AW profile.

You’re telling me I can shag you for 60 and on seeking im paying you 200-300. Absurd and in my opinion deceitful depending on what the arrangement is I.e. exclusivity.

It is usually pretty easy to spot if they are a WG or Semi pro.

I think there's an easier way to detect is they are semi-pro, their second message is usually: "What kind of arrangement are you looking for?" 😂

[Hobbit]

I think there's an easier way to detect is they are semi-pro, their second message is usually: "What kind of arrangement are you looking for?" 😂

Or "hi babe". 

[updownandaround]

Or "hi babe". 

Or the more low key way, "Tell me about how your last arrangement worked?", which translates to "How much are you prepared to pay for box?" 😂

The thing that makes me giggle is when they explain about why their last arrangement ended, the most common reasons are that he either moved away (to Dubai usually) or he wanted things to be too serious (she didn't want to become an unpaid girlfriend!)

[paul_tall_]

Debated whether to post about this . I was contacted last week from an “older” divorced lady don’t think you could call her an sb. Don’t get me wrong I have met older ladies in the past and am friendly with one that lives nearby and we occasionally do lunch , theatre nothing more as no connection like that.
Initially I thought this recent contact was going to be a fake money for travel type of conversation as she lives a good 2 hours away and she had said she is often in the area for work and looks to meet people when she is on business. I’m pretty sure she is genuine but we have absolutely nothing in common so won’t be meeting. What intrigued me slightly is she is not a recent member and was gushing about how good the site is and the connections she has made. From a guys point of view I know that I can’t say similar and my experience from the lady I am still friends with I know that when she was on the site guys treated her really badly and were quite rude , dismissive of her. I just don’t believe how positive this other woman’s experience has been unless she had got very lucky and it sounded like none of her encounters have been more than one or two meetings so is she just kidding herself that it’s working for her ?

[Atrueyorkie]

Debated whether to post about this . I was contacted last week from an “older” divorced lady don’t think you could call her an sb. Don’t get me wrong I have met older ladies in the past and am friendly with one that lives nearby and we occasionally do lunch , theatre nothing more as no connection like that.
Initially I thought this recent contact was going to be a fake money for travel type of conversation as she lives a good 2 hours away and she had said she is often in the area for work and looks to meet people when she is on business. I’m pretty sure she is genuine but we have absolutely nothing in common so won’t be meeting. What intrigued me slightly is she is not a recent member and was gushing about how good the site is and the connections she has made. From a guys point of view I know that I can’t say similar and my experience from the lady I am still friends with I know that when she was on the site guys treated her really badly and were quite rude , dismissive of her. I just don’t believe how positive this other woman’s experience has been unless she had got very lucky and it sounded like none of her encounters have been more than one or two meetings so is she just kidding herself that it’s working for her ?

She wouldn’t I don’t think be on the site if it didn’t work for her. Depending on the arrangements or allowance she could be setting herself up nicely for months and then come back when she needs to. It can be more difficult to secure an arrangement from a SB pov when you’re significantly older but if she’s been on the site that long it must be good enough for her return wise.

Personally I avoid profiles who have been on the site for 2 years or more, they’re more prone to being jaded and bordering if not already on the semi pro/wg side.

[southcoastpunter]

She wouldn’t I don’t think be on the site if it didn’t work for her.  It can be more difficult to secure an arrangement from a SB pov when you’re significantly older

Paul Tall - you didn't say how old she is - older /mature could be anything from 30's upwards to 50's and even there are 60's on the site! Some guys seem to prefer "older".

Personally I avoid profiles who have been on the site for 2 years or more, they’re more prone to being jaded and bordering if not already on the semi pro/wg side.

you can only go by the "member since" date i think ..... and someone could have been off the site, in an arrangement, working or traveling abroad or anything. And if they are a pro or semi pro SB, then we must be a pro SD.? I agree that if they also have a AW profile or similar then not for me but frankly i can't see why not for those guys that are basically just looking to buy sex!

[Atrueyorkie]

Paul Tall - you didn't say how old she is - older /mature could be anything from 30's upwards to 50's and even there are 60's on the site! Some guys seem to prefer "older".


you can only go by the "member since" date i think ..... and someone could have been off the site, in an arrangement, working or traveling abroad or anything. And if they are a pro or semi pro SB, then we must be a pro SD.? I agree that if they also have a AW profile or similar then not for me but frankly i can't see why not for those guys that are basically just looking to buy sex!

I agree that they can get round that part which just recreating a new profile, I’ve seen it happen many times. I’m a face person so i see someone who especially doesn’t interest rebrand/create a new profile I’ll just hide or block the profile.

I also agree the duration could be longer due to breaks, so if I do take an interest in a profile that’s been on there longer than two years one of my main questions is to ask if they have had an arrangement before and why it ended. I like to enquire that especially on older profiles so I know if I’m dealing with a seasoned semi pro/wg or if it’s just a case they just went away for a while and came back. That coupled with info on here along with circles allows me to make an informed decision whether or not it’s a semi pro/wg or just a girl who took a break.

For me it’s not solely about sex, of course it’s one the parts but I would need to understand their history, have they been round the block and can I see myself shagging them multiple times, if I lean towards a one off I would skip their profile.

For those that want to shag once, pump and dump you name it, they won’t care 

[paul_tall_]

Paul Tall - you didn't say how old she is - older /mature could be anything from 30's upwards to 50's and even there are 60's on the site! Some guys seem to prefer "older".

She is 55 plus so as not to give too many hints

re the older ladies this one External Link/Members Only Your Guilty Pleasure x is 80 and has been around for years and has featured in various articles in the press/tv

[paul_tall_]

if I do take an interest in a profile that’s been on there longer than two years one of my main questions is to ask if they have had an arrangement before and why it ended. I like to enquire that especially on older profiles so I know if I’m dealing with a seasoned semi pro/wg or if it’s just a case they just went away for a while and came back.

The stock answer for most women on the site re why arrangements ended seems to be he moved abroad for work or back home
Some ladies rather than being semi pro are just ones who have lived life as a mistress for many years and not wanted to settle, career women, or women that have travelled as PAs, nannies and got used to a lifestyle and are able to blend in in certain situations

[paul_tall_]

She wouldn’t I don’t think be on the site if it didn’t work for her. Depending on the arrangements or allowance she could be setting herself up nicely for months and then come back when she needs to. It can be more difficult to secure an arrangement from a SB pov when you’re significantly older but if she’s been on the site that long it must be good enough for her return wise.

It was more saying that the experience has been very positive and implying how genuine the site is, maybe she is just very good at judging people from first messages

[Wowgeek]

I’ve had a search and couldn’t find anything relevant but please excuse me if this has been mentioned before.

I logged in to SA recently, to be confronted by a video of Brandon telling me that I had been flagged for breaching the rules of the site. It didn’t say how, why or when but I then had to watch a two minute video and answer some multi guess questions before it allowed me back in. Being banned was suggested as the ultimate sanction.

Has anyone else had this?

I’ve been on the site, on and off, for quite some time and am fully aware of what can and can’t be said in the chat, I’ve had some good results and fedback to this august body from time to time. I can only assume that a disgruntled member reported me out of spite as I genuinely can’t think of what I could have done accidentally to incur the wrath of the SA Gods.

Anyway, let’s be careful out there.

[Jumping Jack Flash]

I’ve had a search and couldn’t find anything relevant but please excuse me if this has been mentioned before.

I logged in to SA recently, to be confronted by a video of Brandon telling me that I had been flagged for breaching the rules of the site. It didn’t say how, why or when but I then had to watch a two minute video and answer some multi guess questions before it allowed me back in. Being banned was suggested as the ultimate sanction.

Has anyone else had this?

I’ve been on the site, on and off, for quite some time and am fully aware of what can and can’t be said in the chat, I’ve had some good results and fedback to this august body from time to time. I can only assume that a disgruntled member reported me out of spite as I genuinely can’t think of what I could have done accidentally to incur the wrath of the SA Gods.

Anyway, let’s be careful out there.

This happened to me when I logged into my profile for the first time in six months. I took it that there algorithms had fucked up, I have a long term regular SB so my use of the site is sporadic at best. I haven’t chatted to anyone on there for over a year and occasionally log in out of idle curiosity.

These days I think that given SA’s puritanical approach then if you had broken any rules then they would have outright banned you anyway so I wouldn’t overthink the situation.

[massagepuntingfan]

Interesting to read the above posts. Been a member since 2018 and twice banned first for mentioning PPM regularly(2019) and the temp banned for asking if someone was looking for online only(2023).
On my last sub I typed in PPM(brain fade) and as I was about to send it the algorithm flashed up and said words like this are not allowed so I deleted and all was good in the world again.

[Neo]

Only time I got banned was when I was advertising my socials on my profile as I didn't have membership. Lesson learned

[updownandaround]

I’ve had a search and couldn’t find anything relevant but please excuse me if this has been mentioned before.

I logged in to SA recently, to be confronted by a video of Brandon telling me that I had been flagged for breaching the rules of the site. It didn’t say how, why or when but I then had to watch a two minute video and answer some multi guess questions before it allowed me back in. Being banned was suggested as the ultimate sanction.

Has anyone else had this?

I’ve been on the site, on and off, for quite some time and am fully aware of what can and can’t be said in the chat, I’ve had some good results and fedback to this august body from time to time. I can only assume that a disgruntled member reported me out of spite as I genuinely can’t think of what I could have done accidentally to incur the wrath of the SA Gods.

Anyway, let’s be careful out there.

I had a similar "education" video for apparently being "rude", it's like those videos that HR force you to watch once a year. I used to get into it with girls on Seeking when they had been rude to me or just obnoxious, now I just ignore them.

[PumpDump]

Only time I got banned was when I was advertising my socials on my profile as I didn't have membership. Lesson learned

I tried putting my mobile number on my profile pic. They didn't ban me, just deleted my photo!

[Natwest]

Something I discovered over the weekend by accident may be quite useful to those who get caught out by the "Auto Renewal" function. I quite often de activate my account if I have enough interest and want to slow things down. You can do this via "Settings" where it gives you the choice to deactivate or close your account.

If you follow the deactivate instructions just at the end it gives you multiple choices asking for the reason. This time for the first time, I ticked the box for "Don't like the auto renewal". Later that day I got an email to to say auto renewal had been turned off for my account and sure enough when I checked, it had been.

Deactivating your account means just that, you can log back on any time by just doing so as normal. It's actually an easier way to cancel auto renewal than the method as described in their FAQ's

[southcoastpunter]

This must be a fairly recent change as when about 2 years ago, i deactivated my account (as opposed to just not logged in for a while) i then found an auto renewal  payment request had failed because of insufficient funds in the account i keep solely for Seeking. When i questioned this with Seeking, they told me deactivation did not cancel the auto renewal - this had to be done separately. I remember quite clearly arguing with them "who would want to pay when they have deactivated their account".
 
So maybe be careful about this. It is actually quite easy to cancel the auto renewal, i would now always do that first to be sure!.

[Natwest]

This must be a fairly recent change as when about 2 years ago, i deactivated my account (as opposed to just not logged in for a while) i then found an auto renewal  payment request had failed because of insufficient funds in the account i keep solely for Seeking. When i questioned this with Seeking, they told me deactivation did not cancel the auto renewal - this had to be done separately. I remember quite clearly arguing with them "who would want to pay when they have deactivated their account".
 
So maybe be careful about this. It is actually quite easy to cancel the auto renewal, i would now always do that first to be sure!.

Just to be clear, when you deactivate your account, you specifically have to tick the box that says the reason being you don't like the auto renewal. I went back in to check in Membership and Billing and it shows now as auto renewal cancelled.

[stanr]

Just to be clear, when you deactivate your account, you specifically have to tick the box that says the reason being you don't like the auto renewal. I went back in to check in Membership and Billing and it shows now as auto renewal cancelled.

I have just deactivated my account again and i ticked the box about the membership being too expensive......I always tick that box in the hope they give me free membership but guess what? It hasn't happened as yet.... although i do always get the standard '20% off if i renew now' offer, but i assume everyone gets that offer.

[Natwest]

I have just deactivated my account again and i ticked the box about the membership being too expensive......I always tick that box in the hope they give me free membership but guess what? It hasn't happened as yet.... although i do always get the standard '20% off if i renew now' offer, but i assume everyone gets that offer.

Yes if you leave a long enough gap between deactivations you do get the 20% offer each time. I'm thinking of choosing "taking a break" next to see if they send me a Kit Kat 

[Chris1990mcr]

Is there any codes?
I've just joined back up but not paid yet. I've built a favourite list now time to capitalise.

[finn5555]

Is there any codes?
I've just joined back up but not paid yet. I've built a favourite list now time to capitalise.

No

[southcoastpunter]

was lookinng at my messages inbox and looking back at a few older ones (a couple of weeks or so) and saw a few of the "bocked or account deactivated signs against a few ladies - there was one i was hopeful of getting a further reply from (we have exchanged a few early messages) and there was the dreaded sign. I clicked in wonder if i had been blocked or whether the account had been deactivated to find the following message:
- "due to the gender preference of the member you are attempting to communicate with, you are unable to send this member a message"

In about 6 years of using Seeking, i have never seen that before. anyone else had that? i am assuming its a new feature for the ladies and/or perhaps she thought "well if he is typical of the guys on here, i'll go lesbian"!!

[paul_tall_]

was lookinng at my messages inbox and looking back at a few older ones (a couple of weeks or so) and saw a few of the "bocked or account deactivated signs against a few ladies - there was one i was hopeful of getting a further reply from (we have exchanged a few early messages) and there was the dreaded sign. I clicked in wonder if i had been blocked or whether the account had been deactivated to find the following message:
- "due to the gender preference of the member you are attempting to communicate with, you are unable to send this member a message"

In about 6 years of using Seeking, i have never seen that before. anyone else had that? i am assuming its a new feature for the ladies and/or perhaps she thought "well if he is typical of the guys on here, i'll go lesbian"!!

If you look to edit your profile there is a who are you interested in drop down , maybe they changed that

[Jindybandy]

So having felt frustrated by lack of decent options around Leeds for punts (almost lucked out with the “Harvey twins” Leona and Viola today but they were only here one day and I couldn’t get a booking  ) thought would sub back up on Seeking to check over some of the unread messages on there.

Found a link to discount code - as we know, no place to input the code on the subs page but found if you put this url in with the code it works. At least it has for me today (19th Sept);

External Link/Members Only

Think it only works if you’re not already subbed and I did it on the mobile site. Tried replacing code with “VM033COM” which I’d also found but that didn’t work.

Still….got £20 off….mostly just to read old unread messages that just say “hey” 

Hidden Image/Members Only

[Jumping Jack Flash]

£96 after a discount…….oh for the days when it was £40!

[bob_mm]

Thank you everyone for the insightful discussions around the usage of Seeking. I am punting much less often now and want to try out being a sugar daddy for a change. I have registered a Seeking account and I feel like I have a more clear understanding of what to expect and how to act in different situations. A comment above stated that Seeking is turning more into a classical dating site. Why is this? I want to make sure I am entering sugar arrangements as otherwise I would use all the classical dating apps available.

I was also reading about SecretBenefits but that was discussed extensively in a thread and is a scam, so I assume the main resource for this hobby is Seeking? Apart from the fact that there seem to be female users with different intentions, what things make the platform unusable? I saw in the SB thread that upon registration one receives a lot of bot messages, and I have noticed that quite a few messages accumulated for myself as well (haven't paid yet). Is this also bots?

Cheers everyone.

[Jumping Jack Flash]

Thank you everyone for the insightful discussions around the usage of Seeking. I am punting much less often now and want to try out being a sugar daddy for a change. I have registered a Seeking account and I feel like I have a more clear understanding of what to expect and how to act in different situations. A comment above stated that Seeking is turning more into a classical dating site. Why is this? I want to make sure I am entering sugar arrangements as otherwise I would use all the classical dating apps available.

I was also reading about SecretBenefits but that was discussed extensively in a thread and is a scam, so I assume the main resource for this hobby is Seeking? Apart from the fact that there seem to be female users with different intentions, what things make the platform unusable? I saw in the SB thread that upon registration one receives a lot of bot messages, and I have noticed that quite a few messages accumulated for myself as well (haven't paid yet). Is this also bots?

Cheers everyone.

Seeking took a business decision to move away from the traditional SD/SB format towards a more conventional dating site. Personally I don’t think that it’s changed all that much, it’s still as it’s always been, a mixture of scammers, picture sellers, fantasists, escorts and genuine sugar babies.

We all get bot messages, you will very quickly learn to see through them.

Good luck on your journey, it can be great fun!

[paul_tall_]

Decided on another months membership, mainly because someone i had met before once a couple of years back ! messaged me
Anyhow, just the same old messages I have found.
However anyone been scammed by someone wanting tickets booked through trainline or if its a scam how does it work?
It was the usual message girl based 300 odd miles away wanting to meet, not asked for any details about me , available anytime £200 but needing me to pay travel money and was fully expecting a paypal or bank transfer and she said can you book the tickets for me on trainline app and sent a photo of her rail card ?

[southcoastpunter]

Seeking took a business decision to move away from the traditional SD/SB format towards a more conventional dating site. Personally I don’t think that it’s changed all that much, it’s still as it’s always been, a mixture of scammers, picture sellers, fantasists, escorts and genuine sugar babies.

i have to disagree with that - i think proportions of the mix has changed. There are more scammers, pic sellers and girls just wanting money for platonic dates etc than in the past. yes there are a few gems out there but they are even rarer than ever!

in the south and east of the (UKP) SW region its mainly the same old faces as a few years ago and here on UKP there is almost no activity - so either not much is happening or no one is commenting about it.   

However anyone been scammed by someone wanting tickets booked through trainline or if its a scam how does it work?
It was the usual message girl based 300 odd miles away wanting to meet,

i don't know either - other than they get a free ticket - which if say you are in Brighton and they are in Newcastle, and they reasonably have to come via London, they get a free ticket to London.

[marmalade17]

I was also reading about SecretBenefits but that was discussed extensively in a thread and is a scam,

I use Secret Benefits because you pay for credits that don't expire rather than monthly payments with seeking.   They do seem to recycle dormant profiles by marking them as online and that was confirmed by an SB I met on there who I chatted with for a long time as a friend after she stopped sugar dating and was still showing as online every month or so.

Also the "Newest" tab seems to be truthful so it's worth investing time/tokens to contact people on there.

The test for a genuine person is to see if you get a response from them if you favourite their profile, request access to their private pics and grant access to your own private pics.  If they grant access or show up on the list of people who have viewed your profile then you know they are genuine and open to chatting with someone with your profile (I suspect age is the biggest determinant for that)

I should add that I never actually open the private gallery because that burns up credits, I only use the request system for proof of life! Also pics in PM use credits but pics on whatsapp are free   

[paul_tall_]

i don't know either - other than they get a free ticket - which if say you are in Brighton and they are in Newcastle, and they reasonably have to come via London, they get a free ticket to London.

I did wonder that and in this case sort of makes sense as they were keen to meet the this afternoon which falls under the category of wanting to meet straight away. The other thing I wondered was whether they would look to sell the ticket on to someone else that would risk the train line of not checking the rail card matched the person and the risk would be on the person that bought the ticket (me) defrauding the train company.
I've had another one also who had their profile set as Birmingham , only joined a week ago and was keen to meet and get as she put it me booked in to her diary. She was asking for £1k monthly allowance unlimited meetings , but £500 straight away to book me in and needed the money upfront. When i mentioned i was not looking to travel to Birmingham for an arrangement and certainly not pay any money upfront her retort was too many timewasters and she was currently in London not Birmingham and has now updated her profile to London. She also came out and said if I couldn't afford £500 upfront then what could I pay now to secure a meeting.

[stanr]

i have to disagree with that - i think proportions of the mix has changed. There are more scammers, pic sellers and girls just wanting money for platonic dates etc than in the past. yes there are a few gems out there but they are even rarer than ever!

i am in the NW and i have found that as well... so didnt renew my membership this time.

Based on what someone posted on a thread a bit back, i decided to take a punt on SDM for £48 per month.

The number of girls in NW is much much lower than SA but i have had some good chats and had three real meets in the first two weeks (2 x £150 intimate meets and one free social)... SDM doesn't occupy your time with fruitless meaningless chats like SA does due to the volume being much lower, but there are some genuine people on here

Just my input

[paul_tall_]

i am in the NW and i have found that as well... so didnt renew my membership this time.

Based on what someone posted on a thread a bit back, i decided to take a punt on SDM for £48 per month.

The number of girls in NW is much much lower than SA but i have had some good chats and had three real meets in the first two weeks (2 x £150 intimate meets and one free social)... SDM doesn't occupy your time with fruitless meaningless chats like SA does due to the volume being much lower, but there are some genuine people on here

Just my input

The girls you met are they on seeking ? When you say North West how big an area are you looking ?
I have had a look on sdm recently (old profile) and had to face verify to just search . Without paying search seems limited , is the search below region more varied ? I sort of recognised numerous profiles from seeking on there. Does the site give better information once you pay of when the girls have last been on the site ?

[stanr]

The girls you met are they on seeking ? When you say North West how big an area are you looking ?
I have had a look on sdm recently (old profile) and had to face verify to just search . Without paying search seems limited , is the search below region more varied ? I sort of recognised numerous profiles from seeking on there. Does the site give better information once you pay of when the girls have last been on the site ?

The girls i met were from SDM

NW is Cheshire, Manchester and Lancashire

SDM site functionality isnt as good or as detailed as SA..... but you can see photos and keep pics in private...and there is no silly restrictions on what you can say in conversations so you can talk ppm, allowances etc etc without having to transfer the chat to Whats App

[deg_dilemma]

Has Seeking just now changed to force everyone to Age Verify?

I was using it a few days ago and it was allowing me to log in as normal.  I'm not a paid-member and never have it, but have had an account for years.

Tried logging in today and it's not allowing me to do anything unless I verify with a selfie!

[bob_mm]

Seeking took a business decision to move away from the traditional SD/SB format towards a more conventional dating site. Personally I don’t think that it’s changed all that much, it’s still as it’s always been, a mixture of scammers, picture sellers, fantasists, escorts and genuine sugar babies.

Having limited luck for now. Majority want me to buy some of their content and then go on a date, which I assume is a way for them to monetise me and then leave me without a meeting. Annoying that I can't seem to filter profiles. Also got messages from girls offering escort services... One lady was kind enough to answer my question on why girls are leaving me on read. She says that because of the subscription model of Seeking, men can send as many messages as they want to women and thus women end up not looking through all profiles, or looking through all of them but not bothering to answer bad profiles. Wouldn't a credit system in the way SB has it fix this issue? Although I guess with a credit system comes the incentive of the platform to pester men with fake profiles... I haven't yet received messages from ladies looking to date me conventionally, I can tell you that for a fact.

 

[bob_mm]

The test for a genuine person is to see if you get a response from them if you favourite their profile, request access to their private pics and grant access to your own private pics.  If they grant access or show up on the list of people who have viewed your profile then you know they are genuine and open to chatting with someone with your profile (I suspect age is the biggest determinant for that)

I should add that I never actually open the private gallery because that burns up credits, I only use the request system for proof of life! Also pics in PM use credits but pics on whatsapp are free   

Interesting lifehacks which I will attempt to use if I try SB. Do you use Seeking as well, or do you find that SB is more free with regards to chatting about arrangements etc?

 

[Jumping Jack Flash]

Has Seeking just now changed to force everyone to Age Verify?

I was using it a few days ago and it was allowing me to log in as normal.  I'm not a paid-member and never have it, but have had an account for years.

Tried logging in today and it's not allowing me to do anything unless I verify with a selfie!

You can just close the selfie verification message.

[paul_tall_]

I haven't yet received messages from ladies looking to date me conventionally, I can tell you that for a fact.

There were at least two  profiles in the South that appeared maybe 2 years ago that were looking for dating. One mentioned she was shocked about allowance .
Time certainly goes quickly but before the site was marketed heavily at uni students , circa 2018 it was more people looking for nights/days out, shopping trips etc with no commitment , even the students when they first appeared were looking for allowances, etc to help them through college and not really looking to meet. There have been a few messaging/profile trends ie at one point many profiles seemed to mention they were sapiosexual, and then there were emo girls selling photos etc 

[bob_mm]

Time certainly goes quickly but before the site was marketed heavily at uni students , circa 2018 it was more people looking for nights/days out, shopping trips etc with no commitment , even the students when they first appeared were looking for allowances, etc to help them through college and not really looking to meet.

What is the usual social profile of a woman signing up to Seeking? Would you say that the average age of girls on Seeking is 25? I've definitely seen students, and I assume that younger is preferred to older when it comes to women(moreso because of the body rather than anything else), but I am interested what is currently the target audience of Seeking when it comes to women? I am looking for women on the younger side but definitely something above 20...

Any thoughts?
 
 

[paul_tall_]

What is the usual social profile of a woman signing up to Seeking? Would you say that the average age of girls on Seeking is 25? I've definitely seen students, and I assume that younger is preferred to older when it comes to women(moreso because of the body rather than anything else), but I am interested what is currently the target audience of Seeking when it comes to women? I am looking for women on the younger side but definitely something above 20...

Any thoughts?
 
 

If you are looking in London it might be different to outside
What you could do is search based on age range and look at say 18-25 and then 26 to 99 or something and maybe order by newest and page through checking the odd profile and their sign up date

[deg_dilemma]

You can just close the selfie verification message.

I can't - there's no check box or any other way to close it. Bearing in mind this is on my PC and not a mobile device.

[marmalade17]

Interesting lifehacks which I will attempt to use if I try SB. Do you use Seeking as well, or do you find that SB is more free with regards to chatting about arrangements etc?

I can't compare with seeking because I don't use it.  The seeking pricing doesn't work for me because I'm tend to be selective and chat/meet with one person for a while.  The SB model is much better because I buy the middle tier credits which better value and lasts me about 9 months to a year.

Generally once you have proof of life (ie a response) then they usually progress to a genuine conversation.

What is the usual social profile of a woman signing up to Seeking? Would you say that the average age of girls on Seeking is 25? I've definitely seen students, and I assume that younger is preferred to older when it comes to women(moreso because of the body rather than anything else), but I am interested what is currently the target audience of Seeking when it comes to women? I am looking for women on the younger side but definitely something above 20...

Depends on what you are looking for.  The number of profiles do seem to drop off once you get to 28/30 ish and older.  The younger profiles are generally have a lot more make up and more pics dressed up for a night out.  They're more explicit about wanting a night out and looking for "fun".   Yes it can boost your ego to chat with a 10/10 young woman on full flirt mode but it'll rarely last more than a few days before you have to arrange a meet or get cut off. 

I'm over 50 so tend to prefer aged 35+ and profiles with a more normal range of pics.  There are a lot fewer but they last a lot longer when you find one that works for you. ... having said that I do occasionally reach out to a younger profile to get that ego boost of chatting with a very attractive woman who is in full flirt mode with me on Whatsapp incl pics.