Just wanted a quick opinion from you guys about this situation!
Saw a WG a few months ago (none of my reviews). Had a good time, she insisted I take her personal number and see her again (usual sales tactic I thought). I told her only time I would see her again would be when we can spend more time together getting to know each other properly, ie 1 hour etc is not enough. (I prefer to experience different WG's when I punt, not the same ones, so would rather spend my punting money elsewhere, but I liked her enough to want to get to know her properly, but not paying)
A month later she messages me, and we arrange to go out for drinks. Have a good time, but when get back to hers she doesn't invite me in as she has to be up early. Nice excuse I thought, so ignore her for a bit.
Later contacts me again and asks if I want to stay the night at hers. I had to arrange a different day as I was busy that night. I went there and she's on her period, we cuddle etc but no action. I can see her mind is elsewhere and she tells me about a few things that are making her unhappy at the moment.
I gave her the benefit of the doubt, and we arrange for me to stay over again the following weekend. This time she is really really bad, crying to me whilst we are in bed, as she has a few things going on making her unhappy, even telling me she thought about ending her life a few times!! Off course I comfort her and want to help her, but at the same time Im thinking.... always seems to be another excuse as to why we can't get intimate.
The next day I asked her about this, that I know she is still 'working' so seeing other people, but doesn't want to with me? She says that she doesn't like being a WG and is planning on stopping soon (she has a new job she will start in a couple of months), doesn't do it often, but until then she needs the money. And the reason for the night before was that she was not in the right frame of mind as she's very unhappy about a few things, and that there is no need to rush, to let everything happen naturally.
My instinct is telling me she needs someone to help her through this tough time in her life, and she knows im a naturally helping and caring person. But at the same time I can't help her if she doesn't want to help herself. Also I do NOT want to be 'that guy' that she can cuddle with but nothing else, while she sees other people for the real deal.
Im thinking to just tell her that I can't be the person she wants, while she is still a WG. Maybe when she does decide to finish with it and move forward with her life, to give me a call, but until then goodbye. Good idea?
Ps. Before anyone says it. No I have not bought her anything / gave her money / think she's the 'one'.
I have had my fair share of life experiences with women and could quite happily delete her from my life and move on and be happy. But I actually care about her, as well as worry about her, but off course also want to give her my ALL
... not just the parts she wants..
