I remember on one of my first punts when I was quite young, I had a condom break without noticing. I also was paranoid as fuck at the time, convinced myself I had HIV as well.
Obviously, you grow up and learn and when similar things happen now, I don't have the same reaction. Hopefully this statistic will put your mind at rest a bit..
"Risk to a male having sex with an HIV-positive female
In the combined analysis for high-income countries, the risk for a man who has unprotected vaginal intercourse with an HIV-positive woman who is chronically infected and not on antiretroviral treatment (ART) is estimated to be 0.04% per sexual act. In other words, an average of one transmission is expected to occur for every 2500 instances of exposure. Combined data from studies in low-income countries indicate a much higher risk level, 0.38%: here, an average of one transmission is expected to occur for every 263 instances of exposure.2"
External Link/Members OnlyYou had sex with a condom and even oral with a condom, and you're worrying about HIV?? given the above statistics are for barebacking with an HIV infected partner, imagine your odds....