I've read OP's post very carefully, a number of times, and I don't think he is just moaning about getting a rushed service. I think there is something more going on with him, but I'm not sure what. He uses the word "vibe" twice and speculates about taking the lead. I'm guessing, that he may be a very laid back bloke (perhaps a bit of an old hippy) and ends up annoying the SP by just laying there for a bit too long, expecting things to happen! But, of course the SP just wants to get on with the service. OP mentions "agreed intimacy" ...but SPs don't think along those ines. I can picture him laying there, expecting nature to take its course, and saying: "No rush, babe, we've got an hour"... while not communicating what services he would like. The SPs are clearly getting fed-up with him.