Basking in the Afterglow - All Part of a GFE?

[Bat]

Since starting on my punting journey, almost all of my punts have been GFE. Something I’ve come to realise is that an integral part of this for me is the ‘afterglow experience’.

Settling down on a bed with a sexy naked woman next to me, gently stroking each other, some LFK (several glances at her breasts), and chatting about all sorts of things.

For this to work really well I’ve generally found that one hour bookings work well for me.

I am a one pop guy and I’ve become quite adept at keeping things moving along to completion at about 45 mins, leaving 15 mins to ‘bask’ alongside the SP.

My last 3 punts have been exactly like this and it’s one of my favourite parts of the whole experience. In fact on each of these, I’ve been able to stay longer than 15 mins because the girls were relaxed enough to let me stay on and talk / cuddle.

These are was about the closest I’ve come to what feels to me to be a true GFE. No pressure to ‘perform’, no rush to get out the door and being able to warm down afterwards. To a degree, I made a very conscious decision to make this happen on my most recent visit. I was originally going to stay 45 mins but thought I’d pay the extra £20 for 15 mins more post-sex. It was, for me, just perfect. Actually one of the nicest GFE times I’ve ever had!

I realise that, over time, this habit is going to cost me more money but it definitely feels worth it to me.

So, my question is: do many other people like to experience this and/or, is it important to them? I see lots of reviews where people seem to be out the door very quickly post orgasm. I’m obviously not critical of this (and have done it myself in the past), just interested to see what people think

[Stevelondon]

I would imagine it’s all about how we as punters view …….. punting.
As we all have different criteria’s as to what’s enjoyable. You’re going to end up with a varied response.

My tastes are always changing from one week to the next. Massage one punt then a fetish bit of play the next. I’ve even tried voyeurism as well as gfe.

But yes I’ve had an hour or two’s punt, where the finish has just been a cuddle session of sorts (obviously after the sex has drained me of course)
Nowt wrong with it mate. But as I say. There will be folk who view their punting hobby with a lot more detachment than myself.

[newhere456]

If the chemistry is right then yes, this can be a relaxing end to a very nice time.  And I don't know why it makes such a difference, guess it's just more like "real life" when you actually get into the bed (under the covers).  One of my regulars used to do that, I'd find her under the covers after I had my shower and she'd gesture me to get in alongside her and cuddle until my time was up.

On the other hand, there are other occasions when I don't really want to hang around - sometimes not because of the girl, but because of my alibi.

I go to Tijuana regularily, I tend to book all-nighter's for the same reason but usually let them leave before falling asleep - don't want to wake up handcuffed to the bed and the girls ran off with my uniform. 

[shyleo]

I am with you with this Bat.
Normally go for an hour appointment and find the SP is hell bound on getting you to cum early and so shorten the stay.

[Bat]

If the chemistry is right then yes, this can be a relaxing end to a very nice time.  And I don't know why it makes such a difference, guess it's just more like "real life" when you actually get into the bed (under the covers).  One of my regulars used to do that, I'd find her under the covers after I had my shower and she'd gesture me to get in alongside her and cuddle until my time was up.

On the other hand, there are other occasions when I don't really want to hang around - sometimes not because of the girl, but because of my alibi.

I go to Tijuana regularily, I tend to book all-nighter's for the same reason but usually let them leave before falling asleep - don't want to wake up handcuffed to the bed and the girls ran off with my uniform.

I've had an 'under the covers' moment, originally because it was a bit chilly  . It turned into a particularly nice time and ended up involving quite a lot of DFK and opening a bottle of wine   

The "handcuffed" thought made me genuinely 

[Bat]

I would imagine it’s all about how we as punters view …….. punting.
As we all have different criteria’s as to what’s enjoyable. You’re going to end up with a varied response.

My tastes are always changing from one week to the next. Massage one punt then a fetish bit of play the next. I’ve even tried voyeurism as well as gfe.

But yes I’ve had an hour or two’s punt, where the finish has just been a cuddle session of sorts (obviously after the sex has drained me of course)
Nowt wrong with it mate. But as I say. There will be folk who view their punting hobby with a lot more detachment than myself.

I'm still pretty new to all of this, first meeting was mid January and I'm up to 18 sessions only (10 SPs), so I'm learning all the time about my emotions and desires. I'm sure I will keep experimenting whilst I can afford it and am able to organise times to get out.

I'd say 6 of the meetings were more detached than the others & I enjoyed all of them except 1, so I'm not ruling out this side of the game completely 

[Bat]

I am with you with this Bat.
Normally go for an hour appointment and find the SP is hell bound on getting you to cum early and so shorten the stay.

As per quote above, I'm pretty new to this but I've been lucky that there haven't been any rushing experiences so far. I can imagine it's very frustrating though.

[petermisc]

To me, the woman dashing off to the bathroom as soon as I have come almost ruins the experience.  It is a sure indicator that she hasn't enjoyed it.  Yes, we know all those sounds she makes during the sex are faked, but it is part of the make believe that is instantly destroyed if she promptly does a runner.  Even worse is if she spends ages making pukking sounds in the bathroom, like some Chinese seem to specialise in.

Both of you cuddling up together and relaxing to wind down, before you shower and leave.

Don't understand the previous poster who said he goes for a shower before returning for the cuddle.  Is this some kind of subconscious "sex is dirty" thing that you need to have a shower immediately after?  Then you get back into bed nice and clean, and cuddle up to a sweaty girl?  (Sorry, I know girls don't sweat!)

[LLPunting]

GFE is still a paid for service, beware the emotional component of "afterglow" doesn't turn into EAS.

It's one thing if a girl specifically tells you it's okay to stay longer, it's a whole other thing to go in intending to draw out proceedings because you're only chatting and cuddling for 25% of your paid session. 
It doesn't matter if she doesn't seem concerned but doesn't say anything, respect that she is vulnerable to all sorts who push boundaries, may be coerced and otherwise intimidated by confrontation.  There is also the matter of making her late for the next client booked by her maid/agent and advised whilst your session was underway.

If you intend to spend longer then pay for it or at least offer to.

[akauya]

I'm still pretty new to all of this, first meeting was mid January and I'm up to 18 sessions only (10 SPs), so I'm learning all the time about my emotions and desires. I'm sure I will keep experimenting whilst I can afford it and am able to organise times to get out.

I'd say 6 of the meetings were more detached than the others & I enjoyed all of them except 1, so I'm not ruling out this side of the game completely 

Sounds like you're having fun, so good on you. Since you're new to punting just a bit of advice with "basking in the afterglow" and enjoying the GFE experience. Be careful you don't inadvertently divert from GFE/afterglow feelings into EAS (emotional attachment syndrome).

Have a good read on EAS here https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=16474.0

 

[ddddrrrrrr]

Yeah, I enjoy it. I'm a two popper, so will usually do the cuddling and chatting in the middle of the punt. But if there's time left over, or I don't have round two in me, I'll "bask" until a shower is suggested or we reach the hour.

[Jonestown]

If OP has had 18 punts with 10 girls I’d have thought that EAS was not a significant risk, unless of course it was one punt each with nine girls and nine punts with one other girl.

[Bat]

GFE is still a paid for service, beware the emotional component of "afterglow" doesn't turn into EAS.

It's one thing if a girl specifically tells you it's okay to stay longer, it's a whole other thing to go in intending to draw out proceedings because you're only chatting and cuddling for 25% of your paid session. 
It doesn't matter if she doesn't seem concerned but doesn't say anything, respect that she is vulnerable to all sorts who push boundaries, may be coerced and otherwise intimidated by confrontation.  There is also the matter of making her late for the next client booked by her maid/agent and advised whilst your session was underway.

If you intend to spend longer then pay for it or at least offer to.

I’m almost always the clock watcher and regularly suggest my time is up & I need to go. I absolutely understand that it’s a working relationship and, because I tend to punt earlier in the day, that there may be other clients arriving after me

The only time there’s ever been an issue is when both of us got carried away and lost track of time and when I said I should get moving, she discovered her next client was only 15 minutes away. We had been together for well over 2 hours but it felt like so much less and things were in a bit of a blur.

Quickest I’ve ever got dressed in a long time 

[Bat]

Sounds like you're having fun, so good on you. Since you're new to punting just a bit of advice with "basking in the afterglow" and enjoying the GFE experience. Be careful you don't inadvertently divert from GFE/afterglow feelings into EAS (emotional attachment syndrome).

Have a good read on EAS here https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=16474.0

 

Thanks for the link, a fascinating, and at times emotional, read.

I am a naturally fluffy and emotional person and have been trying to be careful about becoming too attached to anyone. I will readily admit that I’ve had ‘moments’ but have moved past them fairly quickly.

There is one person who’s quite special but we both know, for wildly different reasons, that our relationship would never be permanent and that a key binding factor is a paid sexual relationship.

[Bat]

If OP has had 18 punts with 10 girls I’d have thought that EAS was not a significant risk, unless of course it was one punt each with nine girls and nine punts with one other girl.

I think the current tally is:
6 times with 1 girl
3 with 1
2 with another (massage)

The rest with 1 each (although there’s a re-booking already confirmed with 1)

The SP with 6 is a full time WG and there’s no EAS concerns here. Sex is always good, for me anyway, we usually have a laugh and always a cuddle at the end. There is always someone coming, quite literally, after me though.

[akauya]

GFE is still a paid for service, beware the emotional component of "afterglow" doesn't turn into EAS.

It's one thing if a girl specifically tells you it's okay to stay longer, it's a whole other thing to go in intending to draw out proceedings because you're only chatting and cuddling for 25% of your paid session. 
It doesn't matter if she doesn't seem concerned but doesn't say anything, respect that she is vulnerable to all sorts who push boundaries, may be coerced and otherwise intimidated by confrontation.  There is also the matter of making her late for the next client booked by her maid/agent and advised whilst your session was underway.

If you intend to spend longer then pay for it or at least offer to.

Oh. I hadn't seen your reply when I was typing mine.

Great minds etc. 

[Bat]

Yeah, I enjoy it. I'm a two popper, so will usually do the cuddling and chatting in the middle of the punt. But if there's time left over, or I don't have round two in me, I'll "bask" until a shower is suggested or we reach the hour.

For the first time at my most recent punt I didn’t really lose my erection after the pop and I have a feeling I could have moved on to a second round. To be honest, I was a bit conflicted as this particular SP has had a bloody good attempt and getting me hard again in the past but I never quite managed to go far enough.

Could have been that the post pop basking was so relaxed that any kind of pressure to ‘get it up again’ had passed and it just decided to show me it could stay hard all by itself 

Knowing my luck I’ll decide to chance my luck next time around and fail completely again!

[myothernameis]

Im the same, one pop and that's about me done, and kind of lose attention and sometimes just get dressed and head off

I generally book the girl for 1 hour, and have an idea on how I want to spend my time, so might start of with some dfk, then I move on to some extended toy play, which takes up most of the time.  When the girl has had a few orgasms, I will give her a massage, before moving on to fucking her, usually with her on top, and we can dfk.

If there still time left, will ask the girl to give me a massage, and then time is up

[pythondan]

I agree that it is nice to relax and cuddle with a girl after a good session but, for me, that is something that happens with regulars rather than on first time meets. I tend to become very relaxed and sleepy after cuming so, if money were no object, I would probably book a girl for three hours and have fun for 90 minutes then a cuddle/snooze for an hour then have the girl wake me up with a bacon sandwich and mug of tea before I slink off.

[haltron1991]

A good cuddle, a nice chat, and a good bit of DFK is exactly what I need for a round two. I prefer to book for an hour and it would be very disappointing to be hurried out the door without an attempt at round 2.

Short bookings definitely have their place but I prefer a longer time.

[Bat]

If money were no object, I would probably book a girl for three hours and have fun for 90 minutes then a cuddle/snooze for an hour then have the girl wake me up with a bacon sandwich and mug of tea before I slink off.

Brilliant, I love it!

Maybe getting her to gently tickle your balls to wake you up as well?

[Stevelondon]

I agree that it is nice to relax and cuddle with a girl after a good session but, for me, that is something that happens with regulars rather than on first time meets. I tend to become very relaxed and sleepy after cuming so, if money were no object, I would probably book a girl for three hours and have fun for 90 minutes then a cuddle/snooze for an hour then have the girl wake me up with a bacon sandwich and mug of tea before I slink off.

Yonks ago I had a Dom session with a mistress down on the south coast. Long since retired.
After the sesh she ran me a bath and I relaxed sipping a single malt.
I kid you not.

We were both members of a fetish forum then and she ordered me not to divulge that.
“I don’t want just anyone thinking I’m doing that for them” she laughed.

[Bat]

Yonks ago I had a Dom session with a mistress down on the south coast. Long since retired.
After the sesh she ran me a bath and I relaxed sipping a single malt.
I kid you not.

We were both members of a fetish forum then and she ordered me not to divulge that.
“I don’t want just anyone thinking I’m doing that for them” she laughed.

Lovely, did she join you in the bath?

[myothernameis]

We were both members of a fetish forum then and she ordered me not to divulge that.

What would happen, if you had divulged this, would you get a right good spanking 

[signy]

Yonks ago I had a Dom session with a mistress down on the south coast. Long since retired.
After the sesh she ran me a bath and I relaxed sipping a single malt.

I am not usually on the dom side of a meet, but I do know that part of playing that role properly is post-action care of your sub. You seem to have got a particularly fine experience, but at least a cuddle and telling the sub that they were all good is a bare minimum, especially if it was a heavy session, almost like a bit of GFE at the end.

[JonasG]

Quite a few times WGs have initiated this over the years and I don't like it. Get a bit bored quite frankly lol. (Even with regulars)

Usually then just get up and start getting changed.

[cunningman]

So, my question is: do many other people like to experience this and/or, is it important to them?

With an AW meet?  No.  With an sb I'm (far too) fond of - absolutely yes.
Chilling and cuddles. Not even snogging, just holding.  Magical.

[Stevelondon]

Lovely, did she join you in the bath?

😂.     Wasn’t big enough

[Stevelondon]

I am not usually on the dom side of a meet, but I do know that part of playing that role properly is post-action care of your sub. You seem to have got a particularly fine experience, but at least a cuddle and telling the sub that they were all good is a bare minimum, especially if it was a heavy session, almost like a bit of GFE at the end.

Nail on the head.
I think real doms understand that very well.

[Stevelondon]

What would happen, if you had divulged this, would you get a right good spanking 

😂.  Heaven forbid. My kind of BDSM play was always of the lighter variety. Mention anything related to pain and I was off. 😂

[pantywetter]

A nice slow GFE is the only style of punting that works for me.

A wham-bham or PSE experience doesn’t excite me at all.  I would rather go to the dentist than have a punt without DFK. 

I do think it’s partly the closeness and connection I like as well as the sex, but I don’t want to sound too fluffy.

I book one hour or 90 minute punts and usually cum twice.

[petermisc]

I’m almost always the clock watcher and regularly suggest my time is up & I need to go. I absolutely understand that it’s a working relationship and, because I tend to punt earlier in the day, that there may be other clients arriving after me

One WG I used to see had got badly scratched by a client's watch, and so always insisted her clients removed their watches.  I therefore always remove my watch before getting intimate (stuff it in my trouser pocket so I don't forget it).  And without my glasses on, I struggle to read even a bedside clock.  So I am not a clock-watcher.  I leave it up to the WG to let me know that time is up.

I know that there will be those who insist on keeping their watch on, to be sure that they get their full time.  However, in my experience, insisting that you are due another 5 or 10;minutes rarely results in that time being particularly pleasurable.  If I feel that I have been particularly short-changed, I just don't return.

[petermisc]

For the first time at my most recent punt I didn’t really lose my erection after the pop and I have a feeling I could have moved on to a second round. To be honest, I was a bit conflicted as this particular SP has had a bloody good attempt and getting me hard again in the past but I never quite managed to go far enough.

Could have been that the post pop basking was so relaxed that any kind of pressure to ‘get it up again’ had passed and it just decided to show me it could stay hard all by itself 

Knowing my luck I’ll decide to chance my luck next time around and fail completely again!

A good point.  In my experience, a WG desperately wanking or sucking me off in an attempt to get me hard usually has the reverse effect.

Whereas a WG cuddling up to me, slowly and sensually running her finger nails over my chest and stomach, seemingly oblivious to what is happening below, can get me aroused again quite quickly.

It is all to do with not feeling any pressure to perform.

[southcoastpunter]

A good point.  In my experience, a WG desperately wanking or sucking me off in an attempt to get me hard usually has the reverse effect.

Whereas a WG cuddling up to me, slowly and sensually running her finger nails over my chest and stomach, seemingly oblivious to what is happening below, can get me aroused again quite quickly.

It is all to do with not feeling any pressure to perform.

i am with you there. So many women (and not just WG's) seem to think the faster and harder they do it, the more effect it will have - whereas, like you, it actually has the opposite effect on me.

[JontyR]

I would rather go to the dentist than have a punt without DFK. 

"Do you kiss?"

"No sorry."

"Oh that's a shame. How about a scrape and polish?"

"Eh?"

"Root canal?"

"Get out."

[mr.bluesky]

I know that there will be those who insist on keeping their watch on, to be sure that they get their full time.  However, in my experience, insisting that you are due another 5 or 10;minutes rarely results in that time being particularly pleasurable.  If I feel that I have been particularly short-changed, I just don't return.

Strap your watch to your cock then you can keep your eye on the time as you thrust in and out but be careful not to thrust too hard as your watch might disappear up her fanny . It happened to me once, when I stopped thrusting and put my fingers up her fanny she thought I was trying to stimulate her g spot, she was very disappointed when I told her I was trying to retrieve my watch 

[Bat]

A nice slow GFE is the only style of punting that works for me.

A wham-bham or PSE experience doesn’t excite me at all.  I would rather go to the dentist than have a punt without DFK. 

I do think it’s partly the closeness and connection I like as well as the sex, but I don’t want to sound too fluffy.

I book one hour or 90 minute punts and usually cum twice.

Quite randomly, last time I went to the dentist, I immediately went to my favourite massage girl, only 15 mins away from my dentist, for a full body massage & CIM - but without any kissing at all (although there was a quick cuddle afterwards).

On balance, the massage & BJ, but without DFK, was infinitely preferable to the dentist 

[Bat]

One WG I used to see had got badly scratched by a client's watch, and so always insisted her clients removed their watches.  I therefore always remove my watch before getting intimate (stuff it in my trouser pocket so I don't forget it).  And without my glasses on, I struggle to read even a bedside clock.  So I am not a clock-watcher.  I leave it up to the WG to let me know that time is up.

I know that there will be those who insist on keeping their watch on, to be sure that they get their full time.  However, in my experience, insisting that you are due another 5 or 10;minutes rarely results in that time being particularly pleasurable.  If I feel that I have been particularly short-changed, I just don't return.

I always take my watch off as well, especially if it has any sharp edges (I'm a bit of a watch freak and own about 35 and even carefully select what watch I wear to individual punts!). My clock-watching takes the form of simply asking the SP how we're doing for time when I feel I'm getting close.

[Bat]

A good point.  In my experience, a WG desperately wanking or sucking me off in an attempt to get me hard usually has the reverse effect.

This is exactly what's happened on a couple occasions when I've tried for a 2nd pop in a session. I, quite literally, limped away from one meet because the SP had gone at me so vigorously and I let her keep going because I felt somehow guilty that I couldn't 'perform' a 2nd time.

I'm going to try the slow, sensual, route soon & see how it goes 

[Rockhead]

I, quite literally, limped away from one meet because the SP had gone at me so vigorously and I let her keep going

Oh God yeah, that's horrible, I shudder at a few memories of that ilk!

Going back to the original post, I love the afterglow! The intensity of it, or the pleasure of it, rather depends for me on how well I think I've 'performed'. I don't mean in terms of pleasing the woman (I'm not bothered; I am the one that's paying) but in whether she and I have sustained the excitement for a decent length of time. If we have, it's like a sexual workout and I feel great. If I've cum too soon, then it's fine but not as great - and on occasions when I haven't cum at all, or have under great duress, there IS no afterglow - just a desire to get out. But in general, yeah, I love the post-shag feeling.

[signy]

Has anyone actually dropped off to sleep during the post-sex, relaxing cuddle experience?

I have come close a couple of times when the booking has overrun and the SP shows no sign of wanting me to leave, but decided it was time for a shower and departure before I started snoring.

[MissWolf]

Has anyone actually dropped off to sleep during the post-sex, relaxing cuddle experience?

I have come close a couple of times when the booking has overrun and the SP shows no sign of wanting me to leave, but decided it was time for a shower and departure before I started snoring.

Yes I've had a few so relaxed while post pop cuddling that they have fallen asleep (or maybe I just talked them to sleep  ) I have one regular that does it regularly 

[mr.bluesky]

Yes I've had a few so relaxed while post pop cuddling that they have fallen asleep (or maybe I just talked them to sleep  ) I have one regular that does it regularly 

You weren't talking to him about the state of Welsh Rugby were you MissWolf 

[MissWolf]

You weren't talking to him about the state of Welsh Rugby were you MissWolf 

That's a red card offence MrB 

[mr.bluesky]

That's a red card offence MrB 

  Yellow card at most, 10 minutes in the sin bin

[MissWolf]

Yellow card at most, 10 minutes in the sin bin

Might have to go to the TMO 

[mr.bluesky]

Might have to go to the TMO 

   

[Doc Holliday]

I'm going to buck the trend here and say that whilst I have had sex with just about anyone, I am very fussy about who I cuddle and it has been almost exclusively reserved for my private life.

Then I know it is 'genuine' intimacy.

[JontyR]

I am very fussy about who I cuddle and it has been almost exclusively reserved for my private life.

Then I know it is 'genuine' intimacy.

Pervert.

[Davey80]

I think we all get different things from this and for those looking for something more than transactional sex then I get this.

For me though it’s part of the deal that I get a thrilling ride from a punt but precisely that and no more - with all real intimacy (and love) at home.