Some of you might remember that I posted a very positive review of 'Emma of G-E' a few weeks ago - she was genuinely one of the best escorts I'd ever seen. My reward for that has been to be subjected to some pretty nasty mind games from her. She texted me the day afterwards, and asked me to delete the review (I explained to her that wasn't allowed by the rules of the site). She wasn't happy with some of the specific things I'd written, but in general she just seemed to feel that I shouldn't even have posted a review without asking her permission first. I didn't think that was a realistic attitude - obviously if she'd specifically asked me not to review her, I would have respected that, but when someone is paying for a service it seems a bit odd to expect them to actively ask permission before posting feedback. But I didn't say any of that - I just apologised to her for any upset caused, because she obviously was genuinely very upset.
She started hinting that she wouldn't be willing to take any more bookings from me (because she wanted to stick to people she could "trust"), so I told her if that was her decision I'd respect it. She responded by saying she would text me if she decided to see me again. I said "fair enough". I then received a text from her out of the blue last weekend saying "I'm available again, it would be great to see you, just tell me what day and for how long". So - and hopefully this is understandable - I took her at her word, and yesterday asked her if she'd be free today for a half-hour booking. She said she'd be free, but only for the full hour rate. Then a couple of minutes later she sent a follow-up text emphasising that in particular she'd only be willing to see ME for the full hour rate, after all the trouble I'd caused. I told her that the hour rate was a bit too steep for me, so I would just leave it, but I basically said no hard feelings and I wished her well. But she wouldn't let it go and sent quite a sarcastic text telling me about all the abuse she'd received because of my review (which was a positive one, remember!), and finished by saying "so I'm not willing to see you for £100, sorry".
I felt like this was leaving me in no man's land, so I decided that just this once I'd pay the full hour rate if it would help to smooth things over. I asked her if she'd see me, and she said "I'll confirm by 2pm tomorrow (ie. today) once I know my schedule". But by 2.05 I hadn't heard anything, so I texted her, and she said she was going to be busy until 8 or 9. I asked her if that meant she was fully booked for the day, or if she'd be free after 8 or 9, and she sent me a strange reply that didn't answer the question at all. So I asked again if a booking would be OK after 9, and she said "can I confirm by 8?" I said OK. Then two minutes later she sent a text saying "actually I don't want to see you again after the comments I've had about your review, so don't bother contacting me again or any of the other girls!"
Now, I fully appreciate that an escort can refuse to see a client for any reason, or for no reason at all. But I would never have contacted her again unless she had sent me a text giving me the green light, so I just think her behaviour has been totally unprofessional and deeply unfair. I'm not sure whether she was deliberately playing mind games with me, or if she was just finding it hard to work out whether she wanted the £150 badly enough that it would be worth holding her nose and seeing a client she has a grudge against. (It was probably the latter, actually.)
There certainly were a number of very unpleasant comments posted on my review, but I wasn't responsible for those in any way, and lashing out against me in this extreme way seems bizarre. After the way she's treated me, I probably wouldn't have been comfortable seeing her again anyway (and perhaps not any of the other girls from the group either), so in that sense being blacklisted in no great loss. But it's not been a nice experience at all.
My attitude remains the same, though - I think we've got a basic right to review escorts as long as we're discreet and respectful, and I'm going to carry on doing it unless I'm specifically asked not to. I'm probably not going to enjoy writing the reviews in future, but there's an important principle at stake.
