Now got it back and other profile deleted so I'll see how it goes.
Ah... that might be your problem.
Anyone who they think has two profiles is shown to everyone that you email. They don't need to be verified to see this information, which consists of the names of all your profiles.
It is acceptable to have two profiles on AW: a "seeking services" and a "providing services" one. I know because I have both, and on my "providing" profile I can see the dual identities of those I have written to, if any. Note that is in the past tense - they see that info once the email appears on their "sent" list. So that might explain any attitude change subsequent to that event.
Those that you write to that aren't verified will not be able to see your "seeking services" profile(s), except for the account you sent them the email from.
You need to ask yourself whether two or more profiles are needed.