The main reason women who do not do this job hate the idea is we make it too easy for their partners to cheat on them. Women dont think too deeply about it all they worry about is we can do what they cant and we lead their partners into cheating. Yes most women bellieve it is the escorts fault not their partners as we flaunt ourselves on the internet and their men cant resist. Yes they really believe that as I have spoken to a lot of women friends about it and this was basically their reply. The majority of women will never like the thought of escorts as they know (even those on Mumsnet) that their partners are cheating on them with us and they cant compete as we offer what they either cant or wont
I agree. I hate it when people sometimes assume that because we are "flaunting ourselves" on the internet (ok well yes maybe we are
but hey!) that a partnered man just can't possibly resist and it is the fault of all the brazen hussies out there, or 'home wreckers' etc. Erm, no it's not, it's the fault of the partner who was dishonest. Or perhaps a complete breakdown in communication between the partners. I actually quite like
mumsnet usually (shoot me!), and there is a regular poster on there I think used to be a WG (I've guessed at who but not sure) who always gives the following great advice about monogamy etc - she says that whilst she doesn't agree with monogamy herself, if monogamy is agreed between a couple and one partner breaches monogamy then obviously it's an issue of dishonesty of quite high proportions. However she says that if one partner just refuses point blank to engage in sexual activities at all (or hardly ever) WITHOUT DISCUSSING IT - and that is the main part - just basically unilaterally decides there is to be no more sex tough shit, then if sex is important to the other partner then why should he/she be expected to live without sex indefinitely. I don't think that advocates just cheating for the sake of it, or if she's just had a baby, illness etc , as long as the man is being kept informed of things and they discuss it. I think she makes very good points there.
"they cant compete as we offer what they either cant or wont"
They probably do think that, but they are very wrong, in my opinion anyway. Yes men love sex, variety in sex etc, but they are also capable of loving and connecting with their woman, coming home to their woman, having a family etc. They want to be accepted and loved too in a way (awwww!) - None of that is ever going to happen with a WG. And especially having sex with someone you have a real
2-way connection with and real chemistry with I'd say would beat any WG experience hands down.
I think a lot of wives / significant others are pretty insecure these days, when really they hold much more power over any WG or even affair partner if they are the mother of his kids, and they probably don't have as much cause to be jealous/paranoid as they think they do (for many reasons). I also don't think Sex Workers have nearly as much hatred for their own bodies/looks as most 'civilian' women do. Maybe because we spend so much time naked, see that men fancy and would pay to have sex with a wide wide range of body types and ages, see other women naked more (if working in a brothel or flat sharing). Not really sure exactly why tbh, but I've noticed that since I started working full-time in 'civvie-land' I've been astonished at the level of hatred a lot of colleagues have for their bodies/looks compared to any female I've ever met or known through sex work.