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Author Topic: Punter Etiquette (Gabi's Rant!)  (Read 14934 times)

But like I have previously said my belief is kind of the same as Lurtz (and like I say James too)

This is also why I respect escorts for what they do by the way too given the above.

I mean no disrespect to anyone for believing that. I just think this is job is a stepping stone to something else better. Gabi for example in another thread suggested she is getting her post grad teaching qualifications; which post grad degrees are bloody expensive. So assumed this work was to pay for it.

Whatever your intentions, if you say to ANYONE in ANY line of business "you are too good for this line of work" you are effectively saying "I think the type of job you do is shit and for lower ability or inferior people" so you ARE being critical of their job and they will NOT make them feel better about themselves, which is the purpose of a compliment.

Offline Lurtz

My belief is formed in a large part from girls at agencies saying to me what guys have done previously to them during bookings. (getting violent/abusive)

That's not nice. No wonder some girls like the idea of reverse feedback.

Offline mofukker

whats the big deal? he was " respecting " you by looking out for your safety , and lets  be honest you love the money not the job, and why not just reply to him instead of crying on a forum?

Offline Kitty

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Whatever your intentions, if you say to ANYONE in ANY line of business "you are too good for this line of work" you are effectively saying "I think the type of job you do is shit and for lower ability or inferior people" so you ARE being critical of their job and they will NOT make them feel better about themselves, which is the purpose of a compliment.

Well said.

Not everyone can be good at this job and to be honest, being told "Fuck me, that was one of the most intense orgasms of my life" or "I haven't had sex this good since my girlfriend Blahblah" gives me a nice warm fuzzy feeling inside. Lots of girls can be ok-ish at this job but the ones  you walk away from a session with, thanking the heavens above and barely able to move your legs, are the ones that take pride in their work and welcome praise for their abilities :)

Offline Brianna

I wont directly quote, but comment on a few posts in general

I have never viewed what I do as degrading, I am confident in my body and happy doing what I do. It is society that causes the problem. No I would discourage a daughter of mine entering the industry, but not because of what the industry provides but because society has created such a stigma about the industry that the side effects are the difficulty in forming a loving relation, having to live a duplicite life and having to deal with people you truly believe are one step away from a sex offender, (of course these are in the minority).

As for the "You could do better" lines, well I am too old to take much notice. I take it as neither an insult or compliment, but as evidence of a lack of social skills.

Of course I have been verbally assaulted or had my fair share of verbal abuse, but it is all a power thing. Many get their kicks off feeling they have a woman that will pander to their every whim. This is not limited to this industry. How many times have you witnessed some prick treat a waiter/ess like a lackey in a restaurant?

If a situation gets more serious, then thankfully we have security. Only last week a customer decided to get heavy handed with a girl, and she ran out of the room, (she already had visible bruises on her even after a few minutes). Our security guy is from a different environment to merry Ol' England, and thus has more "creative" measures with dealing with these kind of people.

It sounds to me like the type of comment that would be made by the 'older' gentleman, a bit like me (although it wasn't me) who may very well have a daughter your age Gabi and finds that the words are tumbling out of his mouth before he's even realised.

At the risk of generalisation, I would suggest that older guys might feel somewhat 'protective' towards someone your age, working alone - it's a kind of built in mechanism....

He may very well be thinking to himself "what is someone as well educated & amazing looking as yourself doing this for?" - but in thinking it, he's let it come right out into the open....
I am not defending this fella's comments at all but, I can perhaps see why it was said.
Just a thought.

whats the big deal? he was " respecting " you by looking out for your safety , and lets  be honest you love the money not the job, and why not just reply to him instead of crying on a forum?

I am very new on here but I would have thought that having WG's as active members would be something that all male members would strive to encourage at every opportunity.
Posting this kind of response does absolutely nothing to encourage female members to actively participate.

Offline Matium

You handled the situation well and behaved professionally, Gabi.

You kept calm even he was being, unintentionally, rude.

I think he thought he was paying you a compliment without realising that he was saying something degrading.

If he does book again, just smile and say that you've bought a brand new toy, especially for him, and you can drive him wild with a little prostrate play.

That'll be the time to have him lie face down while you get your strap-on!

 :diablo:


I am very new on here but I would have thought that having WG's as active members would be something that all male members would strive to encourage at every opportunity.

I agree with you Major, I like to see some of the girls who post here but don't believe this applies to male members across the board so have re-quoted you.....

...... I would have thought that having WG's as active members would be something that some male members would strive to encourage.....

Offline Jimmyredcab

I am very new on here but I would have thought that having WG's as active members would be something that all male members would strive to encourage at every opportunity.

Some may but not me, over the last two years we have had to ban dozens of WG's, they all start off OK but soon show their true colours.
If anyone wants a forum full of WG's I can recommend auto-censored which is now moderated by pro$$ies.
I have no problem with the ladies currently posting on here but I would not encourage too many more, that is my personal opinion and not the official policy of UKP.

Offline Sarahs Back

I had a (young) guy once insist he understood that I did this to put food on the table for my kids... And it was ok with him! And he didn't think less of me for it
I many times said but I had a good job that fed my kids I do this because of the thrills it brings me.... And a power trip..... But each time he said.... It's ok you don't have to say that to me ... I understand....
Yes I found him very patronising but at the end of the day we are paid to keep our opinions to ourselves so I just shut up and spred my legs .... You did right to scream into a pillow and not his face... I have many a times wanted to... And I wish we had somewhere to rant and let off steam as we can't with our friends who don't know what we do
But after the scream in the pillow we need to put out business head back on and remember are paid to say yes dear I really love it when you do that!


Offline Matium

And I wish we had somewhere to rant and let off steam as we can't with our friends who don't know what we do

That's what UKP's for.

Gabi was right to scream and rant here.

:)

Some may but not me, over the last two years we have had to ban dozens of WG's, they all start off OK but soon show their true colours.
If anyone wants a forum full of WG's I can recommend auto-censored which is now moderated by pro$$ies.
I have no problem with the ladies currently posting on here but I would not encourage too many more, that is my personal opinion and not the official policy of UKP.

Very fair point - as i said, I'm still very new here & I guess I shouldn't presume.
Major

Offline AnthG

Yes I found him very patronising but at the end of the day we are paid to keep our opinions to ourselves so I just shut up and spred my legs

I actually agree with this K said, but depending on the person. Not the age group.

I think that an important part of a "good" wg's relationship with men is to teach them better ways to be men.   Isn't this a part of what "pillow talk" is all about?  A wg is often the best person to give confidential consultations on how a man should deal with a particular domestic situation.
You can easily tell the sort of person you are with. If he is some misogynist wannabe chav. Then I think doing as Sarah suggested and just keeping shtum is probably right.

But if the person comes across as genuine and friendly then maybe its right to do as K said.

Personally speaking I like to see escorts to build my confidence up with the opposite sex, maybe even to try my luck with the WG herself :) and if I was saying something that was not right or upsetting to her. I would like it politely suggested to me. As opposed to the girl behind her breath thinking what a git.

Like I said I genuinely thought the girls I see would be flattered if I said they could do much better than this. Its one of the reasons I then suggest the Open University to them.
« Last Edit: November 04, 2012, 04:10:17 PM by AnthG »

Offline Brianna

Perhaps due to the fact that we have to exude a confident nature in our job, we become a little dogmatic, but I respect that this site does "what it says on the tin". It is a site for punters to vent their frushtration at poor service etc. As such I would never get involved in such a debate. However, being a bit of a egotist, I feel I can add to more general debates, and if one guy gets a better experience from a punt due to some advice I have offered, then clearly it is not against the ethos of this site.


As far as i'm concerned as soon as you enter the room, you know the vibe and what is and is not appropriate to say, it could be that this guy was looking for a girl to talk through his problems and made a wrong or misguided assumption. getting deep with a girl is not something i ever, do give me my family or mates for that.  However after  the rush of dopamine you can at times become a little deep and thoughtful about life I'm often asked if I'm okay a few mins afterwards, unfortunately my eyes betray more then my mouth. 

Ether way the guy was wrong and really insensitive. But it all depends oh how far Gabi had pushed the conversation. for instance because i'm a "nice guy" and in a wheelchair girls often want to ask me about my life, not something i really want to go into unless i know you or you've got a degree  in psychology and want to listen to me babble on :) 

Offline mofukker

I am very new on here but I would have thought that having WG's as active members would be something that all male members would strive to encourage at every opportunity.
Posting this kind of response does absolutely nothing to encourage female members to actively participate.

and whats your point? i have to agree with everyone all the time? or do you want affirmative action, does this forum have to have quotas of female , gay, black members? Also,she is more than capable of speaking for herself and doesnt need some fluffie defending her

Offline Brianna



Like I said I genuinely thought the girls I see would be flattered if I said they could do much better than this. Its one of the reasons I then suggest the Open University to them.

Your motives are right, but most girls have had evangelistic clients wanting to "change them". The "this" you can think they can do better than is a "this" they have usually chosen. They would have looked at the options, looked at the benefits of further education and chose that they prefer to earn £x per hour on their back or knees than earning less in another industry.

You generally come across as a decent person, and I say the above to stop you from becoming someone working girls use. I am sure you are "lecturing" them on your £ notes

Offline mofukker

i agree it is patronizing but you girls should be made of stronger stuff , you should just brush it off and continue , escorts sometimes ask if im married and when i tell them i am they seem shocked and want to have a long conversation about how wrong i am , i don't get offended , remember sticks and stones

Offline Brianna

i agree it is patronizing but you girls should be made of stronger stuff , you should just brush it off and continue , escorts sometimes ask if im married and when i tell them i am they seem shocked and want to have a long conversation about how wrong i am , i don't get offended , remember sticks and stones

Any working girl shocked to have a married client is either a little dense or not been in the industry long. I have even taken a break mid-service whilst one client took a call from his wife.

Offline AnthG

lso,she is more than capable of speaking for herself and doesnt need some fluffie defending her

You keep throwing out that word. Out of curiosity, was the first time you heard it from a post on this forum or have you been in this punting scene for a while?

If the major says he's new.... then I'm super new. But I agree with Mofukker you don't need to actively encourage something like this it'll happen or it won't. 

I guess part of the reason why The Major says he wants more working girls on here is to try and help change opinions on punters and some of the working practices that the girls employ but only the market and societal norms can do that. 

This is primaraly a forum where guys can discuss matters relating to their lifestyle choice without being belittled or bitch slapped. It's a sexiest comment and anyone is welcome to take issue with it but i think a lot of working girls won't think twice about calling a man a dick head or a waster or a weirdo for liking a certain fetish, if we had more girls on here i think we would get more of that and less acceptance.     

Offline mofukker

You keep throwing out that word. Out of curiosity, was the first time you heard it from a post on this forum or have you been in this punting scene for a while?

that word does not really matter its the meaning, fluffie is a nicer way of describing them ,

Next time someone insults you just kick them out, you don't have to take that shit.  :hi:

Offline AnthG

Next time someone insults you just kick them out, you don't have to take that shit.  :hi:
Are people seriously thinking this was said as an insult?


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