But its a pain when we have to pay for it when there is pussy waiting at home unused.
Well supposedly unused.
Either she's a friend/colleague, bringing in income, looking after the kids or whatever she does to earn her keep and your respect, or she's a parasite that simply reminds you of the .hot woman lover you once saw in her. So if the former, and you can't win her fanny-doors open, stop fancying her. Meditate on her humungously fat arse, hairy lip, whatever (if you can't find anything wrong with her you're pussywhipped). If the latter, make quiet plans to live alone and handle the fallout. Straightforward really, though it is indeed a pain!