Well as for me a few similarities to Sarah. I was 33 met a bloke, he convinced me to try the swinging scene. I honestly up to this point in my life knew nothing of the scene, have a very straight forward attitude about sex as in you only did it with people you love etc. and I wasn't keen at all. We never did the clubs just the sites in other words he would do all the emailing, arranging etc they would come to our house and basically we would have a threesome(MMF usually sometimes couples). I was surprised by how much I enjoyed the experience as in having sex with strangers until that point my sex life was very ordinary I suppose. Although when we were with another couple I really hated seeing him have sex with the other women which caused numerous rows so we decided to stop and just see males. Again because of my sheltered sex life I couldn't understand the attraction for him of watching me with other men and he was straight I really didn't get it.
He then "came across " adult work, in hindsight I think he had known about it and probably using it himself for some time, pointed it out to me and basically "sold it to me " on the basis that it was basically doing the same as what we were doing now but I could get paid for having sex with other men instead. He took some pictures , we created a profile and of course being completely brand new to AW and escorting I was bombarded with emails. I replied to every single one
, which took ages as I had to google most of the terminology as I didn't have a clue
. Lucky for me my very first appointment was an outcall to an apartment in Otley and he said he was a fireman, maybe he was maybe he wasn't but anyway he was around my age and physically attractive JACKPOT !!
As time went on things changed A LOT for one they weren't all good looking firemen
I began to get regular clients and build up a rapport with a few of them as you do. The guy I was with at the time hadn't factored this in to his scheme of things and began to become very insecure. As for me I was being paid to have sex with some nice men (ok not all nice but the majority)who paid me compliments (something he never did ) and were nice to me in general. I soon realised I was with this bloke out of habit and security rather than love or anything else and my clients had shown me that not all men are the same there are actually some nice ones (I'd never been good at picking men when I was younger in fact still not that great now
Anyway after about 2 years or so, I eventually removed my blinkers I decided to leave, we as a couple had not had sex for about a year or so I knew he was seeing escorts but he never admitted it. Then the final nail in the coffin was when faced with hard facts he blatantly lied to my face. This came about because I received an email on AW from a WG asking if I knew who L****0**8 as she had received an email from him and my user name had flagged up as an alias. He was wanting to make an appointment with her and she had asked him why my name had come up on his profile and he had told her he had bought his laptop off me so that must be why. Obviously
it was the same IP address but she contacted me as she was concerned he had somehow hacked into my profile. So busted
Anyway as I said I left and after a few difficult months him making false bookings etc, leaving neg feedback etc (the ones that say removed on my feedback now) with the view of if I get a bad reputation I won't be able to work so will have to go back to him etc. I never went back to him and have never looked back. I am happier now than I have ever been, I am single and will remain so for the foreseeable future, I do what I want when I want and with who I want. My family, including my children (19 and 21) and friends all know what I do hence being able to put face pics on my profile. I would of rather not told them but that was one of the threats to go back to him that he would tell them what I did for a living so I told them first difficult time but fine now
. The only thing I dislike about being a WG is it can sometimes be a rather lonely existence I work alone and even though everyone knows it's not something we talk about as in my girls don't say how was work Mum. I have decided to get a part-time job in the new year, no degree here so just a secretary/receptionist more for the social side than the money in fact I will probably lose money by doing it but my head will benefit
In short : Met a controlling man who thought he was in control of me and he was at the beginning. Eventually saw him for what he was through meeting men on the paid sex scene which I was introduced to be him. Through this job I have completely changed for the better as in confidence about myself, standing up for myself, having an opinion, and not thinking I'm ugly etc. So even through at the start I was not in control of my life, he was without all of that I truly believe I would not be the person I am today and I like me 1000% more now than I did then. So would I change anything NO not at all, any regrets NONE.
PS : Sorry didn't mean it to be that long