This advice isn't being wasted on me Rod, I guess some of it isn't something I haven't already told myself over the last few years.
There seems to be four main issues here.
1. I will want to do it again.
Yes I expect I probably will if I take the plunge but then again until any guilt that might come my way has settled I guess I wont really know. Im far from being made of money but I could take a trip to London or another major city once a month if needed, equally I could spend that money locally if I found the right quality girl.
2. I can be caught.
Yes, I expect I could but Im not really sure at this stage how? My wife isn't the kind to snoop and I would expect I would use a punting phone so Im struggling a bit as to ways I would end up caught, examples from others could well be useful here.
3. I could catch a disease.
To be honest this one is my biggest worry. Good oral isn't something Ive really been lucky to receive over the years of steady relationships and marriage, most have made a token gesture which although better than no gesture has never really been that good. Having done a bit of reading Im even left feeling like OWO carries its own risks. Ive got the main jist regarding protected sex and how STD's are passed but the bleeding gums one took me by surprise.
4. It could ruin my life and career.
Not so much my career as Im my own boss but for sure if it caused me and the Mrs to split up it would be the end of the world, we have a great relationship just sadly not a sexual one. As I said earlier I think she would give me a bit of a break for a first offence but to be honest the fact she ever found out and the pain it might cause her would be bad enough.
In bed on Christmas morning we discussed the lack of sex in our lives. Because it is not her fault I refuse to let it get between us in terms or arguing about it, and I have managed that for around 6yrs now from my early 40's. I would never want to have sex with her if she isn't in the mood and sadly she never is in the mood. Its not a cop out as she used to be always up for it and after her surgery the difference was obvious immediately. Everywhere I look these days there is sex, its used to sell everything and I find myself wanking more and more which although fast and effective isn't very rewarding and quite lonely. Fuck, this is starting to sound like an agony aunts letter
Last week I visited Niki in Hexham for a massage and HE - I enjoyed the massage and the HE was ok, I say ok as she stopeed just a bit too soon after climax and the whole thing did feel a bit sterile. Because of the fear of STD's it has crossed my mind to see if I could find an attractive lady for massage but with maybe a little more fun in the HE dept?
What a minefield
never underestimate a womans sense of finding you out, its not just a punting phone, fair enough she may not snoop and you may have a great place for the phone , but.........
you punt, and think all is fine, you come home and have a different smell on you
ditto, and you have a stray hair on your clothes
your sat nav shows you at an unusual address
you punt and get home and she wants sex
they smell a change in you !!!
diseases. theres not a way that is 100% safe, OWO is the big worry but..............
what if and its happened to me( long time ago), the condom comes off?
what if and its happened to me(long time ago), the condom breaks?
you are then effectively barebacking a pro$$ie?
other ways to get caught, the punting phone going off from an unsolicited text of a pro$$ie, it happens, its happened to me.
a vengeful pro$$ie who tries to ought you because of a bad review on here?( it happened many times on here)
DO YOU GET MY DRIFT???
seriously im not preaching but i feel just from what you say that talking to your OH may be the solution, you've already said it would kill you to lose her so DON'T FUCKING DO IT.
cross the line and you cant get back, otherwise punt and just be aware of all of these, cover ya arse and then cover it again and worry like fuck if you punt then have to fuck the OH , and if you do punt you then have to get tested EVERY MONTH or regular, that can catch you out anarl, you must get tested !!!
its not pretty if you are attAched.............BELIEVE ME