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Offline kizzie

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here's some examples. I have set a date with a punter at his request, before which i wouldn't take his calls, as he was concerned bout how often he was visiting. And despite numerous texts/calls virtually pleading, i stuck to it. When i saw him again he couldn't believe id done it,had ofcourse gone elsewhere, but i kept my part of the bargain.   I have after a fairly heart wrenching chat with a lonely and quite vulnerable guy (who basically paid 135 to kiss & cuddle for an hour) that i won't see him again and a prostitute, in my opinion, is not what he ne3eded.    I have stopped seeing  at least 4 guys who have got things out of place (or better if they will do so) advised them to go elsewhere.
yes, its partly i play the long game, but while being paid for sex gives me no moral qualms at all, other things do.
7,(side issue and small personal bet  :wacko:)

Offline yumyum3

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here's some examples. I have set a date with a punter at his request, before which i wouldn't take his calls, as he was concerned bout how often he was visiting. And despite numerous texts/calls virtually pleading, i stuck to it. When i saw him again he couldn't believe id done it,had ofcourse gone elsewhere, but i kept my part of the bargain.   I have after a fairly heart wrenching chat with a lonely and quite vulnerable guy (who basically paid 135 to kiss & cuddle for an hour) that i won't see him again and a prostitute, in my opinion, is not what he ne3eded.    I have stopped seeing  at least 4 guys who have got things out of place (or better if they will do so) advised them to go elsewhere.
yes, its partly i play the long game, but while being paid for sex gives me no moral qualms at all, other things do.
7,(side issue and small personal bet  )
Whilst I can't understand everything you write here, the gist of your post sounds like a good and sensible decision :)

Offline mattylondon

while being paid for sex gives me no moral qualms at all, other things do.
I'll assume that you're being honest! If so, whilst I think it shows you in a better light, it's also singularly, naive, from a business perspective! Prostitution is a service business, first and foremost. I already know that you're experienced, both in age and in this business. I've read your profile and some of your more lively posts elsewhere! :P

It seems to me that the only thing you're duty bound to point out to these guys is that it's just that. I see no reason why you should stop seeing any punter, unless you thought they'd crossed your own personal boundaries so much so, that you felt uncomfortable. If you're simply trying to second guess and stop them feeling 'hurt', I wouldn't bother playing that game. You may well end up hurting them even more by refusing to see them!

I have this nagging belief that whilst you may well be happy right now taking the cash for sex, you harbor long term doubts yourself, about being in this business? Perhaps I'm wrong on that?
« Last Edit: July 28, 2012, 11:25:38 AM by mattylondon »

Offline kizzie

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Yes, have to agree with much of the reply.,I've been called naive before and there is some truth to that, but it's also a strength. I hate that sadly prevalent attitude of 'lets take the bastards for all they have' and a lot of my business comes from my approach that it's an honest transaction!  I can't be responsible for future problems of hurt, but while i do ok there's enough uncomplicated business to be going on with.
Your 'sense' that i have longterm issues is half right. I believe I've been called mutton here before and i have limited time left as i am really really old. So i am looking ahead. But the main issue/problem i hve and have always had, is the social exclusion that comes with being a full time ho. It begins to feel as if you are losing yourgrip on,the 'real world'. So i am moving to part-time.

Offline yumyum3

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Yes, have to agree with much of the reply.,I've been call :bomb:ed naive before and there is some truth to that, but it's also a strength. I hate that sadly prevalent attitude of 'lets take the bastards for all they have' and a lot of my business comes from my approach that it's an honest transaction!  I can't be responsible for future problems of hurt, but while i do ok there's enough uncomplicated business to be going on with.
Your 'sense' that i have longterm issues is half right. I believe I've been called mutton here before and i have limited time left as i am really really old. So i am looking ahead. But the main issue/problem i hve and have always had, is the social exclusion that comes with being a full time ho. It begins to feel as if you are losing yourgrip on,the 'real world'. So i am moving to part-time.
I like you :kissgirl:

Offline kizzie

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Well that makes a change on this forum! Lol. Thanks :kissgirl:

Offline yumyum3

Good sex, caring and honesty. It is rare in ordinary life and obviously rarer in this business but when it appears it just doesn't get much better than that IMP :hi: :)

Online James999

Pro$$ies falling for clients is quite common, often due to them having disfunctional family or abusive partner / pimp, thus the affection a punter shows is craved. It is good that you have recognised this and pulled back.  :hi:

Offline mattylondon

'Shelf life' isn't just determined by age. I've seen plenty of prossies, regardless of age, who have become hardened and jaded. Some can do it for years, for others, it eventually takes a physical and mental toll.  :hi:

Pro$$ies falling for clients is quite common, often due to them having disfunctional family or abusive partner / pimp, thus the affection a punter shows is craved. It is good that you have recognised this and pulled back.  :hi:
James has a way with his words, but he is being honest and spot on. I've seen this myself, so know it to be a fact.  :hi:
« Last Edit: July 28, 2012, 01:09:09 PM by mattylondon »

Offline mattylondon

Well that makes a change on this forum! Lol. Thanks :kissgirl:
I like you too. Can you unblock me now please?!  :sarcastic: I don't bite! I'm a nice doggy, when you get to know me! :bomb:
« Last Edit: July 28, 2012, 01:28:15 PM by mattylondon »

Offline kizzie

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Yes, it can happen. I got in a 'relationship' with a client in my early days and wouldn't let it happen again. I have one guy who i see fairly infrequently still and im careful these days to keep a certain distance, though I'm fairly sure the danger has passed! But i as actually refering to clients who have a false impression of me. They have become involved with Kizzie and she is not the real me, but rather a character i use for work who they only see the best of. I do point this out, but we're all humans and as i deal in sex and to a certain degree intimacy, it happens. I haven't hcome jaded or cynical yet i hope. But my 2 year anniversary whoring is next week! Give it time and im sure I'll hate you all! :manhater:

Offline mikey

as a business (whether it is prostitution or any other kind of service business), you have the right to choose who your customers are. many ppl believe that businesses must welcome everyone with open arms, this is not the case. always be polite, yes, but do you have to sell them a service? no.  in fact, many businesses that are quite choosy about their customers end up with a customer base that are prepared to pay more for what is offered.

Offline mattylondon

Keep posting on Saafe, mixing with some of that lot and I'll give you a lot less time than your next anniversary of being a ho!  :D

Offline yumyum3

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Yes, it can happen. I got in a 'relationship' with a client in my early days and wouldn't let it happen again. I have one guy who i see fairly infrequently still and im careful these days to keep a certain distance, though I'm fairly sure the danger has passed! But i as actually refering to clients who have a false impression of me. They have become involved with Kizzie and she is not the real me, but rather a character i use for work who they only see the best of. I do point this out, but we're all humans and as i deal in sex and to a certain degree intimacy, it happens. I haven't hcome jaded or cynical yet i hope. But my 2 year anniversary whoring is next week! Give it time and im sure I'll hate you all!
And don't forget that some of what you say above is true when you enter a "real-life" relationship; people can turn out to be both nutters and nasty; kind, loving, caring and many shades in between.
It is a difficult one when you're in "business" and I think the key words you used are
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and to a certain degree intimacy
. Do you effectively become "cold" and play a character, or does your radar sometimes detect a fellow traveller and become more intimate.  :unknown: That is where real pleasure and deep value begins.  :hi:


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