You might not like it ktm, but cueballs words, whilst perhaps a bit direct, are exactly what a lot of us think on here. Them that just want recommendations and won't give anything back do my head in. I've stopped dolling out rec's to them with no reviews or newbie's. Get out into the field, do a few reviews and you might find the approach to your requests a bit different.
I, along with many others spend a lot of money doing this. Why should we help you if you won't help in return?
Put another way, if we went out for a few pints, would you expect me to buy every round? Or would you put your hand in your pocket at some point? It's the same thing.
Now ask your mum if you're allowed out tonight.
tcm