would you still go out if you couldn't cum

[alenski]

i must admit to having a personal interest in this question,the last time was about 2 years  ago.the reason being medication and old age,however i live in hope you just never know.

[Expl1cit]

I wouldn't go out no.  I'd order my weekly shopping from ocado.com and spend the days & nights at home in my little bedsit, crying.  I'd only nip out the back for a smoke now and then.  I'd be an outcalls only guy.  I would not be able to face society if I couldn't cum.

[jackdaw]

Yes. Would still carry on, assuming I still got enough pleasure from other aspects of punt to justify expense...it's not that important to me.

[TheCape]

That's a bit harsh float.  I have sympathy with the bloke, I'd hate to be in that position but one day probably will be. Reminds us to enjoy it while we can.

In answer to the question, yes. The company of a gorgeous twenty something in high heels and a top two sizes too small is not something I'll tire of or willingly pass up. All the best.

[vw]

I had an overnighter a few years ago and couldn't due to being a naughty boy, I enjoyed the effort put in but she left morified.

So my answer is I would ?

Trying is most of the fun

If you are single, human contact is very good for you and improves general health

You only live once you will regret not trying.

Why not explore another side

Receiving a bit of pain, i love loads personally

Spanking sessions, lots of fun

Had a tickle fight at half time earlier in the year, that released my inner child and affected my life for weeks, couples generally are more serious and this playfulness may be lost.

As a foot note a mate of mine books couples to direct their sex and watch close up.

Punting is not all about the pop, it is different thing to different people.

Good luck

[Expl1cit]

That's a bit harsh float.

I actually misread the post 

I didn't think it was in the literal sense, that he couldn't go out!  I just thought it meant would you bother to go and see a hooker if you know you couldn't cum so my post was tongue in cheek.

But seriously, its a fucked up question to ask.  It implies the ONLY reason to actually leave your house is to go and get some pussy, which is weird.  People go out for all sorts of reasons, to the shops, for a walk, to meet friends or family, to socialise. 

If you are unable to go out physically due to illness, its understandable, but this is a fucking punting forum, not the NHS.  If your only intention to leave your house is to cum, then you need to be on some other medication, that can deal with any psychological issues you may have.

[vw]

If your only intention to leave your house is to cum, then you need to be on some other medication, that can deal with any psychological issues you may have.

think it is badly worded and we have hear different questions, if he can't leave the house as you say maybe an outcall would do !

[potato]

I think the OP meant "would you still go out and see prossies" or words to that affect....  He was "out" visiting one on the 12th according to his reviews...

[alenski]

I think the OP meant "would you still go out and see prossies" or words to that affect....  He was "out" visiting one on the 12th according to his reviews...

you have it right.of course what i meant was you would still go out to see a prossie if you knew you wouldn't cum.

[unclepokey]

I'm 68. I see prozzies* around once a month. Some are regulars, some new. Sometimes I cum - sometimes I don't.
With the regulars if I don't cum I still have a lovely time because they are friends and I love them.
If I don't cum with a new girl I simply blame the newness and move on..
Uncle Pokey
*I hate the term "prozzies". Working Girls is far better.

[pewpewpew]

I have a lot of trouble cumming and always have. I'm in my late twenties and am on no medication so probably all psychological. I don't punt often, maybe once or twice per year but i always hope that I'll get an amazing girl who will go for it with gusto and get the job done. Sometimes happens sometimes not but for me the pop is all that matters as it's often out of reach

[Steptoe]

Depends what you mean by "cannot cum".
If you mean that you get no fluid ejaculation and no sensation of cumming ie orgasm - then you have my sympathy.  Personally I would still go to see my regular ladies because I/ they enjoy our company.  I would be more reticent about visiting new/ younger girls.

However, I suspect that you (like me) may be on medication for BHP - enlarged prostate - and those meds + AGE !! can certainly reduce the fluid ejaculation to zero.  However, most the sensations of orgasm can remain.  In my case they do remain     and with as much frequency as the bank balance can support ie weekly, I take advantage of benefit while I am still active enough to do so 

Lack of ejaculation is a worry at first and often I will need to explain to a lady of choice that nothing is wrong with the session and that I have indeed "cum".  There can be minor positives in that if you see certain ladies regularly and they know you do not produce anything then they may be a lot "more uninhibited" in their time with you. NO, I do not mean BBack - just OWO to a firing blanks completion etc.
 
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[JV547845]

Sometimes I cum too soon, sometimes I can't cum at all.  The more you think it is a problem, the more it becomes a problem.  So just stop worrying about it so much. 

I'd probably still punt albeit selectively with WGs with good comms.  I'd explain to them first and see WGs who like a good hard long shag, who don't stop and try to finish you off with a HJ or Oral.  Also I'd see ones who allow DFK and fingering and squirters.

[Steptoe]

The more you think it is a problem, the more it becomes a problem.  So just stop worrying about it so much. 

Also I'd see ones who allow DFK and fingering and squirters.

Absolutely +1

[Bluefin]

Yes, I have been to see a girl when I knew I had no chance of being able to fuck her never mind cum, due to consuming  too much alcohol! She seemed quite surprised when I said no to her trying to put a condom on and I settled for a suck of her tits, RO and fingering!

[Eiltedongster]

Depends if I thought I could still enjoy it for the $ I am paying, but generally ... no.

[jcdmj12]

Definitely. Orgasms are nice, but they are about 5% of the fun for me in a really good meet.

[Bangers and Gash]

I'm 68....With the regulars if I don't cum I still have a lovely time because they are friends and I love them.

No fool like an old fool.   

[Nagilum]

I have no trouble cumming the first time round, but on round two it could be a struggle, this depends if I was with a girl the night before.

On a few occasions I have not finished the second time.  It is not as enjoyable as I am only admiring the scenery at this point, however if I know I can make her cum then its all good and that is satisfying in itself.

So would I go - Probably?

[willmo1]

Only time it happens is after a drink and a blue pill. Hate it so never mix the 2.

[tonysoprano]

I don't think i'd bother tbh. Can't see the point of a punt if it doesn't end with my spunk being plastered all over a WG's face, tits, ass, etc. Call me old fashioned but that's just the way I am.

[alenski]

Definitely. Orgasms are nice, but they are about 5% of the fun for me in a really good meet.

+1

[alenski]

one of the reasons i asked was because i met one girl with 4 years experience who told me i was the first guy she had met who couldn't cum,i must admit i was quite surprised but she was adamant. i always have good time when i go out [thanks to ukp] and i never feel under  pressure to perform.i see girls of every age,from18,19 all the way up to 50 and  i have never had the slightest bother with any of them.so of course, i expect to carry on as long as possible.

[Marmalade]

Good on the OP for sharing BUT ... in a constructive sense, what does the OP hope to get out of the question?

First up, ok, some male solidarity. UKP can be pretty good for that. Butdoes the OP just want sympathy or thoughts on how to tackle it?

I can only maybe offer a few suggestions which may or may not be of interest.

First choice:
a) learn to live with it and enjoy it anyway, as some have hinted at. Nowt wrong with that by the way. A lot of guys would live to be able to last longer without coming.
b) look into options to see if anything, and what, might make a difference.
c) combine both these. That way there's less pressure and it even becomes a win-win.

It's an ongoing area of research ...
(For the technically minded)
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Some other things that have cum up on the forum that could perhaps be relevant are:
i) guys saying they have difficulty coming with viagra
ii) guys saying they've had normal reactions in civvie street but not with prossies.

Viagra increases erection but not always automatic desire. Cock desire. It mostly provides a hard-on which needs to be 'relieved.'

Passion in civvie street can often involve an emotional connection, desire for a person on a deeper level that is also increased by being desired, and someone who 'knows what turns you on.' Sex with prossies, by comparison can be enjoyable on an athletic level or by buying into a some supposed 'connection.'

Some experiments, observing one's own reactions, might perhaps include...
>playing around with a civvie (but that can be a big challenge for an older person and outside the area of this forum).
>masturbation -- is coming still a difficulty or not?
>periods of abstinence -- no ejaculation even with self-stimulation after not thinking about it for a three or four weeks? (bear in mind that without viagra, sexual frequency can decrease with age anyway)
>related to this in some studies is lowering of testosterone levels. The NHS has a flawed policy on testosterone replacement therapy.

Going back to the other option, enjoying it anyway, some logical possibilities:
>B2B massage (warn the prossie that you don't always come. Not uncommon and she doesn't give a fuck as long as her ego doesn't think it's a criticism of her performance.)
>Tantric sex (which doesn't involve ejaculation). The prossie version usually just means 'lingam massage' or a slow, concentrated hand job.
>Enjoying some closet perv role plays. Just think of some dirty scenario and find prossies with the intelligence and acting ability to carry them through rather than just dress up as s French maid.

Hope that is maybe useful food for thought. If not, just accept some forum best wishes to enjoy your sexual encounters. Or take up dominoes.

[Blackpool Rock]

I don't think i'd bother tbh. Can't see the point of a punt if it doesn't end with my spunk being plastered all over a WG's face, tits, ass, etc. Call me old fashioned but that's just the way I am.

Exactly my thoughts it's all about the money shot for me which is why I tend to opt for 30 minute punts or 15 if they are on offer.
If I simply want to look at a good looking girl then I can watch porn

[Blackpool Rock]

one of the reasons i asked was because i met one girl with 4 years experience who told me i was the first guy she had met who couldn't cum,i must admit i was quite surprised but she was adamant. i always have good time when i go out [thanks to ukp] and i never feel under  pressure to perform.i see girls of every age,from18,19 all the way up to 50 and  i have never had the slightest bother with any of them.so of course, i expect to carry on as long as possible.

TBH I would have thought most girls would have simply lied and said don't worry about it as it happens sometimes etc.

I have had a few failures over the years, a couple of times not being able to quite cum but more often linked to not being able to get it up as hard as really needed.
On those occasions it's always been either because I didn't really fancy the girl or she wasn't as advertised / B&S etc or because i'm stressed, worrying when it happens and your trying to shag a stunner.

Just wonder if the OP has a link to the girl in question?

[WelshClipper]

Late seeing this post. Yep I will go out and punt as long as my mind is sound and my legs will carry me. The only change when I get really old is I will let the wg know ahead of time.

 That way she can buy less baby wipes

[anton11]

If you mean would I still Punt if I can't manage a full erection my answer would be yes I would still Punt as there are many other things you can do during your time together. I get as much pleasure in giving a young lady pleasure as receiving, also what is wrong with OWO you don't need a rock solid erection to enjoy that. Incidentally take a bottle of Baby oil with you, you will both have the time of your lives, good luck with this one.

[uutarn]

Yea i would still go.
Although i think i'm missing out on not giving facials everytime, the journey towards is far more enjoyable than the finish IMO. 

[WelshClipper]

Yea i would still go.
Although i think i'm missing out on not giving facials everytime, the journey towards is far more enjoyable than the finish IMO. 

My one facial just dribbled, not the power in the throttle that there used to be, haven't bothered since.

Did I just say that

[jackdaw]

Exactly my thoughts it's all about the money shot for me which is why I tend to opt for 30 minute punts or 15 if they are on offer.
If I simply want to look at a good looking girl then I can watch porn

But...patently..there's a ton of stuff eg. French kissing, fingering, water sports, reverse oral, an old fashioned snog, etc, etc that might be enjoyed that might or might not lead to cumming.

I'm really baffled that any experienced guy would see it as a big issue.

[Steptoe]

But...patently..there's a ton of stuff eg. French kissing, fingering, water sports, reverse oral, an old fashioned snog, etc, etc that might be enjoyed that might or might not lead to cumming.

I'm really baffled that any experienced guy would see it as a big issue.

Agree absolutely. The key word in your post is "experienced".  I can see the mental problem developing if a young guy suffered no/ poor cum or poor erection, but a more experienced punter will fully accept that there are many other pleasures that the ladies can offer. Sometimes those pleasure will, as Jackdaw says, lead to a surge of hormones and a nice surprise. A good hard-on and lots of cum every time would be nice but you just have to accept that life has other things to offer.  CIM or facial is something I have not managed for ---- maybe 25 years. 

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[5th Musketeer]

No fool like an old fool.   

We all pay for something different - it just depends on what turns you on and what you are looking for.  As long as we get what we want I see nothing wrong in that.

[uutarn]

My one facial just dribbled, not the power in the throttle that there used to be, haven't bothered since.

Did I just say that

Ha, i hear ya.
I need to edge a lot to get a spray and a session doesn't usually involve a lot of it, where as masturbation on the other hand...

[Hungarian Lover]

I can honestly say that I have only cum once in all my punts and that was only after abstaining from internet porn for 2 months and that was after the best blow job ever. I think the blue pill inhibits the ability to cum, I don't let it worry me to much as I get pleasure from meeting a complete stranger and fucking her whilst looking into her eyes, plus all the other pleasures RO, OWO  fingering both holes and her breasts and her body giving her a massage. So as long as I can still get it up , not a problem for me just something that comes with old age.