This is not an original post. The point has been made by a poster on PN and ignored. I've quoted it in passing elsewhere on this board. But I think it is too important not to mention in a thread of it's own.
For ladies reading:
IF A MAN IS CIRCUMCISED, START WITH A DOWNSTROKE, FROM PENIS TIP DOWN ALONG THE SHAFT.
IF A MAN IS UNCIRCUMCISED, START WITH AN UPWARD STROKE, FROM THE BASE TOWARDS THE TIP.
This is not a matter of 'everybody's different' (I'm sure they are). It's about underlying physiology. With an uncircumcised man, the tip of his penis is more sensitive. Masturbation is commonly achieved by moving the foreskin back and forth over the sensitive area. Not your hand. Think of it like your clit. Would you like me to pull it out from 'Go' and rub it hard for all it's worth??
There's no end of complaints in prossie-protected threads complaining about men doing that, isn't there? Do we turn round and say, "Oh well, every woman's different, you should just say if you want it touched differently." NO. We are expected - and with good reason - to learn some basics.
Dear, dear prossies: please wake up to the above notes. This is a male-dominated forum and I/we do not expect your thanks. You don't have to say you've been here.
Just demonstrate your superior hand technique next time we meet and we will be impressed!!! x x x
ps as most women are hardly likely to listen to anything they read here, I've included a bright red Wiki link to explain it nicely.
. . . . . . . BRIGHT RED WIKI LINK
Ladies please read the above. PRETTY please. Maybe even add a link to it on SAAFE or wherever you go for those nice girly chats!
I'm afraid some women get the mistaken idea, watching at close range before a facial, that men like rough treatment. Two things here, ladies. 1) You know when you're close, you maybe like it a bit stronger? Yeah well. Same. 2) Guess what. I can down a pint in a few seconds and shove a dangerous implement (a fork) into my mouth at considerable speed even when I'm pissed and famished. Basically cos I know exactly where my mouth is, the speed to pour without choking, and how where my tongue is at any given second. You don't. And your hand doesn't have a built-in sensory system connected to my brain.
Going back to the "Oh he would/should just tell me if I'm not doing it right," how about you ask?? For instance, "Show me how you like it done." And for guys - if you are confronted with one of those, "I know how to do this cos I've been doing it for 20 years" types, and if she definitely doesn't look like she's receptive enough to get it right (and apart from just technique, it could be her teeth scraping in a BJ or junk jewellery from previous marriages clunking up and down your shaft. There is an emergency piece of protective kit I keep handy, together with a suitable excuse. Condoms are not just there to stop babies and diseases.