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Deviant

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Imagine all you want VW. I have had plenty of opportunities to out punters and never had. I have organised a social on another forum and have the names and numbers of punters and women along with whatsapp pictures and have never sought to abuse that.

I do not have a problem with how you all act. I am very tolerant. I do recognise though that my behaviour and the behaviour of many here would be classed as a personality disorder. I thankfully never cheated on my ex wife.

Offline aazbo22

I thankfully never cheated on my ex wife.

No.... but I can guess why she left!
You don't know my situation - I love my wife a lot - she is my best friend. But a man has needs and in stead of me going out and getting into an affair - I've decided to do this.

vw

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I have had plenty of opportunities to out punters and never had.
Bet that made you feel powerful, why people would collect names for these sort of events is creepy and could be considered manipulating yourself into a power position, very narcasistic.

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Imagine all you want VW. I have had plenty of opportunities to out punters and never had. I have organised a social on another forum and have the names and numbers of punters and women along with whatsapp pictures and have never sought to abuse that.

I do not have a problem with how you all act. I am very tolerant. I do recognise though that my behaviour and the behaviour of many here would be classed as a personality disorder. I thankfully never cheated on my ex wife.

Didn't think you could cheat on an ex, but there you go.

Not quite sure what to make of you, but I don't think I'll have that problem for long unless I follow you to mumsnet.

Deviant

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VW, people tell me their names and encourage me to use them rather than their online handle. I need numbers so that I can call people if plans change or if we cannot find them in a busy venue (Soho at a weekend can be pretty hectic).

Nothing creepy at all unless you are a shut-in who never goes out or socialises and therefore never exchanges contact details.


Deviant

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Oh and mumsnet ban me within minutes. They always have done over there. You only need to bring up the subject of male inequality in the family courts and they quickly bin any thread and any talk of male issues.

Offline smiths

Bet that made you feel powerful, why people would collect names for these sort of events is creepy and could be considered manipulating yourself into a power position, very narcasistic.

Assuming its true it once again re-enforces what some of us already know, don't trust others with information that could identify you, or someone like this person might get hold of it, that's not something I would like after reading their shit on this thread in particular.

vw

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VW, people tell me their names and encourage me to use them rather than their online handle. I need numbers so that I can call people if plans change or if we cannot find them in a busy venue (Soho at a weekend can be pretty hectic).

Nothing creepy at all unless you are a shut-in who never goes out or socialises and therefore never exchanges contact details.
Take it it was only single punters you went out with !

Don't think you will get name numbers here !
« Last Edit: October 22, 2015, 02:37:04 pm by vw »

Deviant

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Yes mostly single punters but I really do not ask them married status. Not really relevant on a night out unless they bring their partner along.

I would gladly organise a social for this forum. People could sign up and then the venue details and time go out via pm. It might be a nearly all male affair given the nature of this forum (the other has more women) but I would have no issue with giving out my number to people who wanted to text/call whatsapp in the minutes/hours before the meeting.

Could be fun if you were not all married and paranoid.
« Last Edit: October 22, 2015, 02:42:14 pm by Deviant »

vw

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Yes mostly single punters but I really do not ask them married status. Not really relevant on a night out unless they bring their partner along.
So people really bring their partners out on a night out from a punting forum?

I've heard it all now !  :wackogirl: :wackogirl: :wackogirl: :wackogirl: :wackogirl: :wackogirl: :wackogirl:

Deviant

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Yes VW they do. I was even toying with the idea of taking a girlfriend who is not part of the punting scene to the last one. She was pretty relaxed about the whole scene and I thought introducing her to people would make her see that it was anything but the seedy and squalid world that people perceive it to be.

Offline smiths

Yes mostly single punters but I really do not ask them married status. Not really relevant on a night out unless they bring their partner along.

I would gladly organise a social for this forum. People could sign up and then the venue details and time go out via pm. It might be a nearly all male affair given the nature of this forum (the other has more women) but I would have no issue with giving out my number to people who wanted to text/call whatsapp in the minutes/hours before the meeting.

Could be fun if you were not all married and paranoid.

Classic, if hell froze over I wouldn't be interested in any social you wanted to organise on here. :rolleyes:

Deviant

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It takes balls to go out in public with sex workers and punters.

vw

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Yes VW they do. I was even toying with the idea of taking a girlfriend who is not part of the punting scene to the last one. She was pretty relaxed about the whole scene and I thought introducing her to people would make her see that it was anything but the seedy and squalid world that people perceive it to be.
Are you a bipolar narcissist (Seems diagnosis is your fetish), your tone has flipped 180 ?  Why would you be punting or looking on punting forums when you have a GF, only ask because of your previous comments.

Unless your just a plain fantasist.

Offline Jimmyredcab

Yes mostly single punters but I really do not ask them married status. Not really relevant on a night out unless they bring their partner along.

I would gladly organise a social for this forum. People could sign up and then the venue details and time go out via pm. It might be a nearly all male affair given the nature of this forum (the other has more women) but I would have no issue with giving out my number to people who wanted to text/call whatsapp in the minutes/hours before the meeting.

Could be fun if you were not all married and paranoid.

Most punters on here are paranoid, they even park up six blocks away from the punt.    :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

vw

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It takes balls to go out in public with sex workers and punters.
Not really, because when they are out they are all off duty !  They are just people who happen to be out with you.  Hardly brave or revolutionary.

cockneybstrd

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Imagine all you want VW. I have had plenty of opportunities to out punters and never had. I have organised a social on another forum and have the names and numbers of punters and women along with whatsapp pictures and have never sought to abuse that.

I do not have a problem with how you all act. I am very tolerant. I do recognise though that my behaviour and the behaviour of many here would be classed as a personality disorder. I thankfully never cheated on my ex wife.

Why would it cross your mind to even think about outing other punters ?

Do you think you would be happier interacting with your mates from other forums ?. Who perhaps share your ethos and sensibilites and of course will celebrate your importance and happily massage your ego ?

Offline smiths

Most punters on here are paranoid, they even park up six blocks away from the punt.    :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Incorrect, some of us are careful as we don't wish to get caught out, its the smart thing to be if you have anything to lose by being found out as a punter. :rolleyes: As ever with you you can only see your own circumstances. :rolleyes: No need at all to park six blocks away either. :rolleyes:

Offline Sir Lance-a-lot

Well, my sympathy is with the married punters on this issue.  Many of them have kids, and many are now getting little or no sex at home.

If a man doesn't have the willpower or the inclination to remain celibate for the rest of his life, and chooses NOT to abandon his family, how does that make him a narcissist?

I also wouldn't call a man "unfaithful" if he chooses to remain in a sexless marriage.  He is being faithful to his family,  doing his duty as a father, regardless of who he's shagging.  Whereas his wife is being unfaithful to HIM.

Deviant

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The joys of being middle aged and single. You just throw normal conventions aside and jump into bed with anyone. Girlfriend is a general term where as if you want me to spell it out she was more of a fuck buddy. She came to me for sex and vice-versa. She knew I saw other women and I even told her I punt. She was good with that and was even curious and wondered if it would work out for her and her needs.

vw

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The joys of being middle aged and single.
I had you down as a joyless teen.

cockneybstrd

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- Social meets
None will be sanctioned by the admin and not allowed to be organised on the forums. Use the PM facility instead to organize such meet ups.

But if you want a drink PM me Devo I reckon I would pissing myself with laughter at you on a night out
« Last Edit: October 22, 2015, 03:05:48 pm by cockneybstrd »

vw

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But if you want a drink PM me Devo I reckon I would pissing myself with laughter at you on night out
Can imagine Dev on the black rat down this way !

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Deviant

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Well if there is enough interest then a London social in a venue in Soho could be arranged. Time it to coincide with football on a saturday or after work.

cockneybstrd

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Well if there is enough interest then a London social in a venue in Soho could be arranged. Time it to coincide with football on a saturday or after work.

Soho is shit full of tourists and cunts and has way too much CCTV and old bill presence for an evening out...


vw

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Soho is shit full of tourists and cunts and has way too much CCTV and old bill presence for an evening out...
Come to the country, no old bill, great cider.  Sleep in the barn, fuck i we can have a barn dance and catch your own barbecue !

Hawkwind71

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I do not need to know what goes on in your marriage. If you are sneeking around behind your partners back and lying then those are the actions of a narcissist. You are not alone. That is about 1 in 10 adult males.

This forum is predominantly narcissists. I am one and am trying to lessen the damage of my actions to the people around me. I would never marry again because I recognise I am too selfish and lack self control.

I find this to be rather self righteous bullshit. Walk a mile in my shoes buddy and then preach. :mad:

Offline aazbo22

Deviant..... Ur just full of s*#t
This thread was just for the risks - not your personal opinion on married people punting
Just jog on and preach somewhere else

vw

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I find this to be rather self righteous bullshit. Walk a mile in my shoes buddy and then preach. :mad:
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Timmy2

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Fuckin hell, I spend the day in the garden and come back on and you are all kickin the shit out of each other....
Calm down and have a Punt
 :drinks:
Raddy

vw

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Fuckin hell, I spend the day in the garden and come back on and you are all kickin the shit out of each other....
Calm down and have a Punt
 :drinks:
Raddy
Deviant won't allow the married narcissists have none R/Daddy

Timmy2

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Deviant won't allow the married narcissists have none R/Daddy
Cheers Dude
Just don't tell him, go behind his back

Raddy

baretta

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Well if there is enough interest then a London social in a venue in Soho could be arranged. Time it to coincide with football on a saturday or after work.

I wonder how many people will agree to this and meet up

Offline akauya

Amazing, we have now our own resident armchair psychiatrist, who's not only collecting punters' real names and mobile numbers (who knows for what reason, asianbeast anyone?) but wants us to join him on a social...

Come on boys let's form an orderly queue   :sarcastic:

Hawkwind71

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Amazing, we have now our own resident armchair psychiatrist, who's not only collecting punters' real names and mobile numbers (who knows for what reason, asianbeast anyone?) but wants us to join him on a social...

Come on boys let's form an orderly queue   :sarcastic:

Fucking brilliant !!

 I'm first in line but only after my next six punts.

 :yahoo:

Deviant

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Damm and Akauya was top of my list of people I wanted to meet! I was going to whatsapp my Soho regulars and ask them to come and join the two of us for drinks. Me, Akauya and half a dozen young women.

baretta

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Damm and Akauya was top of my list of people I wanted to meet! I was going to whatsapp my Soho regulars and ask them to come and join the two of us for drinks. Me, Akauya and half a dozen young women.

Deviant count me in as well  :drinks:

Hawkwind71

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Come to the country, no old bill, great cider.  Sleep in the barn, fuck i we can have a barn dance and catch your own barbecue !

Now that would be a lot more fun. And we could invite all our favourite prossiez.

Oh and I wont even tell the OH so she dont feel left out.
« Last Edit: October 22, 2015, 09:27:52 pm by Hawkwind71 »

Deviant

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So much paranoia on this forum. It feels like North Korea at times.

No harm in people meeting socially. You boys are all a bit too tense and nervous about the whole thing so fair enough. I have no issues with being seen out in the company of other adults. I also do not need to explain my actions to anyone. Marriage......

Offline dboy74

I guess Quesadilla has returned  :rolleyes:

yorkshire123

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So much paranoia on this forum. It feels like North Korea at times.

No harm in people meeting socially. You boys are all a bit too tense and nervous about the whole thing so fair enough. I have no issues with being seen out in the company of other adults. I also do not need to explain my actions to anyone. Marriage......

You are getting quite adept at having a dig at this forum so some reason, what's your motive?

What's wrong did mummy take you off the tit too early  :(

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What's wrong did mummy take you off the tit too early  :(
Fucking lol!

LL

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I guess Quesadilla has returned  :rolleyes:
It's definitely someone who's been here before under a different name. Can't yet figure out who it is. All this wanting to meet people is a bit fishy - like he has another agenda. And the reference to another forum. I don't think it's Quesadilla as he spent 2k a month on punting (apparently) and this bloke's one review is of a £90-whore. Could be West8. He's probably feeling pretty lonely by now since being driven away from this place and is desperate to make friends.   

LL

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Actually I've just remembered how judgemental Quesadillas was and highly critical of married punters. So you might be right dboy.

Didn't mean to derail the thread. Back on topic. OP. What you're prepared to risk is your business. Personally I only do vanilla punting and no OWO. Seeing as my wife and I hardly ever have sex I risked OWO a couple of times but had a full sexual health screening, two weeks after each OWO session and before having sex with my wife again. So I didn't put her at risk (other than the minimal risk of me catching something even on my vanilla punts with OW). However that was more hassle than it's worth plus I would have a bad experience that put me off doing it again.

Offline Watts.E.Dunn

Has anyone ever known of a case of passing a STI to the wife or other half at all?.

LL

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Has anyone ever known of a case of passing a STI to the wife or other half at all?.
I can remember reading about a couple of incidents on a different forum. One bloke caught herpes and gave it to his wife. I imagine that most times a punter infects his wife with something caught from punting, he's not likely to come here and announce it. That's true of STIs in general. But with the added complication of infecting the wife. Most would just disappear from here without a word I reckon. Others might stay but keep the news to themselves. Seems like a fairly private matter afterall. Not something a punter would want everyone gossiping about on the Internet.

Offline claretandblue

I flagged deviant as a previously banned poster when he signed up,I strongly believe this is the case...

As for him suggesting arranging a social, good luck with that. ..

massage4u2

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I do it for a lot of reasons and I am hardly a narcissist. I am 51 yo with a declining libido and a slowly expanding belly. I am happily married with a good sex life and lovely children. The notion of contracting an STD and passing it on to my wife is horrifying. It begs a lot of ethical questions mainly related to trust. On the subject of ethics and guilt, the money I spend on this hobby could obviously be better invested in my kids. So why do I continue to do it if I am haunted by my own personal ethics? Simple. It's exciting. It is precisely because of the danger, of hooking up with young and otherwise unattainable wgs, of meeting clandestinely at some apartment, the anticipation of her appearance, the disgust of the bait-and-switch, the fun of not understanding a word of her foriegn language, and of course the lovely massages that come with it. There is so much going on. It's a fucking head rush especially if you can "get away with it". It's the sheer thrill of it that gives me a sense of my own mortality and makes me feel very much alive.

Offline Cuntminion

Married people are crazy if they do OWO or any kind of kissing. You guys catch herpes and that 30 minute shag will cost you dearly.

If you want to sleep around then do the right thing and end the marriage. Lying and sleeping with prostitutes is not compatible with being married. Only a narcissist thinks they can act in that way and that the betrayal is somehow acceptable.

Moralistic wanker

I'm not in a relationship and if I was wouldn't punt but don't preach regardless because that was not the question

Also your diagnosis of people is absolute bollocks