Never married, and "kind of looking for a relationship" man giving his view here.
But in my 40's, I'm not quite what I was in my late 20s when I had still never asked a woman out ... they asked me (seriously!!). Now, all that's on the shelf are bitter divorcees or women who, like me, didn't marry because they are a little odd. And to boot, I'm bald, overweight and have a recurring skin problem,
I can put hours and hours and 30 quid a month into a decent online dating service, possibly getting one date a month. The date generally works out at between 50 and 100 (sometimes a second date would be about half that) and on the second, if there is one, you usually get the "well, you know I said I was separated? Well, I'm THINKING of leaving him ..." And no guarantee of anything else
OR ... I can pop on here, get some recommendations, choose a woman who's way out of my league on civvy street, who will suck me dry, fuck me senseless, and do her damnedest to repeat that in an hour, with the sole intention of getting me back into her bedroom as soon as possible!
Sometimes, it's not a difficult decision