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jolder

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Just read the thread about reviewing your OH

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=61278.0

Which got me thinking, for those of you that do have OH, how often do you have sex with your OH?

spkmstr48

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In an ideal world, less often than Christmas  :lol:

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Offline Mansell

As often as she'll let me, so once every blue moon  :thumbsdown: why do you think a lot of us are here ?

Hawkwind71

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Stopped when her medical condition kicked in.

Really had no choice, can't imagine she thought I could live the celibate life. But that is probably what she imagines.

Not a chance, it's why I'm here cos she wasn't bad most of married life.

I think this is a common story when the missus stops giving at home.

....and you know how the WG's say 'unlimited cums' well for me it's unlimited punts.   end of.
« Last Edit: September 07, 2015, 01:02:12 pm by Hawkwind71 »

Offline anyfucker

7th of never right through to the 15th of ain't gonna happen   :diablo:

Offline threechilliman

I think I'm one of the lucky ones as I still shag Mrs tcm on a regular basis. Average is probably 2-3 times a week but it varies due to circumstances and opportunity. Glad to say she's booked me for this evening!!

I punt for variety and to fulfil the fantasies I can't do with her.

tcm

jolder

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The reason I ask is I'm wandering whether it is normal for sex to disappear when you have been in a relationship with someone for a long time.  I've been in a relationship for 7 years and the sex stopped a long time ago.  Mainly because I no longer felt sexually attracted to her - partly physical, partly emotional.  Everything else is perfect and I'm attracted to her in every other way eg. personality, sense of humour etc. which is why it has gone on for so long but I'm thinking I may need to call an end to it.  I need that sexual attraction.  Or maybe everyone experiences the same in a relationship?

Offline pianodave

You' always get the odd couple who keep shagging away for years, but the norm seems to be for sex to die off pretty quickly. Most people just seem to get bored of the same body, and I also think as friendship/companionship takes over, it takes the place of sexual attraction. We don't tend to find our mates attractive.

johnnyboy61

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I normally find that for some reason the OH is absolutely rampant and gagging for it and sex is available on tap when there's a K in the month.

January, February, March................ah that explains it then!!  :dash:

jolder

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I normally find that for some reason the OH is absolutely rampant and gagging for it and sex is available on tap when there's a K in the month.

January, February, March................ah that explains it then!!  :dash:

Buy a Polish calendar  :D

jolder

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You' always get the odd couple who keep shagging away for years, but the norm seems to be for sex to die off pretty quickly. Most people just seem to get bored of the same body, and I also think as friendship/companionship takes over, it takes the place of sexual attraction. We don't tend to find our mates attractive.

I think you might be right although I don't think I've figured that out yet.  The friendship/companionship side to my relationship is as good as it could get.  But can't help thinking shouldn't you be sexually attracted to your partner?

Offline Mansell

The reason I ask is I'm wandering whether it is normal for sex to disappear when you have been in a relationship with someone for a long time.  I've been in a relationship for 7 years and the sex stopped a long time ago.  Mainly because I no longer felt sexually attracted to her - partly physical, partly emotional.  Everything else is perfect and I'm attracted to her in every other way eg. personality, sense of humour etc. which is why it has gone on for so long but I'm thinking I may need to call an end to it.  I need that sexual attraction.  Or maybe everyone experiences the same in a relationship?

If it's totally stopped then I reckon you have got a problem.

I'm still sexually attracted to my'n and would not be doing this if she put out more often, but once through the dreaded menapause it came to a bit of a menaSTOP. We have been together a very long time, otherwise I would be gone.

Offline regular_guy

its a strange conundrum i've never got my head around - once every 6 weeks or so,  and to be honest,  It's very good.  I guess with most couples it kind of died out when the kids were small,  but has never really got more frequent now they're all grown up and out of the house a lot.

But the normal rules apply,  after 10pm,  lights out,  nowhere but the bedroom  :(

Offline JR

One caveat - I am no longer married so don't exactly fit the OP's criteria but we were together for over 30 years
We started as 17 year olds, were quite rampant but had enforced separations so the old absence makes the heart grow fonder/dick grow harder maxim held true
We married at 21 and had already dropped to 1-2x week
By our late 20’s this became about one ‘session’ a month – however this was quite passionate and quite intense and stretched over a couple of days, probably 4 to 6 times in 48hrs and I never felt the need to go elsewhere (only window shopped).
It stayed this way until she started her affair in her late 40’s when it stopped dead, I thought it was because her parent was dying but as it turned out…
Been happily punting since the divorce

Offline Happylad

You' always get the odd couple who keep shagging away for years, but the norm seems to be for sex to die off pretty quickly. .

My OH and I were one of the odd couples. Even in our 70s it was once or twice a week. The very last time was on our golden wedding day (we were both 75). After that she was too ill with cancer and she died 4 months later.

Offline RedKettle

I don't understand the title to this thread!!??

Enough said.

Offline Rich42

I think you might be right although I don't think I've figured that out yet.  The friendship/companionship side to my relationship is as good as it could get.  But can't help thinking shouldn't you be sexually attracted to your partner?

I agree with you Jolder and it's been bugging me for ages. Me and my wife last had sex when i was 26...i'm now 42. Friends seem surprised that i've stayed in a marriage with no sex for 16 years. I used to say that while it was very disappointing to not have sex we were like soul mates in every other way. But we're now at a point where we don't get on like we used to, we sleep in different bedrooms etc... it's more like we're housemates. I suppose we stay together cos none of us can be bothered to do anything about it. But i know what you're saying..... it's not right is it?  :(

Offline anyfucker

You' always get the odd couple who keep shagging away for years, but the norm seems to be for sex to die off pretty quickly. Most people just seem to get bored of the same body, and I also think as friendship/companionship takes over, it takes the place of sexual attraction. We don't tend to find our mates attractive.
people typically go through different phases of attraction with different chemistry oyxtocin, dopamine (romantic aren't I :-)
Lust - you might well be attracted to someone for sex who is completely incompatible,  strength in diverse genes and all that.
How long does it last? from until you sober up to a couple of years or have a child. This is when you want to shag all the time and just feel "as one" - bliss.
Once the rose tints have worn off then adapting to your partner, going through trials, acceptance ..... or splitting up.

Offline stayer

I read some months ago what I believe to be a true story.

This guy would make an advance but get an elbow in his ribs - except twice a year when she got on heat and demanded sex immediately.

He wasn't thinking of leaving her because she was otherwise a good wife and good mother to the kids.

Hawkwind71

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I agree with you Jolder and it's been bugging me for ages. Me and my wife last had sex when i was 26...i'm now 42. Friends seem surprised that i've stayed in a marriage with no sex for 16 years. I used to say that while it was very disappointing to not have sex we were like soul mates in every other way. But we're now at a point where we don't get on like we used to, we sleep in different bedrooms etc... it's more like we're housemates. I suppose we stay together cos none of us can be bothered to do anything about it. But i know what you're saying..... it's not right is it?  :(

I feel your pain. Mine lasted to 50. Then I had a dry patch. Now punting heaven and wouldn't change a thing. We don't get along anymore but she would be devastated if we split. Security and comfort of a marriage. Go figure.

Machinegundummy

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Yep my missus has not let me touch her since the kid was born 7 years ago!
Wanking over internet porn just does not cut it anymore had my first punt today.
First of many i hope.

Got a big smile on my face right now  :D

Even the missus is wondering why im so happy as normally im a misery guts.

Offline dizietsmae

I think I'm one of the lucky ones as I still shag Mrs tcm on a regular basis. Average is probably 2-3 times a week but it varies due to circumstances and opportunity. Glad to say she's booked me for this evening!!

I punt for variety and to fulfil the fantasies I can't do with her.

tcm

Ditto  :drinks:

SirFrank

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I guess most of us punt because of inactivity at home. Reading some of the posts above I think some of you need to ask yourself 1 question - are you happy to stay a sexless relationship for the rest of your life? If the answer is no then you need to think whether it's time to draw a line under things and move on.

Offline SJ772

I'm also one of the seemingly few lucky ones, I'd say on average full sex 2-3 times a week with the Mrs, plus normally bag a couple of BJs in there most weeks, then again I only punt about once a month, would be very frustrated (and broke) if sex with the Mrs dries up.

Offline itk

I agree with you Jolder and it's been bugging me for ages. Me and my wife last had sex when i was 26...i'm now 42. Friends seem surprised that i've stayed in a marriage with no sex for 16 years. I used to say that while it was very disappointing to not have sex we were like soul mates in every other way. But we're now at a point where we don't get on like we used to, we sleep in different bedrooms etc... it's more like we're housemates. I suppose we stay together cos none of us can be bothered to do anything about it. But i know what you're saying..... it's not right is it?  :(

Very similar situation myself, early 40's and been together for 17 years. Not in separate bedrooms, but we never speak, if we do it'll last five minutes before she hits the fucking roof shouting and screaming. She's barely ever at home anyway, always around her friends or mums, only ever civil in front of our kids.
If I had the money I'd buy out our mortgage and boot her out, as for sex it's been about three occasions this year. Same tired routine, RO for ages followed by OWO for about 2 minutes, then one position with zero movement from her. The last time I never even came, stopped and said its a waste of fucking time.

jolder

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A lot of these replies seem to involve the wife not being keen or responsive despite the husband trying or initiating sex.  Or a breakdown in communication eg. no longer talking or living in separate rooms.

My situations different,  I could probably have sex every night of the week if I wanted with someone I get on really well with.  Problem is I just don't think I'm that sexually attracted to her anymore so don't want to have sex.

foreverandever

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Almost in tears reading this post. No need to spill your guts on here about why you do what you do with brass, just do it. We all know why we are here.

Hawkwind71

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I guess most of us punt because of inactivity at home. Reading some of the posts above I think some of you need to ask yourself 1 question - are you happy to stay a sexless relationship for the rest of your life? If the answer is no then you need to think whether it's time to draw a line under things and move on.

The problem is the damage it would do to the kids. Theyre just setting up in life. Wouldn't want to upset that. I am not avaricious but I also see less punting money if we had an acrimonious divource. I get enuf punts now to be content as things are.

Hawkwind71

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Almost in tears reading this post. No need to spill your guts on here about why you do what you do with brass, just do it. We all know why we are here.

I see your point forever.

But there are a lot of 'lurkers' on ukp trying to figure out what to do in a stale marriage, possibly considering a punting career. I think sharing these issue helps others. Some then join in and have the courage to speak. We are not a charity but I have been helped immensely by the honesty on here.

Offline Enons

My story is very similar to eveyones.......late 40s been together 10 years......great at first, now its about once every 6 weeks due to her mood swings and menopause......dont get me wrong, shes a great cook, shes quite witty ( when she aint moody) and we are like soulmates..........i dont really fancy her that much anymore sexualy, shes put weight on, started smoking again ......why dont i leave her?.....because of the dog, yeah i know its stupid but that little fella is my world ....hes the only one whos pleased to see me when i get home from work, loyal and makes me smile........if i leave the dog stays with her ( it was her dog b4 we met)......i guess thats why i punt!

Hawkwind71

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And let's all be honest, there is a game to be had here. The thrill of the chase. The caveman instinct. The Dick Turpin. The three muskateers. Out on the town with Owen Wilson drunk as lords. I am sure the single lads on here must be laughing. But I get a definite thrill after I've shagged a punt then nonchalantly walked in the door and said 'so whats for supper' having got away with it .....AGAIN.

spkmstr48

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And let's all be honest, there is a game to be had here. The thrill of the chase. The caveman instinct. The Dick Turpin. The three muskateers. Out on the town with Owen Wilson drunk as lords. I am sure the single lads on here must be laughing. But I get a definite thrill after I've shagged a punt then nonchalantly walked in the door and said 'so whats for supper' having got away with it .....AGAIN.

I think for me being single would take away some of the thrill, not all but some.

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Tony Montana

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Very rarely, maybe once every 2 months, but sometimes she gets the horn.

The last time was when I'd just been to an LMP party and had cum 4 times there.  I was on the train home absolutely shagged out and she sends me a pic of herself in stockings and fuck-me shoes so I had to perform for a 5th time that evening. 

spkmstr48

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Very rarely, maybe once every 2 months, but sometimes she gets the horn.

The last time was when I'd just been to an LMP party and had cum 4 times there.  I was on the train home absolutely shagged out and she sends me a pic of herself in stockings and fuck-me shoes so I had to perform for a 5th time that evening.

Haha! Love to have seen your face when you got the photo  :lol:

 :drinks: :diablo: :lol:

Offline pianodave

These threads are real eye openers. Good reading for younger guys thinking of marriage, who probably haven't considered that they are likely signing up to celibacy.
« Last Edit: September 08, 2015, 11:42:57 am by pianodave »

Hawkwind71

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These threads are real eye openers. Good reading for younger guys thinking of marriage, who probably haven't considered that they are likely signing up to celibacy.

There but for the grace of God, go I.

....or something like that.

Offline socks

Never get fuck all, so thanks to porn and punting for keeping me active! Some have asked why not move onto someone else so as not to be in a sexless relationship? If there were guarantees that we'd be shagging forever I'd perhaps be tempted. But for me I can tolerate it, we have kids, decent house, nice friends, no hassle with either of us going off doing other things etc. So as I see it and the almost inevitable decline in fucking with every woman, why go through all the upheaval and hassle just to end up in the same place with someone else? Buy a fuck now and again, wank off to porn in between times, job's a good (enough) 'un in my world

Oberyn1

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I am intrigued. When guys here say they are only seeing escorts because of lack of action at home, surely you prefer banging hot young women though? :D no offence to your other halves because i'm sure they're nice enough, but would you be fully satisfied even if you were getting it from the wife on a regular?

Offline socks

I am intrigued. When guys here say they are only seeing escorts because of lack of action at home, surely you prefer banging hot young women though? :D no offence to your other halves because i'm sure they're nice enough, but would you be fully satisfied even if you were getting it from the wife on a regular?
Fair point I overlooked that in my own personal reflection. Addendum: I also love being able to fuck different women and do things with them that I'd never have done with the/a OH. Can't imagine punting would cease altogether even if I did get lots of action in a relationship again.

Offline Mansell

I am intrigued. When guys here say they are only seeing escorts because of lack of action at home, surely you prefer banging hot young women though? :D no offence to your other halves because i'm sure they're nice enough, but would you be fully satisfied even if you were getting it from the wife on a regular?

It may not be as great as a young WG, but at least she is keeping her side of the bargain, so I would accept that.

fredpunter

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I am intrigued. When guys here say they are only seeing escorts because of lack of action at home, surely you prefer banging hot young women though? :D no offence to your other halves because i'm sure they're nice enough, but would you be fully satisfied even if you were getting it from the wife on a regular?

I would never have started if my mrs was a bit keener and/or more adventurous .... but having started I can't imagine stopping until my libido dies (which may not be much longer) 

Offline charger70

Whilst I am in the same boat as the majority who have posted  on this thread, Sex is only one aspect to a marriage, and if you can adjust to dealing with that, then the rest can be absolutely fine.

It took me a long tine to work out the punting deal, but now having brought that into the mix, life has taken a turn for the better.

I can only assume that others here have arrived at the same conclusion, I suspect none of us could be assed with an affair!







Hawkwind71

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I would never have started if my mrs was a bit keener and/or more adventurous .... but having started I can't imagine stopping until my libido dies (which may not be much longer)

I think this is the centre of the issue. If my missus had continued I would never have punted. But I wouldn't stop now even if she became a PSE sex goddess. I love fucking lots of women of any age 18 to 48. :cool:

My wife could never aspire to that variety.....

Offline Frenchie

Stopped having any sexual activity for the last two years .A friend told me about AW and that was it . I only punt about six times a year..but I cherish my times with my regular WG  ..I look forward to it ... look back on the photos and video I take and although I have a good relationship with my wife , -I truly believe that if I hadn't discovered punting I'd have walked out .

I'm not a nasty person ..but I also get a bit of  satisfaction that when punting , I'm 'getting my own back ' Mrs Frenchie probably thinks I've just given up ...well I have in a way  ..because punting means I am less frustrated , better tempered ,and generally a happy bunny .

Offline Access

My marriage sucks too. She's never interested in me sexually and it causes rows. I've considered saying I'll get it elsewhere and we can carry on being married, to keep things honest. Have any of you "got permission" to punt as it'd keep you together and she knows she doesn't want sex anymore?

Offline Boundless

The reason I ask is I'm wandering whether it is normal for sex to disappear when you have been in a relationship with someone for a long time.  I've been in a relationship for 7 years and the sex stopped a long time ago.  Mainly because I no longer felt sexually attracted to her - partly physical, partly emotional.  Everything else is perfect and I'm attracted to her in every other way eg. personality, sense of humour etc. which is why it has gone on for so long but I'm thinking I may need to call an end to it.  I need that sexual attraction.  Or maybe everyone experiences the same in a relationship?

Don't wish to be nosey but you are the OP.

In the relationship 7 years and the sex stopped "a long time ago", sounds like you didn't have much of a window there.
I've been with the Mrs for 28 years but we had well over 20 years of shagging.
May I enquire what age you are?

Offline Boundless

Very rarely, maybe once every 2 months, but sometimes she gets the horn.

The last time was when I'd just been to an LMP party and had cum 4 times there.  I was on the train home absolutely shagged out and she sends me a pic of herself in stockings and fuck-me shoes so I had to perform for a 5th time that evening.

Fucking hell mate - I salute you!

Reminds me of the Vicar of Dibley episode where she had to eat 3 Christmas dinners!

Offline dizietsmae

Fair point I overlooked that in my own personal reflection. Addendum: I also love being able to fuck different women and do things with them that I'd never have done with the/a OH. Can't imagine punting would cease altogether even if I did get lots of action in a relationship again.

Ditto  :drinks:

Hawkwind71

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My marriage sucks too. She's never interested in me sexually and it causes rows. I've considered saying I'll get it elsewhere and we can carry on being married, to keep things honest. Have any of you "got permission" to punt as it'd keep you together and she knows she doesn't want sex anymore?

No, but if she ever finds out, I'll throw it in her face. That's why I usually say if I were outed it would be an inconvenience not a disaster. Her fault, but no going back now even if she became PSE ho of the year. Horse has already bolted.

Offline Mansell

No, but if she ever finds out, I'll throw it in her face. That's why I usually say if I were outed it would be an inconvenience not a disaster. Her fault, but no going back now even if she became PSE ho of the year. Horse has already bolted.
I think you are right, I would really struggle to stop seeing my regular WG.