Swingers

[Rod trotter]

Ever signed up to a site? Had any succes?

Seems like unless you are gym fit and hung like a pornstar you have no chance as a single male

Amazing how many fat munters whom id never fuck in a million years seem to have been fucked by young hung stallions, its baffling to me(free fuck?)

Seems like a lot of hard work/patience to even get a sniff of a fuck

[SirFrank]

Yes and yes. Swingingheaven. It's a lot of work for very little success. Had many meets with mainly couples and a few single women. However, sites are full of men and bullshitters. It became too tedious in the end and you are usually dancing to someone else's tune. I packed it in 5 years ago. My advice - don't bother

[Rod trotter]

Yes and yes. Swingingheaven. It's a lot of work for very little success. Had many meets with mainly couples and a few single women. However, sites are full of men and bullshitters. It became too tedious in the end and you are usually dancing to someone else's tune. I packed it in 5 years ago. My advice - don't bother

Did you wait long to get a meet? Assuming you are single.

The profiles of some of the woman are rank, they sound like right picky fuckers who in truth would never get a look in if the truth was known

[Tiger63]

For me the sites are shite.Full of weirdo`s who think they are super studs.
 I was invited by an ex work colleague who knew I was looking at getting into the swinging scene.
Him and his Mrs went to a place in Leeds once a month and took me down one night...quite an experience.
I became a bit of a regular for a few years.
Most places will allow a set number of single guys in but you will pay for it...and you will be getting watched by members about how you behave.

[SirFrank]

Did you wait long to get a meet? Assuming you are single.

The profiles of some of the woman are rank, they sound like right picky fuckers who in truth would never get a look in if the truth was known

It depended - I usually had a few email exchanges and usually arranged No strings neutral meet to establish if I (and they) wanted to take things further. Any genuinely interested doesn't get embroiled in endless ping pong emails or excuses not to meet/cancellations. You soon get a nose for bullshit and there's a lot of bullshit out there. In my experience many people fantasise about swinging but prefer the fantasy to the reality and can't go through with it. I wasted too much time tbh. Also with couples you tend to find one person is trying to please the other, which made me v uncomfortable. I only met a few couples who were both genuinely into swinging.

Many sites now also require payment. Registration is usually free and you can often advertise for free but you have to pay to read your messages. You tend to get mysteriously inundated with messages on such sites, which are the proverbial fishing hooks. If you pay you'll probably find they are winks from members that don't really exist.

I had a lot of fun over about 5 years or so but that generally took a lot of effort and it become too much effort for too little reward. Lots of sites out there now and as you say there's a lot of horror stories too re adverts from chunks.

[Rod trotter]

It depended - I usually had a few email exchanges and usually arranged No strings neutral meet to establish if I (and they) wanted to take things further. Any genuinely interested doesn't get embroiled in endless ping pong emails or excuses not to meet/cancellations. You soon get a nose for bullshit and there's a lot of bullshit out there. In my experience many people fantasise about swinging but prefer the fantasy to the reality and can't go through with it. I wasted too much time tbh. Also with couples you tend to find one person is trying to please the other, which made me v uncomfortable. I only met a few couples who were both genuinely into swinging.

Many sites now also require payment. Registration is usually free and you can often advertise for free but you have to pay to read your messages. You tend to get mysteriously inundated with messages on such sites, which are the proverbial fishing hooks. If you pay you'll probably find they are winks from members that don't really exist.

I had a lot of fun over about 5 years or so but that generally took a lot of effort and it become too much effort for too little reward. Lots of sites out there now and as you say there's a lot of horror stories too re adverts from chunks.

Great stuff, the whole "scene" sounds a heap of wasted time for fuck all.and you pay for it via fees and the social meets.....fuck that

[Tiger63]

In 3 years that I was on fabswingers I got 1 shag....absolute waste of time.

[TheNewSeeker]

A timely thread.

I have been mulling the idea of stumping up for External Link/Members Only (not using a credit card since the AshMad malaki, but they take paysafecard vouchers).

Still tempted, but thanks for head up. Anyone used this site?

 

[SirFrank]

In 3 years that I was on fabswingers I got 1 shag....absolute waste of time.

Top of my head calculation I'd say I probably had around 10 seperate meets (a few couples and one woman I met a few times) over 5-6 years

[Tiger63]

A timely thread.

I have been mulling the idea of stumping up for External Link/Members Only (not using a credit card since the AshMad malaki, but they take paysafecard vouchers).

Still tempted, but thanks for head up. Anyone used this site?

 

Never heard of it mate but as Sir Frank says you will probably get messages from non existing members to get you interested but they never lead to anything.
If you are seriously thinking about it then I would recommend contacting a local club and see what the chances are of getting on their list for the next meeting

[smiths]

Ever signed up to a site? Had any succes?

Seems like unless you are gym fit and hung like a pornstar you have no chance as a single male

Amazing how many fat munters whom id never fuck in a million years seem to have been fucked by young hung stallions, its baffling to me(free fuck?)

Seems like a lot of hard work/patience to even get a sniff of a fuck

According the rules Swinging is an Off-Topic subject on here. If you go as a couple you have a lot more chance than as a single male unless your good looking and prepared to play the chatting up game. There are also often cliques in swinging which exclude single males unless the women find them attractive. I require a guaranteed fuck so punting is far better in my view for ME.

[jcdmj12]

Swinging heaven seems pretty legit; have had a profile on their for donkey's years, but never tried to arrange a meet. It started off as a free site run by people 'in the scene'.

My observation is that swinging on sites like that seems to be a lot about socialising with each other as well as just fucking random people, which is a lot of hassle if you just want a shag, and they seem to filter people like that out anyway.

There is also the opposite situation for black men; whereas a lot of prossies won't see them, a lot of swingers seem obsessed with BBC (and not the public broadcaster).

I remember meeting a couple when I was with a girl who was interested in such things, and my experience mirrored SirFranks - one seemed a lot more into it than the other, and the whole thing felt a bit creepy tbh, so didn't proceed.

[willbred]

Hot on the heels of Ashley Madison?? No chance am I signing up to any dating or similar sites. Mind, I wasn't before AM blew up.

[jcdmj12]

Hot on the heels of Ashley Madison?? No chance am I signing up to any dating or similar sites. Mind, I wasn't before AM blew up.

 Why not?  It's not like you have to use a real identity.

[SirFrank]

Swinging heaven seems pretty legit; have had a profile on their for donkey's years, but never tried to arrange a meet. It started off as a free site run by people 'in the scene'.

My observation is that swinging on sites like that seems to be a lot about socialising with each other as well as just fucking random people, which is a lot of hassle if you just want a shag, and they seem to filter people like that out anyway.

I joined when it was free then it was bought up a few years back, which was when it went to total shit. I don't ever get bombarded by fake messages though on there.

[SirFrank]

Why not?  It's not like you have to use a real identity.

+1. I use a punting email and I've never paid or entered personal details. Just use your head

[jcdmj12]

+1. I use a punting email and I've never paid or entered personal details. Just use your head

Yep - I signed up to AM, but stopped when I realised I had to enter CC details.  Never got around to using a prepaid card. 

I did use CC for AW credits several years back, but not much I can do about that; aside from delete and recreate account.

[Rod trotter]

In 3 years that I was on fabswingers I got 1 shag....absolute waste of time.

Ive looked on their, some really ugly fat fuckers wanting toned fit young guys hung like a horse only

Why if you are young fit and hung would you wanna shag a fat old fucket is beyond me

[Andre 3000]

Sadly from trying to use them, I'd say most of the 'swinging' sites like most of these dating and sex ones are absolute rubbish now.

Unless you really want to feed the ego of vile overweight pigs or skanky looking meth heads, steer clear and save your time. 1000's of men for a few women who are in reality ugly as sin, or fake profiles made by the site to keep traffic up. in 2015 your chances as a single man for an actual reply, much less a shag are faint to non existent now.

Saying that I do indulge regularly but not in the main swinging 'scene' or on those sites.  The way I started doing this was because me and my wife had 'the conversation'. The promise was that if I could find a suitable female, that she also fancied she'd have a threesome for my birthday. That was all the encouragement I needed. Found our first playmate late last year. Chatted online, then we all met for a drink and a meal, week later she came to our place for what turned into an amazing night. We've been doing it ever since on the regular with a selection of great women we first met online.

My best sites for success are Craigslist (though it can be very annoying at first) and OK Cupid which I've gotten the most success from. There are a ton of very attractive polyamorous minded women on there, who are very open to engaging in threesomes, with the right couples.

Win/win for me.

[Rod trotter]

Very much seems like a couples thing

Being single as a bloke gives you little chance unless you are exceptional as most profiles require you to be, even the ugly fat girls require that and believe me they seem to get action!

No not for me, thanks for the input

[vw]

Would rather pay and get what I want.

[Tiger63]

Just one other thing I would add.
If you think AW is full of timewasters, wait untill you go onto swingers sites

[Dani]

Too many men try to use swingers sites just to get free sex.  swingers recognise the men who do this and they get mostly ignored.  Swinging is a way of life not something to do just for a freebie and real swingers can smell a freebie hunter from miles away.

Someone who is genuinely interested in the life will take the time to get to know others before bringing up meeting and normally it is the female or couple who suggest the first meet up after getting to know you. 
As I and a few others have said on here before it is a way of life not something just for a quick shag.  It takes time and energy to get accepted on the scene and before even getting a private meet you may be invited to a munch (non sexual meet up between a group of swingers).  This way they get to know you better and get a better chance to sniff out what you are actually all about.

If you start emailing women or couples about sex straight away you might as well give up that site as it will be spread around that you are not a genuine swinger very quickly. 

You might get lucky and happen to approach one of the few people who have joined up not knowing how the scene works and may get a meet from them.  The likelihood is not good though

Unless genuinely interested in living that life (meaning you would be happy to watch your partner being fucked by other men) then you are better off using POF or similar sites that are just for casual hook ups

[Diehard]

Too many men try to use swingers sites just to get free sex.  swingers recognise the men who do this and they get mostly ignored.  Swinging is a way of life not something to do just for a freebie and real swingers can smell a freebie hunter from miles away.

Someone who is genuinely interested in the life will take the time to get to know others before bringing up meeting and normally it is the female or couple who suggest the first meet up after getting to know you. 
As I and a few others have said on here before it is a way of life not something just for a quick shag.  It takes time and energy to get accepted on the scene and before even getting a private meet you may be invited to a munch (non sexual meet up between a group of swingers).  This way they get to know you better and get a better chance to sniff out what you are actually all about.

If you start emailing women or couples about sex straight away you might as well give up that site as it will be spread around that you are not a genuine swinger very quickly. 

You might get lucky and happen to approach one of the few people who have joined up not knowing how the scene works and may get a meet from them.  The likelihood is not good though

Unless genuinely interested in living that life (meaning you would be happy to watch your partner being fucked by other men) then you are better off using POF or similar sites that are just for casual hook ups

POF and tinder are no longer casual hook up sites. POF hasn't been for years. Men think it is but practically every woman on there moans about the guys wanting nothing but sex. Tinder was a hook up site but now more mainstream.

I'm interested in more than a few people saying ok Cupid the best site?

[Diehard]

Would rather pay and get what I want.

Without doubt if u want filthy sex with a woman you find desirable seeing hookers the only way forward unless you have loads of time on your hands like students.

[vw]

Without doubt if u want filthy sex with a woman you find desirable seeing hookers the only way forward unless you have loads of time on your hands like students.

I fortunately lived with 5 girls at uni, was the last resort shag most nights. Miss the student days !

[Diehard]

I fortunately lived with 5 girls at uni, was the last resort shag most nights. Miss the student days !

Exactly my scenario! I picked a quiet corridor as I knew it would be all girls who had strict parents...I was right! I need to be only bloke around to have a chance...and I was their last resort...but good times!

[Blackpool Rock]

Exactly my scenario! I picked a quiet corridor as I knew it would be all girls who had strict parents...I was right! I need to be only bloke around to have a chance...and I was their last resort...but good times!

Yeah apparently they go crazy when they get let off the leash along with girls from all Catholic girls schools.
Seem to remember one of my mates talking about fuck a fresher week and picking their victims based on who was the most repressed and likely to be a coiled spring

[vw]

Exactly my scenario! I picked a quiet corridor as I knew it would be all girls who had strict parents...I was right! I need to be only bloke around to have a chance...and I was their last resort...but good times!

They were my last resorts to, loved it when their 18 year old sisters came to stay, corruption city.

[smiths]

Yeah apparently they go crazy when they get let off the leash along with girls from all Catholic girls schools.
Seem to remember one of my mates talking about fuck a fresher week and picking their victims based on who was the most repressed and likely to be a coiled spring

This was the great thing about many Irish Catholic WGs in London in the 80s into the 90s, repressed, rebelling and very dirty, a great pity most have disappeared.

[itk]

Being a member with the OH years ago had loads of success, some of the greatest sex I've ever had was through swingers sites. Met couples and went to several parties.
Recently tried as a single male with limited success, plenty of chat and messages but very time consuming. The two meets were with a couple and she'd put on about 10 stone compared to the pics, I just walked, the other couple was pretty good. Outdoor in a field while the hubby watched.

[Rod trotter]

Being a member with the OH years ago had loads of success, some of the greatest sex I've ever had was through swingers sites. Met couples and went to several parties.
Recently tried as a single male with limited success, plenty of chat and messages but very time consuming. The two meets were with a couple and she'd put on about 10 stone compared to the pics, I just walked, the other couple was pretty good. Outdoor in a field while the hubby watched.

Like i said, its a lifestyle for couples.

If you are single youd spend months unless ya gym fit, six packed, 6ft and 9" long cock and look like mr beckham

Forget it if you aint

[Tiger63]

Too many men try to use swingers sites just to get free sex.  swingers recognise the men who do this and they get mostly ignored.  Swinging is a way of life not something to do just for a freebie and real swingers can smell a freebie hunter from miles away.

Someone who is genuinely interested in the life will take the time to get to know others before bringing up meeting and normally it is the female or couple who suggest the first meet up after getting to know you. 
As I and a few others have said on here before it is a way of life not something just for a quick shag.  It takes time and energy to get accepted on the scene and before even getting a private meet you may be invited to a munch (non sexual meet up between a group of swingers).  This way they get to know you better and get a better chance to sniff out what you are actually all about.

If you start emailing women or couples about sex straight away you might as well give up that site as it will be spread around that you are not a genuine swinger very quickly. 

You might get lucky and happen to approach one of the few people who have joined up not knowing how the scene works and may get a meet from them.  The likelihood is not good though

Unless genuinely interested in living that life (meaning you would be happy to watch your partner being fucked by other men) then you are better off using POF or similar sites that are just for casual hook ups

The couple who intro`d me had me round their place one night for a couple of drinks with another couple.
It turned out they were the owners of the property that the parties took place....it was like a bloody job interview.
Anyway I must have passed as I was invited down to a party.
There was about 5 single guys there and we were told what we could and couldnt do.
Once the group realised that I was genuine and I could be trusted then things started to happen.
Had some really great times.

[akauya]

I wasn't going to reply to this as it's one of the same recurring threads started by men thinking swinging is an easy or free way to get laid and then complaining that swinger sites are a waste of time. Of course they are a waste of time for YOU because you are not swingers!!

I'm going to copy what I posted many times before (can't be arse to retype the same thing again)...

(from https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=49601.msg665275#msg665275)


"Yet again a bunch of men mistaking swinging as an easy way to get a leg over. As I said it multiple times before; swinging is a lifestyle; it's not a way to get an easy fuck. If that's what you want then you pay a prostitute!

Time and time again I see men bitching about what a waste of time swinging sites are... that's because YOU ARE NOT SWINGERS, get that into your heads!

Take this as a test, would you be willing to see your wife/girlfriend fucked by a number of unknown men and be happy about it? Would you mind seeing her sucking another man's cock right in front of you? How about three guys fucking her in all her holes at the same time, would you be happy with that? If your answer is no then fuck off you're not a swinger.

Swinging is a lifestyle, you really have to immerse yourself into it. You have to join their forums, attend munches (non-sex parties), get yourself known as a bona fide person into the swinging lifestyle not another man trying to get his leg over, there are hundreds of time wasters so if you are known as a reliable guy the word spreads, you get invited to parties and then the fun starts. All that takes time and effort and of course not all swingers are pretty 20 years olds. Swinging women come in all ages and sizes.

Also if you are married and you think of yourself "a swinger" but "swing" behind you wife's back then forget it, swingers will smell you a mile off.

Stick to prostitutes and quit messing about in swingers sites."

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I used swingingheaven a lot and with great success during my swinging phase years ago. I had a lover/FB/swinging partner and we had great times in swapping parties and gang bangs (she got gangbanged plenty). Unfortunately the swinging scene got flooded by single men thinking it was an easy way to fuck "loose women". The twats would start pestering women sending pictures of their cocks and then complain when no woman would meet them 

[Diehard]

Swinging sites full of fat unattractive couples and are pointless as there are enough swinger clubs that allow males in for a relatively small fee. Providing you are not a total cunt there you should get some action.

Only swinger club I'm keen to go to is the one in London where you have to be good looking to get in. That rules me out....but I'll bet it is absolutely fantastic as the girls willbe fit.

[tonysoprano]

Swinging = A way for fat ugly couples to have free sex with other fat ugly people.

That is the truth and we all know it.

[Tiger63]

Seems to be a bit of anger on here.

[Rod trotter]

Swinging = A way for fat ugly couples to have free sex with other fat ugly people.

That is the truth and we all know it.

But i can never understand how a seemingly fat ugly fucker gets verified(reviewed) by a seemingly gym fit hunk? Amazing

[Grey Punter]

It's few years since I was involved in the swinging scene, somewhat before t'interweb thingy really took over.  In those days it was almost exclusively a couples thing with introductions and invitations being by word of mouth. I really cannot recall any single men; other than those whose partners where not present; playing any part in proceedings.

What has been said before about being comfortable seeing your partner having sex with other men (and  women) in your presence is very true. You both have go be into it and those where one partner (usually the woman)  wasn't stuck out like sore thumbs and didn't hang around very long.

I cannot imagine that single males, unless very special, would have much luck. Probably better to keep calm and  carry on punting.

Grey Punter

[overdone]

I've signed up on swinging heaven & contacted seductiveblonde24 45 York - I'll see if can get a meet up.

[vw]

I've signed up on swinging heaven & contacted seductiveblonde24 45 York - I'll see if can get a meet up.

Is that the couple that insist on coprophagia ?

[Stupidpunt]

Fabswingers is a much better site than swinging heaven, but still there is not much action for a single bloke unless you have a 2ft long knob and look like Brad Pitt

[dave_59]

In 3 years that I was on fabswingers I got 1 shag....absolute waste of time.

That's one more than me - closed account a while ago.
Was hoping to find couples who enjoy 3sums as not many on escorting sites but f### me it was hopless