AlexDeLarge gave a very accurate account of the better strip club scene in America -- welcome to the forum Alex!
The whole hassle with American strip clubs is finding ones which give you the real deal and which are primarily cherry-girl-come-ons for big bucks and fuck all sex. My own experience has been that the better clubs in terms of vfm are often out in the sticks and sonetimes in less than savoury areas. Places where you have to maybe do quite a bit of travelling and even sometimes tip someone to make sure your car won't be jacked or just have to watch how you behave getting there (in terms of safety). But once you get in these places you can have a ball. There's not the mediocrity of the Asian Massage Parlour scene or the double-dealing 'interview' process of booking an indie. You just find a chick that looks like she'll give you a hot time, pay a few bucks for a private dance, and negotiate some action there and then. Those little fuckers grind away like they mean it. One place didn't even pretend to dance on my lap: just positioned my cock and rubbed her privates up an down to get the mutherload. I never found the negotiations very long. They'd offer you deal, you haggle and accept or refuse. Her 'persuasion' can be half the fun whether you accept her best offer or move on to fill the mouth or pussy of another piece of hot ass. For a prolonged evening of lap-grinding while you choose, the American invention called liquid pants or somerhing like that are pretty cool. You get maximum friction before getting your cock out without any of the excruciating denim chaff or lost pocket syndrome. Their lapdances are among the best in the world and it's a shame that the UK only imported the sexless, high-priced version from the rip-off city centre scenes.
To be fair, most of the strip clubs I have hit are nothing to remember, mediocre affairs. Over the years I have learned a bit about how to pick out good ones, where I am likely to get "mileage". One place I went, the idea was the girls would try to make you cum in your pants, and that was the whole goal, sounds like you had a similar experience. When I went there the first time, I had no idea and was quite shocked at this girls determinedness. After the song, she tried to ask quite delicately "is that enough? Did you... get what you needed?", and I left with a mess in my pants. Fun experience once or twice, but frankly I can do without the mess.
Over the years I have stopped with strip clubs unless I find something exceptional in reviews online. Escorts are much more of a sure thing, but will cost you more. When you just have a few hours to kill, a reasonable strip club is a great way to put the day behind you. Most of the girls are strait players however, I was at one in DC once where I was chatting this girl up a bit, and she kept coming back to me. After a bit, I figured out she misunderstood something I said, and thought I traveled back and forth to DC and I had a house in DC that was empty most of the time (I really just stayed in a hotel, no idea where she got the idea I had a house). She had told me how she broke up with her boyfriend, was living with her mom, etc. Then later on asked for my number that we could go out dancing at a legit place some time etc. Thats when I figured out she was looking for a place to crash while I was out of town.
Their job is to get as much of your cash as they can while giving you as little as possible at most places. As long as you are aware of the hustle, its not so bad, but a lot of people fall for it.
A couple other quick stories, about the not so nice ones.
Once I was at a joint sitting next to the stage, this slag is dancing and looks like she should have been back in the stable years ago. She comes up to me, reaches in my glass, pulls out an ice cube, sticks it up her pussy, pulls it back out, drops it back in my drink. No thank you.
Another place, I was going to this town frequently and really digging the girls there. Dark, good action, cheap, thought I got to know some of the women. I come back to town, the place is shut down after a bust, turns out the owner was filming the girls having sex with is security dogs he kept onsite, then selling the videos online. Real, actual dogs. Woof Woof.
I was in Seattle once, sitting alone at the bar and the girl did this thing where when you tip you put it in her panties and would put your hand just so where you could feel her pubic hair, but no more. Sorry, but human reaction for me, my fingers reached out to touch the real thing. She jumps, says I am not supposed to do that, then moves on, no big deal. However I am sitting next to a bunch of Mexican dudes that think that was just the coolest thing ever. They adopted me as part of their group for the night, I paid for no more drinks, took me back to their house party thing afterward where I ended up having sex with some chica that was there. I think it was a gang thing, but I took off before I found out if I screwed up or not by banging her. Lots of drug use in that house, but .. was an experience.
If anyone is traveling to the US, and spends time in Texas or Arizona your luck is likely to be better. Anywhere else, you have to research.
From this thread, no way am I hitting the strip clubs when I visit the UK.